Re: Re: What to do about grandchildren?

[Guest guest]

Oh, they have to turn up the volume if you have a special occasion or

wedding or birthday or anything that takes the attention from them and puts it

onto someone else because they can't stand for someone else to get

attention.

So, for instance, if I was getting married (or even my sister), she had to

turn up the manipulation and drama for HER because someone else had the

attention on them. I won't go into what all she did, but for both my sister

and I...getting married was NOT fun. My mother paid for nothing and threw a

complete hissy fit the day I was getting married. She didn't help my sister

with a single thing to prepare for her wedding and then got mad,

waify/hermit/bizarre/manipulative when my sister's husband's mother did help her

(because she was actually a normal person and felt bad for my sister).

When my sister had her first child she was 8 weeks premature. This was

1988, so technology was good, but not as good as today. My sister visited her

daughter every day and my mother told her that she was going to the hospital

too much and getting too attached to ! Unbelievable. Then she got

upset because my sister's husband's parents went to visit and said

that it wasn't fair that they got to see and she didn't because

was more her grandchild than theirs since they a) weren't the parents of

the MOTHER (whatever that has to do with it), and had other grandchildren.

So if you have other grandchildren, you're not allowed to love them all the

same.