Guest guest Posted June 26, 2000 Report Share Posted June 26, 2000 Debbie, My dh and I have been trying to get pg for two years. It has really put a strain on our relationship. I went to see a therapist a couple of times that specializes in reproduction. My dh went with me and it really helped us alot. He seems to understand what I am going through and has become more sensative. I know when you are having problems other things always look better. But that might not be true. You have such a hard decission to make. Only you know how you feel. I can imagine it is hard when you have been with someone since you were 15. I can totally relate to your reunion experience. Similar situations like this seem to happen to me alot. I feel like not being able to get pg is thrown in my face constantly. I am hear if you need to talk. My e-mail is kramer@.... Pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 26, 2000 Report Share Posted June 26, 2000 Kel, Thank you for listening I really needed to just vent am I am glad you all are here for me. I am very confused right now I do love my dh but I love my best friend also but is it different love I don' t know I will see with time!! Again thank you!!! LOL -Debbie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 26, 2000 Report Share Posted June 26, 2000 Pam, Thanks for being there for me to vent it really helps to get all of my feelings out in the open I can breathe easier today again thank you!! LOL -Debbie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 26, 2000 Report Share Posted June 26, 2000 Debbie, Hi, how are you doing today? Sorry your family reunion was so hard on you. I wish I could tell you that it gets easier, but I still have my good days & bad days when I see others w/babies or are pg. There is no immediate solution I don't think, just have to take one day at a time and realize there are going to be times when our tears of saddness are just going to surface and our family & friends are going to have just deal with it. Unless they have been through it, they probably won't understand, but you know you can always vent here. Here's a (((hug))) for you. As far as your BF goes, I don't know what the answer there is either. My dh & I have been together almost 11 years and there have been times when I wish he wasn't around (usually when things are bad), but then when things are good I can't imagine being w/o him. I think we always wonder what if... and it is normal, just if there are no " good times " with dh then maybe it is time to re-evaluate the situation. Hope some of this helps and I'm not being to preachy. Have a great day! Kel cd ? ttc 2 1/2 yrs. Mommy to Jack (3) ep 1/3/00 lap Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 26, 2000 Report Share Posted June 26, 2000 Dear Debbie, Sorry things are so rough with you and dh right now. Sounds like you two really need to talk. I am sorry I don't have any advice other than that. Does your dh know about your friend? Hope things are better since your post. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 26, 2000 Report Share Posted June 26, 2000 Dear Debbie, Sorry things are so rough with you and dh right now. Sounds like you two really need to talk. I am sorry I don't have any advice other than that. Does your dh know about your friend? Hope things are better since your post. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 26, 2000 Report Share Posted June 26, 2000 Dear Debbie, Sorry things are so rough with you and dh right now. Sounds like you two really need to talk. I am sorry I don't have any advice other than that. Does your dh know about your friend? Hope things are better since your post. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 26, 2000 Report Share Posted June 26, 2000 , Thank you for being there to let me vent! Yes my dh is also friends with my best friend but he doesn't know that we are attracted to each other! Is it normal to be attracted to other guys? LOL -Debbie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 27, 2000 Report Share Posted June 27, 2000 , Thank you for your support. I do have feeling for this other guy but I am not sure if it is just because he is my best friend. We have been best friends for about a year and I do love him but don't most people love there best friends? I hope I am normal! And no my dh and I haven't been communicating any better I think it is actualy getting worse. Last night when he came home from work he never said one word to me and he fell asleep on the couch and we never even talked. That is so horrible isn't it? Why won't he even talk to me? and then tonight I am going out with my best friend to a dance club and my dh will not go so we won't see or talk to each other again tonight. If this doen't get better soon I don't know what I am going to do. I guess I could just go stay with my parents for awhile and get a break from each other! Again thank you for letting me vent again! LOL -Debbie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 27, 2000 Report Share Posted June 27, 2000 Dear Debbie, I think it is okay to be attracted to other men! Hello, we are human! Besides, you can't tell me our dh's are not attracted to other women! Heck, my dh and I talk about other people i.e, he likes Buffy (I am so glad it is rerun season)! The problem is if you have " feelings " for someone else. Are you and dh communicating better yet? Hang in there, you have both been through a lot. Take care, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 28, 2000 Report Share Posted June 28, 2000 Debbie: Hope this finds you & dh doing a little better today! Did you go out last night? Did you have a good time? Maybe space & time are what you & dh need at this point, but maybe you can set up a " date " to go out to dinner and talk about what is going on w/both of you to see where you guys stand. You both have been through a lot lately, we all heal at different times, so don't rush the healing (for either of you). As far as loving your best friend, we all love our best friends & enjoy spending time w/them. If we didn't they wouldn't be our best friends, right? Hope this helps a little & tell me to shut-up anytime I over step my bounds w/advice. have a good day! Kel cd ? ttc 2 1/2yrs. Mommy to Jack (3) ep 1/3/00 lap Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 28, 2000 Report Share Posted June 28, 2000 Debbie: Hope this finds you & dh doing a little better today! Did you go out last night? Did you have a good time? Maybe space & time are what you & dh need at this point, but maybe you can set up a " date " to go out to dinner and talk about what is going on w/both of you to see where you guys stand. You both have been through a lot lately, we all heal at different times, so don't rush the healing (for either of you). As far as loving your best friend, we all love our best friends & enjoy spending time w/them. If we didn't they wouldn't be our best friends, right? Hope this helps a little & tell me to shut-up anytime I over step my bounds w/advice. have a good day! Kel cd ? ttc 2 1/2yrs. Mommy to Jack (3) ep 1/3/00 lap Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 29, 2000 Report Share Posted June 29, 2000 Debbie, I hope you guys can work things out. Good luck on your date tonight. Pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 29, 2000 Report Share Posted June 29, 2000 Debbie, I hope you guys can work things out. Good luck on your date tonight. Pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 29, 2000 Report Share Posted June 29, 2000 Debbie, I hope you guys can work things out. Good luck on your date tonight. Pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 29, 2000 Report Share Posted June 29, 2000 Pam, Well the bum came home and went to sleep and we haven't talked since so nothing is resolved and I am not sure what to do! LOL Debbie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 29, 2000 Report Share Posted June 29, 2000 Pam, Well the bum came home and went to sleep and we haven't talked since so nothing is resolved and I am not sure what to do! LOL Debbie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 29, 2000 Report Share Posted June 29, 2000 Pam, Well the bum came home and went to sleep and we haven't talked since so nothing is resolved and I am not sure what to do! LOL Debbie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 30, 2000 Report Share Posted June 30, 2000 Amy, No I haven't confronted and I am not sure if I will, but I know I should. My dh and I really had a heart to heart talk last night and today things were wonderful when he got of work so I think things are started to look up. Thank you so much for all your support I truely appreciate it and think that I have found a real friend in you and I find comfort in your support! LOL Debbie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 30, 2000 Report Share Posted June 30, 2000 Amy, No I haven't confronted and I am not sure if I will, but I know I should. My dh and I really had a heart to heart talk last night and today things were wonderful when he got of work so I think things are started to look up. Thank you so much for all your support I truely appreciate it and think that I have found a real friend in you and I find comfort in your support! LOL Debbie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 30, 2000 Report Share Posted June 30, 2000 Amy, No I haven't confronted and I am not sure if I will, but I know I should. My dh and I really had a heart to heart talk last night and today things were wonderful when he got of work so I think things are started to look up. Thank you so much for all your support I truely appreciate it and think that I have found a real friend in you and I find comfort in your support! LOL Debbie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 30, 2000 Report Share Posted June 30, 2000 Pam, Thank you for your support I really appreciate it and glad I can vent to you all and you all have such wonderful responses so again thank you. Have a great weekend. Debbie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 30, 2000 Report Share Posted June 30, 2000 , Thank you so much for your advise and I would like to confront my bf but I don't think I will and is it really worth my time? I think not I have other problems to be working on that are much larger than that. Hope you have a wonderful weekend! Debbie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 30, 2000 Report Share Posted June 30, 2000 , Thank you so much for your advise and I would like to confront my bf but I don't think I will and is it really worth my time? I think not I have other problems to be working on that are much larger than that. Hope you have a wonderful weekend! Debbie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 30, 2000 Report Share Posted June 30, 2000 , Thank you so much for your advise and I would like to confront my bf but I don't think I will and is it really worth my time? I think not I have other problems to be working on that are much larger than that. Hope you have a wonderful weekend! Debbie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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