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[Guest guest]

Wonderful Cherie, I'd bet she has some other patients who are having digestive problems . . . and implants! Be sure to keep her updated on your progress! I LOVE to educated doctors on this stuff! . . . Today I told an internist/pediatrician's mother! . . . Gave her my card so he could call if interested! She told me that they didn't have any proof that implants are dangerous . . . I set her straight! . . . told her the FDA is corupt! When my oncologist's doctor's nurse told him that she thought saline implants were safe, he told her (in front of me) that NO breast implants are SAFE! . . . Score one more for us! Rogene

[Guest guest]

Hi Cherie.

Im sorry they were not able to help you but that is great that you

have someone that is interested in following you through this and is

in the medical field. If nothing else, you may have saved her from

getting implants.

--- In , " cannst42 " <cannst42@...>

wrote:

>

> Hi Ladies,

>

> I went to my Gastro appt today for my test results and saw the

nurse

> practioner. She said that I do not have Gatric Paresis (delayed

> stomach emptying) but I was positive for Acid Reflux. They still

do

> not know whats going on with all my other symptoms(but I do!) and

> wanted me to some back to San Francisco for two days so they could

> put a tube down my nose, into my throat and keep it there for 24

hrs.

> for more testing! I told her NO! I told her that I was going to

> have my breast implants removed and did not want to do anything

until

> after the removal. She then asked my why I was doing that. I

went

> ahead and told her that I believe that they are causing my

problems.

> She began to become very interested in what I had to

> say.......because she herself had been thinking about getting

> implants! I told her about the research that has been done and

about

> all you ladies and the problems that you've had. I explained about

> having them removed properly. She is having me just take my

Prontix

> for my acid reflux and wants to see me after the surgery and see

how

> I am doing. She wants to follow me with this and see if I do

improve.

> I was suprised by her reaction, I guess I kinda expected her to be

> defensive about it, but not all. She said that all procedures,

meds

> and other medical devices are not for everyone and they can have a

> reaction. If anything, I hopes this office learns from this.

>

> Cherie

>

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Lea ~

Love you so much too. Did you hear back from

Molly? When do you see your doctor? Saturday?

You are in my prayers, sweet Lea ! You too Superman!!

I hope you are having a good day too. This all is

so wearing. I am still running a fever......my brains

will be scrambled soon.....if not already...lol......

been cooking 2 weeks now......

I hope you have a happy and healthy day too Lea,

Love, Hugs,Hope, and Blessings ~ DedeGet a sneak peek of the all-new AOL.com.

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Love you Dede, you bring so much love to this group. Have a happy healthy day...love you so.........Lea

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Wonderful, Lynn, one more woman saved from a bad, bad experience. I love it.

Lynda

At 05:37 PM 9/6/2007, you wrote:

>Cherie,

>

>My doctor also gave me Protonix - thinks I have GERD.

>

>I had the same experience with a medical assistant at my primary

>care doctors. She had saved up about $7,000 to have implants. When

>she was putting EKG leads on my chest and saw my implants she asked

>if I liked them. When I told her that I thought they were making me

>ill, she said she had heard that from other women too and that she

>had now made up her mind - she would tile her floor with the money.

>

>Lynn

>

> Want to share with you...

>

>Hi Ladies,

>

>I went to my Gastro appt today for my test results and saw the nurse

>practioner. She said that I do not have Gatric Paresis (delayed

>stomach emptying) but I was positive for Acid Reflux. They still do

>not know whats going on with all my other symptoms(but I do!) and

>wanted me to some back to San Francisco for two days so they could

>put a tube down my nose, into my throat and keep it there for 24 hrs.

>for more testing! I told her NO! I told her that I was going to

>have my breast implants removed and did not want to do anything until

>after the removal. She then asked my why I was doing that. I went

>ahead and told her that I believe that they are causing my problems.

>She began to become very interested in what I had to

>say.......because she herself had been thinking about getting

>implants! I told her about the research that has been done and about

>all you ladies and the problems that you've had. I explained about

>having them removed properly. She is having me just take my Prontix

>for my acid reflux and wants to see me after the surgery and see how

>I am doing. She wants to follow me with this and see if I do improve.

>I was suprised by her reaction, I guess I kinda expected her to be

>defensive about it, but not all. She said that all procedures, meds

>and other medical devices are not for everyone and they can have a

>reaction. If anything, I hopes this office learns from this.

>

>Cherie

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Darling Dede:

We had a bad day yesterday, because tried to make things better between my daughter and us. She continues to be a problem and refuses to be part of our family again, and she claims that she needs time. My heart was broken all over again because she refused to speak to me. I will have to let her go.

Honey, I am sorry to tell you all of my problems, but it helps. I want to get involved in this group and give love and support, but I am failing. This morning we see our doctor and he should have some answers for us. I wish that he would speak to Dr. Blais, but that would have to be his decision.

We are both so sorry that you have a fever again, we want you to get well. When we get home, I will let you all know what my doctor had to say.

Sending tons of love and hope to our Dede...Lea and Superman

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Lea ~

Love you so much too. Did you hear back from

Molly? When do you see your doctor? Saturday?

You are in my prayers, sweet Lea ! You too Superman!!

I hope you are having a good day too. This all is

so wearing. I am still running a fever......my brains

will be scrambled soon.....if not already...lol......

been cooking 2 weeks now......

I hope you have a happy and healthy day too Lea,

Love, Hugs,Hope, and Blessings ~ Dede

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Lea,

Lea,

Intermittent reinforcement is the strongest reinforcement there

is. Trying to intervene with your daughter just gives her that

intermittent reinforcement. My recommendation is to leave her alone

until she gets her head straight. Trying to intervene just puts her

back up more and more.

I think I was 35 years old when I finally realized my mother did the

best job she could and that I could let go of any resentment I had

over certain things that happened (or did not happen) in my

childhood. We all have our own schedule on how we come to terms with

issues. Your daughter just needs to figure this out for herself.

I am not saying to write her off, just leave her completely alone

until she decides to grow up and deal with life as it is and realizes

that her parents did the best they knew how to do and that she is an

adult and needs to deal with issues on an adult basis, not on

left-over emotional issues of childhood.

Love,

Lynda

At 07:35 AM 9/8/2007, you wrote:

>Darling Dede:

>

>We had a bad day yesterday, because tried to make things

>better between my daughter and us. She continues to be a problem and

>refuses to be part of our family again, and she claims that she

>needs time. My heart was broken all over again because she refused

>to speak to me. I will have to let her go.

>

>Honey, I am sorry to tell you all of my problems, but it helps. I

>want to get involved in this group and give love and support, but I

>am failing. This morning we see our doctor and he should have some

>answers for us. I wish that he would speak to Dr. Blais, but that

>would have to be his decision.

>

>We are both so sorry that you have a fever again, we want you to get

>well. When we get home, I will let you all know what my doctor had to say.

>

>Sending tons of love and hope to our Dede...Lea and Superman

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>

>Lea ~

>Love you so much too. Did you hear back from

>Molly? When do you see your doctor? Saturday?

>You are in my prayers, sweet Lea ! You too Superman!!

>I hope you are having a good day too. This all is

>so wearing. I am still running a fever......my brains

>will be scrambled soon.....if not already...lol......

>been cooking 2 weeks now......

>I hope you have a happy and healthy day too Lea,

>Love, Hugs,Hope, and Blessings ~ Dede

>

>

>

>

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[Guest guest]

Lea, Listen to Lynda . . . She has seen many situations like yours as a social worker. Let go and Let God! . . . Stressing over your daughter is something you simply can't afford to do for the sake of your own health. . . Say a prayer for your daughter every day . . . forgive her every day . . . put her in God's hands and know that He will answer your prayer in His own way when the time is right. You've done all you can do. The rest in is God's hands. Hugs and prayers, Rogene

[Guest guest]

Rogene,

Thank you, I left that part out. Being an addictions counselor, I

should have remembered that part also.

Lynda

At 07:57 AM 9/8/2007, you wrote:

>Lea,

>

>Listen to Lynda . . . She has seen many situations like yours as a

>social worker.

>

>Let go and Let God! . . .

>

>Stressing over your daughter is something you simply can't afford to

>do for the sake of your own health. . .

>

>Say a prayer for your daughter every day . . . forgive her every day

>. . . put her in God's hands and know that He will answer your

>prayer in His own way when the time is right. You've done all you

>can do. The rest in is God's hands.

>

>Hugs and prayers,

>

>Rogene

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Lynda,

I'm a social worker too!...have worked w/ children w/ bipolar, autism,

conduct disorder, reactive attachment, brain injuries, burn victims,

pregnant teens and all the families. I miss my job and can't wait to

get back into the field! Did you have to take a leave of absence and

if so, when did you return? - PH

>

> >Lea,

> >

> >Listen to Lynda . . . She has seen many situations like yours as a

> >social worker.

> >

> >Let go and Let God! . . .

> >

> >Stressing over your daughter is something you simply can't afford to

> >do for the sake of your own health. . .

> >

> >Say a prayer for your daughter every day . . . forgive her every day

> >. . . put her in God's hands and know that He will answer your

> >prayer in His own way when the time is right. You've done all you

> >can do. The rest in is God's hands.

> >

> >Hugs and prayers,

> >

> >Rogene

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

PH,

I ended up with a permanent leave of absence. I

was 50, and so ill that I could not work, so what

did I do? I founded the Coalition of Silicone

Survivors, and worked very hard. But, I could

work on my terms and on my hours, so when I was

too ill to work, I could just not do it.

And, I worked from home, so I could work in my

nightgown and look sick and nobody would know.

I did not get paid in $$, but the return was so

much more. So many thousands of women were

helped. This was in 1991. I was at the FDA

testifying that year and back the next year. I

followed the MDL around the country and many of

us tried to make it representative of our true

illnesses. I did conferences and ran 8 local

groups all over Colorado. I worked, but not at a

job where I had to be there from 8-5 daily, as that would have been impossible.

I worked with chronically mentally ill, drug and

alcohol addicted clients for many years. I

enjoyed it tremendously. I would never have

voluntarily quit my work. But, I was far too ill

from a massive silicone rupture to continue.

Lynda

At 08:30 AM 9/8/2007, you wrote:

>Hi Lynda,

>I'm a social worker too!...have worked w/ children w/ bipolar, autism,

>conduct disorder, reactive attachment, brain injuries, burn victims,

>pregnant teens and all the families. I miss my job and can't wait to

>get back into the field! Did you have to take a leave of absence and

>if so, when did you return? - PH

>

>

> >

> > >Lea,

> > >

> > >Listen to Lynda . . . She has seen many situations like yours as a

> > >social worker.

> > >

> > >Let go and Let God! . . .

> > >

> > >Stressing over your daughter is something you simply can't afford to

> > >do for the sake of your own health. . .

> > >

> > >Say a prayer for your daughter every day . . . forgive her every day

> > >. . . put her in God's hands and know that He will answer your

> > >prayer in His own way when the time is right. You've done all you

> > >can do. The rest in is God's hands.

> > >

> > >Hugs and prayers,

> > >

> > >Rogene

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> >

>

>

[Guest guest]

Lynda, I had NO idea you were an addictions counselor. This is great to know! Oct.2nd I will have 8 years. My exhusband Don is a counselor at the treatment center here in Gainesville. I try to live my life by the program, but when it came to surgery my fear got the better of me for a while. Now that it's over I'm grateful the fear didn't get the best of me. I'm doing well today, not much pain at all. I took one pain pill yesterday and none today. My drains are really slowing down, barely anything since last night. I can't believe how much clearer I'm thinking in just 4 days. Lynda Roth <coss@...> wrote: Rogene,Thank you, I left that part out. Being an addictions counselor, I should have remembered that part also.LyndaAt 07:57 AM 9/8/2007, you wrote:>Lea,>>Listen to Lynda . . . She has seen many situations like yours as a >social worker.>>Let go and Let God! . . .>>Stressing over your daughter is something you simply can't afford to >do for the sake of your own health. . .>>Say a prayer for your daughter every day . . . forgive her every day >. . . put her in God's hands and know that He will answer your >prayer in His own way when the time is right. You've done all you >can do. The rest in is God's hands.>>Hugs and prayers,>>Rogene>>>>>

[Guest guest]

Lynda, Thanks for sharing this info, I was wondering. Lynda Roth <coss@...> wrote: PH,I ended up with a permanent leave of absence. I was 50, and so ill that I could not work, so what did I do? I founded the Coalition of Silicone Survivors, and worked very hard. But, I could work on my terms and on my hours, so when I was too ill to work, I could just not do it.And, I worked from home, so I could work in my nightgown and look sick and nobody would know.I did not get paid in $$, but the return was so much more. So many thousands of women were helped. This was in 1991. I was at the FDA testifying that year and back the next year. I followed the MDL around the country and many of us tried to make

it representative of our true illnesses. I did conferences and ran 8 local groups all over Colorado. I worked, but not at a job where I had to be there from 8-5 daily, as that would have been impossible.I worked with chronically mentally ill, drug and alcohol addicted clients for many years. I enjoyed it tremendously. I would never have voluntarily quit my work. But, I was far too ill from a massive silicone rupture to continue.LyndaAt 08:30 AM 9/8/2007, you wrote:>Hi Lynda,>I'm a social worker too!...have worked w/ children w/ bipolar, autism,>conduct disorder, reactive attachment, brain injuries, burn victims,>pregnant teens and all the families. I miss my job and can't wait to>get back into the field! Did you have to take a leave of absence and>if so, when did you return? - PH>>> >> > >Lea,> > >> > >Listen to Lynda . . . She has seen many situations like yours as a> > >social worker.> > >> > >Let go and Let God! . . .> > >> > >Stressing over your daughter is something you simply can't afford to> > >do for the sake of your own health. . .> > >> > >Say a prayer for your daughter every day . . . forgive her every day> > >. . . put her in God's hands and know that He will answer your> >

>prayer in His own way when the time is right. You've done all you> > >can do. The rest in is God's hands.> > >> > >Hugs and prayers,> > >> > >Rogene> > >> > >> > >> > >> > >> >>>

[Guest guest]

Wow, Lynda, I am so impressed with the impact you have had on so many

people. I want to do the same and take this challenge and turn it

into a gift for others...I need to get stronger first. You are quite

the inspiration! Honestly, I am so amazed by the strength and courage

of so many women on this forum. I guess that's what illness does to

you...in many ways the physical weaknesses are replaced by enormous

strength that we didn't know we had. - PH

> > >

> > > >Lea,

> > > >

> > > >Listen to Lynda . . . She has seen many situations like yours as a

> > > >social worker.

> > > >

> > > >Let go and Let God! . . .

> > > >

> > > >Stressing over your daughter is something you simply can't

afford to

> > > >do for the sake of your own health. . .

> > > >

> > > >Say a prayer for your daughter every day . . . forgive her

every day

> > > >. . . put her in God's hands and know that He will answer your

> > > >prayer in His own way when the time is right. You've done all you

> > > >can do. The rest in is God's hands.

> > > >

> > > >Hugs and prayers,

> > > >

> > > >Rogene

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > >

> >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Great, . Those drains can go. Probably tomorrow.

Addictions come in so many forms. I think most of us have addictions

and we are mostly oblivious to them. My youngest sister is addicted

to sugar and she is diabetic.

I know that getting all those toxins out of your body can surely

clear your head. It took years for mine, as it was dumped into my

chest. Detoxing saved my life.

Lynda

At 08:46 AM 9/8/2007, you wrote:

>Lynda,

>

>I had NO idea you were an addictions counselor. This is great to know!

>Oct.2nd I will have 8 years.

>My exhusband Don is a counselor at the treatment center here in Gainesville.

>

>I try to live my life by the program,

>but when it came to surgery my fear got the better of me for a while.

>Now that it's over I'm grateful the fear didn't get the best of me.

>

>I'm doing well today, not much pain at all.

>I took one pain pill yesterday and none today.

>My drains are really slowing down, barely anything since last night.

>I can't believe how much clearer I'm thinking in just 4 days.

>

>

>

>Lynda Roth <coss@...> wrote:

>Rogene,

>

>Thank you, I left that part out. Being an addictions counselor, I

>should have remembered that part also.

>

>Lynda

>

>

>At 07:57 AM 9/8/2007, you wrote:

>

> >Lea,

> >

> >Listen to Lynda . . . She has seen many situations like yours as a

> >social worker.

> >

> >Let go and Let God! . . .

> >

> >Stressing over your daughter is something you simply can't afford to

> >do for the sake of your own health. . .

> >

> >Say a prayer for your daughter every day . . . forgive her every day

> >. . . put her in God's hands and know that He will answer your

> >prayer in His own way when the time is right. You've done all you

> >can do. The rest in is God's hands.

> >

> >Hugs and prayers,

> >

> >Rogene

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

PH,

Back when I started, there were so few of us. And it was so very

hard to get the word out.

Now we have the internet, and Thank God, we can do it so much better.

I think we need to work with young women in middle and high school to

help them with body image and self-esteem. If there is any greater

calling, I don't know what it is.

Lynda

At 09:01 AM 9/8/2007, you wrote:

>Wow, Lynda, I am so impressed with the impact you have had on so many

>people. I want to do the same and take this challenge and turn it

>into a gift for others...I need to get stronger first. You are quite

>the inspiration! Honestly, I am so amazed by the strength and courage

>of so many women on this forum. I guess that's what illness does to

>you...in many ways the physical weaknesses are replaced by enormous

>strength that we didn't know we had. - PH

>

>

> > > >

> > > > >Lea,

> > > > >

> > > > >Listen to Lynda . . . She has seen many situations like yours as a

> > > > >social worker.

> > > > >

> > > > >Let go and Let God! . . .

> > > > >

> > > > >Stressing over your daughter is something you simply can't

>afford to

> > > > >do for the sake of your own health. . .

> > > > >

> > > > >Say a prayer for your daughter every day . . . forgive her

>every day

> > > > >. . . put her in God's hands and know that He will answer your

> > > > >prayer in His own way when the time is right. You've done all you

> > > > >can do. The rest in is God's hands.

> > > > >

> > > > >Hugs and prayers,

> > > > >

> > > > >Rogene

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > >

> > >

> > >

> >

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Lynda,

I agree with you completely that we need to address women at an early

age. I would love to do that!! I live in a community where many of

the high school seniors are given implants at graduation. It scares

me to think what may happen to them and their children down the road.

For me, implants boil down to self-esteem. I was 32, in great shape,

yet felt inadequate due to media and my own deeply hidden insecurity.

Looking back, I realize I never had that self-acceptance of my body

when in reality I was so blessed. Middle school was the time in which

it should have been addressed but the resources weren't there.

My son is 13 and part of the curriculum in his middle school involves

a 7 week class on body image, anorexia, bulimia, and health. I'm glad

things are changing, yet will that 7 week course offset the millions

of " perfect " body ads, TV shows, jokes, plastic surgery

advertisements, comments and social pressures from others that he and

his peers will receive? I need to mull this over as to how we can

change this...it will be good for me to think about something other

than my own symptoms!!

- PH

> > > > >

> > > > > >Lea,

> > > > > >

> > > > > >Listen to Lynda . . . She has seen many situations like

yours as a

> > > > > >social worker.

> > > > > >

> > > > > >Let go and Let God! . . .

> > > > > >

> > > > > >Stressing over your daughter is something you simply can't

> >afford to

> > > > > >do for the sake of your own health. . .

> > > > > >

> > > > > >Say a prayer for your daughter every day . . . forgive her

> >every day

> > > > > >. . . put her in God's hands and know that He will answer your

> > > > > >prayer in His own way when the time is right. You've done

all you

> > > > > >can do. The rest in is God's hands.

> > > > > >

> > > > > >Hugs and prayers,

> > > > > >

> > > > > >Rogene

> > > > > >

> > > > > >

> > > > > >

> > > > > >

> > > > > >

> > > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > >

> >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

HI Lynda,

You are so right. There are so many girls getting implants younger

and younger today. My niece is 16 and a few of her friends were given

plastic surgery gift certifictaes from their own parents??? Seriously

who does that? I can understand making the decision when we are

older. I was 28 and had always wanted them so i researched, or so i

thought, and made the best decision for me, at the time! These girls

are still growing and are going to eventually have children who could

be affected by this. Why parents would ever give something like that

is beyond me. I think i would have been offended myself...lol. AFter

knowing what i do now, thanks to this site, i am going to do

everything i can to keep other women from putting themsleves through

this if at all possible. However if someone would have told me all

this before i got them, i dont know if that would have changed my

mind because you never think it will happen to you.

> > > > >

> > > > > >Lea,

> > > > > >

> > > > > >Listen to Lynda . . . She has seen many situations like

yours as a

> > > > > >social worker.

> > > > > >

> > > > > >Let go and Let God! . . .

> > > > > >

> > > > > >Stressing over your daughter is something you simply can't

> >afford to

> > > > > >do for the sake of your own health. . .

> > > > > >

> > > > > >Say a prayer for your daughter every day . . . forgive her

> >every day

> > > > > >. . . put her in God's hands and know that He will answer

your

> > > > > >prayer in His own way when the time is right. You've done

all you

> > > > > >can do. The rest in is God's hands.

> > > > > >

> > > > > >Hugs and prayers,

> > > > > >

> > > > > >Rogene

> > > > > >

> > > > > >

> > > > > >

> > > > > >

> > > > > >

> > > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > >

> >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Just to explaine, they were given these gift certificates for their

16th birthday. Not just because their parents thought they were flat

too chested...lol Still, it does not make it any better.

> > > > > >

> > > > > > >Lea,

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > >Listen to Lynda . . . She has seen many situations like

> yours as a

> > > > > > >social worker.

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > >Let go and Let God! . . .

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > >Stressing over your daughter is something you simply

can't

> > >afford to

> > > > > > >do for the sake of your own health. . .

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > >Say a prayer for your daughter every day . . . forgive

her

> > >every day

> > > > > > >. . . put her in God's hands and know that He will

answer

> your

> > > > > > >prayer in His own way when the time is right. You've

done

> all you

> > > > > > >can do. The rest in is God's hands.

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > >Hugs and prayers,

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > >Rogene

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > >

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[Guest guest]

,

Well, you know how hard it is to convince some people about implants,

so some well-meaning parents think they are helping their daughters

with this gift.

If they truly understood the harm that implants can do, I doubt they

would be making this type of gift.

I think it is professionally irresponsible and morally wrong for

plastic surgeons to implant a teenager.

Lynda

At 01:08 PM 9/8/2007, you wrote:

>Just to explaine, they were given these gift certificates for their

>16th birthday. Not just because their parents thought they were flat

>too chested...lol Still, it does not make it any better.

>

>

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > > >Lea,

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > >Listen to Lynda . . . She has seen many situations like

> > yours as a

> > > > > > > >social worker.

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > >Let go and Let God! . . .

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > >Stressing over your daughter is something you simply

>can't

> > > >afford to

> > > > > > > >do for the sake of your own health. . .

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > >Say a prayer for your daughter every day . . . forgive

>her

> > > >every day

> > > > > > > >. . . put her in God's hands and know that He will

>answer

> > your

> > > > > > > >prayer in His own way when the time is right. You've

>done

> > all you

> > > > > > > >can do. The rest in is God's hands.

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > >Hugs and prayers,

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > >Rogene

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > >

> > > > > >

> > > > > >

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[Guest guest]

Hello Sis ~

How are you doing? I know your life

has been busy with your job and all

that is going on. I have missed you !

Yes, I am still having fever, boo hoo~

I thought it stopped, but it only gave

me a break....LOL. Its almost three

weeks now. My brains will be fried

eggs soon..LOL.....

Thank you for the prayers and positive

vibes, I can use them right now ! !

I hope that you are feeling good, and

everything with your job is going well.

Hugs ~ Dede

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[Guest guest]

Dede,

I'm sorry, I haven't kept up with the posts lately just because I'm

trying to balance everything - are you still running a fever?

You're always so wonderful to everyone, and I just wanted to send

some prayers and positive vibes your way. I hope you are feeling

better soon. You are such a treasure.

Sis

>

> Darling Dede:

>

> We had a bad day yesterday, because tried to make things

better between my daughter and us. She continues to be a problem and

refuses to be part of our family again, and she claims that she

needs time. My heart was broken all over again because she refused

to speak to me. I will have to let her go.

>

> Honey, I am sorry to tell you all of my problems, but it helps.

I want to get involved in this group and give love and support, but

I am failing. This morning we see our doctor and he should have some

answers for us. I wish that he would speak to Dr. Blais, but that

would have to be his decision.

>

> We are both so sorry that you have a fever again, we want you to

get well. When we get home, I will let you all know what my doctor

had to say.

>

> Sending tons of love and hope to our Dede...Lea and Superman

>

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> Re: Want to share with you...

>

>

>

> Lea ~

> Love you so much too. Did you hear back from

> Molly? When do you see your doctor? Saturday?

> You are in my prayers, sweet Lea ! You too Superman!!

> I hope you are having a good day too. This all is

> so wearing. I am still running a fever......my brains

> will be scrambled soon.....if not already...lol......

> been cooking 2 weeks now......

> I hope you have a happy and healthy day too Lea,

> Love, Hugs,Hope, and Blessings ~ Dede

>

>

>

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[Guest guest]

Hi Lea,

I'm sorry that your daughter causes you such heartache, and what

Lynda is saying is so true. I raised my stepdaughter, who is now in

college. Her mother is a drug addict. My stepdaughter has alot of

anger towards her mother, my husband, and even myself. I was the

scape goat for a long time, because I stepped in and was doing the

job that my stepdaughter's mother could not do, and my husband was

not supportive. I had all the responsibility but no authority, and

there was quite a triangle going on in my house. It bothered me for

a while that I raised this child, and was so close to her once, only

to be shut out, but I've let it go. It's a very complicated

situation, but my husband seemed to be more interested in protecting

the reputation of the mother than being honest with his daughter,

and she had to find out the truth the hard way. Both parents were

threatened by my relationship with their daughter and did negative

things that created tension between the child and myself (out of

their own insecurity).

I know my stepdaughter has told other family members that she

appreciates what I did, and that she comes to me when she needs

something because she knows I'm the most reliable. However, she

built a big wall around herself and hopefully one day she will do

something to bring the wall down. She should have received

counseling to help her cope with everything as a child, but my

husband was part of the veil of secrecy and he didn't want to

acknowledge the problems, and especially didn't want his daughter

knowing the truth about her mother. I know it's not up to me, and I

will be here when she needs me, but I can't force her to let go of

the past until she's ready, and I can't feel bad about myself for

doing the best I could under horrible circumstances. I used to

dwell on it all the time, but I no longer do.

Sis

>

> >Darling Dede:

> >

> >We had a bad day yesterday, because tried to make things

> >better between my daughter and us. She continues to be a problem

and

> >refuses to be part of our family again, and she claims that she

> >needs time. My heart was broken all over again because she

refused

> >to speak to me. I will have to let her go.

> >

> >Honey, I am sorry to tell you all of my problems, but it helps. I

> >want to get involved in this group and give love and support, but

I

> >am failing. This morning we see our doctor and he should have

some

> >answers for us. I wish that he would speak to Dr. Blais, but that

> >would have to be his decision.

> >

> >We are both so sorry that you have a fever again, we want you to

get

> >well. When we get home, I will let you all know what my doctor

had to say.

> >

> >Sending tons of love and hope to our Dede...Lea and Superman

>

>~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~`````````````````

> > Re: Want to share with you...

> >

> >Lea ~

> >Love you so much too. Did you hear back from

> >Molly? When do you see your doctor? Saturday?

> >You are in my prayers, sweet Lea ! You too Superman!!

> >I hope you are having a good day too. This all is

> >so wearing. I am still running a fever......my brains

> >will be scrambled soon.....if not already...lol......

> >been cooking 2 weeks now......

> >I hope you have a happy and healthy day too Lea,

> >Love, Hugs,Hope, and Blessings ~ Dede

> >

> >

> >

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[Guest guest]

Good for you, Sis, sounds like you are handling it the right way.

Lynda

At 05:19 AM 9/11/2007, you wrote:

>Hi Lea,

>

>I'm sorry that your daughter causes you such heartache, and what

>Lynda is saying is so true. I raised my stepdaughter, who is now in

>college. Her mother is a drug addict. My stepdaughter has alot of

>anger towards her mother, my husband, and even myself. I was the

>scape goat for a long time, because I stepped in and was doing the

>job that my stepdaughter's mother could not do, and my husband was

>not supportive. I had all the responsibility but no authority, and

>there was quite a triangle going on in my house. It bothered me for

>a while that I raised this child, and was so close to her once, only

>to be shut out, but I've let it go. It's a very complicated

>situation, but my husband seemed to be more interested in protecting

>the reputation of the mother than being honest with his daughter,

>and she had to find out the truth the hard way. Both parents were

>threatened by my relationship with their daughter and did negative

>things that created tension between the child and myself (out of

>their own insecurity).

>

>I know my stepdaughter has told other family members that she

>appreciates what I did, and that she comes to me when she needs

>something because she knows I'm the most reliable. However, she

>built a big wall around herself and hopefully one day she will do

>something to bring the wall down. She should have received

>counseling to help her cope with everything as a child, but my

>husband was part of the veil of secrecy and he didn't want to

>acknowledge the problems, and especially didn't want his daughter

>knowing the truth about her mother. I know it's not up to me, and I

>will be here when she needs me, but I can't force her to let go of

>the past until she's ready, and I can't feel bad about myself for

>doing the best I could under horrible circumstances. I used to

>dwell on it all the time, but I no longer do.

>

>Sis

>

>

> >

> > >Darling Dede:

> > >

> > >We had a bad day yesterday, because tried to make things

> > >better between my daughter and us. She continues to be a problem

>and

> > >refuses to be part of our family again, and she claims that she

> > >needs time. My heart was broken all over again because she

>refused

> > >to speak to me. I will have to let her go.

> > >

> > >Honey, I am sorry to tell you all of my problems, but it helps. I

> > >want to get involved in this group and give love and support, but

>I

> > >am failing. This morning we see our doctor and he should have

>some

> > >answers for us. I wish that he would speak to Dr. Blais, but that

> > >would have to be his decision.

> > >

> > >We are both so sorry that you have a fever again, we want you to

>get

> > >well. When we get home, I will let you all know what my doctor

>had to say.

> > >

> > >Sending tons of love and hope to our Dede...Lea and Superman

> >

> >~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~`````````````````

> > > Re: Want to share with you...

> > >

> > >Lea ~

> > >Love you so much too. Did you hear back from

> > >Molly? When do you see your doctor? Saturday?

> > >You are in my prayers, sweet Lea ! You too Superman!!

> > >I hope you are having a good day too. This all is

> > >so wearing. I am still running a fever......my brains

> > >will be scrambled soon.....if not already...lol......

> > >been cooking 2 weeks now......

> > >I hope you have a happy and healthy day too Lea,

> > >Love, Hugs,Hope, and Blessings ~ Dede

> > >

> > >

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