RE: I'm so depressed...

[Guest guest]

Diane

You are NOT a failure! This is a setback and this class was not for

nothing. You did something you've never done before. You tried and

didn't fail, but didn't find the success you wanted. Can you take the

test again? Is there a way to appeal to another instructor and ask for a

re-test? I know how disappointing this is for you, but it's a setback

and you are so smart and so driven, you'll overcome it. Be angry and

then take that anger and channel it into finding out how to get a

retake!

~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`

Tory Klementsen, MCP A+

Career and Technology Educator

The successful person will do things that the unsuccessful person will

not.

> I'm so depressed...

>

>

> I weighed in 2 pounds over (but I hadn't eaten right and my

> period is coming, so no big surprise), but then I was taking

> a lifeguarding class through the Girl Scouts, and I was the

> strongest swimmer there, but the two instructors told me that

> they didn't feel confident of my skills and after letting me

> take the written test, told me they weren't going to let me

> take the practical test. They said they thought I knew the

> stuff, but I didn't have confidence in myself. So 28 hours

> of training, down the drain, and if I didn't have confidence

> before, well... I had tickets to go to a Dixie Chicks concert

> and I didn't enjoy a minute of it. I've been crying all

> afternoon. I haven't really gone on an eating binge, but

> ...... I feel like such a failure. I was looking forward to

> taking the certificate and going down to the local YMCA and

> getting a job teaching swimming lessons. Pimply faced

> 16-year-olds can pass this test...not me. I'm sorry to be

> such a downer. I guess I don't really have too many

> friends... I tend to only hear from aquaintances when they

> need something. I'm just not good at too many things. I

> really needed to succeed at this, and I didn't, and it's all

> my fault. I don't know how I'm going to drag myself through

> tonight and tomorrow. I'm not feeling like doing much of

> anything else with the Girl Scouts, either, and I " m my

> daughter's troop leader. I'd really rather not do it again,

> but I'd hate to disappoint my daughter. I just feel like

> quitting everything.

>

>

[Guest guest]

Can you take the test again? Is there a way to appeal to another

instructor and ask for a

> re-test?

I don't think so.

I know how disappointing this is for you, but it's a setback

> and you are so smart and so driven, you'll overcome it.

I feel pretty dumb, and I've had so many failures in my life in the past

three years ... I don't know. It just doesn't seem like it's worth putting

myself out. I gave it my best shot, but my best isn't good enough. I

simply underestimated how stressful it is to be responsible for saving

someone's life. The funny part is, I KNOW I would be better than most any

lifeguard I've ever seen at the Y pool. But the Girl Scouts are picky. I

mean, they didn't even give me a chance to FAIL the test, they didn't even

let me take it. You know, I think I'm going to quit this group for awhile.

I'm spending too much time on the computer.

[Guest guest]

Diane

It is stressful when someone is in trouble, but you know what? You just

do it. Your training, even if it doesn't get you what you think you want

right now, may save a life someday. I've had the misfortune to have to

perform CPR once on a baby, and give essential first aid three times. I

was so very thankful to have had the training. Despite thinking I would

freak out, I was calm, followed everything I was supposed to, and made

three of the situations better. (Unfortunately the baby died, but that

wasn't because of anything I did wrong.)

Sleep on it and see how you feel tomorrow or the next day and see what

happens. Don't do anything rash right now. We need you here!

~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`~`

Tory Klementsen, MCP A+

Career and Technology Educator

The successful person will do things that the unsuccessful person will

not.

> Re: I'm so depressed...

>

>

>

> Can you take the test again? Is there a way to appeal to

> another instructor and ask for a

> > re-test?

> I don't think so.

> I know how disappointing this is for you, but it's a setback

> > and you are so smart and so driven, you'll overcome it.

>

> I feel pretty dumb, and I've had so many failures in my life

> in the past three years ... I don't know. It just doesn't

> seem like it's worth putting myself out. I gave it my best

> shot, but my best isn't good enough. I simply underestimated

> how stressful it is to be responsible for saving someone's

> life. The funny part is, I KNOW I would be better than most

> any lifeguard I've ever seen at the Y pool. But the Girl

> Scouts are picky. I mean, they didn't even give me a chance

> to FAIL the test, they didn't even let me take it. You know,

> I think I'm going to quit this group for awhile. I'm spending

> too much time on the computer.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Diane,

Do you think this might be PMS talking? I know that when I have PMS the

only thing on my mind is........

Nobody likes me

I can't do anything right

Why even try to do anything

I am no good

Why am I trying to lose weight, I will just gain it back.

Ect.........and it's the PMS talking.

Try to relax this week and do something nice for yourself, eveynight before

bed try to read, take a hot bath, or just sit back and relax.

Moe

[Guest guest]

Diane,

Don't let a bunch of girls who's lives revolve around selling cookies get you

down. Yup, I'd be pretty peeved too, but turn the frustration into exercise and

determination. You know as well as I do that quitting everything only hurts

you, so why punish yourself for the decision of some idiots looking at a piece

of paper. And for the record, I spent 4 years as a lifeguard for the Georgia

State Parks, so I have been through it all. The question isn't their opinion,

but how do you feel? If you could have done it, be upset with them and don't

take it out on yourself. Your physical and mental health are worth more than

that!

In Him,

Jon

Prayer is not overcoming God's reluctance, but laying hold of His willingness.

— Luther

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[Guest guest]

Diane,

Don't let a bunch of girls who's lives revolve around selling cookies get you

down. Yup, I'd be pretty peeved too, but turn the frustration into exercise and

determination. You know as well as I do that quitting everything only hurts

you, so why punish yourself for the decision of some idiots looking at a piece

of paper. And for the record, I spent 4 years as a lifeguard for the Georgia

State Parks, so I have been through it all. The question isn't their opinion,

but how do you feel? If you could have done it, be upset with them and don't

take it out on yourself. Your physical and mental health are worth more than

that!

In Him,

Jon

Prayer is not overcoming God's reluctance, but laying hold of His willingness.

— Luther

Please note: message attached

[Guest guest]

Diane,

Don't let a bunch of girls who's lives revolve around selling cookies get you

down. Yup, I'd be pretty peeved too, but turn the frustration into exercise and

determination. You know as well as I do that quitting everything only hurts

you, so why punish yourself for the decision of some idiots looking at a piece

of paper. And for the record, I spent 4 years as a lifeguard for the Georgia

State Parks, so I have been through it all. The question isn't their opinion,

but how do you feel? If you could have done it, be upset with them and don't

take it out on yourself. Your physical and mental health are worth more than

that!

In Him,

Jon

Prayer is not overcoming God's reluctance, but laying hold of His willingness.

— Luther

Please note: message attached

[Guest guest]

Now.... is this from the same woman who dyed her hair PINK and then did a

incredible bike trip (race? marathon?)???? And who saw lots of cute butts

all over the place?!

I would have to say that you are good at a LOT of things! No one is good at

everything, heck I can't even drink water and walk at the same time.

I understand how frustrating it would have been to not be allowed to even

take the practical test - because they thought you weren't CONFIDENT enough?

How did they judge that?

As someone else mentioned, don't quit!! Is there some other way that you can

get certified in order to teach swimming at the Y? Can you be certified

through the Y?

I tend to think of crying as a good thing.. and it is also good that you are

able to tell us how you feel about it all. One thought that comes to MY

mind is....WWTS? What does that mean? Well... " What would Tony say... "

Seriously, what do you think he'd say?

Probably something " Why would quitting everything help? Would that make you

" feel " better? " Plus a few other things. If everything we've ever wanted

were easy to get, where would the challenge be? What did you learn from the

swimming incident? Well, you need to be more confident in yourself. Did you

hesitate during any practices? Why? Does that mean you need to re-train?

Maybe, but I wasn't there and I don't know ANYTHING about what you went

through. Did you ask the people why they thought you weren't confident?

That might help for the next time.

So.. pick yourself up.. dust yourself off... and get moving!!

PS. Don't leave this group!! We need you!!

> -----Original Message-----

> From: Diane Loupe

> I'm just not good at too many things. I just feel like quitting

everything.

[Guest guest]

Now.... is this from the same woman who dyed her hair PINK and then did a

incredible bike trip (race? marathon?)???? And who saw lots of cute butts

all over the place?!

I would have to say that you are good at a LOT of things! No one is good at

everything, heck I can't even drink water and walk at the same time.

I understand how frustrating it would have been to not be allowed to even

take the practical test - because they thought you weren't CONFIDENT enough?

How did they judge that?

As someone else mentioned, don't quit!! Is there some other way that you can

get certified in order to teach swimming at the Y? Can you be certified

through the Y?

I tend to think of crying as a good thing.. and it is also good that you are

able to tell us how you feel about it all. One thought that comes to MY

mind is....WWTS? What does that mean? Well... " What would Tony say... "

Seriously, what do you think he'd say?

Probably something " Why would quitting everything help? Would that make you

" feel " better? " Plus a few other things. If everything we've ever wanted

were easy to get, where would the challenge be? What did you learn from the

swimming incident? Well, you need to be more confident in yourself. Did you

hesitate during any practices? Why? Does that mean you need to re-train?

Maybe, but I wasn't there and I don't know ANYTHING about what you went

through. Did you ask the people why they thought you weren't confident?

That might help for the next time.

So.. pick yourself up.. dust yourself off... and get moving!!

PS. Don't leave this group!! We need you!!

> -----Original Message-----

> From: Diane Loupe

> I'm just not good at too many things. I just feel like quitting

everything.

[Guest guest]

Well Diane, I am sure when you read such good solid responses to your

post, You will realize you are NOT a quitter. Just think of all the

help you give to people on this list alone.

As for saying your 28 hrs of training going down the drain, well,

that is just not so, you will always have that. It takes confidence

to want to and then do something like that. I can't understand why

they would let you do the written, and then not take the practical

test though.

When did they decide you had no confidence anyway. I would want to

know the reasoning for this. Was there something there, that showed

this, because if this were so, " without knowing, how do you correct

it. " I have always been one, that needs to know why, when I am told

I'm wrong about something I believe I'm doing right.

Also if teaching swimming is something your passionate about doing,

I would check out the Y, or other swimming areas. Try for your

certificate again. Don't give up, go for it. It's a serious matter,

saving lives. You can only learn from failure. I am sure you have the

spunk to do pick yourself up and just do it... you have done so many

other things that I wouldn't dream of doing.

I wish you only the best, and I just know you will pull through this

like a trooper....

~~Kallie~

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In Serious-Weight-Watchers , " Diane Loupe "

<dloupe@m...> wrote:

> I weighed in 2 pounds over (but I hadn't eaten right and my period

is coming, so no big surprise), but then I was taking a lifeguarding

class through the Girl Scouts, and I was the strongest swimmer there,

but the two instructors told me that they didn't feel confident of my

skills and after letting me take the written test, told me they

weren't going to let me take the practical test. They said they

thought I knew the stuff, but I didn't have confidence in myself.

So 28 hours of training, down the drain, and if I didn't have

confidence before, well... I had tickets to go to a Dixie Chicks

concert and I didn't enjoy a minute of it. I've been crying all

afternoon. I haven't really gone on an eating binge, but ...... I

feel like such a failure. I was looking forward to taking the

certificate and going down to the local YMCA and getting a job

teaching swimming lessons. Pimply faced 16-year-olds can pass this

test...not me. I'm sorry to be such a downer. I guess I don't really

have too many friends... I tend to only hear from aquaintances when

they need something. I'm just not good at too many things. I really

needed to succeed at this, and I didn't, and it's all my fault. I

don't know how I'm going to drag myself through tonight and

tomorrow. I'm not feeling like doing much of anything else with the

Girl Scouts, either, and I " m my daughter's troop leader. I'd really

rather not do it again, but I'd hate to disappoint my daughter. I

just feel like quitting everything.

>

>

[Guest guest]

Diane

I know many others have given you advice but I'd like to add my own

if I may. You must not quit. It might be hard to do but you really

need to learn from this experience. Contact the instructors and

demand that you get feedback on where they think you went wrong and

what you can do to make things better next time. There must be an

opportunity to re-take the test. I've given this advice many times

in my job. I'm an Administrator in a Medical School and know how

important it is to give failing students the opportunity to learn

from their mistakes in order to work on improving their performance.

You should do the same. Like I said there may be something difficult

that you don't want to hear but you must face these challenges and

beat them, if only for your own self-esteem.

Kitty

> I weighed in 2 pounds over (but I hadn't eaten right and my period

is coming, so no big surprise), but then I was taking a lifeguarding

class through the Girl Scouts, and I was the strongest swimmer there,

but the two instructors told me that they didn't feel confident of my

skills and after letting me take the written test, told me they

weren't going to let me take the practical test. They said they

thought I knew the stuff, but I didn't have confidence in myself.

So 28 hours of training, down the drain, and if I didn't have

confidence before, well... I had tickets to go to a Dixie Chicks

concert and I didn't enjoy a minute of it. I've been crying all

afternoon. I haven't really gone on an eating binge, but ...... I

feel like such a failure. I was looking forward to taking the

certificate and going down to the local YMCA and getting a job

teaching swimming lessons. Pimply faced 16-year-olds can pass this

test...not me. I'm sorry to be such a downer. I guess I don't really

have too many friends... I tend to only hear from aquaintances when

they need something. I'm just not good at too many things. I really

needed to succeed at this, and I didn't, and it's all my fault. I

don't know how I'm going to drag myself through tonight and

tomorrow. I'm not feeling like doing much of anything else with the

Girl Scouts, either, and I " m my daughter's troop leader. I'd really

rather not do it again, but I'd hate to disappoint my daughter. I

just feel like quitting everything.

>

>

[Guest guest]

Diane

I know many others have given you advice but I'd like to add my own

if I may. You must not quit. It might be hard to do but you really

need to learn from this experience. Contact the instructors and

demand that you get feedback on where they think you went wrong and

what you can do to make things better next time. There must be an

opportunity to re-take the test. I've given this advice many times

in my job. I'm an Administrator in a Medical School and know how

important it is to give failing students the opportunity to learn

from their mistakes in order to work on improving their performance.

You should do the same. Like I said there may be something difficult

that you don't want to hear but you must face these challenges and

beat them, if only for your own self-esteem.

Kitty

> I weighed in 2 pounds over (but I hadn't eaten right and my period

is coming, so no big surprise), but then I was taking a lifeguarding

class through the Girl Scouts, and I was the strongest swimmer there,

but the two instructors told me that they didn't feel confident of my

skills and after letting me take the written test, told me they

weren't going to let me take the practical test. They said they

thought I knew the stuff, but I didn't have confidence in myself.

So 28 hours of training, down the drain, and if I didn't have

confidence before, well... I had tickets to go to a Dixie Chicks

concert and I didn't enjoy a minute of it. I've been crying all

afternoon. I haven't really gone on an eating binge, but ...... I

feel like such a failure. I was looking forward to taking the

certificate and going down to the local YMCA and getting a job

teaching swimming lessons. Pimply faced 16-year-olds can pass this

test...not me. I'm sorry to be such a downer. I guess I don't really

have too many friends... I tend to only hear from aquaintances when

they need something. I'm just not good at too many things. I really

needed to succeed at this, and I didn't, and it's all my fault. I

don't know how I'm going to drag myself through tonight and

tomorrow. I'm not feeling like doing much of anything else with the

Girl Scouts, either, and I " m my daughter's troop leader. I'd really

rather not do it again, but I'd hate to disappoint my daughter. I

just feel like quitting everything.

>

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