Vikki

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Sorry it's taken me so long to reply, I get back logged on this group. :}

A back bone helps but so does understanding.from others! This is a tough

one. Do your husband and brother and children get what you have? Do they

get how hard you've worked and that you earned more than you are getting?

Does your husband understand the pain you are in? I doubt that any of them

get it and never will. However, I'd push them into reading about what

Fibromyalgia is. Also, there is a way to get better but it's a long haul.

However, it's worth it if you ask me. I'm seeing my doctor and can hardly

wait to talk to him about it. I want to get started right away. It's all

very complicated, I wish it were easier. But, until then, you need some

help. Yep, your boys need a reality check. First, if they want a car, get

a job. Second, if they want a better car than you have, pay for it! Kids

seem to think they can get what they want without working for it these days.

As a teacher I see it a lot and am a bit appalled. My parents let me buy

their old car from them. I didn't even do this until I was twenty. I'd

borrow their car before that or ride my bike. I rode my bike a lot and

walked to college since it was so close, only 1 mile from my home.

That your husband says you can't take pain meds any more just really makes

me angry. I mean, really, it's absurd! If he had any idea what you were

going through he'd fall on the floor and beg your forgiveness. Aurgh! I

guess I'm lucky with how understanding my husband is. He hates what I have

and is so sure I can figure out how to get rid of it. I'm hoping he's right

but at least until then he wouldn't dream of denying me my meds. He does

get sick and tired of me being sick and tired. He can make me cry. Hey, do

you at least take an anti depressant?

Okay, I'm still angry at your husband right now but I'm letting it go. But,

I'd sure like to talk to him. I'd be happy to give him a call and let him

know just what you are going through from my point of view. Sometimes those

who are closest to us refuse to believe it just because it's us, not someone

else, if you know what I mean.

Let me know if you'd like me to talk to him. :-)

Hugs, big, big, hugs,

Jane

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From: Fibromyalgia_Support_Group

[mailto:Fibromyalgia_Support_Group ] On Behalf Of toddvikkd

Sent: Monday, July 09, 2007 2:01 AM

To: Fibromyalgia_Support_Group

Subject: sorry today was a bad day, advise

I got married when I was 18 had 5boys, gosh I was a real good mom held

a couple jobs, ran a business with hubby, he worked hard too. But I

loved having little kids. WellI worked room service alot/ delivering

food in hotels/ tons of walking/ i ran a huge babysitting service for

tourist/ ran a maintainance serive with my hubby and had 5 kids, plus i

am only 5/2. My husbands brother just moved here, but he has srated

fighting with me/ my hubby, I want so much to feel normal. For years I

let him handle all money, I would get 500.00 and he paid all bills

baght what he wanted what the kids wanted, I asked no questions. Now he

wants me to take no meds and guess what I hurt like hell but I see

clearly we make good money/ my kids don;t respect me, and I want answers

Don;t I have a right for a chuck of our monthly money, were I have some

to give my kids if they need it. But I hate how spoiled they are, my 15

thinks he needs a car better then mine. I have been married 25 years,

how can I change this for the better? I want to be happy/ stop thinking

of my pain 24/7. I am making thinks plus selling things on the net/

soon I hope. So I need money to get it going. No more complaining by

every I know/ I need happiness in some way or another. I need to not be

afraid to ask what I want. Anyone else feel they don;t deserve things,

because they think they are a pain in the butt most of the time, I just

feel depressed today/ maybe tomorrow will be tomorrow will be better.

my husband baught a near/new car without me knowing anything about it.

I gave my car it was older to my oildest gave him my 500.00 so he could

move out I need a back bone I guess, vikki