Sherry - re Re: Caroline/Gena (LONG) - re Re: Venting

[Guest guest]

Hello Sherry,

Reading your message was just like looking in a mirror. One of the really

wonderful things about this group is that when we say something to support other

members we also gain support ourselves. It is just so comforting to me to

realise that my experiences aren't unique. Emotional isolation seems to be one

of the major causes of people eating for comfort. We see ourselves as being in a

hopeless position with no light at the end of the tunnel. The fact that we have

somewhere to come to simply 'vent' is such a comfort. Even more important is

that we discover that we are NOT alone - so often our experiences parallel those

of others.

Thanks for sharing your story. I think that relationships change over time,

just as we do. In relation to weight loss and making healthy life style

choices, the group has often talked of discovering what it is we truly want to

achieve, our reasons for wanting to achieve it and then setting intermediate

goals for ourselves to ensure that we can eventually reach our long-term goal.

That goes for our personal relationships too. So often we just drift into a

relationship without thinking about the long term aspects. Those very same

questions we ask ourselves about our hopes, expectations, reasons and what we

are prepared to give to achieve a new healthier lifestyle and weight loss can

also be used to examine our relationships. Of course relationships are a lot

more complicated because there is a always another person's needs, wants, hopes,

desires etc as well as our own to consider. It sounds as if you are going

through a period of indecision about your current relationship. I wish you the

strength to come to an appropriate decision.

Cheers,

Marie