Thank you!

[Guest guest]

Jo-Ann,

you are not driving me crazy! I love looking at Tessa's picture!! what prize do you get WHEN she wins??

lovek,

lisa r

T.T.F.N.

[Guest guest]

Hi Joann,

This is the cutest message!!!!!

maria

Thank you!

Hello all,

I just wanted to say -

to everyone who has been so good to go and vote for Tessa! It's greatly appreciated. Please keep it up until Sunday. Then I will let you know if she moved on to the next round. I hope I'm not driving everyone crazy.

Love & hugs,

[Guest guest]

I cannot believe that I felt bad about dumping bad news on such a

happy group. Who better to help me through my second loss than many

of you who helped me through my first! I cannot believe what we are

going through, it seems like a very bad dream. I had made it to what

I believed was 11 weeks this time, in a uterine pg, after seeing such

a strong heartbeat 3 weeks ago, and was just starting to feel like I

was actually going to have a baby to hold and love here, and like a

ton of bricks, the baby died at 8w5d, and I had no signs at all! The

EP was just as much as a shock, and now (although I made it through

the EP, and I am sure I will eventually make it through the m/c) it

just feels like that black hole again. But this time, although I have

gotten passed the fear of another EP hurdle, this is not as cut and

dry. We have no reasons for why this happened, and of course how can

I do anything but believe that its only going to happen again? The

dr will send some tissue to pathology, to rule out any genetic defect

or disease, but I know it might not come back with answers. So, the

wait begins again... the wait to finally feel like me again, to

finally have the hope back, the optimistic outlook, which right now

does not exist.

Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers. As said, D & C

(believe me, the word feels just as dirty as ECTOPIC) is scheduled

for 2pm eastern. I'll be posting as soon as I can.

Jen

[Guest guest]

Jen, I just wanted to say to you that you should NEVER feel guilty about "dumping" this news on us. We are here for the good and bad things. If there is anything at all that we can do for you, please do not hesitate to ask us. We will be here for you whenever you want us to. (((((((HUGS))))))) Amy Thank you! I cannot believe that I felt bad about dumping bad news on such a happy group. Who better to help me through my second loss than many of you who helped me through my first! I cannot believe what we are going through, it seems like a very bad dream. I had made it to what I believed was 11 weeks this time, in a uterine pg, after seeing such a strong heartbeat 3 weeks ago, and was just starting to feel like I was actually going to have a baby to hold and love here, and like a ton of bricks, the baby died at 8w5d, and I had no signs at all! The EP was just as much as a shock, and now (although I made it through the EP, and I am sure I will eventually make it through the m/c) it just feels like that black hole again. But this time, although I have gotten passed the fear of another EP hurdle, this is not as cut and dry. We have no reasons for why this happened, and of course how can I do anything but believe that its only going to happen again? The dr will send some tissue to pathology, to rule out any genetic defect or disease, but I know it might not come back with answers. So, the wait begins again... the wait to finally feel like me again, to finally have the hope back, the optimistic outlook, which right now does not exist. Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers. As said, D & C (believe me, the word feels just as dirty as ECTOPIC) is scheduled for 2pm eastern. I'll be posting as soon as I can.Jen

[Guest guest]

Jen,

I'm so very sorry sweetie. As I read your post I can feel the pain you are suffering. I know this because I have been exactly where you are right now. I suffered a m/c after the ep and nothing can prepare you for one loss after another. I remember sitting in the dr's office and him saying "I'm so sorry ..." That's all I heard, after that came screams of total, unbelievable pain. Like you my baby's heart just stopped beating. My dr also told me that they would send the tissue to be examined, but there was never any explanation for what happened. All I knew was I was in pain again.

I remember laying in the hallway of the hospital waiting to be taken in for my D & C - how I cried. That continued for many days. I just want you to know that there is still hope. Tessa is living proof of that. I will be thinking of you tomorrow and I'm sure shedding many tears as I am now. I will light a candle tomorrow morning for your angel.

If you need anything at all just let me know.

Love & hugs,

Jo-Ann

Thank you!

I cannot believe that I felt bad about dumping bad news on such a happy group. Who better to help me through my second loss than many of you who helped me through my first! I cannot believe what we are going through, it seems like a very bad dream. I had made it to what I believed was 11 weeks this time, in a uterine pg, after seeing such a strong heartbeat 3 weeks ago, and was just starting to feel like I was actually going to have a baby to hold and love here, and like a ton of bricks, the baby died at 8w5d, and I had no signs at all! The EP was just as much as a shock, and now (although I made it through the EP, and I am sure I will eventually make it through the m/c) it just feels like that black hole again. But this time, although I have gotten passed the fear of another EP hurdle, this is not as cut and dry. We have no reasons for why this happened, and of course how can I do anything but believe that its only going to happen again? The dr will send some tissue to pathology, to rule out any genetic defect or disease, but I know it might not come back with answers. So, the wait begins again... the wait to finally feel like me again, to finally have the hope back, the optimistic outlook, which right now does not exist. Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers. As said, D & C (believe me, the word feels just as dirty as ECTOPIC) is scheduled for 2pm eastern. I'll be posting as soon as I can.Jen

[Guest guest]

Jen,

I just wanted to tell you how sorry I am for you. I too like you lost my

second baby to a miscarriage. I felt all the same things you did (happy to

have a uterine pg, thinking everything was fine and then devastation) But

stay strong. My sweetheart was conceived 2 months after my miscarriage. My

doctor told me after my miscarriage that at least we know that I can achieve

a uterine pg. I know that doesn't help with the mourning of your sweet

angel but I hope I gave you some hope for the future that you will have a

baby here on earth with you soon.

Take care,

Dawn

(almost 8 months)

[Guest guest]

Sometimes there are no words for a person to shew they care...this is one of them! So I am sending you and dh one GREAT big {{{{{{{{HHHHHUUUUGGGGSSSSS}}}}}}}}}

You are in my thoughts and prayers!!

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>From: " Marie D'Alessio"

>Reply-To: PregnancyBabiesAfterEctopic >To: PregnancyBabiesAfterEctopic >Subject: Thank you! >Date: Wed, 09 May 2001 02:57:39 -0000 > >I cannot believe that I felt bad about dumping bad news on such a >happy group. Who better to help me through my second loss than many >of you who helped me through my first! I cannot believe what we are >going through, it seems like a very bad dream. I had made it to what >I believed was 11 weeks this time, in a uterine pg, after seeing such >a strong heartbeat 3 weeks ago, and was just starting to feel like I >was actually going to have a baby to hold and love here, and like a >ton of bricks, the baby died at 8w5d, and I had no signs at all! The >EP was just as much as a shock, and now (although I made it through >the EP, and I am sure I will eventually make it through the m/c) it >just feels like that black hole again. But this time, although I have >gotten passed the fear of another EP hurdle, this is not as cut and >dry. We have no reasons for why this happened, and of course how can >I do anything but believe that its only going to happen again? The >dr will send some tissue to pathology, to rule out any genetic defect >or disease, but I know it might not come back with answers. So, the >wait begins again... the wait to finally feel like me again, to >finally have the hope back, the optimistic outlook, which right now >does not exist. >Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers. As said, D & C >(believe me, the word feels just as dirty as ECTOPIC) is scheduled >for 2pm eastern. I'll be posting as soon as I can. >Jen > Get your FREE download of MSN Explorer at http://explorer.msn.com

[Guest guest]

Jen,

You will be in my thoughts and prayers today. I am sorry that you are

going through this rough time.

Kim R.

[Guest guest]

Oh Jen -

I am sorry you are facing loss again. At least you are not facing it

alone. We are here to offer you support and help bring your optimism

back to life. I am sure it will come back. You will hear from many

women in this group who were in your exact situation, but now have

happy healthy children. This will happen to you too, I truly believe

it.

a

[Guest guest]

Jen,

I feel for you!! What a terrible thing to happen. Like Jo-Ann and

yourself, I lost a baby at 11 weeks too. I hadn't been to the dr. yet

so I don't know if there was ever a heartbeat, I just started bleeding,

but not bad and the cramping was almost non-existant. I couldn't

believe that I was actually loosing the baby. By the time that I had an

ultrasound I had already lost the baby. They sent the tissue in but I

never did get a result except that it was fetal tissue. Take care of

yourself. I know what it feels like at the point you are at, and you are

right, it will get better. Just give yourself some time, and talk about

it all you want, that is part of the healing process. Take care,

Vicki

Marie D'Alessio wrote:

>

> I cannot believe that I felt bad about dumping bad news on such a

> happy group. Who better to help me through my second loss than many

> of you who helped me through my first! I cannot believe what we are

> going through, it seems like a very bad dream. I had made it to what

> I believed was 11 weeks this time, in a uterine pg, after seeing such

> a strong heartbeat 3 weeks ago, and was just starting to feel like I

> was actually going to have a baby to hold and love here, and like a

> ton of bricks, the baby died at 8w5d, and I had no signs at all! The

> EP was just as much as a shock, and now (although I made it through

> the EP, and I am sure I will eventually make it through the m/c) it

> just feels like that black hole again. But this time, although I have

> gotten passed the fear of another EP hurdle, this is not as cut and

> dry. We have no reasons for why this happened, and of course how can

> I do anything but believe that its only going to happen again? The

> dr will send some tissue to pathology, to rule out any genetic defect

> or disease, but I know it might not come back with answers. So, the

> wait begins again... the wait to finally feel like me again, to

> finally have the hope back, the optimistic outlook, which right now

> does not exist.

> Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers. As said, D & C

> (believe me, the word feels just as dirty as ECTOPIC) is scheduled

> for 2pm eastern. I'll be posting as soon as I can.

> Jen

>

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