- behavior

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Hi - my older son Tommy was very much like your son, especially when he

was younger. Sort of delayed for his age, especially when he was younger. He

was a young kindergartener and it was amazing that he was going through the

" whys " in kindergarten, rather than as a 3 or 4 year old would normally. Tommy

has two very involved parents in his life so don't beat yourself up for being a

single mom - you seem to be doing a great job! I always thought Tommy's delays

were related to getting his hearing aids later - he was diagnosed at 3-1/4 and

got his aids at 3-1/2. Since he didn't have much language, it stood to reason

he'd have to go through those speech/language milestones at some point?

Tommy did go through kindergarten, then first grade, then first grade again.

He's now in second grade and having a wonderful year. Really enjoys his friends

and school - I couldn't have predicted that even twoyears ago!

Take care

Barbara

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I have a question regarding my son's behavior. He turned 4 in February and

has mild - moderate loss, and wears Phonak Pico Fortes. He is doing very

well in his PreK class at his school. He has moved up into the next level

class because his speech is good, and he loves it there.

I have noticed though that his behavior at home is extremely unruly. Every

chance he gets he defies me, manipulates, and is downright mean and

disruptive. It seems like every two seconds I am having to get on to him.

My friends and my fiancee say he acts like a two year old. And when he was

two, he still acted like a baby. Well, now I am at the end of my rope,

because I cannot take him anywhere without a fight or two or 12....

There are of course many possible reasons. One, I am a single mom and have

raised him alone for the last four years without any contact with a father

figure. Two, he is just mean to me because I am his mother. Three, I have

always been the only one there to hold him when he was sick or needed me,

therefore he feels like he can push me around. Four, his hearing loss

affects his behavior tremendously mixed with the fact that he is all boy.

Now, how am I supposed to get a handle on this? Is there a pediatric

psychologist who specializes in HOH/deaf kids do you think? I can't just

let him grow out of it, because I honestly think it will just get worse.

It is not fair to my 8 yr old daughter and to my fiancee or even me to

have to deal with him all the time instead of them. Thanks for listening.