Re: Digest Number 3272

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I have been reading the negative results from some of you on this list

regarding the " support " from family and

friends.

This is just my opinion - they are letting you know that they are not worthy

of your respect or friendship in their

own demented ways.

I hope none of them get cancer or have a heart attack. You could then ask

them what they had done to " deserve " their

disease.

Forget their negativity and concentrate only on what is best for you. If your

husband hasn't touched you - keep in

mind that no one wants a low-life pawing them anyway. As for your family - you

can't choose your relatives so you need

to choose your friends instead.

Perhaps ask your m-i-l why she wants to hasten someone's death by exacerbating

their health issues. Is it because she

doesn't belive it is real? She wants the attention? Or is she either stupid or

mean?

It is now time for you to move your name to the top of the priority list. Try

it - it feels soooo good!!

Indeed the money angle gets very hard to manage at times. I am on a low

disability and find it impossible to eat the

way the diabetic nurse says I should. So I compromise where ever I can, follow

the diet the best I can and try to find

little " tricks " to help keep my gc down. Fortunately I have a treadmill and

find a walk on it will compensate when I

can't eat only the high priced food I should.

Since I am alergic to sunshine and have bad knees among other things, I find

the treadmill has been a life saver for

me.

Another topic I found interesting was the one of " everything wrong with you is

because you are fat " issue. Years ago

I had a doctor who said everything wrong with me was because I smoked (I gave it

up years ago so please - no hints ).

It mattered not what was wrong with you - smoking caused it. When my knees

swelled and were nearly useless it was

because I smoked. When my son cracked ribs during a football game tackle -

guess what? Yup - It was because he smoked

not because he wound up the bottom guy in a *big* pileup. Needless to say we

both found other doctors who discovered I

had arthritis in my knees and my son had cracked but healed ribs by then and no

mention of smoking. So when anyone

blames *fat* I wonder is it my fat body or their fat head they have a problem

with.

Anyway - I don't have friends to admire or dis-admire (is that a word?) my

body but to admire my friendship and

loyalty.

Fortunately for me I have landed on my feet with Type 2. My dietician and

diabetic nurse could not be more

supportive. When I go for my monthly weigh in (optional) if I haven't lost

anything the dietician lets me know that she

is pleased that I haven't gained anything and she is ecstatic when I lose weight

- any amount. My diabetic nurse is

tickled if I have brought my gc average down just a tiny bit. They see it as

progress. They also realize an old gal

like me does not change quickly nor easily and I have to work at it in my own

speed so I can adapt to it one thing at a

time.

My kids are all living elsewhere but whenever I see them they congratulate me

on my weight loss and tell me how good I

look. (Still need to lose another 40 pounds so I am not skinny!). They also

tell me how proud of me they are that I am

taking this in stride and working on it everyday.

I work with a animal rescue group (Pet Adoption & Welfare Society) as

secretary and the members are very

understanding. We have birthday cake at our monthly meetings for anyone who has

a birthday that month. They even made

a delicious diabetic one just for me!! We often meet for lunch and they always

consider if the restaurant has something

I can eat and they make sure the timing is right for me.

It really does make all the " denial of the goodies " worth while as well as

making me feel better while I work on this

disease.

I was diagnosed in August last year because of a sore knuckle which lead to a

bad gc count when they did a blood test

to see if the knuckle was infected. I took some time believing it really was

diabetes and it really was me who had it

and it wasn't just going away. Now I try to see diabetes as a challenge. Try

to find things I can enjoy in *spite* of

the disease.

Sorry this is so long. I have been away house sitting for some time and I get

the digest so see all the messages at

once.

If anyone has read this far - thanks for your patience.

As for those who need to vent - this is the place!! Vent away - we are all

friends in the same boat and it takes lots

of venting to keep the sails filled!!!!

Lee from BC

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