Guest guest Posted September 22, 2007 Report Share Posted September 22, 2007 Pack your bags and move your ass~ets out here. we'll take care o' ya...and Val, and her brother Mark, and any/everyone else that needs a home. Mi Casa es TU Casa. Hugs Akiba -- Re: work hours/sleep I don't know quite HOW to go about getting a divorce. I know that may sound odd, but I've told my husband on many occasions that I cannot live with him anymore, and that I do indeed want a divorce. He, obviously, does not. So...what do you do..how do you proceed with someone who does NOT want a divorce...and YOU do? It seems to be a real confusion to me how to 'go about it'... ~always, kate Sharon, I think that you definitely did the right thing. My eldest sister, married consecutively three alcoholics, who were paradoxically also control freaks. She divorced each of them. One day our mother said to me sweetly, "Dear why is it that she marries these, well, questionable men? All the rest of you seem to have picked such very nice husbands and wives?" I truly had no answer for her, but am surely glad that you had the sense NOT to repeat the first blooper! Part of what made our marriage work was that Hans was thirteen years older than me, and very happy to be married and have real, live kids! (and those brownies, and good coffee!), love to you Sharon, and to all couples in our group, n Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 22, 2007 Report Share Posted September 22, 2007 Pack your bags and move your ass~ets out here. we'll take care o' ya...and Val, and her brother Mark, and any/everyone else that needs a home. Mi Casa es TU Casa. Hugs Akiba -- Re: work hours/sleep I don't know quite HOW to go about getting a divorce. I know that may sound odd, but I've told my husband on many occasions that I cannot live with him anymore, and that I do indeed want a divorce. He, obviously, does not. So...what do you do..how do you proceed with someone who does NOT want a divorce...and YOU do? It seems to be a real confusion to me how to 'go about it'... ~always, kate Sharon, I think that you definitely did the right thing. My eldest sister, married consecutively three alcoholics, who were paradoxically also control freaks. She divorced each of them. One day our mother said to me sweetly, "Dear why is it that she marries these, well, questionable men? All the rest of you seem to have picked such very nice husbands and wives?" I truly had no answer for her, but am surely glad that you had the sense NOT to repeat the first blooper! Part of what made our marriage work was that Hans was thirteen years older than me, and very happy to be married and have real, live kids! (and those brownies, and good coffee!), love to you Sharon, and to all couples in our group, n Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 22, 2007 Report Share Posted September 22, 2007 Kate, I am not sure on this but normally you can call a lawyer and your first consultation is free. You might want to check into a lawyer. you are in my prayers. Hugs nne Breast Cancer Patients Soul Mates for Lifehttp://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/breastcancerpatients.html Anxiety Depression and Breast Cancerhttp://health.group.yahoo.com/group/AnxietyDepressionandBreastCancer Angel Feather Loomerwww.angelfeatherloomer.blogspot.com Check out my other ornaments atwww.geocities.com/chucky5741/bcornament.html The Cancer Clubwww.cancerclub.com Re: work hours/sleep I don't know quite HOW to go about getting a divorce. I know that may sound odd, but I've told my husband on many occasions that I cannot live with him anymore, and that I do indeed want a divorce. He, obviously, does not. So...what do you do..how do you proceed with someone who does NOT want a divorce...and YOU do? It seems to be a real confusion to me how to 'go about it'... ~always, kate Sharon, I think that you definitely did the right thing. My eldest sister, married consecutively three alcoholics, who were paradoxically also control freaks. She divorced each of them. One day our mother said to me sweetly, "Dear why is it that she marries these, well, questionable men? All the rest of you seem to have picked such very nice husbands and wives?" I truly had no answer for her, but am surely glad that you had the sense NOT to repeat the first blooper! Part of what made our marriage work was that Hans was thirteen years older than me, and very happy to be married and have real, live kids! (and those brownies, and good coffee!), love to you Sharon, and to all couples in our group, n No virus found in this incoming message.Checked by AVG Free Edition. Version: 7.5.488 / Virus Database: 269.13.28/1021 - Release Date: 9/21/2007 2:02 PM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 22, 2007 Report Share Posted September 22, 2007 Kate, I am not sure on this but normally you can call a lawyer and your first consultation is free. You might want to check into a lawyer. you are in my prayers. Hugs nne Breast Cancer Patients Soul Mates for Lifehttp://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/breastcancerpatients.html Anxiety Depression and Breast Cancerhttp://health.group.yahoo.com/group/AnxietyDepressionandBreastCancer Angel Feather Loomerwww.angelfeatherloomer.blogspot.com Check out my other ornaments atwww.geocities.com/chucky5741/bcornament.html The Cancer Clubwww.cancerclub.com Re: work hours/sleep I don't know quite HOW to go about getting a divorce. I know that may sound odd, but I've told my husband on many occasions that I cannot live with him anymore, and that I do indeed want a divorce. He, obviously, does not. So...what do you do..how do you proceed with someone who does NOT want a divorce...and YOU do? It seems to be a real confusion to me how to 'go about it'... ~always, kate Sharon, I think that you definitely did the right thing. My eldest sister, married consecutively three alcoholics, who were paradoxically also control freaks. She divorced each of them. One day our mother said to me sweetly, "Dear why is it that she marries these, well, questionable men? All the rest of you seem to have picked such very nice husbands and wives?" I truly had no answer for her, but am surely glad that you had the sense NOT to repeat the first blooper! Part of what made our marriage work was that Hans was thirteen years older than me, and very happy to be married and have real, live kids! (and those brownies, and good coffee!), love to you Sharon, and to all couples in our group, n No virus found in this incoming message.Checked by AVG Free Edition. Version: 7.5.488 / Virus Database: 269.13.28/1021 - Release Date: 9/21/2007 2:02 PM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 22, 2007 Report Share Posted September 22, 2007 You are a sweetie, Akiba!I'd love to...it's hard..and it would be hard to pull 4 kids out of school here...love you, kate Pack your bags and move your ass~ets out here. we'll take care o' ya...and Val, and her brother Mark, and any/everyone else that needs a home. Mi Casa es TU Casa. Hugs Akiba Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 22, 2007 Report Share Posted September 22, 2007 You are a sweetie, Akiba!I'd love to...it's hard..and it would be hard to pull 4 kids out of school here...love you, kate Pack your bags and move your ass~ets out here. we'll take care o' ya...and Val, and her brother Mark, and any/everyone else that needs a home. Mi Casa es TU Casa. Hugs Akiba Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 22, 2007 Report Share Posted September 22, 2007 You are a sweetie, Akiba!I'd love to...it's hard..and it would be hard to pull 4 kids out of school here...love you, kate Pack your bags and move your ass~ets out here. we'll take care o' ya...and Val, and her brother Mark, and any/everyone else that needs a home. Mi Casa es TU Casa. Hugs Akiba Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 23, 2007 Report Share Posted September 23, 2007 You contact a lawyer and go from there. The lawyer will tell you how to go about things. love youSharon This email is a natural hand made product. The slight variations in spelling and grammar enhance its individual character and beauty and in no way are to be considered flaws or defects. Re: work hours/sleep I don't know quite HOW to go about getting a divorce. I know that may sound odd, but I've told my husband on many occasions that I cannot live with him anymore, and that I do indeed want a divorce. He, obviously, does not. So...what do you do..how do you proceed with someone who does NOT want a divorce...and YOU do? It seems to be a real confusion to me how to 'go about it'... ~always, kate Sharon, I think that you definitely did the right thing. My eldest sister, married consecutively three alcoholics, who were paradoxically also control freaks. She divorced each of them. One day our mother said to me sweetly, "Dear why is it that she marries these, well, questionable men? All the rest of you seem to have picked such very nice husbands and wives?" I truly had no answer for her, but am surely glad that you had the sense NOT to repeat the first blooper! Part of what made our marriage work was that Hans was thirteen years older than me, and very happy to be married and have real, live kids! (and those brownies, and good coffee!), love to you Sharon, and to all couples in our group, n Catch up on fall's hot new shows on Yahoo! TV. Watch previews, get listings, and more! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 24, 2007 Report Share Posted September 24, 2007 Kate, It seems that every state has a different approach to divorce. Here in PA, if you want a divorce and the other half of you doesn't you can still get one. The catch is, you have to live separately for two years, and then you can file for a divorce and the other half is not able to contest it.. or maybe they can, but you'll still get it because you've lived apart for two years. You can have one in between 30 and 90 days if you both sign for it.... Heck you can even have a "Do It Yourself Divorce" for $190.00 if you choose to go that way.. My dad did it... But I think he's divorced in Potter County rather than Fayette where he lives. Everything was done by mail even.. I'm not real sure if it's completely legal though.. But he's got divorce papers... In Connecticut, at least in 1990, you could get a divorce WHILE living together! Seems it's too expensive to maintain two households or something... (I know that one because I checked into divorcing the hubby while we were living in the state)... But had I wanted him to leave the house, it was only a matter of having the local sheriff (constable, or whatever he is there), come along with a paper and tell him to "get out".. actually, the gal next door to me did that... Her hubby came home to these papers one day.. The guy wouldn't even allow him into the house to get his clothes or wallet or anything!... And shortly thereafter they were divorced.. I guess it's all in where you live.. I think you can still fly to Reno and have a divorce the same day... hmm... with that thought in mind.. You could almost gain a Guiness World Record... Go to Winchester, Virginia today, and get married.. then fly to Reno, and be divorced the next day... then back to Winchester to do it all over again the next... Good math problem for some kid... If you were to drive between the two places.. and you worked at it every day, taking 8 hours in 24 out for sleeping... how many times could you be married and divorced in one year... LOL Sorry.. I didn't mean to make light of a bad situation... It just struck me as strange how every state differs... I think you'll need to contact an attorney (oh.. there's that nasty word again)... and ask questions.. most of them will do it over the phone.. at least I've found that to be the case for me.. maybe it's cause I'm a blabbermouth as well as a blabberfingers... |}onna Re: work hours/sleep I don't know quite HOW to go about getting a divorce. I know that may sound odd, but I've told my husband on many occasions that I cannot live with him anymore, and that I do indeed want a divorce. He, obviously, does not. So...what do you do..how do you proceed with someone who does NOT want a divorce...and YOU do? It seems to be a real confusion to me how to 'go about it'... ~always, kate Sharon, I think that you definitely did the right thing. My eldest sister, married consecutively three alcoholics, who were paradoxically also control freaks. She divorced each of them. One day our mother said to me sweetly, "Dear why is it that she marries these, well, questionable men? All the rest of you seem to have picked such very nice husbands and wives?" I truly had no answer for her, but am surely glad that you had the sense NOT to repeat the first blooper! Part of what made our marriage work was that Hans was thirteen years older than me, and very happy to be married and have real, live kids! (and those brownies, and good coffee!), love to you Sharon, and to all couples in our group, n Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 24, 2007 Report Share Posted September 24, 2007 Kate, It seems that every state has a different approach to divorce. Here in PA, if you want a divorce and the other half of you doesn't you can still get one. The catch is, you have to live separately for two years, and then you can file for a divorce and the other half is not able to contest it.. or maybe they can, but you'll still get it because you've lived apart for two years. You can have one in between 30 and 90 days if you both sign for it.... Heck you can even have a "Do It Yourself Divorce" for $190.00 if you choose to go that way.. My dad did it... But I think he's divorced in Potter County rather than Fayette where he lives. Everything was done by mail even.. I'm not real sure if it's completely legal though.. But he's got divorce papers... In Connecticut, at least in 1990, you could get a divorce WHILE living together! Seems it's too expensive to maintain two households or something... (I know that one because I checked into divorcing the hubby while we were living in the state)... But had I wanted him to leave the house, it was only a matter of having the local sheriff (constable, or whatever he is there), come along with a paper and tell him to "get out".. actually, the gal next door to me did that... Her hubby came home to these papers one day.. The guy wouldn't even allow him into the house to get his clothes or wallet or anything!... And shortly thereafter they were divorced.. I guess it's all in where you live.. I think you can still fly to Reno and have a divorce the same day... hmm... with that thought in mind.. You could almost gain a Guiness World Record... Go to Winchester, Virginia today, and get married.. then fly to Reno, and be divorced the next day... then back to Winchester to do it all over again the next... Good math problem for some kid... If you were to drive between the two places.. and you worked at it every day, taking 8 hours in 24 out for sleeping... how many times could you be married and divorced in one year... LOL Sorry.. I didn't mean to make light of a bad situation... It just struck me as strange how every state differs... I think you'll need to contact an attorney (oh.. there's that nasty word again)... and ask questions.. most of them will do it over the phone.. at least I've found that to be the case for me.. maybe it's cause I'm a blabbermouth as well as a blabberfingers... |}onna Re: work hours/sleep I don't know quite HOW to go about getting a divorce. I know that may sound odd, but I've told my husband on many occasions that I cannot live with him anymore, and that I do indeed want a divorce. He, obviously, does not. So...what do you do..how do you proceed with someone who does NOT want a divorce...and YOU do? It seems to be a real confusion to me how to 'go about it'... ~always, kate Sharon, I think that you definitely did the right thing. My eldest sister, married consecutively three alcoholics, who were paradoxically also control freaks. She divorced each of them. One day our mother said to me sweetly, "Dear why is it that she marries these, well, questionable men? All the rest of you seem to have picked such very nice husbands and wives?" I truly had no answer for her, but am surely glad that you had the sense NOT to repeat the first blooper! Part of what made our marriage work was that Hans was thirteen years older than me, and very happy to be married and have real, live kids! (and those brownies, and good coffee!), love to you Sharon, and to all couples in our group, n Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 24, 2007 Report Share Posted September 24, 2007 Kate, contact a lawyer. They will not charge you to discuss the situation. If they do, then you don't want them. Good luck! Shirley|}onna wrote: Kate, It seems that every state has a different approach to divorce. Here in PA, if you want a divorce and the other half of you doesn't you can still get one. The catch is, you have to live separately for two years, and then you can file for a divorce and the other half is not able to contest it.. or maybe they can, but you'll still get it because you've lived apart for two years. You can have one in between 30 and 90 days if you both sign for it.... Heck you can even have a "Do It Yourself Divorce" for $190.00 if you choose to go that way.. My dad did it... But I think he's divorced in Potter County rather than Fayette where he lives. Everything was done by mail even.. I'm not real sure if it's completely legal though.. But he's got divorce papers... In Connecticut, at least in 1990, you could get a divorce WHILE living together! Seems it's too expensive to maintain two households or something... (I know that one because I checked into divorcing the hubby while we were living in the state)... But had I wanted him to leave the house, it was only a matter of having the local sheriff (constable, or whatever he is there), come along with a paper and tell him to "get out".. actually, the gal next door to me did that... Her hubby came home to these papers one day.. The guy wouldn't even allow him into the house to get his clothes or wallet or anything!... And shortly thereafter they were divorced.. I guess it's all in where you live.. I think you can still fly to Reno and have a divorce the same day... hmm... with that thought in mind.. You could almost gain a Guiness World Record... Go to Winchester, Virginia today, and get married.. then fly to Reno, and be divorced the next day... then back to Winchester to do it all over again the next... Good math problem for some kid... If you were to drive between the two places.. and you worked at it every day, taking 8 hours in 24 out for sleeping... how many times could you be married and divorced in one year... LOL Sorry.. I didn't mean to make light of a bad situation... It just struck me as strange how every state differs... I think you'll need to contact an attorney (oh.. there's that nasty word again)... and ask questions.. most of them will do it over the phone.. at least I've found that to be the case for me.. maybe it's cause I'm a blabbermouth as well as a blabberfingers... |}onna Re: work hours/sleep I don't know quite HOW to go about getting a divorce. I know that may sound odd, but I've told my husband on many occasions that I cannot live with him anymore, and that I do indeed want a divorce. He, obviously, does not. So...what do you do..how do you proceed with someone who does NOT want a divorce...and YOU do? It seems to be a real confusion to me how to 'go about it'... ~always, kate Sharon, I think that you definitely did the right thing. My eldest sister, married consecutively three alcoholics, who were paradoxically also control freaks. She divorced each of them. One day our mother said to me sweetly, "Dear why is it that she marries these, well, questionable men? All the rest of you seem to have picked such very nice husbands and wives?" I truly had no answer for her, but am surely glad that you had the sense NOT to repeat the first blooper! Part of what made our marriage work was that Hans was thirteen years older than me, and very happy to be married and have real, live kids! (and those brownies, and good coffee!), love to you Sharon, and to all couples in our group, n Shirley "He who throws dirt loses ground." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 24, 2007 Report Share Posted September 24, 2007 Kate, contact a lawyer. They will not charge you to discuss the situation. If they do, then you don't want them. Good luck! Shirley|}onna wrote: Kate, It seems that every state has a different approach to divorce. Here in PA, if you want a divorce and the other half of you doesn't you can still get one. The catch is, you have to live separately for two years, and then you can file for a divorce and the other half is not able to contest it.. or maybe they can, but you'll still get it because you've lived apart for two years. You can have one in between 30 and 90 days if you both sign for it.... Heck you can even have a "Do It Yourself Divorce" for $190.00 if you choose to go that way.. My dad did it... But I think he's divorced in Potter County rather than Fayette where he lives. Everything was done by mail even.. I'm not real sure if it's completely legal though.. But he's got divorce papers... In Connecticut, at least in 1990, you could get a divorce WHILE living together! Seems it's too expensive to maintain two households or something... (I know that one because I checked into divorcing the hubby while we were living in the state)... But had I wanted him to leave the house, it was only a matter of having the local sheriff (constable, or whatever he is there), come along with a paper and tell him to "get out".. actually, the gal next door to me did that... Her hubby came home to these papers one day.. The guy wouldn't even allow him into the house to get his clothes or wallet or anything!... And shortly thereafter they were divorced.. I guess it's all in where you live.. I think you can still fly to Reno and have a divorce the same day... hmm... with that thought in mind.. You could almost gain a Guiness World Record... Go to Winchester, Virginia today, and get married.. then fly to Reno, and be divorced the next day... then back to Winchester to do it all over again the next... Good math problem for some kid... If you were to drive between the two places.. and you worked at it every day, taking 8 hours in 24 out for sleeping... how many times could you be married and divorced in one year... LOL Sorry.. I didn't mean to make light of a bad situation... It just struck me as strange how every state differs... I think you'll need to contact an attorney (oh.. there's that nasty word again)... and ask questions.. most of them will do it over the phone.. at least I've found that to be the case for me.. maybe it's cause I'm a blabbermouth as well as a blabberfingers... |}onna Re: work hours/sleep I don't know quite HOW to go about getting a divorce. I know that may sound odd, but I've told my husband on many occasions that I cannot live with him anymore, and that I do indeed want a divorce. He, obviously, does not. So...what do you do..how do you proceed with someone who does NOT want a divorce...and YOU do? It seems to be a real confusion to me how to 'go about it'... ~always, kate Sharon, I think that you definitely did the right thing. My eldest sister, married consecutively three alcoholics, who were paradoxically also control freaks. She divorced each of them. One day our mother said to me sweetly, "Dear why is it that she marries these, well, questionable men? All the rest of you seem to have picked such very nice husbands and wives?" I truly had no answer for her, but am surely glad that you had the sense NOT to repeat the first blooper! Part of what made our marriage work was that Hans was thirteen years older than me, and very happy to be married and have real, live kids! (and those brownies, and good coffee!), love to you Sharon, and to all couples in our group, n Shirley "He who throws dirt loses ground." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 24, 2007 Report Share Posted September 24, 2007 Kate, Have you asked him to leave the house? Would he go if you did? It doesn't matter if he wants the divorce or not. If one person wants it that's all that matters. I'm with the others, go to a lawyer who doesn't charge a fee for a consultation and see what he or she has to say first. I wouldn't leave the house though because then he may say that you abandoned him especially if he doesn't want the divorce. You really have to be careful. Some men can be really vindictive. Good luck and keep us posted. Hugs, Peggy > > I don't know quite HOW to go about getting a divorce. I know that may sound odd, > but I've told my husband on many occasions that I cannot live with him anymore, > and that I do indeed want a divorce. He, obviously, does not. So...what do you > do..how do you proceed with someone who does NOT want a divorce...and YOU do? > It seems to be a real confusion to me how to 'go about it'... > ~always, > kate > > > > > Sharon, I think that you definitely did the right thing. My eldest sister, > married consecutively three alcoholics, who were paradoxically also > control freaks. She divorced each of them. One day our mother > said to me sweetly, " Dear why is it that she marries these, well, > questionable men? All the rest of you seem to have picked such > very nice husbands and wives? " I truly had no answer for her, but > am surely glad that you had the sense NOT to repeat the first blooper! > Part of what made our marriage work was that Hans was thirteen years > older than me, and very happy to be married and have real, live kids! > (and those brownies, and good coffee!), > love to you Sharon, and to all couples in our group, > n > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 24, 2007 Report Share Posted September 24, 2007 Kate, Have you asked him to leave the house? Would he go if you did? It doesn't matter if he wants the divorce or not. If one person wants it that's all that matters. I'm with the others, go to a lawyer who doesn't charge a fee for a consultation and see what he or she has to say first. I wouldn't leave the house though because then he may say that you abandoned him especially if he doesn't want the divorce. You really have to be careful. Some men can be really vindictive. Good luck and keep us posted. Hugs, Peggy > > I don't know quite HOW to go about getting a divorce. I know that may sound odd, > but I've told my husband on many occasions that I cannot live with him anymore, > and that I do indeed want a divorce. He, obviously, does not. So...what do you > do..how do you proceed with someone who does NOT want a divorce...and YOU do? > It seems to be a real confusion to me how to 'go about it'... > ~always, > kate > > > > > Sharon, I think that you definitely did the right thing. My eldest sister, > married consecutively three alcoholics, who were paradoxically also > control freaks. She divorced each of them. One day our mother > said to me sweetly, " Dear why is it that she marries these, well, > questionable men? All the rest of you seem to have picked such > very nice husbands and wives? " I truly had no answer for her, but > am surely glad that you had the sense NOT to repeat the first blooper! > Part of what made our marriage work was that Hans was thirteen years > older than me, and very happy to be married and have real, live kids! > (and those brownies, and good coffee!), > love to you Sharon, and to all couples in our group, > n > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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