Re: What have I done to my little girl?

January 18, 1999

>From: Looneytnzs@...

>

>Oh my gosh I am so mad at myself! I took for her 1 year check up

and

>shots right. Ok she is doing great until they weigh her. She only weighs 20

>lbs. She has only gained 1 pound since her 6 month visit!!!!!!! She went

from

>being in 85 %tile to 25%tile. I feel so bad. Dr. told me to start her on

whole

>milk and lots of dairy food. And wants to see her back in 6 weeks for a lab

>test. To check to see if she is anemic. She seems so happy and everything I

>can't believe I was starving her.....I am still nursing her 4 to 5 times a

day

>and plus she gets three meals and she didn't gain but 1 pound. Geeze.Gosh I

>feel like such a failure. Anyway I'll get out of my self pitty. I just need

>some suggestions on food to plump up my kid before her next appt in 6

weeks.

>Any ideas? Thanks for listening

>Carol (who starves her kid)

If your daughter is on track developmentally and is happy and content then

you are *not* starving her! Keep in mind that those charts were dawn up

using formula fed babies and they gain weight very differently than

breastfed babies. Breastfed babies tend to slow down dramatically in weight

gain in the second half of the first year. And the charts don't take into

account body type, etc. Are you or your dh smaller folks or do you come

from smaller 'stock' (for lack of a better word)? Do you guys tend to be

petite or thin?

Be on the safe side, and do test for anemia, but don't freak out! And don't

forget that she is burning off those calories much faster now that she is

mobile. Don't push the dairy, it can lower immune system response (and

constipate) but do provide a variety of nutritious foods and step up the

nursing. It is the perfect food, and is designed to sustain your baby.

Lastly, have a peek at a breastfed baby weight chart and see how she

measures up that way. They can be found on the web but unfortunately I

can't find my * & ^! link.

Hope this helps!

Amy O.

Mommy to Maggie 3-2-98

Soulmate to 12-21-96

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Blessed is the mother who does not laugh at her little one when he haltingly

tells her his worries, problems, or fears; for then that child will still

come to

her for advice when he is a teenager.

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

January 18, 1999

>From: Looneytnzs@...

>

>Oh my gosh I am so mad at myself! I took for her 1 year check up

and

>shots right. Ok she is doing great until they weigh her. She only weighs 20

>lbs. She has only gained 1 pound since her 6 month visit!!!!!!! She went

from

>being in 85 %tile to 25%tile. I feel so bad. Dr. told me to start her on

whole

>milk and lots of dairy food. And wants to see her back in 6 weeks for a lab

>test. To check to see if she is anemic. She seems so happy and everything I

>can't believe I was starving her.....I am still nursing her 4 to 5 times a

day

>and plus she gets three meals and she didn't gain but 1 pound. Geeze.Gosh I

>feel like such a failure. Anyway I'll get out of my self pitty. I just need

>some suggestions on food to plump up my kid before her next appt in 6

weeks.

>Any ideas? Thanks for listening

>Carol (who starves her kid)

If your daughter is on track developmentally and is happy and content then

you are *not* starving her! Keep in mind that those charts were dawn up

using formula fed babies and they gain weight very differently than

breastfed babies. Breastfed babies tend to slow down dramatically in weight

gain in the second half of the first year. And the charts don't take into

account body type, etc. Are you or your dh smaller folks or do you come

from smaller 'stock' (for lack of a better word)? Do you guys tend to be

petite or thin?

Be on the safe side, and do test for anemia, but don't freak out! And don't

forget that she is burning off those calories much faster now that she is

mobile. Don't push the dairy, it can lower immune system response (and

constipate) but do provide a variety of nutritious foods and step up the

nursing. It is the perfect food, and is designed to sustain your baby.

Lastly, have a peek at a breastfed baby weight chart and see how she

measures up that way. They can be found on the web but unfortunately I

can't find my * & ^! link.

Hope this helps!

Amy O.

Mommy to Maggie 3-2-98

Soulmate to 12-21-96

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

Blessed is the mother who does not laugh at her little one when he haltingly

tells her his worries, problems, or fears; for then that child will still

come to

her for advice when he is a teenager.

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

January 18, 1999

is only 20 pounds he is 11 months will be 12 feb 1st. My Dr has already

accussed me of starving him when he was little.

was 7 pounds 9 oz at birth I was told they were supost to tripple there

weigth in the first year so sounds to me like he is right on track. He has

almos been this weight for the last 6 months (there abouts he was 19 lbs 14oz

at 6 months)

Amy

January 18, 1999

is only 20 pounds he is 11 months will be 12 feb 1st. My Dr has already

accussed me of starving him when he was little.

was 7 pounds 9 oz at birth I was told they were supost to tripple there

weigth in the first year so sounds to me like he is right on track. He has

almos been this weight for the last 6 months (there abouts he was 19 lbs 14oz

at 6 months)

Amy

January 18, 1999

<< She went

from

>being in 85 %tile to 25%tile. >>

This was my daughter too, and it happened over about a 6 month period. She

started out in the 90th percentile (almost 9# at birth), and now she's in the

25th. My formula-fed son was the same way. It's good to keep an eye on her

growth, but try not to obsess over it. Running some tests is a good idea, but

I suspect they really won't turn up anything. This is probably just her body

type! Especially if you and dh were skinny as kids (me and dh both were ...

now is another story entirely LOL!).

Good luck and keep us posted!!!

& Kylie, still nursing at 18 months!

January 18, 1999

<< She went

from

>being in 85 %tile to 25%tile. >>

This was my daughter too, and it happened over about a 6 month period. She

started out in the 90th percentile (almost 9# at birth), and now she's in the

25th. My formula-fed son was the same way. It's good to keep an eye on her

growth, but try not to obsess over it. Running some tests is a good idea, but

I suspect they really won't turn up anything. This is probably just her body

type! Especially if you and dh were skinny as kids (me and dh both were ...

now is another story entirely LOL!).

Good luck and keep us posted!!!

& Kylie, still nursing at 18 months!

January 18, 1999

<< She went

from

>being in 85 %tile to 25%tile. >>

This was my daughter too, and it happened over about a 6 month period. She

started out in the 90th percentile (almost 9# at birth), and now she's in the

25th. My formula-fed son was the same way. It's good to keep an eye on her

growth, but try not to obsess over it. Running some tests is a good idea, but

I suspect they really won't turn up anything. This is probably just her body

type! Especially if you and dh were skinny as kids (me and dh both were ...

now is another story entirely LOL!).

Good luck and keep us posted!!!

& Kylie, still nursing at 18 months!

January 18, 1999

In a message dated 1/18/99 4:35:53 PM Pacific Standard Time,

Looneytnzs@... writes:

<< osh I

feel like such a failure. Anyway I'll get out of my self pitty. I just need

some suggestions on food to plump up my kid before her next appt in 6 weeks.

Any ideas? Thanks for listening >>

Carol!! ***HUGS*** to you!!! You are not starving your baby!! If she was

hungry, she would let you know! Most BF babies gain really fast & then slow

down the last 6mos. As long as she was outputting you know she was fine. She

is on solids too. How active is she? She just maybe burning as many calories

as you are putting in her. At 12 mos they always check for anemia. Some do at

9mos, my ped does at 12mos. I am sure she is fine.

Food suggestions. Avocados are loaded with fat & vitamins. Cheese. Cottage

Cheese. Peanut Butter (only if food allergies are not present in your family.

they do not recommend PB to children under 2 or 3, but there are no food

allergies in our families so I did give it to my kids when they turned 1.)

Also keep in mind genetics. My kids were both on the lean side as babies. They

never were past the 25% for weight, even though they were both born good size

babies.(8lbs + each) Are you & your DH slender? My DH & I aren't, but my DH

grandpa was. That's where we think our kids got if from.

Anyway, hugs too you!! You are in no way starving your baby!!! Keep us

posted!!

Cristina Mom to Amber 4yrs (just 41lbs) & Austin 14mos (25lbs)

January 18, 1999

In a message dated 1/18/99 4:35:53 PM Pacific Standard Time,

Looneytnzs@... writes:

<< osh I

feel like such a failure. Anyway I'll get out of my self pitty. I just need

some suggestions on food to plump up my kid before her next appt in 6 weeks.

Any ideas? Thanks for listening >>

Carol!! ***HUGS*** to you!!! You are not starving your baby!! If she was

hungry, she would let you know! Most BF babies gain really fast & then slow

down the last 6mos. As long as she was outputting you know she was fine. She

is on solids too. How active is she? She just maybe burning as many calories

as you are putting in her. At 12 mos they always check for anemia. Some do at

9mos, my ped does at 12mos. I am sure she is fine.

Food suggestions. Avocados are loaded with fat & vitamins. Cheese. Cottage

Cheese. Peanut Butter (only if food allergies are not present in your family.

they do not recommend PB to children under 2 or 3, but there are no food

allergies in our families so I did give it to my kids when they turned 1.)

Also keep in mind genetics. My kids were both on the lean side as babies. They

never were past the 25% for weight, even though they were both born good size

babies.(8lbs + each) Are you & your DH slender? My DH & I aren't, but my DH

grandpa was. That's where we think our kids got if from.

Anyway, hugs too you!! You are in no way starving your baby!!! Keep us

posted!!

Cristina Mom to Amber 4yrs (just 41lbs) & Austin 14mos (25lbs)

January 18, 1999

I had the same thing happen except only put on 8 ounces in one month.

also walks and crawls all day long... no sitting and looking pretty.

she is all action... no talk (yet :0)) good luck but if you are nursing 4-5

x's per day I think she is getting lots of fluids.... if she were anemic ...

I would believe she might be a bit tired most of the time. Like my little

one (who I am planning on getting tested for anemia). Good luck Carol.

And I don't really think you starve your kid!

The Chudzik's

DANA, HILDA & MARIA

What have I done to my little girl?

>From: Looneytnzs@...

>

>Oh my gosh I am so mad at myself! I took for her 1 year check up

and

>shots right. Ok she is doing great until they weigh her. She only weighs 20

>lbs. She has only gained 1 pound since her 6 month visit!!!!!!! She went

from

>being in 85 %tile to 25%tile. I feel so bad. Dr. told me to start her on

whole

>milk and lots of dairy food. And wants to see her back in 6 weeks for a lab

>test. To check to see if she is anemic. She seems so happy and everything I

>can't believe I was starving her.....I am still nursing her 4 to 5 times a

day

>and plus she gets three meals and she didn't gain but 1 pound. Geeze.Gosh I

>feel like such a failure. Anyway I'll get out of my self pitty. I just need

>some suggestions on food to plump up my kid before her next appt in 6

weeks.

>Any ideas? Thanks for listening

>Carol (who starves her kid)

>

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January 18, 1999

I had the same thing happen except only put on 8 ounces in one month.

also walks and crawls all day long... no sitting and looking pretty.

she is all action... no talk (yet :0)) good luck but if you are nursing 4-5

x's per day I think she is getting lots of fluids.... if she were anemic ...

I would believe she might be a bit tired most of the time. Like my little

one (who I am planning on getting tested for anemia). Good luck Carol.

And I don't really think you starve your kid!

The Chudzik's

DANA, HILDA & MARIA

What have I done to my little girl?

>From: Looneytnzs@...

>

>Oh my gosh I am so mad at myself! I took for her 1 year check up

and

>shots right. Ok she is doing great until they weigh her. She only weighs 20

>lbs. She has only gained 1 pound since her 6 month visit!!!!!!! She went

from

>being in 85 %tile to 25%tile. I feel so bad. Dr. told me to start her on

whole

>milk and lots of dairy food. And wants to see her back in 6 weeks for a lab

>test. To check to see if she is anemic. She seems so happy and everything I

>can't believe I was starving her.....I am still nursing her 4 to 5 times a

day

>and plus she gets three meals and she didn't gain but 1 pound. Geeze.Gosh I

>feel like such a failure. Anyway I'll get out of my self pitty. I just need

>some suggestions on food to plump up my kid before her next appt in 6

weeks.

>Any ideas? Thanks for listening

>Carol (who starves her kid)

>

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January 18, 1999

Carol,

DON'T PANIC! It could be that was just meant to be small and it was

the first 6 months that was unusual for her... Doctors are soooo

weight-oriented. Has she got taller? It could be also she's been growing up

rather than out. I would just make sure she eats good nutritious foods for

her solid meals - vegetables, fruits, meat and fish, some dairy (I wouldn't

introduce loads if you havent given her hardly any before though...) - and

nurses plenty.

Leila

January 18, 1999

Carol,

DON'T PANIC! It could be that was just meant to be small and it was

the first 6 months that was unusual for her... Doctors are soooo

weight-oriented. Has she got taller? It could be also she's been growing up

rather than out. I would just make sure she eats good nutritious foods for

her solid meals - vegetables, fruits, meat and fish, some dairy (I wouldn't

introduce loads if you havent given her hardly any before though...) - and

nurses plenty.

Leila

January 18, 1999

It's normal for bf babies to significantly slow their weight gain after 6 mos.

If

she is otherwise healthy, I wouldn't worry about it. And if the dr persists in

insisting that she gain more weight, I would find another ped. The growth chart

your ped is looking at was not designed for bf babies.

Looneytnzs@... wrote:

> From: Looneytnzs@...

>

> Oh my gosh I am so mad at myself! I took for her 1 year check up and

> shots right. Ok she is doing great until they weigh her. She only weighs 20

> lbs. She has only gained 1 pound since her 6 month visit!!!!!!! She went from

> being in 85 %tile to 25%tile. I feel so bad. Dr. told me to start her on whole

> milk and lots of dairy food. And wants to see her back in 6 weeks for a lab

> test. To check to see if she is anemic. She seems so happy and everything I

> can't believe I was starving her.....I am still nursing her 4 to 5 times a day

> and plus she gets three meals and she didn't gain but 1 pound. Geeze.Gosh I

> feel like such a failure. Anyway I'll get out of my self pitty. I just need

> some suggestions on food to plump up my kid before her next appt in 6 weeks.

> Any ideas? Thanks for listening

> Carol (who starves her kid)

January 18, 1999

how much did she gain in hieght? mine was 24 lbs at 6 months and only

gained 1/2 lbs in 2 years!! no doc ever said a word because he grew in

height!

kriss

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January 18, 1999

heck my Jojo still is only 28 lbs and almost 3!

kriss

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January 18, 1999

Carol,

I DO NOT beleive you starve . That's ridiculous!!

I can tell just from your posts how much you love her.

Some babies just do that!

our 2yob. Was average on his curve until he was 1 yr. Then he was

like the 5th percentile. I was bfing + he was eating our food. Our Dr.,

whom we love, was not worried at all. When we went to a WIC appt. They

freaked, sent us to their nutritionist, whom we disliked. She told us

nothing that we didn't already know. They upset us so badly. Like we were

starving him. We called our Dr. He had just seen like the week

before. He said " is FINE. " Some kids just do that. We still

worried. But, now he's a brick!!!! Weighs about 30lbs! I can hardly pick

him up.

I bet is a healthy little girl. She's fine. It'll take some time

then she'll grow.

Take care,

S. Mom to 5.

What have I done to my little girl?

>From: Looneytnzs@...

>

>Oh my gosh I am so mad at myself! I took for her 1 year check up

and

>shots right. Ok she is doing great until they weigh her. She only weighs 20

>lbs. She has only gained 1 pound since her 6 month visit!!!!!!! She went

from

>being in 85 %tile to 25%tile. I feel so bad. Dr. told me to start her on

whole

>milk and lots of dairy food. And wants to see her back in 6 weeks for a lab

>test. To check to see if she is anemic. She seems so happy and everything I

>can't believe I was starving her.....I am still nursing her 4 to 5 times a

day

>and plus she gets three meals and she didn't gain but 1 pound. Geeze.Gosh I

>feel like such a failure. Anyway I'll get out of my self pitty. I just need

>some suggestions on food to plump up my kid before her next appt in 6

weeks.

>Any ideas? Thanks for listening

>Carol (who starves her kid)

>

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January 18, 1999