Guest guest Posted March 6, 1999 Report Share Posted March 6, 1999 In a message dated 06/03/99 22:41:04 GMT Standard Time, chenille@... writes: << Two of my 6 daughters are extremely articulate and sound very much like your <snip> I hope this helps some. Let me know. Cherie >> Wow, what great advice!! My eldest daughter is exactly like this. I am always finding myself getting drawn into arguments with her. I often feel like I'm stumbling along in the dark trying to parent her. She's a lot like me as a child. My parent's resorted to crushing me with smacking and I always swore I would never ever smack my children and I never have. The trouble is I think we all parent our kids the way we were parented and my first instinct is to smack, It's hard to find alternatives. On an intellectual level I know to reinforce positive behaviour, distract where possible, time out etc but it's not what comes naturally! Thanks Cherie Hannah (UK) Mum to Bethany 5, Lawrence 3 and Verity 9 months Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 6, 1999 Report Share Posted March 6, 1999 In a message dated 06/03/99 22:41:04 GMT Standard Time, chenille@... writes: << Two of my 6 daughters are extremely articulate and sound very much like your <snip> I hope this helps some. Let me know. Cherie >> Wow, what great advice!! My eldest daughter is exactly like this. I am always finding myself getting drawn into arguments with her. I often feel like I'm stumbling along in the dark trying to parent her. She's a lot like me as a child. My parent's resorted to crushing me with smacking and I always swore I would never ever smack my children and I never have. The trouble is I think we all parent our kids the way we were parented and my first instinct is to smack, It's hard to find alternatives. On an intellectual level I know to reinforce positive behaviour, distract where possible, time out etc but it's not what comes naturally! Thanks Cherie Hannah (UK) Mum to Bethany 5, Lawrence 3 and Verity 9 months Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 6, 1999 Report Share Posted March 6, 1999 In a message dated 06/03/99 22:41:04 GMT Standard Time, chenille@... writes: << Two of my 6 daughters are extremely articulate and sound very much like your <snip> I hope this helps some. Let me know. Cherie >> Wow, what great advice!! My eldest daughter is exactly like this. I am always finding myself getting drawn into arguments with her. I often feel like I'm stumbling along in the dark trying to parent her. She's a lot like me as a child. My parent's resorted to crushing me with smacking and I always swore I would never ever smack my children and I never have. The trouble is I think we all parent our kids the way we were parented and my first instinct is to smack, It's hard to find alternatives. On an intellectual level I know to reinforce positive behaviour, distract where possible, time out etc but it's not what comes naturally! Thanks Cherie Hannah (UK) Mum to Bethany 5, Lawrence 3 and Verity 9 months Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 6, 1999 Report Share Posted March 6, 1999 Cherie, Thank you so much. This really helped me understand a whole feature to my dd's personality. She does this. For a long time I would go round and round with her. I just recently stopped. This helps clarify what's been going on with us. I am so grateful for the wisdom that you share with us. I sometimes feel like I don't have any time to share more of myself. You are an inspiring example that their is much more energy available I just need to find it within myself. Wendi Help with problem 1 Two of my 6 daughters are extremely articulate and sound very much like your little girl. My oldest of the two is Chamrie, 15 in April. The other one is Chalae, 4 this month. Many types of creative discipline that works well with nearly all other children do not do so well with this type. (I am THIS type and know.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 6, 1999 Report Share Posted March 6, 1999 Cherie, Thank you so much. This really helped me understand a whole feature to my dd's personality. She does this. For a long time I would go round and round with her. I just recently stopped. This helps clarify what's been going on with us. I am so grateful for the wisdom that you share with us. I sometimes feel like I don't have any time to share more of myself. You are an inspiring example that their is much more energy available I just need to find it within myself. Wendi Help with problem 1 Two of my 6 daughters are extremely articulate and sound very much like your little girl. My oldest of the two is Chamrie, 15 in April. The other one is Chalae, 4 this month. Many types of creative discipline that works well with nearly all other children do not do so well with this type. (I am THIS type and know.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 6, 1999 Report Share Posted March 6, 1999 Cherie, Thank you so much. This really helped me understand a whole feature to my dd's personality. She does this. For a long time I would go round and round with her. I just recently stopped. This helps clarify what's been going on with us. I am so grateful for the wisdom that you share with us. I sometimes feel like I don't have any time to share more of myself. You are an inspiring example that their is much more energy available I just need to find it within myself. Wendi Help with problem 1 Two of my 6 daughters are extremely articulate and sound very much like your little girl. My oldest of the two is Chamrie, 15 in April. The other one is Chalae, 4 this month. Many types of creative discipline that works well with nearly all other children do not do so well with this type. (I am THIS type and know.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 7, 1999 Report Share Posted March 7, 1999 Cherie, I knew I had a verbally gifted elder daughter (age 6) but wasn't sure if I was on the right track until I read your message. This is pretty much the tact I have been using, but I wasn't sure what the results were going to be. It's reassuring to know that at age 15, your daughter is doing OK. My greatest challenge is to avoid the argument (which as you said I can't win). I'm gradually getting better at this. It drives my parents insane however, that I " let dd have the last word " . Hey, they'll get used to it.LOL Thanks again Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 7, 1999 Report Share Posted March 7, 1999 Hi all Is it only dd's that have this gift? So far all the replies I've read have been in relation to dd's. Hannah my parents tried to smack and crush it out of me also. They still don't understand that it is a gift, not " cheek " . As a result I mainly say nothing when we are together. I don't want this for Catelynd (aged 6). In some ways we have actually encouraged this gift also, by enrolling her in a bilingual school. She is learning French as well as English so using her language skills to extend to another language. We have found that this has also lessened the " verbal Jousts " at home. She is using her verbal energy synthesising another language. (they learn all their subjects in French and English and complete both the French government curriculum and the Australian government curriculums for schools each year). It's been tough, but worth it so far. Re: Help with problem 1 >From: HHamer1810@... > >In a message dated 06/03/99 22:41:04 GMT Standard Time, chenille@... >writes: > ><< Two of my 6 daughters are extremely articulate and sound very much like >your ><snip> > I hope this helps some. Let me know. > Cherie > >> >Wow, what great advice!! >My eldest daughter is exactly like this. I am always finding myself getting >drawn into arguments with her. I often feel like I'm stumbling along in the >dark trying to parent her. > >She's a lot like me as a child. My parent's resorted to crushing me with >smacking and I always swore I would never ever smack my children and I never >have. > >The trouble is I think we all parent our kids the way we were parented and my >first instinct is to smack, It's hard to find alternatives. On an intellectual >level I know to reinforce positive behaviour, distract where possible, time >out etc but it's not what comes naturally! > >Thanks Cherie > >Hannah (UK) >Mum to Bethany 5, Lawrence 3 and Verity 9 months > >------------------------------------------------------------------------ >Did you know that we have over 85,000 e-mail communities at Onelist? >http://www.onelist.com >Come visit our new web site and explore a new interest >------------------------------------------------------------------------ >Breastfeeding is Best!! >http://www.mariaann.com/breastfeeding.htm >If you like this list also check out http://www.onelist.com/subscribe.cgi/weanedbuddies Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 7, 1999 Report Share Posted March 7, 1999 Hi all Is it only dd's that have this gift? So far all the replies I've read have been in relation to dd's. Hannah my parents tried to smack and crush it out of me also. They still don't understand that it is a gift, not " cheek " . As a result I mainly say nothing when we are together. I don't want this for Catelynd (aged 6). In some ways we have actually encouraged this gift also, by enrolling her in a bilingual school. She is learning French as well as English so using her language skills to extend to another language. We have found that this has also lessened the " verbal Jousts " at home. She is using her verbal energy synthesising another language. (they learn all their subjects in French and English and complete both the French government curriculum and the Australian government curriculums for schools each year). It's been tough, but worth it so far. Re: Help with problem 1 >From: HHamer1810@... > >In a message dated 06/03/99 22:41:04 GMT Standard Time, chenille@... >writes: > ><< Two of my 6 daughters are extremely articulate and sound very much like >your ><snip> > I hope this helps some. Let me know. > Cherie > >> >Wow, what great advice!! >My eldest daughter is exactly like this. I am always finding myself getting >drawn into arguments with her. I often feel like I'm stumbling along in the >dark trying to parent her. > >She's a lot like me as a child. My parent's resorted to crushing me with >smacking and I always swore I would never ever smack my children and I never >have. > >The trouble is I think we all parent our kids the way we were parented and my >first instinct is to smack, It's hard to find alternatives. On an intellectual >level I know to reinforce positive behaviour, distract where possible, time >out etc but it's not what comes naturally! > >Thanks Cherie > >Hannah (UK) >Mum to Bethany 5, Lawrence 3 and Verity 9 months > >------------------------------------------------------------------------ >Did you know that we have over 85,000 e-mail communities at Onelist? >http://www.onelist.com >Come visit our new web site and explore a new interest >------------------------------------------------------------------------ >Breastfeeding is Best!! >http://www.mariaann.com/breastfeeding.htm >If you like this list also check out http://www.onelist.com/subscribe.cgi/weanedbuddies Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 7, 1999 Report Share Posted March 7, 1999 , I have a son who is just this way. I think, in general, that girls are more verbal usually though. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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