Guest guest Posted December 17, 2003 Report Share Posted December 17, 2003 , I cannot get the link to the story about Molly to work. Would you send it to me directly at sims.family@... I would love to read it. Thanks for a great job, you really inspire me. Donna Sims > WARNING: The following contains discussion about some sensitive > issues (cancer death). If you do not wish to read material of this > nature, please stop now and delete this e-mail! > > > Hi All, > > I saw the following article in the paper yesterday...it relates to > questions and issues many of us (advanced stage IVs) have here, so I > thought I'd post the link & give a few rambling thoughts. > > http://tinyurl.com/zhbu > > The article is the story of a 5 year old girl and her parents > difficult struggle with her brain cancer diagnosis. Brain cancer has > a " worse " prognosis than colon, with a typically shorter survival > time (please keep that in mind while reading!). Nonetheless, the > issues raised in this article are really common to ALL " incurable " > cancer patients, which is what makes it relevant to us on this Board. > > Having traveled many of the same paths as Molly's parents, I > immediately recognized many of the things they talked about. I too > explored " Sun Soup " (never ordered it though...too expensive!)...and > herbs...and clinical trials.... > > There are almost ALWAYS " further options " in the form of clinical > trials...or " alternative medicine " ....or something...which can be > done for MOST patients, regardless of how many chemos or therapies > they have gone through and progressed on. The question is always a > cost/benefit one: Given the uncertain nature of the potential > benefit, is the COST (which may be financial, or in terms of > pain/suffering from side effects, or time lost from being with > family, or a dozen other things) worth the LIKELY benefit, even > assuming the treatment " works " ? For example, if the treatment added > an extra month or two to survival time, is it worth it? How likely > is the treatment to add survival time? If only a 20% chance of > clinical benefit, is that " worth it " ?, etc. Sometimes you can > discuss this with the oncologist, and get significant input regarding > the potential benefit. Always ask for SPECIFICS such as I have > mentioned here...HOW MUCH survival time do you think this treatment > could give...what PERCENTAGE of patients might be expected to have > tumor shrinkage....what PERCENTAGE of patients might be expected to > have " severe " side effects, etc. Oftentimes I guess they can't > answer these things, but sometimes will have definite opinions and it > is surely worth the asking. > > There is, particularly within the colon cancer community, a pretty > strong feeling/belief that most " alt therapies " are a waste of time, > especially for advanced patients (i.e. rapidly growing disease. A > particular Alt med would have its BEST chance for " working " , assuming > it does " work " , in NED patients. Most honest alt med practitioners > will admit that). Some very good points were made on this topic by > Arlene Harder, one of the founders of the Wellness Community (cancer > support group) > > http://www.learningplaceonline.com/stages/together/make-most.htm > > But the same considerations as Arlene discusses regarding alt med > could also be made regarding conventional treatment or clinical > trials. As previously noted (see reference in post #7860), not all > clinical trials are particularly promising - especially the Phase I s > which may be all that an " advanced " stage IV is eligible for after > having progressed thru multiple chemo regimens. I read somewhere > that only around 5% of patients actually do benefit from a Phase I > trial (most drugs being tested at this phase are failures). And even > many drugs being tested in Phase III trials are not that spectacular, > with HUGE numbers of patients needed for the trial to show > minimal " survival benefit " of a month or two. See, e.g. > > http://www.cancerdecisions.com/030703.html > > and some of my comments here > > http://ourworld.compuserve.com/homepages/suthercon/cca4703.htm > > regarding the F. Horrobin commentary in the Feb 22 2003 Lancet > (prestigious peer reviewed medical journal). > > In time, Molly's parents began to gain a better understanding of > these issues: > > [snip] > On the train ride back to Washington, they kept Molly busy with card > games, puzzles and word searches. But Ms. Trick says she and her > husband also started thinking their research might not lead to a > solution. They talked about whether their pursuit of more options > might cost Molly what little time she had left to enjoy her life. > " We had done everything we could think of, " says Mr. Foley. " Once you > start looking, one thing always leads to another thing, and you just > keep going down that path searching for the next thing to try. " > Says Ms. Trick: " You keep going because you feel that if you're doing > something -- anything -- your child won't die. " > > And, even though only 5 years old, Molly herself showed a wisdom far > beyond her age (and beyond that of many adults). When faced with a > choice of further chemo treatment (which would have clearly reduced > her quality of life and had uncertain but likely minimal - if any- > efficacy) vs " no more! " , she chose the second option: > > [snip] > Enrolling Molly in the trial would mean she would have to undergo > another operation in order for surgeons to install a central line in > a vein in her chest to make it easier to administer chemotherapy > drugs and draw blood. She would need hours of chemotherapy infusions > and could suffer side effects. > One of their oncologists had advised them to ask Molly what she > thought. > Molly was sitting on her parents' bed reading a picture book when her > parents sat down beside her. They told her there was another medicine > available and that she would have to go to the hospital. Molly had > already told her parents that she was convinced the doctors would > have fixed her already if they knew how. Now, she answered without > hesitation, according to her parents, who made notes on the > conversation in a journal at the time. > " I don't want them to put the medicine in me, " she said. " I don't > want them to do one more thing to my body. " > > Cancer is a very strange thing. It seems that some people with stage > IV cancer can survive a very long time while doing a minimal of > treatments. I suppose I myself would fall in that category. First > diagnosed with stage IV cancer in March of 2001, I have never had ANY > form of chemo until Nov. of this year when I started on Xeloda. > This, of course, was completely against " oncologist recommendations " > and " recommended treatment course " . So here we are, almost 3 years > later. Why am I still here? I don't think any of my doctors > expected me to be, given the choices I made. And I can't even answer > the question myself! I tried some " alterative stuff " at the > beginning of my " cancer journey " , but it is difficult to say whether > it really contributed anything or not to my survival (which is why > I don't talk a lot about it here!). I sort of think > that each cancer patient has a DIFFERENT cancer from every other > cancer patient. The genetic drivers (oncogenes, tumor suppressor > genes) of cancer are NOT the same for everyone. Some patient's > disease is of a relatively non-aggressive nature...they will > do " better " than most patients REGARDLESS of what treatment they > choose. And some patinets will do worse than most patients > regardless of what treatment they choose because their cancer has a > more aggressive bent. We may not like it, but the fact is there > seems MUCH to do with cancer and the course of disease which is > completely beyond our control. Having accepted this, my philosophy > has always been, " I want to live as well as possible, for as long as > possible " . My treatment options will always attempt to maximize > QUALITY of life over quantity. I do not value hospital time > and time on the ventilator or other invasive techniques if there is > little or no hope of recovery following the sacrifice. And I think > that most caregivers, even if not thinking along these lines while > their loved one is alive, eventually come to the same conclusion when > retrospectively " looking backwards " following their loved one's > death. > > For " late " stage IVs (and by this, I mean stage IVs who have done and > progressed on all of the recommended chemos, multiple oncologists at > different institutions seem to have run out of treatment choices), > there undoubtedly comes a time when further treatment does more harm > than good. Actually, I suspect quite a few " late " stage IVs have had > their lives shortened rather than extended by insisting on treatment > when it was detrimental. So apparently do many oncologists - see > > http://bmj.bmjjournals.com/cgi/content/full/322/7297/1267/a > > [snip] > Many patients with cancer receive chemotherapy at the end of life, > even if their kind of cancer is known to be unresponsive to the > drugs, according to a study reported at the recent annual meeting of > the American Society of Clinical Oncologists held in San Francisco. > The finding " strongly suggests overuse of chemotherapy at the end of > life, " lead author Dr Ezekiel Emanuel, chairman of the department of > clinical bioethics at the US National Institutes of Health, told > delegates. " Many are concerned with the quality of end of life care > and specifically that patients should not be overtreated with > ineffective therapies that won't improve their quality of life, " he > said > > Of course, recognizing when one is in such a situation may not always > be easy. > > I have a lot of references in the " Death and Dying " part of the LINKS > section http://tinyurl.com/zje0 which look further into many of the > issues talked about here....and some that weren't (but should have > been) because this post is already way too long! Death is a natural > part of life, but fear of death drives many decisions we make during > the course of late stage cancer. As such, it is worth looking at > more closely. I have personally found that doing this has lessened > my own fear, and feel that it has helped me make better decisions > regarding my own treatment. > > Some of the ones I recommend the most are: > > Hospice Net - great collection of articles for both patients and > caregivers > http://www.hospicenet.org/ > > Arlene Harder - Facing the End of Life Together > http://www.learningplaceonline.com/stages/together-intro.htm > > Arlene Harder - Spirituality (non-denominational, not associated with > any organized religion) > http://www.learningplaceonline.com/spirit-intro.htm > > Crossing the Creek - by hospice nurse Holmes > http://crossingthecreek.com/ > > Short stories about Death and Dying > http://crossingthecreek.com/finaljourney/ > > Dying Patients who Acknowledge Terminal Prognosis Less Depressed > http://www.annieappleseedproject.org/studonterpat.html > > To Flee Or Not to Flee: The Problem of Denial When Dying > http://www.cancerlynx.com/denial.html > > Dying Words: How Should Doctors Deliver Bad News? > http://www.newyorker.com/fact/content/?021028fa_fact#top > > Widow Net - Main site > http://www.fortnet.org/WidowNet/ > > Widow Net - Bulletin Board > http://www.fortnet.org/cgi-bin/ubb/ultimatebb.cgi > > Widow Net - New Member Introductions (many CC widows/widowers there) > http://tinyurl.com/zji1 > > I hope this discussion and references are of help. As with all > things cancer related, no " right " answers, different paths for all of > us. I do believe that discussion of these issues is of benefit and > will help clarify opinions/viewpoints...and will help caregivers do > what is right for THEIR loved one when the time comes. > > Best Wishes to All, > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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