Re: Hi Needy vulnerable manipulation maybe going NC

April 15, 2010

Oh, yeah. Classic behavior. And when it doesn't work (being needy and

vulnerable), they'll turn up the heat and become manipulative and suicidal or

exaggerate their symptoms to try to draw you in. I can understand the need to

go NC. I never got that brave and my mother was so sick in the end that I

really couldn't at that point. If I was 18 again and knew what bpd was,

yes. I definitely would!

In a message dated 4/13/2010 9:37:57 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time,

chocolatekieren@... writes:

Hi

Whose NADA does the needy vulnerable thing to suck them in? I've really

had enough, so am considering NC. I'm anticipating a. my brother being mad at

me b. mum getting really needy and depressed c. mum getting really angry

d. endless phone calls, facebook messages, raging visits to my house saying

i've got something of hers e. getting badmouthed to anyone she knows who i

know inc. my little step brother and my brother f. feeling like an

ungrateful bitch of a daughter - I feel like that already just typing this. But

i'm

also anticipating christmases where i don't get screamed at, a complete

lack of ranting and raging in my life, hopefully some of the " coming into my

own " i've been reading about here, being able to talk about my childhood

without feeling disloyal to my NADA, or like i'll get striked down by

lightning haha. My mums sisters have worked her out so at least they'll still

talk

to me. With my brother, he is a little younger, so I figure I can lead by

example. She is no good for him either. I've got that Dirty Dancing song in

my head " just a fool to believe I am anything she needs " haha... She makes

me think i can help her, but i can't.

CK.

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