Guest guest Posted May 31, 2001 Report Share Posted May 31, 2001 I can see why you would be upset. First that this person blabbed and then someone you hardly know to call you about it. I think all you can really do is what you have already done. I would try not to let it get you to upset. Its not worth the stress. Pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 31, 2001 Report Share Posted May 31, 2001 , I would be furious if I were you. Any one with any social skills should know that those kind of medical issues are personal. It’s not something that you want to share with the whole world, especially men. How rude! Janice -----Original Message----- From: Sent: Thursday, May 31, 2001 6:42 PM To: PregnancyBabiesAfterEctopic Subject: Very Upset Hi Everyone, I just received a telephone call that really upset me. and I are on a committee that raises funds for Ethiopian Jews, some of you may remember Project Salomon which rescued thousands of Ethiopians and transported them to Israel. Basically this is a continuation of that project in which we raise money to educate the Ethiopians to help them live in a modern society. Anyway, we're supposed to have a board meeting in our home in July, I sent out an email to someone saying that I didn't know if I was going to attend because of everything I have been through since October; I further explained about the miscarriage, ep, surgery, IVF, and pregnancy. I was confiding in this individual and in no way gave permission to have my medical history made public. I just received a phone call from someone I met once last year expressing his thoughts on my life. To say I was rude is probably an understatement, I think it was obvious that I didn't appreciate the phone call and just sent an email to the person who blabbed. Would anyone else be mad about this? I am just so upset.... maria Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 31, 2001 Report Share Posted May 31, 2001 , Wow, what an intrusion, but if you didn't mention that it should be kept confidential that person may have only shared it with another out of concern for you (trying to remain strength focused). It is impossible to second guess someone's motives so why don't you just ask the person who shared such personal information why they did it? Dana Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 31, 2001 Report Share Posted May 31, 2001 , Sounds like you have ever right to be upset, that person had no right to say anything to anyone else!!! RE: Very Upset , I would be furious if I were you. Any one with any social skills should know that those kind of medical issues are personal. It’s not something that you want to share with the whole world, especially men. How rude! Janice -----Original Message-----From: Sent: Thursday, May 31, 2001 6:42 PMTo: PregnancyBabiesAfterEctopic Subject: Very Upset Hi Everyone, I just received a telephone call that really upset me. and I are on a committee that raises funds for Ethiopian Jews, some of you may remember Project Salomon which rescued thousands of Ethiopians and transported them to Israel. Basically this is a continuation of that project in which we raise money to educate the Ethiopians to help them live in a modern society. Anyway, we're supposed to have a board meeting in our home in July, I sent out an email to someone saying that I didn't know if I was going to attend because of everything I have been through since October; I further explained about the miscarriage, ep, surgery, IVF, and pregnancy. I was confiding in this individual and in no way gave permission to have my medical history made public. I just received a phone call from someone I met once last year expressing his thoughts on my life. To say I was rude is probably an understatement, I think it was obvious that I didn't appreciate the phone call and just sent an email to the person who blabbed. Would anyone else be mad about this? I am just so upset.... maria Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 31, 2001 Report Share Posted May 31, 2001 > I can see why you would be upset. First that this person blabbed and > then someone you hardly know to call you about it. I think all you > can really do is what you have already done. I would try not to let > it get you to upset. Its not worth the stress. Hi Pam, You're right, it's not worth the stress! I've had a stomach ache all afternoon thinking about it!!!! Unfortunately I went into work and discussed it with , I was a bit out-of-control (which is definitely not like me, especially in a professional setting); to make a long story short, he sent me home! He was right though, I was in no condition to be around clients. I just talked to a good friend (who's also on the board) for about an hour, she was really helpful also. Thanks for your support!!!!! maria Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 31, 2001 Report Share Posted May 31, 2001 Thanks Janice! I really need to hear that I'm not alone on this, I felt it was very inappropriate and rude also! maria RE: Very Upset , I would be furious if I were you. Any one with any social skills should know that those kind of medical issues are personal. It’s not something that you want to share with the whole world, especially men. How rude! Janice -----Original Message-----From: Sent: Thursday, May 31, 2001 6:42 PMTo: PregnancyBabiesAfterEctopic Subject: Very Upset Hi Everyone, I just received a telephone call that really upset me. and I are on a committee that raises funds for Ethiopian Jews, some of you may remember Project Salomon which rescued thousands of Ethiopians and transported them to Israel. Basically this is a continuation of that project in which we raise money to educate the Ethiopians to help them live in a modern society. Anyway, we're supposed to have a board meeting in our home in July, I sent out an email to someone saying that I didn't know if I was going to attend because of everything I have been through since October; I further explained about the miscarriage, ep, surgery, IVF, and pregnancy. I was confiding in this individual and in no way gave permission to have my medical history made public. I just received a phone call from someone I met once last year expressing his thoughts on my life. To say I was rude is probably an understatement, I think it was obvious that I didn't appreciate the phone call and just sent an email to the person who blabbed. Would anyone else be mad about this? I am just so upset.... maria Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 31, 2001 Report Share Posted May 31, 2001 Thanks Janice! I really need to hear that I'm not alone on this, I felt it was very inappropriate and rude also! maria RE: Very Upset , I would be furious if I were you. Any one with any social skills should know that those kind of medical issues are personal. It’s not something that you want to share with the whole world, especially men. How rude! Janice -----Original Message-----From: Sent: Thursday, May 31, 2001 6:42 PMTo: PregnancyBabiesAfterEctopic Subject: Very Upset Hi Everyone, I just received a telephone call that really upset me. and I are on a committee that raises funds for Ethiopian Jews, some of you may remember Project Salomon which rescued thousands of Ethiopians and transported them to Israel. Basically this is a continuation of that project in which we raise money to educate the Ethiopians to help them live in a modern society. Anyway, we're supposed to have a board meeting in our home in July, I sent out an email to someone saying that I didn't know if I was going to attend because of everything I have been through since October; I further explained about the miscarriage, ep, surgery, IVF, and pregnancy. I was confiding in this individual and in no way gave permission to have my medical history made public. I just received a phone call from someone I met once last year expressing his thoughts on my life. To say I was rude is probably an understatement, I think it was obvious that I didn't appreciate the phone call and just sent an email to the person who blabbed. Would anyone else be mad about this? I am just so upset.... maria Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 31, 2001 Report Share Posted May 31, 2001 Thank you , She just sent me an email saying how she understands the pain of pregnancy loss yet does not find it at all inappropriate that she tell a complete stranger then have that man telephone me. m. RE: Very Upset , I would be furious if I were you. Any one with any social skills should know that those kind of medical issues are personal. It’s not something that you want to share with the whole world, especially men. How rude! Janice -----Original Message-----From: Sent: Thursday, May 31, 2001 6:42 PMTo: PregnancyBabiesAfterEctopic Subject: Very Upset Hi Everyone, I just received a telephone call that really upset me. and I are on a committee that raises funds for Ethiopian Jews, some of you may remember Project Salomon which rescued thousands of Ethiopians and transported them to Israel. Basically this is a continuation of that project in which we raise money to educate the Ethiopians to help them live in a modern society. Anyway, we're supposed to have a board meeting in our home in July, I sent out an email to someone saying that I didn't know if I was going to attend because of everything I have been through since October; I further explained about the miscarriage, ep, surgery, IVF, and pregnancy. I was confiding in this individual and in no way gave permission to have my medical history made public. I just received a phone call from someone I met once last year expressing his thoughts on my life. To say I was rude is probably an understatement, I think it was obvious that I didn't appreciate the phone call and just sent an email to the person who blabbed. Would anyone else be mad about this? I am just so upset.... maria Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 1, 2001 Report Share Posted June 1, 2001 , I would be upset too! I guess the only thing is if you didn't tell the person to keep it to themselves sometimes they won't. Unfortunately lots of people sensationalize news like that and LOVE to gossip! I know my boss found out I was pg this last time from his wife who found out at her sorority meeting!!! (I guess I was mentioned in the " new business " part of the meeting!) Vicki > wrote: > > Hi Everyone, > I just received a telephone call that really upset me. and I > are on a committee that raises funds for Ethiopian Jews, some of you > may remember Project Salomon which rescued thousands of Ethiopians and > transported them to Israel. Basically this is a continuation of that > project in which we raise money to educate the Ethiopians to help them > live in a modern society. > > Anyway, we're supposed to have a board meeting in our home in July, I > sent out an email to someone saying that I didn't know if I was going > to attend because of everything I have been through since October; I > further explained about the miscarriage, ep, surgery, IVF, and > pregnancy. I was confiding in this individual and in no way gave > permission to have my medical history made public. I just received a > phone call from someone I met once last year expressing his thoughts > on my life. To say I was rude is probably an understatement, I think > it was obvious that I didn't appreciate the phone call and just sent > an email to the person who blabbed. > > Would anyone else be mad about this? I am just so upset.... > > maria > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 1, 2001 Report Share Posted June 1, 2001 Hi Dana, I thought about that also, but I did mention how delicate of a subject it was and also that we didn't need any help planning the meeting. In fact, I told her twice that we were fine and she still felt the need to call a total stranger and invite him into my home to take over. Maybe it's just hormones, but I find that very offensive, especially coming from someone I've never met in person! Thank you for presenting another side though. maria Re: Re: Very Upset , Wow, what an intrusion, but if you didn't mention that it should be kept confidential that person may have only shared it with another out of concern for you (trying to remain strength focused). It is impossible to second guess someone's motives so why don't you just ask the person who shared such personal information why they did it? Dana Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 1, 2001 Report Share Posted June 1, 2001 maria, stay away from that woman if you can... she is clueless is she thinks it's ok to tell a complete stranger something personal about you.... you don't need the stress girl. lisa r Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 2, 2001 Report Share Posted June 2, 2001 , I can't believe she doesn't see anything wrong with that!! RE: Very Upset , I would be furious if I were you. Any one with any social skills should know that those kind of medical issues are personal. It’s not something that you want to share with the whole world, especially men. How rude! Janice -----Original Message-----From: Sent: Thursday, May 31, 2001 6:42 PMTo: PregnancyBabiesAfterEctopic Subject: Very Upset Hi Everyone, I just received a telephone call that really upset me. and I are on a committee that raises funds for Ethiopian Jews, some of you may remember Project Salomon which rescued thousands of Ethiopians and transported them to Israel. Basically this is a continuation of that project in which we raise money to educate the Ethiopians to help them live in a modern society. Anyway, we're supposed to have a board meeting in our home in July, I sent out an email to someone saying that I didn't know if I was going to attend because of everything I have been through since October; I further explained about the miscarriage, ep, surgery, IVF, and pregnancy. I was confiding in this individual and in no way gave permission to have my medical history made public. I just received a phone call from someone I met once last year expressing his thoughts on my life. To say I was rude is probably an understatement, I think it was obvious that I didn't appreciate the phone call and just sent an email to the person who blabbed. Would anyone else be mad about this? I am just so upset.... maria Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 2, 2001 Report Share Posted June 2, 2001 , Don't know what your response said, but I think she need to see that that was wrong. RE: Very Upset , I would be furious if I were you. Any one with any social skills should know that those kind of medical issues are personal. It’s not something that you want to share with the whole world, especially men. How rude! Janice -----Original Message-----From: Sent: Thursday, May 31, 2001 6:42 PMTo: PregnancyBabiesAfterEctopic Subject: Very Upset Hi Everyone, I just received a telephone call that really upset me. and I are on a committee that raises funds for Ethiopian Jews, some of you may remember Project Salomon which rescued thousands of Ethiopians and transported them to Israel. Basically this is a continuation of that project in which we raise money to educate the Ethiopians to help them live in a modern society. Anyway, we're supposed to have a board meeting in our home in July, I sent out an email to someone saying that I didn't know if I was going to attend because of everything I have been through since October; I further explained about the miscarriage, ep, surgery, IVF, and pregnancy. I was confiding in this individual and in no way gave permission to have my medical history made public. I just received a phone call from someone I met once last year expressing his thoughts on my life. To say I was rude is probably an understatement, I think it was obvious that I didn't appreciate the phone call and just sent an email to the person who blabbed. Would anyone else be mad about this? I am just so upset.... maria Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 3, 2001 Report Share Posted June 3, 2001 > I would be upset too! I guess the only thing is if you didn't tell the > person to keep it to themselves sometimes they won't. Unfortunately > lots of people sensationalize news like that and LOVE to gossip! I know > my boss found out I was pg this last time from his wife who found out at > her sorority meeting!!! (I guess I was mentioned in the " new business " > part of the meeting!) Hi Vicki, I think you're right, sometimes I just want to tell people to get a life (but then I would be the one being rude!). maria Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 3, 2001 Report Share Posted June 3, 2001 , I fully intend to stay away. What's ironic is that she's still sending me daily emails justifying why she did what she did. Most of her reasons are because of things that I never said or implied. Without ever meeting us or knowing a thing about us, she made a decision that we are incapable of anything and called people to come into my home and take over! I find it a bit bizarre because if I need to delegate anything I have an entire staff that I know and trust, why would I go along with having a stranger come into my home, just because she thinks it's a good idea?????? maria Re: Very Upset maria, stay away from that woman if you can... she is clueless is she thinks it's ok to tell a complete stranger something personal about you.... you don't need the stress girl. lisa r Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 3, 2001 Report Share Posted June 3, 2001 Hi ,At this point, nothing she says surprises me. I'm just glad that I'm not related to her, I would hate to be her child. maria RE: Very Upset , I would be furious if I were you. Any one with any social skills should know that those kind of medical issues are personal. It’s not something that you want to share with the whole world, especially men. How rude! Janice -----Original Message-----From: Sent: Thursday, May 31, 2001 6:42 PMTo: PregnancyBabiesAfterEctopic Subject: Very Upset Hi Everyone, I just received a telephone call that really upset me. and I are on a committee that raises funds for Ethiopian Jews, some of you may remember Project Salomon which rescued thousands of Ethiopians and transported them to Israel. Basically this is a continuation of that project in which we raise money to educate the Ethiopians to help them live in a modern society. Anyway, we're supposed to have a board meeting in our home in July, I sent out an email to someone saying that I didn't know if I was going to attend because of everything I have been through since October; I further explained about the miscarriage, ep, surgery, IVF, and pregnancy. I was confiding in this individual and in no way gave permission to have my medical history made public. I just received a phone call from someone I met once last year expressing his thoughts on my life. To say I was rude is probably an understatement, I think it was obvious that I didn't appreciate the phone call and just sent an email to the person who blabbed. Would anyone else be mad about this? I am just so upset.... maria Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 3, 2001 Report Share Posted June 3, 2001 Don't know what your response said, but I think she need to see that that was wrong. Hi , Below is my responce.... ,If you truly understand the pain of pregnancy loss you would realize that itis not a topic to be discussed lightly - especially with someone I don'teven know and then to have that person call me is highly inappropriate.Before retiring to get married I was the youngest CFO of a Fortune 500company in the country, prior to that I ran a $60m company; is avery intelligent capable professional also, between the two of us I'm surewe're capable of handling a small gathering. And, as I mentionedpreviously, if we find that we need help we will ask - please try to respectthatm. Now her latest responce.... > I guess I got the wrong impression when you e-mailed me that you thoughtthe> parlor meeting was going to be too much for you to handle right now. Then my responce..... If I recall correctly, my response was that I didn't feel this was a goodtime. I never commented on whether it was too much to handle or not, thatmay have been your interpretation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 3, 2001 Report Share Posted June 3, 2001 maria, have you emailed her and told her to please stop emailing you?? IF you have, have her address blocked from your account and then you don't have to see her posts.... lisa r Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 3, 2001 Report Share Posted June 3, 2001 , It is ashame, and something you should not of had to go through. RE: Very Upset , I would be furious if I were you. Any one with any social skills should know that those kind of medical issues are personal. It’s not something that you want to share with the whole world, especially men. How rude! Janice -----Original Message-----From: Sent: Thursday, May 31, 2001 6:42 PMTo: PregnancyBabiesAfterEctopic Subject: Very Upset Hi Everyone, I just received a telephone call that really upset me. and I are on a committee that raises funds for Ethiopian Jews, some of you may remember Project Salomon which rescued thousands of Ethiopians and transported them to Israel. Basically this is a continuation of that project in which we raise money to educate the Ethiopians to help them live in a modern society. Anyway, we're supposed to have a board meeting in our home in July, I sent out an email to someone saying that I didn't know if I was going to attend because of everything I have been through since October; I further explained about the miscarriage, ep, surgery, IVF, and pregnancy. I was confiding in this individual and in no way gave permission to have my medical history made public. I just received a phone call from someone I met once last year expressing his thoughts on my life. To say I was rude is probably an understatement, I think it was obvious that I didn't appreciate the phone call and just sent an email to the person who blabbed. Would anyone else be mad about this? I am just so upset.... maria Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 3, 2001 Report Share Posted June 3, 2001 , I like your response, sharp and to the point. It all obviously went right over her head and she has no understanding of such a loss and everything else that goes along with it. I am sorry you had to even explain it all to her. Re: Very Upset Don't know what your response said, but I think she need to see that that was wrong. Hi , Below is my responce.... ,If you truly understand the pain of pregnancy loss you would realize that itis not a topic to be discussed lightly - especially with someone I don'teven know and then to have that person call me is highly inappropriate.Before retiring to get married I was the youngest CFO of a Fortune 500company in the country, prior to that I ran a $60m company; is avery intelligent capable professional also, between the two of us I'm surewe're capable of handling a small gathering. And, as I mentionedpreviously, if we find that we need help we will ask - please try to respectthatm. Now her latest responce.... > I guess I got the wrong impression when you e-mailed me that you thoughtthe> parlor meeting was going to be too much for you to handle right now. Then my responce..... If I recall correctly, my response was that I didn't feel this was a goodtime. I never commented on whether it was too much to handle or not, thatmay have been your interpretation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 3, 2001 Report Share Posted June 3, 2001 , I missed the start of this, but from what I gather she had no right to tell ANYONE personal details of your reproductive history. Your response sounds intelligent and to the point. I'm sure I would have been yelling and cursing, but you handled it with much more maturity! I'm sorry people can be so insensitive. Dominique Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 3, 2001 Report Share Posted June 3, 2001 , That's a great idea, unfortunately she send out most of the info for the committee so I can't take her off my email. I asked her to drop the topic and said I didn't want to speak about it any further, but that hasn't seemed to work (though her responses are getting shorter). maria Re: Very Upset maria, have you emailed her and told her to please stop emailing you?? IF you have, have her address blocked from your account and then you don't have to see her posts.... lisa r Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 3, 2001 Report Share Posted June 3, 2001 Hi , Actually, when I think about it, it's all so stupid! I think some of the most frustrating things in life are. maria RE: Very Upset , I would be furious if I were you. Any one with any social skills should know that those kind of medical issues are personal. It’s not something that you want to share with the whole world, especially men. How rude! Janice -----Original Message-----From: Sent: Thursday, May 31, 2001 6:42 PMTo: PregnancyBabiesAfterEctopic Subject: Very Upset Hi Everyone, I just received a telephone call that really upset me. and I are on a committee that raises funds for Ethiopian Jews, some of you may remember Project Salomon which rescued thousands of Ethiopians and transported them to Israel. Basically this is a continuation of that project in which we raise money to educate the Ethiopians to help them live in a modern society. Anyway, we're supposed to have a board meeting in our home in July, I sent out an email to someone saying that I didn't know if I was going to attend because of everything I have been through since October; I further explained about the miscarriage, ep, surgery, IVF, and pregnancy. I was confiding in this individual and in no way gave permission to have my medical history made public. I just received a phone call from someone I met once last year expressing his thoughts on my life. To say I was rude is probably an understatement, I think it was obvious that I didn't appreciate the phone call and just sent an email to the person who blabbed. Would anyone else be mad about this? I am just so upset.... maria Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 3, 2001 Report Share Posted June 3, 2001 Thanks ! I was starting to feel like I was being mean in my response, I really just wanted to shut her up! maria Re: Very Upset Don't know what your response said, but I think she need to see that that was wrong. Hi , Below is my responce.... ,If you truly understand the pain of pregnancy loss you would realize that itis not a topic to be discussed lightly - especially with someone I don'teven know and then to have that person call me is highly inappropriate.Before retiring to get married I was the youngest CFO of a Fortune 500company in the country, prior to that I ran a $60m company; is avery intelligent capable professional also, between the two of us I'm surewe're capable of handling a small gathering. And, as I mentionedpreviously, if we find that we need help we will ask - please try to respectthatm. Now her latest responce.... > I guess I got the wrong impression when you e-mailed me that you thoughtthe> parlor meeting was going to be too much for you to handle right now. Then my responce..... If I recall correctly, my response was that I didn't feel this was a goodtime. I never commented on whether it was too much to handle or not, thatmay have been your interpretation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 3, 2001 Report Share Posted June 3, 2001 Hi Dominique, Thanks for the support! I think the only reason that I wasn't yelling was because it was all over the internet and it allowed me time to calm down before responding. If the conversation happened in person or over the telephone I don't think I would have been as calm. How are you doing? maria Re: Very Upset > , > I missed the start of this, but from what I gather she had no right to > tell ANYONE personal details of your reproductive history. Your > response sounds intelligent and to the point. I'm sure I would have > been yelling and cursing, but you handled it with much more maturity! > I'm sorry people can be so insensitive. > > Dominique > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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