Guest guest Posted August 8, 2007 Report Share Posted August 8, 2007 OH Tammi I have been there and know exactly how you feel. Just keep in your mind you are in control. IF she gives you books on fad diets or mentions the diets to you tell her thank you with a smile but you are all set. IF she wants something cleaner tell her you appreciate her input and help with a smile. Just remember that is her, she is not going to change, NO MATTER what is said. IT is not worth fretting over, your health is more important and your son now that he needs to see a psychiatrist. Focus on that. Hugs, ..oh and your husband, tell him you love him an since you do, your mother in law is welcome to stay and he can handle her because you have a lot on your plate, and all the help you can get from him will be appreciative. see if that works..just a thought. > > Okay, it is Wednesday, right? I get lost. My mother-in-law is coming > to stay with us this month. When I asked my hubby for how long (she > and her husband just retired and he's going to train to drive a > truck), his response was, " I didn't ask. " Great, huh! School starts > soon, my son just got referred to a physicaist, and now this. The > last time she was here I found out my son watched her and then > whispered to his sister, " Gesh, does she have OCD? " Nothing is ever > clean enough, I get told what to do in regards to everything, and when > I was on anti-depressants she looked at me and said, " You don't really > need these. " She gives me books on all the latest fad diets or > studies. I can feel my stress levels on the rise. Pray hard for me > guys or I may just snap and kill the woman. > > Sorry for the rant but she drives me crazy. Even my husband tries to > avoid her. > > Tammi > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 8, 2007 Report Share Posted August 8, 2007 Good-luck! Also, prayers already making their way to you (and her to be nice to you! Hugs, Jane ********************************* Subject: Mother-In-Law Okay, it is Wednesday, right? I get lost. My mother-in-law is coming to stay with us this month. When I asked my hubby for how long (she and her husband just retired and he's going to train to drive a truck), his response was, " I didn't ask. " Great, huh! School starts soon, my son just got referred to a physicaist, and now this. The last time she was here I found out my son watched her and then whispered to his sister, " Gesh, does she have OCD? " Nothing is ever clean enough, I get told what to do in regards to everything, and when I was on anti-depressants she looked at me and said, " You don't really need these. " She gives me books on all the latest fad diets or studies. I can feel my stress levels on the rise. Pray hard for me guys or I may just snap and kill the woman. Sorry for the rant but she drives me crazy. Even my husband tries to avoid her. Tammi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 8, 2007 Report Share Posted August 8, 2007 Dear Tammi, If she starts talking about your meds, diet, activities, etc. Thank her for her concern and tell her you are following your dr orders. If she wants thing cleaner thank her for offering to clean. Tell her you wish you were able to do more but you dr has you currently learning what and how much activity you can handle. Unfortunately your husband can't do it as well as she could but if she would like to teach him the proper way to clean you would greatly appreciate it. Hopefully this will help him to stop the problems with his mother. She may not know how to handle the situation so this is what she does. Remember you can kill more flies with honey than vinager. Judy ---- wrote: > OH Tammi I have been there and know exactly how you feel. Just keep > in your mind you are in control. IF she gives you books on fad diets > or mentions the diets to you tell her thank you with a smile but you > are all set. IF she wants something cleaner tell her you appreciate > her input and help with a smile. Just remember that is her, she is > not going to change, NO MATTER what is said. IT is not worth > fretting over, your health is more important and your son now that he > needs to see a psychiatrist. Focus on that. Hugs, ..oh and your > husband, tell him you love him an since you do, your mother in law is > welcome to stay and he can handle her because you have a lot on your > plate, and all the help you can get from him will be appreciative. > see if that works..just a thought. > > > > > > Okay, it is Wednesday, right? I get lost. My mother-in-law is > coming > > to stay with us this month. When I asked my hubby for how long > (she > > and her husband just retired and he's going to train to drive a > > truck), his response was, " I didn't ask. " Great, huh! School > starts > > soon, my son just got referred to a physicaist, and now this. The > > last time she was here I found out my son watched her and then > > whispered to his sister, " Gesh, does she have OCD? " Nothing is > ever > > clean enough, I get told what to do in regards to everything, and > when > > I was on anti-depressants she looked at me and said, " You don't > really > > need these. " She gives me books on all the latest fad diets or > > studies. I can feel my stress levels on the rise. Pray hard for > me > > guys or I may just snap and kill the woman. > > > > Sorry for the rant but she drives me crazy. Even my husband tries > to > > avoid her. > > > > Tammi > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 8, 2007 Report Share Posted August 8, 2007 Why not just rent them a hotel room and when they get there politely escort them to the hotel and tell them how you just KNOW they will be so much more comfortable and happy staying there and not having to put up with the daily noise and confusion of kids, school etc. And that with them staying there you know that they will be able to have a peaceful and relaxing stay while visiting your family. In-laws, parents and other family are the PERFECT reason NEVER EVER EVER to have a house with extra bedrooms!!! LOL Because then you always have a perfect reason why they have to stay at a hotel! Good luck N. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 8, 2007 Report Share Posted August 8, 2007 Oh, Tammi. Poor you I don't know what to say, but you are certainly in my thoughts. I was always told that if I had an in-law issue, it was up to my hubby to do the confronting (if it was his in-laws); if it was my parents, then I was to do the confronting. It's surely a hard thing to do, but your hubby needs to be your health advocate (don't need me to tell you that, I'm quite sure!). Special thoughts headed your way, Rickye > > Okay, it is Wednesday, right? I get lost. My mother-in-law is Coming > to stay with us this month. When I asked my hubby for how long (she > and her husband just retired and he's going to train to drive a > truck), his response was, " I didn't ask. " Great, huh! School Starts > soon, my son just got referred to a physicaist, and now this. The > last time she was here I found out my son watched her and then > whispered to his sister, " Gesh, does she have OCD? " Nothing is Ever > clean enough, I get told what to do in regards to everything, and When > I was on anti-depressants she looked at me and said, " You don't Really > need these. " She gives me books on all the latest fad diets or > studies. I can feel my stress levels on the rise. Pray hard for Me > guys or I may just snap and kill the woman. > > Sorry for the rant but she drives me crazy. Even my husband tries To > avoid her. > > Tammi > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 9, 2007 Report Share Posted August 9, 2007 Tammi- I have relatives who have the exact same effect on me, so I can relate. Just remember to breathe and focus on your breath when she is getting on your nerves. MAKE TIME FOR YOU!!! That will be so important to keeping your sanity. And remember this will pass. Her poking at you (figuratively) is indicative of HER problems, not yours. Maybe try to see some humor in this: If you think she is " crazy like a fox, " the next time she is raggin' on you, imagine foxes tearing at her legs (ok that may be a bit mean, but you get the point). Just try to make a game of it in your mind. If you think she has OCD, keep your mind distracted by thinking of what she could really be (an Obese Crazy Dramaqueen). You get the picture.... Lots of love, Becca Rickye wrote: Oh, Tammi. Poor you I don't know what to say, but you are certainly in my thoughts. I was always told that if I had an in-law issue, it was up to my hubby to do the confronting (if it was his in-laws); if it was my parents, then I was to do the confronting. It's surely a hard thing to do, but your hubby needs to be your health advocate (don't need me to tell you that, I'm quite sure!). Special thoughts headed your way, Rickye > > Okay, it is Wednesday, right? I get lost. My mother-in-law is Coming > to stay with us this month. When I asked my hubby for how long (she > and her husband just retired and he's going to train to drive a > truck), his response was, " I didn't ask. " Great, huh! School Starts > soon, my son just got referred to a physicaist, and now this. The > last time she was here I found out my son watched her and then > whispered to his sister, " Gesh, does she have OCD? " Nothing is Ever > clean enough, I get told what to do in regards to everything, and When > I was on anti-depressants she looked at me and said, " You don't Really > need these. " She gives me books on all the latest fad diets or > studies. I can feel my stress levels on the rise. Pray hard for Me > guys or I may just snap and kill the woman. > > Sorry for the rant but she drives me crazy. Even my husband tries To > avoid her. > > Tammi > --------------------------------- Boardwalk for $500? In 2007? Ha! Play Monopoly Here and Now (it's updated for today's economy) at Yahoo! Games. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 10, 2007 Report Share Posted August 10, 2007 Tammi, once my sister was commenting negatively about my health/body etc. and I looked at her pointedly and told her that the topic of my health is off limits, that I was seeing a doctor/professional for treatment. It unnerved me to do that but boy did she shut up. > > Okay, it is Wednesday, right? I get lost. My mother-in-law is coming > to stay with us this month. When I asked my hubby for how long (she > and her husband just retired and he's going to train to drive a > truck), his response was, " I didn't ask. " Great, huh! School starts > soon, my son just got referred to a physicaist, and now this. The > last time she was here I found out my son watched her and then > whispered to his sister, " Gesh, does she have OCD? " Nothing is ever > clean enough, I get told what to do in regards to everything, and when > I was on anti-depressants she looked at me and said, " You don't really > need these. " She gives me books on all the latest fad diets or > studies. I can feel my stress levels on the rise. Pray hard for me > guys or I may just snap and kill the woman. > > Sorry for the rant but she drives me crazy. Even my husband tries to > avoid her. > > Tammi > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 10, 2007 Report Share Posted August 10, 2007 Thanks all for the good wishes. I've been off line for a little while. My hubby is on mids and the computer is in my bedroom. Think I need to move it. It looks like good news, they had to up the date on when they come but it means they won't been here as long, YEAH!!!! My sister-in-law is coming via different route and will take my mother- in-law with her. So life is looking up. Thanks again for all the thoughts, they must have worked:)!!!! Tammi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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