Sorry so long ....need an opinion!!

[Guest guest]

I would have pulled him. Sounds like she needs some couseling.

G

[Guest guest]

That's a fabulous letter!

G

[Guest guest]

Ya I am enjoying him being home but Abby is suffering

I had cancel all her play groups and such because they

were all in the morning when Ben was in school and now

it just doesn' work.

I feel sorry for her. He picks on her alot and Iknow

it isn' any fun for her.

--- doops_shmoops wrote:

> I think you know what is best for your child. I know

> I have pulled my

> kids for just a strange feeling about a situation.

> You have an actual

> reason. I think you did the right thing. You can

> both start fresh

> next year and wont have to worry that anything might

> happen to Ben.

> Enjoy the time you guys have together and know that

> you did the right

> thing.

> Jacquie H

>

>

>

>

> > Hey Everyone,

> >

> > How you all doing? Well I got rid of DH for the

> > evening he is out with the boys playing a poker so

> now

> > I can sit down and write my whole saga down in

> peace.

> >

> > Well as I mentioned before something happened with

> > Ben's teacher that made me pull him out til the

> end of

> > the school year. Most have said I over reacted and

> > some agree with what I did.

> >

> > So here goes......Ben started school in Nove he

> was

> > put in to an amazing class room. The

> teacher<> is

> > her name has 10 + years of experience with Autism.

> She

> > was well versed in ABA, discreet trail, pecs, she

> was

> > an amazing. The class ratio was 2:1. The kids

> loved

> > her......BUT in Dec she started to complain a

> little

> > about all the paper work she was having to do and

> it

> > was taking her away from the students so her aides

> > (who are also god sends they loved the

> kids)..picked

> > up alot of the slack.

> > It was getting to the point where when we request

> a

> > Behaviral Ass. she almost lost it.....she actually

> > snapped at Ben in front of us....the day we(my

> husband

> > always goes with me whenever dropping off stuff to

> > show a united front) dropped off the letter while

> we

> > were talking to Ben in a " socially

> appropiate "

> > manner walked up to me gently touched my hand and

> said

> > " Mommy may I go to my workstation now. "

> > Ok for any of you who waited how many years for

> your

> > child to string a sentence together and then

> interrupt

> > you in a proper manner ......shit I was so excited

> so

> > I looked up at (who at this point was still

> > holding my letter of request) and Ben just asked

> to

> > work at his workstation......what does she do???

> Well

> > she turns around and snaps at him and says.... "

> Ben

> > school doesn't start til 8:15 so you have to

> wait. "

> > It was only 8:05!! I was hurt...I went home and

> fumed

> > and when I picked him I pulled her aside and

> explained

> > how I felt ...I told her I waited years for him to

> do

> > that and she just snapped at him because she was

> > stressed about my letter. She just about started

> to

> > cry I reached out to touch her arm to comfort her

> and

> > let her know I wasn't mad I just wanted her to

> know

> > that the least she could have done was praise him

> and

> > instead of snapping........well she then proceeds

> to

> > tell me she may not be here til the end of the

> year

> > because the stress is getting to her and she may

> try

> > and take " mental leave. This wasn't the first

> inkling

> > that she was stressed but I didn't realize how far

> > gone she was. I found out from her everytime I

> called

> > the school board to find out about a new something

> or

> > other...I wasn't calling to complain just

> > inquiring....

> > she would get a call and was told to talk to me as

> if

> > I was doing somethign wrong.

> >

> > Anyways I was babbling....that was not why I

> pulled

> > Ben, about 4 weeks ago something happened that put

> me

> > in shock literally I went numb for the whole day

> and

> > arond 11pm that night I started to shake and

> couldn't

> > controll it and broke down and cried. And if you

> know

> > anything about me from my posts I am pretty easy

> going

> > and tend to approach things with a sense of humor

> and

> > if I loose god help me ....well I did. I was a

> wreck

> > for about 45 mins....my husband held me until I

> could

> > talk. The last time I shook like that was right

> before

> > my c-section.

> > YOu ask what got me so upset well here goes.....

> > It was picture day....so that in itself is pretty

> > stressful for a teacher especially one of spec.

> Autism

> > classroom...and on top of that there is a

> schedualed

> > fire drill at 1pm........so I can understand why

> the

> > teacher would be a little tense with 6 Autie boys

> > running around......anyways now I set up the day

> for

> > you.......at around 1pm - 1:10pm s doing the

> fire

> > drill well you know Autie boys they have a routine

> > don't mess with it cause it is hard for them to

> > understand and transiton. Well a good friend of

> mine

> > came around the corner to hear yelling " NO

> NO

> > NO " to one boy in the class (not Ben) and then

> when

> > she opened the door whe walked in she seen

> > holding on to Ben's upper arm and in a loud voice

> > ....loud enough to the point Ben was pulling away

> from

> > her voice/face looking kind of scared.

> >

> > She said " NO BEN we are not getting MOMMY ...we

> are

> > doing a fire drill "

> >

> > Thankfully my friend(her son is also a student in

> the

> > class) interviened and said she would hold Bens

> hand

> > for her until I got there. balked and said I

> > can't let you do that my friend reassured and told

> her

> > that we were all going to the park which we were.

> >

> > I showed up to see my friend holding onto Ben's

> hand

> > which didn't bother me at all Ben's knows her and

> we

> > spend time together. I asked how the

> pictures

> > went and she didn't hear me so I reapeated the

> > question and she answered but she looked really

> > stressed like she was about to loose it. By this

> point

> > I began to reconize when she was stressed so I

> usully

> > just read his com book to see what went on in his

> day.

> >

> > Once I get Ben to the car my friend pulls me aside

> and

> > starts of by saying " if it was my kid I would

> want to

> > know......and proceeds to tell me what happened.

> Like

> > I said I went numb it took me awhile to process

> it.

> >

> > So did I overeact by pulling him?? The woman is

> burnt

> > out....she is retiring at the end of the year she

> is

> > finished gone ....bye bye. My friend kept her son

> in

>

=== message truncated ===

=====

TTFN

Wife to

Mom to Ben (aka Gozilla) 5yrs HFA/AS

On call milk machine to Abby(aka ....stinkerbell) 21MTHS NT

__________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

Ya I am enjoying him being home but Abby is suffering

I had cancel all her play groups and such because they

were all in the morning when Ben was in school and now

it just doesn' work.

I feel sorry for her. He picks on her alot and Iknow

it isn' any fun for her.

--- doops_shmoops wrote:

> I think you know what is best for your child. I know

> I have pulled my

> kids for just a strange feeling about a situation.

> You have an actual

> reason. I think you did the right thing. You can

> both start fresh

> next year and wont have to worry that anything might

> happen to Ben.

> Enjoy the time you guys have together and know that

> you did the right

> thing.

> Jacquie H

>

>

>

>

> > Hey Everyone,

> >

> > How you all doing? Well I got rid of DH for the

> > evening he is out with the boys playing a poker so

> now

> > I can sit down and write my whole saga down in

> peace.

> >

> > Well as I mentioned before something happened with

> > Ben's teacher that made me pull him out til the

> end of

> > the school year. Most have said I over reacted and

> > some agree with what I did.

> >

> > So here goes......Ben started school in Nove he

> was

> > put in to an amazing class room. The

> teacher<> is

> > her name has 10 + years of experience with Autism.

> She

> > was well versed in ABA, discreet trail, pecs, she

> was

> > an amazing. The class ratio was 2:1. The kids

> loved

> > her......BUT in Dec she started to complain a

> little

> > about all the paper work she was having to do and

> it

> > was taking her away from the students so her aides

> > (who are also god sends they loved the

> kids)..picked

> > up alot of the slack.

> > It was getting to the point where when we request

> a

> > Behaviral Ass. she almost lost it.....she actually

> > snapped at Ben in front of us....the day we(my

> husband

> > always goes with me whenever dropping off stuff to

> > show a united front) dropped off the letter while

> we

> > were talking to Ben in a " socially

> appropiate "

> > manner walked up to me gently touched my hand and

> said

> > " Mommy may I go to my workstation now. "

> > Ok for any of you who waited how many years for

> your

> > child to string a sentence together and then

> interrupt

> > you in a proper manner ......shit I was so excited

> so

> > I looked up at (who at this point was still

> > holding my letter of request) and Ben just asked

> to

> > work at his workstation......what does she do???

> Well

> > she turns around and snaps at him and says.... "

> Ben

> > school doesn't start til 8:15 so you have to

> wait. "

> > It was only 8:05!! I was hurt...I went home and

> fumed

> > and when I picked him I pulled her aside and

> explained

> > how I felt ...I told her I waited years for him to

> do

> > that and she just snapped at him because she was

> > stressed about my letter. She just about started

> to

> > cry I reached out to touch her arm to comfort her

> and

> > let her know I wasn't mad I just wanted her to

> know

> > that the least she could have done was praise him

> and

> > instead of snapping........well she then proceeds

> to

> > tell me she may not be here til the end of the

> year

> > because the stress is getting to her and she may

> try

> > and take " mental leave. This wasn't the first

> inkling

> > that she was stressed but I didn't realize how far

> > gone she was. I found out from her everytime I

> called

> > the school board to find out about a new something

> or

> > other...I wasn't calling to complain just

> > inquiring....

> > she would get a call and was told to talk to me as

> if

> > I was doing somethign wrong.

> >

> > Anyways I was babbling....that was not why I

> pulled

> > Ben, about 4 weeks ago something happened that put

> me

> > in shock literally I went numb for the whole day

> and

> > arond 11pm that night I started to shake and

> couldn't

> > controll it and broke down and cried. And if you

> know

> > anything about me from my posts I am pretty easy

> going

> > and tend to approach things with a sense of humor

> and

> > if I loose god help me ....well I did. I was a

> wreck

> > for about 45 mins....my husband held me until I

> could

> > talk. The last time I shook like that was right

> before

> > my c-section.

> > YOu ask what got me so upset well here goes.....

> > It was picture day....so that in itself is pretty

> > stressful for a teacher especially one of spec.

> Autism

> > classroom...and on top of that there is a

> schedualed

> > fire drill at 1pm........so I can understand why

> the

> > teacher would be a little tense with 6 Autie boys

> > running around......anyways now I set up the day

> for

> > you.......at around 1pm - 1:10pm s doing the

> fire

> > drill well you know Autie boys they have a routine

> > don't mess with it cause it is hard for them to

> > understand and transiton. Well a good friend of

> mine

> > came around the corner to hear yelling " NO

> NO

> > NO " to one boy in the class (not Ben) and then

> when

> > she opened the door whe walked in she seen

> > holding on to Ben's upper arm and in a loud voice

> > ....loud enough to the point Ben was pulling away

> from

> > her voice/face looking kind of scared.

> >

> > She said " NO BEN we are not getting MOMMY ...we

> are

> > doing a fire drill "

> >

> > Thankfully my friend(her son is also a student in

> the

> > class) interviened and said she would hold Bens

> hand

> > for her until I got there. balked and said I

> > can't let you do that my friend reassured and told

> her

> > that we were all going to the park which we were.

> >

> > I showed up to see my friend holding onto Ben's

> hand

> > which didn't bother me at all Ben's knows her and

> we

> > spend time together. I asked how the

> pictures

> > went and she didn't hear me so I reapeated the

> > question and she answered but she looked really

> > stressed like she was about to loose it. By this

> point

> > I began to reconize when she was stressed so I

> usully

> > just read his com book to see what went on in his

> day.

> >

> > Once I get Ben to the car my friend pulls me aside

> and

> > starts of by saying " if it was my kid I would

> want to

> > know......and proceeds to tell me what happened.

> Like

> > I said I went numb it took me awhile to process

> it.

> >

> > So did I overeact by pulling him?? The woman is

> burnt

> > out....she is retiring at the end of the year she

> is

> > finished gone ....bye bye. My friend kept her son

> in

>

=== message truncated ===

=====

TTFN

Wife to

Mom to Ben (aka Gozilla) 5yrs HFA/AS

On call milk machine to Abby(aka ....stinkerbell) 21MTHS NT

__________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

--- More Tuna wrote:

> Anyone that stressed out could be dangerous. You

> have to do what you think is best for your child.

> Don't judge yourself by what others are doing. Is

> this teacher taking stress leave? I think you should

> meet with the teacher, aides and principal and talk

> this out.

>

> What an awful thing to have to deal with. Hang in

> there, hon.

>

> Tuna

Well I talked to the other parents in the class but

they are still sending their kids back.....the feeling

I get from them is it is the best class in the

district and if they pull their children what else is

there. That and it is so close to the end of the year

I don't want to stir things up till I get what I want.

It is frustrating but we are shaking things up a bit.

Read the elequent letter my sweetie wrote......

IEP Change Request

Date: 5/20/2002

To: Mt. Diablo Unified School District

From: and Gillam

RE: IEP Change for Kindergarten Placement of

Gillam

Our Son, Gillam, diagnosed as autistic, was

placed in Gayle’s classroom at Valle Verde this

past autumn. While in this class, he was clearly

higher functioning and more advanced than the

majority, if not all, of the other students. Although

has not been attending this class for the

past several weeks, he has been making very obvious

progress at home in many important areas. In

particular, his communication skills, eye contact, and

concentration level have notably improved.

In light of ’s progress, we believe he is

ready for a less restrictive learning environment come

the beginning of school year 2002. In addition, the

district’s recently recommended against the need for a

behavioral assessment – another indication that he is

ready to progress at this time (ref. Letter from Peggy

McGurk dated April 29, 2002).

Although the details will be covered during the IEP

meeting, an overview of the appropriate environment

for is emersion into a kindergarten classroom

of primarily neuro-typical peers, but with the

constant help of a one-on-one integration facilitator.

Since his communication skills are not yet at an

appropriate level for his age group, he will continue

to require speech therapy at least to the same degree

he was receiving from his IEP at Valle Verde this

year.

We are confidant that taking this action at this time

is key to ’s development and successful full

integration into the general student body later on.

Please contact us to schedule the IEP meeting at your

earliest convenience. We look forward to your help in

leading one step closer to a fulfilling and

happy life.

Sincerely,

and Gillam

Parents of Gillam

=====

TTFN

Wife to

Mom to Ben (aka Gozilla) 5yrs HFA/AS

On call milk machine to Abby(aka ....stinkerbell) 21MTHS NT

__________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

Thanks Sara I feel the same way and that is what

scared me. What was she doing when the aides were not

around.

--- The Byks wrote:

> >>So did I overeact by pulling him??

>

> Nope.

>

> No way would I let that person be alone with my

> child. If she's shouting at

> him when just anyone can walk by, what's she doing

> when the door is closed?

> And as you said the autism is not relevant, other

> than being one more

> stressor for an obviously burnt-out teacher.

>

> Good luck hon. I think you did the right thing.

>

> -Sara.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks Ali. I am just glad he is safe now but I am

terrified to leave him now with the next teacher. It

sucks being suspicious of everyone I used to be such

a trusting person.

--- alibalw wrote:

>

>

>

> ,I would have done the same thing. You said

> yourself that she

> acknowledges that she is stressed ,then she must

> know that she

> shouldn't be there .It's not fair to herself and

> it's (more

> importantly) ,not fair to the kids .Life is always

> full of what

> ifs ,but in this case ,the what ifs could have nasty

> consequences .

> you did the right thing .

> JM 2 cents

>

> Ali

>

>

>

>

> > Hey Everyone,

> >

> > How you all doing? Well I got rid of DH for the

> > evening he is out with the boys playing a poker so

> now

> > I can sit down and write my whole saga down in

> peace.

> >

> > Well as I mentioned before something happened with

> > Ben's teacher that made me pull him out til the

> end of

> > the school year. Most have said I over reacted and

> > some agree with what I did.

> >

> > So here goes......Ben started school in Nove he

> was

> > put in to an amazing class room. The

> teacher<> is

> > her name has 10 + years of experience with Autism.

> She

> > was well versed in ABA, discreet trail, pecs, she

> was

> > an amazing. The class ratio was 2:1. The kids

> loved

> > her......BUT in Dec she started to complain a

> little

> > about all the paper work she was having to do and

> it

> > was taking her away from the students so her aides

> > (who are also god sends they loved the

> kids)..picked

> > up alot of the slack.

> > It was getting to the point where when we request

> a

> > Behaviral Ass. she almost lost it.....she actually

> > snapped at Ben in front of us....the day we(my

> husband

> > always goes with me whenever dropping off stuff to

> > show a united front) dropped off the letter while

> we

> > were talking to Ben in a " socially

> appropiate "

> > manner walked up to me gently touched my hand and

> said

> > " Mommy may I go to my workstation now. "

> > Ok for any of you who waited how many years for

> your

> > child to string a sentence together and then

> interrupt

> > you in a proper manner ......shit I was so excited

> so

> > I looked up at (who at this point was still

> > holding my letter of request) and Ben just asked

> to

> > work at his workstation......what does she do???

> Well

> > she turns around and snaps at him and says.... "

> Ben

> > school doesn't start til 8:15 so you have to

> wait. "

> > It was only 8:05!! I was hurt...I went home and

> fumed

> > and when I picked him I pulled her aside and

> explained

> > how I felt ...I told her I waited years for him to

> do

> > that and she just snapped at him because she was

> > stressed about my letter. She just about started

> to

> > cry I reached out to touch her arm to comfort her

> and

> > let her know I wasn't mad I just wanted her to

> know

> > that the least she could have done was praise him

> and

> > instead of snapping........well she then proceeds

> to

> > tell me she may not be here til the end of the

> year

> > because the stress is getting to her and she may

> try

> > and take " mental leave. This wasn't the first

> inkling

> > that she was stressed but I didn't realize how far

> > gone she was. I found out from her everytime I

> called

> > the school board to find out about a new something

> or

> > other...I wasn't calling to complain just

> > inquiring....

> > she would get a call and was told to talk to me as

> if

> > I was doing somethign wrong.

> >

> > Anyways I was babbling....that was not why I

> pulled

> > Ben, about 4 weeks ago something happened that put

> me

> > in shock literally I went numb for the whole day

> and

> > arond 11pm that night I started to shake and

> couldn't

> > controll it and broke down and cried. And if you

> know

> > anything about me from my posts I am pretty easy

> going

> > and tend to approach things with a sense of humor

> and

> > if I loose god help me ....well I did. I was a

> wreck

> > for about 45 mins....my husband held me until I

> could

> > talk. The last time I shook like that was right

> before

> > my c-section.

> > YOu ask what got me so upset well here goes.....

> > It was picture day....so that in itself is pretty

> > stressful for a teacher especially one of spec.

> Autism

> > classroom...and on top of that there is a

> schedualed

> > fire drill at 1pm........so I can understand why

> the

> > teacher would be a little tense with 6 Autie boys

> > running around......anyways now I set up the day

> for

> > you.......at around 1pm - 1:10pm s doing the

> fire

> > drill well you know Autie boys they have a routine

> > don't mess with it cause it is hard for them to

> > understand and transiton. Well a good friend of

> mine

> > came around the corner to hear yelling " NO

> NO

> > NO " to one boy in the class (not Ben) and then

> when

> > she opened the door whe walked in she seen

> > holding on to Ben's upper arm and in a loud voice

> > ....loud enough to the point Ben was pulling away

> from

> > her voice/face looking kind of scared.

> >

> > She said " NO BEN we are not getting MOMMY ...we

> are

> > doing a fire drill "

> >

> > Thankfully my friend(her son is also a student in

> the

> > class) interviened and said she would hold Bens

> hand

> > for her until I got there. balked and said I

> > can't let you do that my friend reassured and told

> her

> > that we were all going to the park which we were.

> >

> > I showed up to see my friend holding onto Ben's

> hand

> > which didn't bother me at all Ben's knows her and

> we

> > spend time together. I asked how the

> pictures

> > went and she didn't hear me so I reapeated the

> > question and she answered but she looked really

> > stressed like she was about to loose it. By this

> point

> > I began to reconize when she was stressed so I

> usully

> > just read his com book to see what went on in his

> day.

> >

> > Once I get Ben to the car my friend pulls me aside

> and

> > starts of by saying " if it was my kid I would

> want to

> > know......and proceeds to tell me what happened.

> Like

> > I said I went numb it took me awhile to process

> it.

> >

>

=== message truncated ===

=====

TTFN

Wife to

Mom to Ben (aka Gozilla) 5yrs HFA/AS

On call milk machine to Abby(aka ....stinkerbell) 21MTHS NT

__________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

Thanks Ali. I am just glad he is safe now but I am

terrified to leave him now with the next teacher. It

sucks being suspicious of everyone I used to be such

a trusting person.

--- alibalw wrote:

>

>

>

> ,I would have done the same thing. You said

> yourself that she

> acknowledges that she is stressed ,then she must

> know that she

> shouldn't be there .It's not fair to herself and

> it's (more

> importantly) ,not fair to the kids .Life is always

> full of what

> ifs ,but in this case ,the what ifs could have nasty

> consequences .

> you did the right thing .

> JM 2 cents

>

> Ali

>

>

>

>

> > Hey Everyone,

> >

> > How you all doing? Well I got rid of DH for the

> > evening he is out with the boys playing a poker so

> now

> > I can sit down and write my whole saga down in

> peace.

> >

> > Well as I mentioned before something happened with

> > Ben's teacher that made me pull him out til the

> end of

> > the school year. Most have said I over reacted and

> > some agree with what I did.

> >

> > So here goes......Ben started school in Nove he

> was

> > put in to an amazing class room. The

> teacher<> is

> > her name has 10 + years of experience with Autism.

> She

> > was well versed in ABA, discreet trail, pecs, she

> was

> > an amazing. The class ratio was 2:1. The kids

> loved

> > her......BUT in Dec she started to complain a

> little

> > about all the paper work she was having to do and

> it

> > was taking her away from the students so her aides

> > (who are also god sends they loved the

> kids)..picked

> > up alot of the slack.

> > It was getting to the point where when we request

> a

> > Behaviral Ass. she almost lost it.....she actually

> > snapped at Ben in front of us....the day we(my

> husband

> > always goes with me whenever dropping off stuff to

> > show a united front) dropped off the letter while

> we

> > were talking to Ben in a " socially

> appropiate "

> > manner walked up to me gently touched my hand and

> said

> > " Mommy may I go to my workstation now. "

> > Ok for any of you who waited how many years for

> your

> > child to string a sentence together and then

> interrupt

> > you in a proper manner ......shit I was so excited

> so

> > I looked up at (who at this point was still

> > holding my letter of request) and Ben just asked

> to

> > work at his workstation......what does she do???

> Well

> > she turns around and snaps at him and says.... "

> Ben

> > school doesn't start til 8:15 so you have to

> wait. "

> > It was only 8:05!! I was hurt...I went home and

> fumed

> > and when I picked him I pulled her aside and

> explained

> > how I felt ...I told her I waited years for him to

> do

> > that and she just snapped at him because she was

> > stressed about my letter. She just about started

> to

> > cry I reached out to touch her arm to comfort her

> and

> > let her know I wasn't mad I just wanted her to

> know

> > that the least she could have done was praise him

> and

> > instead of snapping........well she then proceeds

> to

> > tell me she may not be here til the end of the

> year

> > because the stress is getting to her and she may

> try

> > and take " mental leave. This wasn't the first

> inkling

> > that she was stressed but I didn't realize how far

> > gone she was. I found out from her everytime I

> called

> > the school board to find out about a new something

> or

> > other...I wasn't calling to complain just

> > inquiring....

> > she would get a call and was told to talk to me as

> if

> > I was doing somethign wrong.

> >

> > Anyways I was babbling....that was not why I

> pulled

> > Ben, about 4 weeks ago something happened that put

> me

> > in shock literally I went numb for the whole day

> and

> > arond 11pm that night I started to shake and

> couldn't

> > controll it and broke down and cried. And if you

> know

> > anything about me from my posts I am pretty easy

> going

> > and tend to approach things with a sense of humor

> and

> > if I loose god help me ....well I did. I was a

> wreck

> > for about 45 mins....my husband held me until I

> could

> > talk. The last time I shook like that was right

> before

> > my c-section.

> > YOu ask what got me so upset well here goes.....

> > It was picture day....so that in itself is pretty

> > stressful for a teacher especially one of spec.

> Autism

> > classroom...and on top of that there is a

> schedualed

> > fire drill at 1pm........so I can understand why

> the

> > teacher would be a little tense with 6 Autie boys

> > running around......anyways now I set up the day

> for

> > you.......at around 1pm - 1:10pm s doing the

> fire

> > drill well you know Autie boys they have a routine

> > don't mess with it cause it is hard for them to

> > understand and transiton. Well a good friend of

> mine

> > came around the corner to hear yelling " NO

> NO

> > NO " to one boy in the class (not Ben) and then

> when

> > she opened the door whe walked in she seen

> > holding on to Ben's upper arm and in a loud voice

> > ....loud enough to the point Ben was pulling away

> from

> > her voice/face looking kind of scared.

> >

> > She said " NO BEN we are not getting MOMMY ...we

> are

> > doing a fire drill "

> >

> > Thankfully my friend(her son is also a student in

> the

> > class) interviened and said she would hold Bens

> hand

> > for her until I got there. balked and said I

> > can't let you do that my friend reassured and told

> her

> > that we were all going to the park which we were.

> >

> > I showed up to see my friend holding onto Ben's

> hand

> > which didn't bother me at all Ben's knows her and

> we

> > spend time together. I asked how the

> pictures

> > went and she didn't hear me so I reapeated the

> > question and she answered but she looked really

> > stressed like she was about to loose it. By this

> point

> > I began to reconize when she was stressed so I

> usully

> > just read his com book to see what went on in his

> day.

> >

> > Once I get Ben to the car my friend pulls me aside

> and

> > starts of by saying " if it was my kid I would

> want to

> > know......and proceeds to tell me what happened.

> Like

> > I said I went numb it took me awhile to process

> it.

> >

>

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Mom to Ben (aka Gozilla) 5yrs HFA/AS

On call milk machine to Abby(aka ....stinkerbell) 21MTHS NT

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What a wonderfully written letter. He did a great job!

Amy H--in Michigan

Kepler 4 1/2 ASD and Bethany 6 NT

" although one has a responsiblity to stick things out to the limit of one's

endurance, one also has to have the courage to retreat and lick one's

wounds, so as to return to the fray refreshed. "

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Thanks hanging in there but needing to catch up on

messages.

Thanks for the support.

--- More Tuna wrote:

> Anyone that stressed out could be dangerous. You

> have to do what you think is best for your child.

> Don't judge yourself by what others are doing. Is

> this teacher taking stress leave? I think you should

> meet with the teacher, aides and principal and talk

> this out.

>

> What an awful thing to have to deal with. Hang in

> there, hon.

>

> Tuna

>

> Sorry so long ....need

> an opinion!!

>

> Hey Everyone,

>

> How you all doing? Well I got rid of DH for the

> evening he is out with the boys playing a poker so

> now

> I can sit down and write my whole saga down in

> peace.

>

> Well as I mentioned before something happened with

> Ben's teacher that made me pull him out til the end

> of

> the school year. Most have said I over reacted and

> some agree with what I did.

>

> So here goes......Ben started school in Nove he was

> put in to an amazing class room. The teacher<>

> is

> her name has 10 + years of experience with Autism.

> She

> was well versed in ABA, discreet trail, pecs, she

> was

> an amazing. The class ratio was 2:1. The kids loved

> her......BUT in Dec she started to complain a little

> about all the paper work she was having to do and it

> was taking her away from the students so her aides

> (who are also god sends they loved the kids)..picked

> up alot of the slack.

> It was getting to the point where when we request a

> Behaviral Ass. she almost lost it.....she actually

> snapped at Ben in front of us....the day we(my

> husband

> always goes with me whenever dropping off stuff to

> show a united front) dropped off the letter while

> we

> were talking to Ben in a " socially appropiate "

> manner walked up to me gently touched my hand and

> said

> " Mommy may I go to my workstation now. "

> Ok for any of you who waited how many years for your

> child to string a sentence together and then

> interrupt

> you in a proper manner ......shit I was so excited

> so

> I looked up at (who at this point was still

> holding my letter of request) and Ben just asked to

> work at his workstation......what does she do???

> Well

> she turns around and snaps at him and says.... " Ben

> school doesn't start til 8:15 so you have to wait. "

> It was only 8:05!! I was hurt...I went home and

> fumed

> and when I picked him I pulled her aside and

> explained

> how I felt ...I told her I waited years for him to

> do

> that and she just snapped at him because she was

> stressed about my letter. She just about started to

> cry I reached out to touch her arm to comfort her

> and

> let her know I wasn't mad I just wanted her to know

> that the least she could have done was praise him

> and

> instead of snapping........well she then proceeds to

> tell me she may not be here til the end of the year

> because the stress is getting to her and she may try

> and take " mental leave. This wasn't the first

> inkling

> that she was stressed but I didn't realize how far

> gone she was. I found out from her everytime I

> called

> the school board to find out about a new something

> or

> other...I wasn't calling to complain just

> inquiring....

> she would get a call and was told to talk to me as

> if

> I was doing somethign wrong.

>

> Anyways I was babbling....that was not why I pulled

> Ben, about 4 weeks ago something happened that put

> me

> in shock literally I went numb for the whole day and

> arond 11pm that night I started to shake and

> couldn't

> controll it and broke down and cried. And if you

> know

> anything about me from my posts I am pretty easy

> going

> and tend to approach things with a sense of humor

> and

> if I loose god help me ....well I did. I was a wreck

> for about 45 mins....my husband held me until I

> could

> talk. The last time I shook like that was right

> before

> my c-section.

> YOu ask what got me so upset well here goes.....

> It was picture day....so that in itself is pretty

> stressful for a teacher especially one of spec.

> Autism

> classroom...and on top of that there is a schedualed

> fire drill at 1pm........so I can understand why the

> teacher would be a little tense with 6 Autie boys

> running around......anyways now I set up the day for

> you.......at around 1pm - 1:10pm s doing the

> fire

> drill well you know Autie boys they have a routine

> don't mess with it cause it is hard for them to

> understand and transiton. Well a good friend of mine

> came around the corner to hear yelling " NO NO

> NO " to one boy in the class (not Ben) and then when

> she opened the door whe walked in she seen

> holding on to Ben's upper arm and in a loud voice

> ....loud enough to the point Ben was pulling away

> from

> her voice/face looking kind of scared.

>

> She said " NO BEN we are not getting MOMMY ...we are

> doing a fire drill "

>

> Thankfully my friend(her son is also a student in

> the

> class) interviened and said she would hold Bens hand

> for her until I got there. balked and said I

> can't let you do that my friend reassured and told

> her

> that we were all going to the park which we were.

>

> I showed up to see my friend holding onto Ben's hand

> which didn't bother me at all Ben's knows her and we

> spend time together. I asked how the pictures

> went and she didn't hear me so I reapeated the

> question and she answered but she looked really

> stressed like she was about to loose it. By this

> point

> I began to reconize when she was stressed so I

> usully

> just read his com book to see what went on in his

> day.

>

> Once I get Ben to the car my friend pulls me aside

> and

> starts of by saying " if it was my kid I would want

> to

> know......and proceeds to tell me what happened.

> Like

> I said I went numb it took me awhile to process it.

>

>

> So did I overeact by pulling him?? The woman is

> burnt

> out....she is retiring at the end of the year she is

> finished gone ....bye bye. My friend kept her son in

> the class even after seeing what she did with Ben.

>

> What finally made me ok with my decsion to keep him

> home was I would never do that to any ones child

> Autistic or not. Funny thing is Ben loves school was

> always excited to go and after that happened I

> actually asked him if he wanted to go and he

> said... " NO mommy I stay here " nough said I haven't

> made him go back.

>

> So what do you think and I crazy freaky Mom??

>

>

> Now I am going to get back to answer all my

> e-mails!!!

>

> Thanks

>

>

> =====

> TTFN

>

>

> Wife to

> Mom to Ben (aka Gozilla) 5yrs HFA/AS

> On call milk machine to Abby(aka ....stinkerbell)

> 21MTHS NT

>

> __________________________________________________

>

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TTFN

Wife to

Mom to Ben (aka Gozilla) 5yrs HFA/AS

On call milk machine to Abby(aka ....stinkerbell) 21MTHS NT

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