Guest guest Posted May 16, 2008 Report Share Posted May 16, 2008 why is it ????....one week I am dealing well with emotions, another week I am dealing well with my mindfull eating, or stopping when full or enjoying food to the fullest, or pushing aside the dieting mentality YET I have yet to achieve doing all these things at once. Maybe one day I can pull it all together. Clare (UK) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 16, 2008 Report Share Posted May 16, 2008 I understand your thought patterns as I have felt that often myself. I think the truth of it is there is no " arrival point " with all of this-- it is all a learning process and we get better and better as we continue with it, but perfection can't be the goal because it's just not possible. > > why is it ????....one week I am dealing well with emotions, another > week I am dealing well with my mindfull eating, or stopping when full > or enjoying food to the fullest, or pushing aside the dieting mentality > YET I have yet to achieve doing all these things at once. Maybe one day > I can pull it all together. > > Clare (UK) > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 16, 2008 Report Share Posted May 16, 2008 I understand your thought patterns as I have felt that often myself. I think the truth of it is there is no " arrival point " with all of this-- it is all a learning process and we get better and better as we continue with it, but perfection can't be the goal because it's just not possible. > > why is it ????....one week I am dealing well with emotions, another > week I am dealing well with my mindfull eating, or stopping when full > or enjoying food to the fullest, or pushing aside the dieting mentality > YET I have yet to achieve doing all these things at once. Maybe one day > I can pull it all together. > > Clare (UK) > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 16, 2008 Report Share Posted May 16, 2008 I understand your thought patterns as I have felt that often myself. I think the truth of it is there is no " arrival point " with all of this-- it is all a learning process and we get better and better as we continue with it, but perfection can't be the goal because it's just not possible. > > why is it ????....one week I am dealing well with emotions, another > week I am dealing well with my mindfull eating, or stopping when full > or enjoying food to the fullest, or pushing aside the dieting mentality > YET I have yet to achieve doing all these things at once. Maybe one day > I can pull it all together. > > Clare (UK) > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 16, 2008 Report Share Posted May 16, 2008 When I read and we talk here about the IE Journey, its really about all those steps, baby and giant, that we make (back) towards eating for the reasons our bodies needs for food. As babies we eat ONLY for fuel purposes, but as we grow and become children and people in our human world, we begin to use food for other reasons. I would say that none of us can 'leap' back to the starting line in one jump. In fact from what I've experienced and read here, most of us do a sort of IE dance (waltz, cha cha, hip hop what have you) where we take a step forward, one to the side, perhaps a couple back and then swirl around a bit before repeating or changing towards our new direction. Rejoice in each and every step and those that take you 'back' are just part of the 'dance'. :) ehugs, Katcha > > why is it ????....one week I am dealing well with emotions, another > week I am dealing well with my mindfull eating, or stopping when full > or enjoying food to the fullest, or pushing aside the dieting mentality > YET I have yet to achieve doing all these things at once. Maybe one day > I can pull it all together. > > Clare (UK) > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 17, 2008 Report Share Posted May 17, 2008 Hi Clare, You're not alone in this. It is just the way our brains work when we are learning new things. We probably would freak out if we could actually make huge changes all at once! Instead our brains moderate the changes so that we can integrate and handle them. Children show this type of thing all the time. Like with potty training for example. They'll be doing so great and then all of a sudden, regression! Accidents! Sometimes in combination with another new situation or stimulus such as going to day care or whatever. The brain reverts to what is comfortable when it has too many new things to cope with. The good news is, all of us made it through potty training (LOL!) and we can make it through IE training too. Maybe it might help to pick one aspect to focus on for a month or so, or however long it takes until you feel as though you really have it solid, and then you could introduce the next aspect you want to work on. If nothing else it could help alleviate your feelings of failure, and could give you a daily reminder of success to help reinforce your confidence. Patience isn't always one of my strong suits but this process is teaching me to cultivate it as well. Jen > > why is it ????....one week I am dealing well with emotions, another > week I am dealing well with my mindfull eating, or stopping when full > or enjoying food to the fullest, or pushing aside the dieting mentality > YET I have yet to achieve doing all these things at once. Maybe one day > I can pull it all together. > > Clare (UK) > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 17, 2008 Report Share Posted May 17, 2008 Hi Clare, You're not alone in this. It is just the way our brains work when we are learning new things. We probably would freak out if we could actually make huge changes all at once! Instead our brains moderate the changes so that we can integrate and handle them. Children show this type of thing all the time. Like with potty training for example. They'll be doing so great and then all of a sudden, regression! Accidents! Sometimes in combination with another new situation or stimulus such as going to day care or whatever. The brain reverts to what is comfortable when it has too many new things to cope with. The good news is, all of us made it through potty training (LOL!) and we can make it through IE training too. Maybe it might help to pick one aspect to focus on for a month or so, or however long it takes until you feel as though you really have it solid, and then you could introduce the next aspect you want to work on. If nothing else it could help alleviate your feelings of failure, and could give you a daily reminder of success to help reinforce your confidence. Patience isn't always one of my strong suits but this process is teaching me to cultivate it as well. Jen > > why is it ????....one week I am dealing well with emotions, another > week I am dealing well with my mindfull eating, or stopping when full > or enjoying food to the fullest, or pushing aside the dieting mentality > YET I have yet to achieve doing all these things at once. Maybe one day > I can pull it all together. > > Clare (UK) > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 17, 2008 Report Share Posted May 17, 2008 Hi Clare, You're not alone in this. It is just the way our brains work when we are learning new things. We probably would freak out if we could actually make huge changes all at once! Instead our brains moderate the changes so that we can integrate and handle them. Children show this type of thing all the time. Like with potty training for example. They'll be doing so great and then all of a sudden, regression! Accidents! Sometimes in combination with another new situation or stimulus such as going to day care or whatever. The brain reverts to what is comfortable when it has too many new things to cope with. The good news is, all of us made it through potty training (LOL!) and we can make it through IE training too. Maybe it might help to pick one aspect to focus on for a month or so, or however long it takes until you feel as though you really have it solid, and then you could introduce the next aspect you want to work on. If nothing else it could help alleviate your feelings of failure, and could give you a daily reminder of success to help reinforce your confidence. Patience isn't always one of my strong suits but this process is teaching me to cultivate it as well. Jen > > why is it ????....one week I am dealing well with emotions, another > week I am dealing well with my mindfull eating, or stopping when full > or enjoying food to the fullest, or pushing aside the dieting mentality > YET I have yet to achieve doing all these things at once. Maybe one day > I can pull it all together. > > Clare (UK) > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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