Guest guest Posted May 24, 2002 Report Share Posted May 24, 2002 Why don't you open up the phone books or look in the newspaper under volunteers. There are LOTS of things that you can do. Once starts school I'm going to volunteer at the local residential home for autistic kids. G Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 24, 2002 Report Share Posted May 24, 2002 In a message dated 5/24/02 5:07:59 PM Eastern Daylight Time, kjaggers@... writes: > ......I have started to work as an ABA therapist for two families....and > surprisingly find myself feeling the need to nurture the parents much more > than the children That's why alot of the behavior specialist here in PA do mobil therapy for families. There is a definate need for it G Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 24, 2002 Report Share Posted May 24, 2002 Jacquie... Your post struck a chord with me....I too am feeling the need to nurture....my (12 yr old NT) daughter is almost as tall as I am....and my (PDD almost 6 year old) son is doing so well....needing me less and less (which I know is progress)....and even in that unfortunate stage of wiping off kisses! I have wanted another child for quite some time despite my husbands strong feelings against it... and am coming to the realization that just will not be happening for me....though I still feel like there is a hole that cannot be filled. I too have thought long and hard about going back to college...there is nothing nurturing about a Fiance degree......but I have taken a different and more immediate route......I have started to work as an ABA therapist for two families....and surprisingly find myself feeling the need to nurture the parents much more than the children......it certainly brings up all those old feelings of helplessness and uncertainty when your child is first diagnosed. Luckily my son is doing very well and that is an encouragement to these parents as well.....I always told myself that if I survived this autism thing that I would try to help others get through it......though there were so many times I didnt think that me or my family would survive....we did.... I just felt the need to respond to your post.....and maybe you have something.......I WANT A PUPPY! Hope all goes well with you all......my extended family in this battle.....Have a great weekend! My future. > > What a big subject, isn't it? > > It's been on my mind ever since Wednesday, actually, ever since I saw that pregnant belly walking down the sidewalk... It REALLY came to the front though this morning, when I called a couple places with kittens and the kittens had all gone to homes already. I LOST MY MIND. I couldn't figure out why, and I sat writing and writing in my journal until it hit me... " MARC! " I screamed, 'I NEED SOMETHING TO NURTURE! *NOW*!!!!!!!!! Kitten, guinea pig, fish, I DON'T CARE!!!! " > > Well, duh. > > Again, we went through all the reasons that having another baby is not the right choice for us, both of us crying just a bit. Then I started to think about what I'm going to do with all this nurturing I have inside that needs an outlet, and got thinking about careers. So I went to the library and pulled out the catalogue for the college in the nearest city. Do you know that I could train to be an EA in one year? Or I could go part-time for 10 years and get a degree in " Developmental Services " -- working with agencies like community living, etc. But the one that really appeals to me, the one that would take FOREVER, is nursing. > > REally, though, my talents would be best suited to cabinetmaking. > > <sigh> > > I guess I don't really have a point to this post at all, except thinking in print some more. I just know that the future is looking like it has a great big hole in it, and I don't know what on earth I need to fill it with. > > <bigger sigh> > > Jacquie > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 24, 2002 Report Share Posted May 24, 2002 Jacquie... Your post struck a chord with me....I too am feeling the need to nurture....my (12 yr old NT) daughter is almost as tall as I am....and my (PDD almost 6 year old) son is doing so well....needing me less and less (which I know is progress)....and even in that unfortunate stage of wiping off kisses! I have wanted another child for quite some time despite my husbands strong feelings against it... and am coming to the realization that just will not be happening for me....though I still feel like there is a hole that cannot be filled. I too have thought long and hard about going back to college...there is nothing nurturing about a Fiance degree......but I have taken a different and more immediate route......I have started to work as an ABA therapist for two families....and surprisingly find myself feeling the need to nurture the parents much more than the children......it certainly brings up all those old feelings of helplessness and uncertainty when your child is first diagnosed. Luckily my son is doing very well and that is an encouragement to these parents as well.....I always told myself that if I survived this autism thing that I would try to help others get through it......though there were so many times I didnt think that me or my family would survive....we did.... I just felt the need to respond to your post.....and maybe you have something.......I WANT A PUPPY! Hope all goes well with you all......my extended family in this battle.....Have a great weekend! My future. > > What a big subject, isn't it? > > It's been on my mind ever since Wednesday, actually, ever since I saw that pregnant belly walking down the sidewalk... It REALLY came to the front though this morning, when I called a couple places with kittens and the kittens had all gone to homes already. I LOST MY MIND. I couldn't figure out why, and I sat writing and writing in my journal until it hit me... " MARC! " I screamed, 'I NEED SOMETHING TO NURTURE! *NOW*!!!!!!!!! Kitten, guinea pig, fish, I DON'T CARE!!!! " > > Well, duh. > > Again, we went through all the reasons that having another baby is not the right choice for us, both of us crying just a bit. Then I started to think about what I'm going to do with all this nurturing I have inside that needs an outlet, and got thinking about careers. So I went to the library and pulled out the catalogue for the college in the nearest city. Do you know that I could train to be an EA in one year? Or I could go part-time for 10 years and get a degree in " Developmental Services " -- working with agencies like community living, etc. But the one that really appeals to me, the one that would take FOREVER, is nursing. > > REally, though, my talents would be best suited to cabinetmaking. > > <sigh> > > I guess I don't really have a point to this post at all, except thinking in print some more. I just know that the future is looking like it has a great big hole in it, and I don't know what on earth I need to fill it with. > > <bigger sigh> > > Jacquie > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 24, 2002 Report Share Posted May 24, 2002 > Why don't you open up the phone books or look in the newspaper under > volunteers. There are LOTS of things that you can do. I already volunteer at the library and at the food bank. But will be going to school full time starting September, and those two things just aren't enough. Basically, I have to start looking at what my plans are for the rest of my life, since full-time mothering ends, for all intents and purposes, this fall. I always thought that I'd be the kind of mother who'd be happy to stay home while the kid's in school, but I don't think I will be. I mean, I'd LIKE to stay home, but I'm not a very good housekeeper and I'm a rotten cook, so the path of my mother would be pretty rocky for me. I'd feel like I was no longer earning my keep. But whatever I do, it will have to allow me to take to school and be there for him right after, though. I just feel like I should find something that will allow me to contribute financially to this household once the time to do it presents itself. Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 24, 2002 Report Share Posted May 24, 2002 > Why don't you open up the phone books or look in the newspaper under > volunteers. There are LOTS of things that you can do. I already volunteer at the library and at the food bank. But will be going to school full time starting September, and those two things just aren't enough. Basically, I have to start looking at what my plans are for the rest of my life, since full-time mothering ends, for all intents and purposes, this fall. I always thought that I'd be the kind of mother who'd be happy to stay home while the kid's in school, but I don't think I will be. I mean, I'd LIKE to stay home, but I'm not a very good housekeeper and I'm a rotten cook, so the path of my mother would be pretty rocky for me. I'd feel like I was no longer earning my keep. But whatever I do, it will have to allow me to take to school and be there for him right after, though. I just feel like I should find something that will allow me to contribute financially to this household once the time to do it presents itself. Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 25, 2002 Report Share Posted May 25, 2002 >I always told myself that if I survived this > autism thing that I would try to help others get through it......though > there were so many times I didnt think that me or my family would > survive....we did.... You know, , I never thought I could work with 'disabled' children (this was pre-, of course), but now that Educational Assistant certificate looks so attractive. Imagine how great it would be for a family to have an EA working with their kid who actually GETS it! Oh -- you don't have to imagine, you're doing the pretty much the same thing! :-D > > I just felt the need to respond to your post.....and maybe you have > something.......I WANT A PUPPY! > Well, so far this kitten thing is working out pretty well! Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 25, 2002 Report Share Posted May 25, 2002 Jacquie... I don't mean to poke a sore spot, but have you thought about adoption? -Sara. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 25, 2002 Report Share Posted May 25, 2002 >>since full-time mothering ends, for all intents and purposes, this fall. Well I just don't see how THAT's true. But if you mean you will have 6 or 8 or however many hours a day sans kid -- yeah. >>be happy to stay home while the kid's in school, but I don't think I will be. I mean, I'd LIKE to stay home, but I'm not a very good housekeeper and I'm a rotten cook, so the path of my mother would be pretty rocky for me.<< So do something else. Do something for YOU. If you could do anything you wanted, what would it be? >>I just feel like I should find something that will allow me to contribute financially to this household once the time to do it presents itself. Aaahhh, financially. Well that's the trick, isn't it? Could you try a part-time job somewhere and see what happens? Or maybe start your own business -- hey, I know, you could be a petsitter or run a doggy day-care. Then you get your nurturing AND some cash... -Sara. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 25, 2002 Report Share Posted May 25, 2002 > I would LOVE to have a home business. I just don't know what on earth I > could do! > > Jacquie Jacquie, With your talent for painting, why not go ahead and do up a bunch of small pieces and start showing them at local craft fairs? You could even do a website to sell them from eventually, or offer them on consignment for sale at other local crafty-type businesses. Ebay is really slow right now . . . but always another option. You have the talent most of us would die for. -BJ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 25, 2002 Report Share Posted May 25, 2002 > I don't mean to poke a sore spot, but have you thought about adoption? > > -Sara. I have. All adoptions in Ontario cost more money than we have. To privately adopt a newborn or toddler is nearly impossible and costs upwards of $15,000. To adopt a special-needs or abused (also considered special-needs) kid through children's aid (which is the route we'd probably take) costs a minimum of $2,000 for a home study and can take years to come through. It's not the time that bothers me, I'd be willing to wait...it's the thousands of dollars needed to even get on the waiting list. It would be far less expensive to put my physical and mental health at risk and go through another pregnancy, which I just can't do. <sigh> Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 25, 2002 Report Share Posted May 25, 2002 > >>since full-time mothering ends, for all intents and > purposes, this fall. > > Well I just don't see how THAT's true. > > But if you mean you will have 6 or 8 or however many hours a day sans kid -- > yeah. > Yup. That's exactly what I mean. > So do something else. Do something for YOU. If you could do anything you > wanted, what would it be? Paint. Read. > Aaahhh, financially. Well that's the trick, isn't it? Could you try a > part-time job somewhere and see what happens? I've been looking into part-time, but all I can find around here thus far are part-time positions that specify weekends and evenings. With Marc working rotating shifts, that just can't be done. :-( It's really important to me that someone always be here for . Or maybe start your own > business -- hey, I know, you could be a petsitter or run a doggy day-care. > Then you get your nurturing AND some cash... Oh yeah...except that with two cats and a huge dog, I just don't think I could bring any more animals in! Besides, our backyard wouldn't convince ANYONE to leave their dog with us. It's about 15 by 15 feet. :-( I would LOVE to have a home business. I just don't know what on earth I could do! Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 25, 2002 Report Share Posted May 25, 2002 Jacquie, Around here they have Pet Sitters, who simply go to the pets home a certain # of times a day and let the pet out, play with it, walk it, etc.. Some people use them for vacations instead of boarding the animal, and some just have someone pop in once a day while they are at work. Possibility for you? Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 25, 2002 Report Share Posted May 25, 2002 > You have the talent most of us would die for. > > -BJ As much as that absolutely flatters me to death, my skill level is quite rudimentary compared to some out there. Compared to most who sell, at least. :-( Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 25, 2002 Report Share Posted May 25, 2002 >>I would LOVE to have a home business. I just don't know what on earth I could do! Paint, and sell your pictures on Ebay? My MIL makes jewelry and sells it at craft shows and online. I can ask her for some web sites to get you started. I don't think it would be bad for you to take a year for yourself and just do whatever you want to do. Talk with dh about it & see what he thinks? Is he pushing you to get out and earn some money? Or are you pushing yourself? -Sara. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 25, 2002 Report Share Posted May 25, 2002 >>As much as that absolutely flatters me to death, my skill level is quite rudimentary compared to some out there. Compared to most who sell, at least. :-( So what? You would be painting because you love to paint. Selling your paintings would be incidentalRead some books, take some classes, practice, and you'll get even better than you already are. Just imagine...6 whole hours of silence...all for YOU to PAINT! As much or as little as you want! I am not trying to push you in any way...just throwing out suggestions. -Sara. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 25, 2002 Report Share Posted May 25, 2002 I live right near New Hope PA which has a HUGE artist community. You would not believe some of the stuff they sell. It's all a matter of taste. I'd love to see some of your work if you have any pics. Let us be the judges G Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 25, 2002 Report Share Posted May 25, 2002 That's not skill level, it's style. It's called primative, and some people love it and will pay highly for primative style painted items. You will get more customers, however if you make a point of advertising it as primative. This message is passed through by her mother, who sells her water-color, pastel, acrylic, and oil paintings in many craft fairs local to her area.) B P.S. I hope you don't mind my asking my mom about this. > > > You have the talent most of us would die for. > > > > -BJ > > > As much as that absolutely flatters me to death, my skill level is quite > rudimentary compared to some out there. Compared to most who sell, at > least. :-( > > Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 25, 2002 Report Share Posted May 25, 2002 > > B > > P.S. I hope you don't mind my asking my mom about this. Not at all, but she couldn't have seen anything I painted, could she? I ask because I absolutely AVOID anything in the style commonly known as primitive because I don't like it! LOL. I can't remember the actual classification of the stuff I do, but I think of it as 'cutesy'. Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 25, 2002 Report Share Posted May 25, 2002 No, I didn't have any pics to show her (although I'm sure we'd all love to see some in the files <hint, hint>). I just gave her kind of a run down of some of the descriptions you've used to describe your work. However, primative or not, every artist has their own style, and I would be suprised if there weren't many people who thought your work was perfect. B The Hunny Family wrote: Not at all, but she couldn't have seen anything I painted, could she? I ask because I absolutely AVOID anything in the style commonly known as primitive because I don't like it! LOL. I can't remember the actual classification of the stuff I do, but I think of it as 'cutesy'. Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 26, 2002 Report Share Posted May 26, 2002 oh...and don't forget, anytime in between.... >>>> But whatever I do, it will have to allow me to take to school and be there for him right after, though. <<<< Penny - who's been facing this conundrum for a looooooooong time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 27, 2002 Report Share Posted May 27, 2002 > oh...and don't forget, anytime in between.... > Yeah, Penny, you really made me think with this one, as I recounted to myself all the times you've been called to school. <sigh> Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 28, 2002 Report Share Posted May 28, 2002 > >'I NEED SOMETHING TO NURTURE! *NOW*!!!!!!!!! Kitten, guinea pig, fish, I >DON'T CARE!!!! " Is it any wonder I am constantly taking in other people's children? I mean, really! I too would love to have something to nurture, a baby, a kitten or a puppy, but now is not the time for us. >and got thinking about careers. If nursing is what you truly want to do---than do it. So what if it takes forever. You know what I want to do, and it is going to take quite a while, but I'm going to do it. I feel so driven, and can't imagine my future without this idea, just can't. >I guess I don't really have a point to this post at all, except thinking in >print some more. I just know that the future is looking like it has a >great big hole in it, and I don't know what on earth I need to fill it >with. Yes, I see the hole too, but I have to tell you--both kids were in school full-time this year, and I really, really enjoyed staying home. If you can manage it financially, than do it for a little while. I definitely don't want to do this forever, and don't think I'll need to, but for now, it is very nice. Amy H--in Michigan Kepler 4 1/2 ASD and Bethany 6 NT " although one has a responsiblity to stick things out to the limit of one's endurance, one also has to have the courage to retreat and lick one's wounds, so as to return to the fray refreshed. " ~Kenzaburo Oe _________________________________________________________________ Chat with friends online, try MSN Messenger: http://messenger.msn.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 29, 2002 Report Share Posted May 29, 2002 ((Jacquie))! I know how you feel, maybe you just want somethingmore then Autism......there has got to be soemthing more then it. Even with Abby I am waitng one more year and then I am going to go back to school to " nurture myself " . Maybe you are craving some time or care for 'yourself' cause like everyone else with these little guys we are the last to get taken care of! --- The Hunny Family wrote: > > What a big subject, isn't it? > > It's been on my mind ever since Wednesday, actually, > ever since I saw that pregnant belly walking down > the sidewalk... It REALLY came to the front though > this morning, when I called a couple places with > kittens and the kittens had all gone to homes > already. I LOST MY MIND. I couldn't figure out > why, and I sat writing and writing in my journal > until it hit me... " MARC! " I screamed, 'I NEED > SOMETHING TO NURTURE! *NOW*!!!!!!!!! Kitten, > guinea pig, fish, I DON'T CARE!!!! " > > Well, duh. > > Again, we went through all the reasons that having > another baby is not the right choice for us, both of > us crying just a bit. Then I started to think about > what I'm going to do with all this nurturing I have > inside that needs an outlet, and got thinking about > careers. So I went to the library and pulled out > the catalogue for the college in the nearest city. > Do you know that I could train to be an EA in one > year? Or I could go part-time for 10 years and get > a degree in " Developmental Services " -- working with > agencies like community living, etc. But the one > that really appeals to me, the one that would take > FOREVER, is nursing. > > REally, though, my talents would be best suited to > cabinetmaking. > > <sigh> > > I guess I don't really have a point to this post at > all, except thinking in print some more. I just > know that the future is looking like it has a great > big hole in it, and I don't know what on earth I > need to fill it with. > > <bigger sigh> > > Jacquie > > ===== TTFN Wife to Mom to Ben (aka Gozilla) 5yrs HFA/AS On call milk machine to Abby(aka ....stinkerbell) 21MTHS NT __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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