A thought for supportive others..long

[Guest guest]

Dear Group,

I have read the posts for unsupportive spouses, and in

all fairness I thought I'd add a little something for the significant others

who have been supportive. My heart goes out to everyone who has not been

consoled, supported and/or helped along their journey.

While it can be devestating to go through this long,

winding path alone and without support; there also is a flip side to it. My

journey began after a car accident in December of 1999. Previous to that, my

husband and I and our children were living the " normal " life; we were all

healthy and doing well in life. After months of suffering pain, physical and

occupational therapy, surgery for my ankle, cervical disc injury, I was

finally diagnosed with ACM1. During our course of trying to find a doctor

familiar with this, I spent many months in and out of work and that has led

to financial difficulties which I am sure many of you can relate to.

We finally found a doctor in our state who was familiar with ACM

and I had surgery on 3-27-01 and I am doing great. During the time previous

to and after surgery, my husband has been a great support to me. He has

taken time out of work and performed duties of mom and dad. Of course he has

had his time of stress, but they never lasted long. We have been married 14

years and I am grateful everyday that I have him.

This wasn't meant to be as long as it turned out:) but I just

wanted to share something good with the group. Again, I hope everyone knows

that I am SO sorry for those of us that have no support or lose their support

as a result of this demon. For those of you that are in this situation, I

hope you know that at least you have the support of this group:)

ACM1 10mm

Decompression and laminectomy 3-27-01 and doing well

[Guest guest]

I have a husband who was verrrrry supportive I had my decompression April 92,

my husband was doing like 90% of the house work. These last few years my

husband has been verrrrrrry unsuppotive, he is always going off on me for

forgetting things and other small things which he gets really mad, when he

comes home at night I just hate it because I never know what to say. I am

dieing inside because of the hurt he is putting me throu, I lov e him but

don't understaand why the change. I have talked to him but he always go off

on me and tell me I am just trying to be a marter.

I am so glad to here you have good husband tell him to keep it up, it is hard

to li ve with a person with a disability. May God Bless you and your family.

Jeannie in Ohio