Guest guest Posted November 16, 2007 Report Share Posted November 16, 2007 My reason is, at the crux of it, the same as yours. I feel like I "owe it" to the people who look at me, and to my husband, who has to touch me. No need to respond- just writing that makes me see how messed up I am. That is truly messed up. Ballerina's dilemna Hi; I get the digest version and came across the discussion about your getting implants because(mostly) some man thinks bigger is better. HOLD ON!!!! I've been around the sun quite a few times on this planet and have some insight on both this guy and your proposed implant surgery. First, about you: The moment a surgeon opens your breasts up, THEY WILL NEVER EVER EVER BE THE SAME AS THEY ARE TODAY. You CANNOT go back...they will have adhesions, there will be scars, at the very least. There WILL be scar tissue. With implants they will be cold, often icy cold, and harder than natural. That's a given because there is no blood flow through them. With implants they might be larger, and get more attention, but they will never feel real, they will never move like real, and they will attract JERKS. Not real men who can love YOU. Your name suggests that you have a ballerina's type body, WHICH IS BEAUTIFUL (and rare) IN ITSELF. You never see ballerinas that are busty...they look amazing with delicate breasts. If you enjoy dance, if you get implants it will affect your balance. They also move weird under the muscle...it is obvious in tight clothing, like leotards. The pectoral muscle squishes them around and they rise and fall when you use your chest muscle. And guess what? After explant the muscle adheres to the rest of the breast and this does not go away. One of the most amazing compliments I have had since explant 8 months ago was my sister telling me that my "dancer's body" was back and that I finally looked "right" again. I'm an A cup. Maybe. Now about him: It is painfully obvious that he is lacking in self-esteem. What he tries to do about it is control people around him...makes him feel more powerful. These men are called manipulators, or even sociopaths, and are dangerous if you give them any control over your body or mind. Watch a crime show sometime...these guys are all over the place on those. How about recent story about the cop whose first wife, after divorcing him, was found "drowned in an empty bathtub"? Then his new wife, who was dating him as an 18 yo., married him and now is "missing"? Hello, sociopathic manipulator! !!! Your co-worker's issues are in his head, a small penis is not an issue in a marriage with love, it is more likely his mental issue than his wife's anyway. Please do not give this jerk control over your self-esteem. He will only trash you to make himself feel better. I know, I almost married a SOB like this. I was almost perfect...but not quite thin enough, not quite perfect hair, not quite....etc etc etc. They are out there. Walk away. Lastly, as far as stupid reasons for getting implants...mine. Among other comments made about my breasts or lack thereof, there was one incident I clearly remember. One super cute guy I dated a few times recoiled across the couch when he touched my breasts....he said(and I remember word for word), "I knew you were small, but I didn't know you were THAT small". How's that for a stupid reason for getting implants? Kate Never miss a thing. Make your homepage. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 16, 2007 Report Share Posted November 16, 2007 Hi Ballerina, You're not messed up...you're human...and female. We girls have such pressure to please others rather than ourselves that no wonder you feel you " owe " it to others. In reality, you don't owe anyone anything except God who created you perfectly. I felt the same insecure things prior to implants and what I've learned from this horrible nightmare is that my previous thinking was so ridiculous. Honestly, I laugh at how worried I used to be if a hair was out of place, if I didn't have the " right " shoes or if I didn't look my best. The attention I received fueled the fire, but looking back, it was so superficial (on their part and mine) and not worth it one bit. I'd give anything to be that smiling, energetic flat-chested woman again...well, I'm partially there as I have no boobs left! In hindsight I never really needed to prove anything to anyone or please anyone but myself. I was more than fine without implants. So I had a small and asymmetrical chest? Who cares! There is so much more to life!!! As far as your coworker, it seems like you're caught up in the attention he's giving you, even if it's demeaning. Seriously, I've had that high from negative attention. It was fun at the time yet simultaneouly something about it didn't feel right. Looking back I realize I was searching for approval from others when in truth all I needed was approval of myself. Love yourself enough so that your spirit isn't given up in exchange for sexual harrassment. You, Ballerina, are an incredible woman worthy of someone who respects you regardless of your chest size. I wish I had known that myself! Take care. - PH > > My reason is, at the crux of it, the same as yours. I feel like I " owe it " to the people who look at me, and to my husband, who has to touch me. No need to respond- just writing that makes me see how messed up I am. That is truly messed up. > > Ballerina's dilemna > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Hi; > > I get the digest version and came across the discussion about your > > getting implants because(mostly) some man thinks bigger is better. HOLD > > ON!!!! > > I've been around the sun quite a few times on this planet and have some > > insight on both > > this guy and your proposed implant surgery. > > First, about you: The moment a surgeon opens your breasts up, THEY WILL > > NEVER EVER EVER BE THE SAME AS THEY ARE TODAY. You CANNOT go > > back...they will have adhesions, there will be scars, at the very > > least. There WILL be scar tissue. With implants they will be cold, > > often icy cold, and harder than natural. That's a given because there > > is no blood flow through them. With implants they might be larger, and > > get more attention, but they will never feel real, they will never move > > like real, and they will attract JERKS. Not real men who can love YOU. > > Your name suggests that you have a ballerina's type body, WHICH IS > > BEAUTIFUL (and rare) IN ITSELF. You never see ballerinas that are > > busty...they look amazing with delicate breasts. If you enjoy dance, if > > you get implants it will affect your balance. They also move weird > > under the muscle...it is obvious in tight clothing, like leotards. The > > pectoral muscle squishes them around and they rise and fall when you use > > your chest muscle. And guess what? After explant the muscle adheres to > > the rest of the breast and this does not go away. > > One of the most amazing compliments I have had since explant 8 months > > ago was my sister telling me that my " dancer's body " was back and that I > > finally looked " right " again. I'm an A cup. Maybe. > > Now about him: It is painfully obvious that he is lacking in > > self-esteem. What he tries to do about it is control people around > > him...makes him feel more powerful. These men are called manipulators, > > or even sociopaths, and are dangerous if you give them any control over > > your body or mind. Watch a crime show sometime...these guys are all > > over the place on those. > > How about recent story about the cop whose first wife, after divorcing > > him, was found " drowned in an empty bathtub " ? Then his new wife, who > > was dating him as an 18 yo., married him and now is " missing " ? Hello, > > sociopathic manipulator! !!! > > Your co-worker's issues are in his head, a small penis is not an issue > > in a marriage with love, it is more likely his mental issue than his > > wife's anyway. > > Please do not give this jerk control over your self-esteem. He will > > only trash you to make himself feel better. I know, I almost married a > > SOB like this. I was almost perfect...but not quite thin enough, not > > quite perfect hair, not quite....etc etc etc. They are out there. Walk > > away. > > Lastly, as far as stupid reasons for getting implants...mine. Among > > other comments made about my breasts or lack thereof, there was one > > incident I clearly remember. One super cute guy I dated a few times > > recoiled across the couch when he touched my breasts....he said(and I > > remember word for word), " I knew you were small, but I didn't know you > > were THAT small " . 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