IT'S ALL ABOUT NADA

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I am moving to a new apartment. I just signed the lease yesterday and I have

the key to get in. It wasn't what I wanted to happen in that nada as most of

you know is deathly ill but nada keeps going like the energizer bunny. She is

suffering and she lets me know about it constantly - day after day after day -

many times more than three times a day. For both of our sakes I wish she would

pass (I know that sounds horrible but with all her very serious health problems

there are no cures or resolutions).

Nada's doctor called me last week and told me my nada was FAR too underweight

and that I had to 'force her to drink Ensure'. Nada is 7 hours away from me as

well as of course several states and even if I was there I couldn't force nada

to do anything. The doctor also went on to say she was going to 'force her to

see a stomach doctor' by making an appointment for her with her friend and

colleague in her medical building as well as an orthopedist for her knee as she

is 'pretty sure nada needs a knee cap replacement' but the doctor has

no way of knowing that because nada refuses to get any tests done on

anything. I asked her doctor how long she has been treating my nada

and she replied 'twelve years'. I then said 'and you don't know she's so

stubborn you can't get nada to do anything nada doesn't want to do'.

I then posed another question to nada's doctor saying 'even if nada did

agree to tests, would my nada make it through surgeries?' Her reply was no so

what is why is this doctor calling me about this? I think it

is to cover her butt so I don't sue her when nada does die, but little does she

know that I would applaud her as horrible as that sounds.

Nada will not believe why I am moving out of here. I told her it has yellow,

green and black mold since the flood on all the walls, ceilings and carpeting.

I have tried unsuccessfully to get rid of the mold in the carpeting and walls.

It bounces back like nada. These molds are extremely dangerous to my and my two

cat's health. That alone is reason

enough to move out of here but add to that that since then in January we had a

fire in here two apartments above me which was the result of an

electrical fire in the one wall, and anyone can see I need to get out of here.

My nada replied the day after the fire 'I was in a fire when I was young and I

survived so so what'. She finally agreed to help me move out (she has more $

than God) and frankly wouldn't miss $200,000 that it would take for me to buy

the ranch style home I want but no. Of course it is about control. I am an only

child and she can't take it with her.

Last week I got her a plumber to fix her problem and she called me after the man

got there. She admitted on the phone she 'thought he was someone trying to worm

his way into her house for no good' as he stood there listening to her say that.

She asked if a man named Adam was the man I sent there (he was a friend of my

closest friend down in Jersey's plumber and an honest guy). I said yes it is.

My nada replied

she was sorry to the man and yes he could do the job. Of course he left saying

he didn't do that kind of work. Come to find out, it wasn't a plumbing problem

at all! It is a drainage pipe under her front porch that wasn't replaced when

another guy put in a new front porch for her last year so it is merely a matter

of putting it back! How was I supposed to know?

When she asked me to help get her an 'honest plumber' since she had had

two handymen there she got out of the local paper previously who both wanted to

replace her sidewalk for over $5,000 and that's not the problem, she put

pressure on me to find her someone from here. I was apartment hunting last week

and I balanced doing both but it was a pain.

She told me to 'dress in your worst clothes and don't look TOO good or the

landlord will think you're rich and raise the rent for you'. I thought how nuts

since they post in the paper how much their apartment is and besides, they

aren't going to rent you their apartment if you look like a bum in your worst

clothes!

She wanted me to call the town Water Dept. and I did even though I didn't think

they would or could help. The woman there felt sorry for me with an elderly

mother (little does she know HOW bad) and sent one of her guys out there to

tell me what was wrong even though nada does nost even HAVE city water and has a

well! The woman called me back to tell me that nada's problem was a missing

gutter pipe and not a plumbing problem at all so she called a cop from there who

is a friend of hers who used to be a plumber who said he would fix it for free

for nada. That would be fine except that my nada called me that day and told me

she wanted the cop to 'put her in a nuthouse' and was going to tell him 'she

didn't want to be here anymore'. I told her she better put a smile on her face

and not tell him anything. She finally calmed down and said she wouldn't but he

never showed so we are back to square one.

I received a phone call from nada yesterday morning. I have a lot on my plate

now - more than enough with the move and nada had sent me $ that I got yesterday

for the move because 'I don't want you to have no $ and if something happens to

me you need to have $ to get down here to take care of things'. That's fine and

I thanked her when she told me she was sending it and again yesterday. She

replied, " I KNOW now that you have all that money of mine YOU'RE the only one

who matters! You won't do a thing for me now. I still have no one to fix that

pipe and you don't care. It's all about YOU! You have nothing to do and you

still won't help me. " I told her that isn't true and I will attempt again to

find her someone to help her but it takes time and I don't have much right now

with the move. " You have nothing to do' replied nada.

I made two calls yesterday - one to my minister in my nada's town where I am

still a member when I get down there which isn't often and she said she will

announce that an elderly woman in Sparta Lake needs help with a pipe under the

front porch and if they would like to help to call me. I also called my closest

friend's brother who lives near my nada and might know someone and he is working

on it. Nada wants blood I think and it's mine.

I don't know what else do to here. Any thoughts on what do to about nada's

doctor next time she calls or the pipe problem? I am fresh out of ideas. I

scoured Craigslist for handymen (nada won't hear of it) and it really isn't a

plumbing problem. I hope one of these two people comes out with a solution but

otherwise I am fresh out of ideas.