Guest guest Posted December 14, 2007 Report Share Posted December 14, 2007 Ya know, I used to always be the one to make contact in many of my relationships, including some of my family. I finally got really tired of always putting forth the effort with never any reciprocation on the other persons side. Now days, if it is not a give and take relationship where we both are doing the contacting than I don't really bother busting my ass to try and make a relationship that the other person has no desire to have. I used to take it personally, but now days I just realize that we all have busy lives and have to prioritize, including our relationships. I guess it used to be my need to be loved/liked so desperately. Now that I have learned to love and like myself for the way I am I don't need those people in my life that don't want to have a give and take relationship. --Alana -------------- Original message -------------- Almost all of our contacts were generated by me - she seldom wrote orphoned, missed my birthday, never sent a Christmas card etc. When Imoved and she had missed my 50th birthday, and hadn't written orcalled in nearly 1 year!, I sent her a birthday card WITHOUT a returnaddress, wishing her well, but noting that our friendship must have'died' as she didn't even know where I was nor seemed to care. Neverheard back and as far as I know, she never made any attempt to 'find'me either. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 14, 2007 Report Share Posted December 14, 2007 EXACTLY! Life is too short to be doing all the giving and not getting some bit in return. We need to give to OURSELVES as much as we do for others. That is a gift for everyone really as it fulfills ourselves properly and makes us an even better 'resource' for others when we chose to do that. ehugs, Katcha > > Ya know, I used to always be the one to make contact in many of my relationships, including some of my family. I finally got really tired of always putting forth the effort with never any reciprocation on the other persons side. Now days, if it is not a give and take relationship where we both are doing the contacting than I don't really bother busting my ass to try and make a relationship that the other person has no desire to have. I used to take it personally, but now days I just realize that we all have busy lives and have to prioritize, including our relationships. I guess it used to be my need to be loved/liked so desperately. Now that I have learned to love and like myself for the way I am I don't need those people in my life that don't want to have a give and take relationship. > > -- > Alana > > -------------- Original message -------------- > > > > Almost all of our contacts were generated by me - she seldom wrote or > phoned, missed my birthday, never sent a Christmas card etc. When I > moved and she had missed my 50th birthday, and hadn't written or > called in nearly 1 year!, I sent her a birthday card WITHOUT a return > address, wishing her well, but noting that our friendship must have > 'died' as she didn't even know where I was nor seemed to care. Never > heard back and as far as I know, she never made any attempt to 'find' > me either. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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