Re: Re: If everything means nothing then nothing means anything

[Guest guest]

I was overly curious and precocious...I looked it up for myself when I was 5

because nobody would tell me how my aunt got pregnant! Unfortunately the book I

had (a children's encyclopedia) pretty much explained everything except HOW the

sperm got to the egg. Somehow I figured it all out eventually, although nada's

" big talk " night when I was 7 did little to educate me beyond the concept of the

boy animal on top of the girl animal and that confounded me because my dad was

bigger than nada and wouldn't that be uncomfortable and squish her? Nada also

said something about " when a man and a woman are close together and loving each

other " . That practically traumatized me because MY book had explained how

microscopic sperm were...so here I was imagining these clouds of invisible sperm

floating through the air (and wondering how the HECK did they know where to go?

and they must sometimes get to the wrong person and that must be what they meant

when they said

" unwanted pregnancy " ). I was TERRIFIED to hug my dad because I knew I loved

him and he loved me...so I was CERTAIN that meant clouds of sperm might be

floating around when he hugged me. At some point I figured it all out, but I

don't have any recollection of those moments of discovery.

And while some of that is all cute and can be a really funny party story, what

strikes me NOW as I write it all out is that even then...as a small child...I

didn't turn to my parents with the questions I had, I knew better and I knew

that I had to rely on myself to get the answers I needed.

Ninera

>

> Subject: Re: If everything means nothing then nothing

means anything

> To: WTOAdultChildren1

> Date: Monday, April 12, 2010, 2:16 PM

> My mom gave me a book.  A

> cartoon figured book.  Here, read this.  If you

> have questions, ask.  I was 13.

>

> Of course I had already been the victim of abuse for some

> years so the mechanics were pretty much 'done.'  " Of my

> own choice " - I was almost 20...

>

> Eeesh... how I didn't turn into a colossal tramp is beyond

> me (or my therapist.)

>

> Just ONE post I'd  like to NOT identify with...

>

> Lynnette

>

>

>

>

> > >

> > > >My mother never discussed sex with me in a

> way that a

> > > >mother should discuss it with her daughter.

> It was awkward, weird, and was

> > > >usually under the context of, " you better

> never have sex until you're

> > > >married

> > > >or  I'll kill you! "

> > >

> > > this was my sex talk with my nada too...she never

> told me about the monthly

> > > curse...neither did either of my 2 older

> sisters...so you can imagine my

> > > horror after being bucked off a horse ( I wasnt

> injured)  when I was 13 at

> > > my aunts farm, and that night started my first

> monthly curse...my aunt was

> > > so sweet ( no relation to nada) and explained

> that this happens to young

> > > girls at this age...

> > >

> > >

> > > >She was also very against gays, people who

> had abortions, people of other

> > > >races and religions, people who drank alcohol

> (no matter how little) and

> > > >made no bones about downing these people,

> calling them trashbags, maggots,

> > > >and

> > > > various other names she came up with.

> However, confronted with someone who

> > > >had  an abortion or was gay or another

> race --- she was as nice as could

> > > >be. You  could melt butter on her she

> was so nice.

> > >

> > >

> > > this too is exactly how my nada is....she will

> bad mouth anyone  behind

> > > their backs, but be so sweet to their

> faces...they were visiting here, and

> > > we went into town to the grocery store...we

> passed this building, and nada

> > > said  how terrible it was for a bar to be

> open so early and what was wrong

> > > with this town, it must be filled with drunks,

> and on and on about how evil

> > > this place was....my husband turned to look at

> her and said " it's an auto

> > > supply store "   which it was LOL  she

> didnt even bother to take the time to

> > > see what it really was before she had to condem

> them...and sex, she was SO

> > > against sex, and made it clear that if any of us

> 3 girls got pregnant before

> > > we were married, she would disown us, throw us

> into the streets, etc...come

> > > to find out, HER mother was pergnant before she

> was married !!  My nada is a

> > > very opinionated  person...and it's usually

> very negative..

> > >

> > > Jackie

> > >

> >

>

>

>

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