Re: Self acceptance-Oh I hear ya.

[Guest guest]

I'm so with you on the MISuse of words like 'greed'!! Greed is a word

to note a SAD occurrence - when one fails themself! I have a big thing

about the word selfish in that it simply means to take care of one's

self. Yet it has been made negative by the added connotation of 'at

the expense of others' instead of the positive side of SELF

responsibility - GRRR!!! (don't get me started LOL!)

> >

> > I really have a bad feeling with the word greed. I

> > don't eat because I am greedy. That has such negative

> > connotations for me. I eat for lots of reasons but I

> > don't believe I eat because I am greedy. Greedy to me

> > means taking more than my share and not letting others

> > have any. I do not deprive anyone by eating more than

> > I should.

> >

> > Do I sound like I am making sense?

> >

> > Michele

>

[Guest guest]

Kudos! Fireworks! And bunches of Gold Stars!! I'm right with ya Ivy!!!

(even the 40+ # part :) - ehugs, Katcha

>

> This comes partly from some stuff people said here - and a lot from

some things I've seen

> on TV today.

>

> I am about 40 pounds overweight - by anyone's standards. But I can

say with all honesty I

> would rather stay this way and have a real life - a life free from

the sad obsession with

> food and worrying about every bite I eat and how I'm going to 'work

it off' and feeling

> 'guilt' about FOOD. How crazy is that to feel guilty for eating? Or

to be stick thin and have

> to spend hours at the gym trying to stay that way - to have my self

esteem tied up in not

> having a feminine form.

>

> To get one life and spend it on food. and at the end of my life have

what to show for it?

> Have done what with it? Enjoyed it how? lived, loved, laughed, had

adventures - or worried

> about exact amounts of carbohydrates or being an a 'zone' or what is

'clean' - what is

> WRONG with people that they think that is really important and is

something to judge a life

> over - their own or someone else's?? Are we going to put on our

tombstone ' she at clean'

> or 'she had 9 percent body fat' ?

>

> We're not talking about eating well enough to have a long healthy

life - this is not healthy

> and it's not life.

>

> It makes me so sad to think that their are soooo many people for

whom this IS their life.

> And there are a lot of people feeding this obsession and making

money off them. I wish I

> could box IE up and give it to everyone for christmas.

>

> A bunch of steroids and forty pounds can only ruin my happiness and

my life if I let them.

> And I'm sure as heck not letting them.

[Guest guest]

As do we all! In fact I am feeling that the back-tracking for our

thinking is more difficult than the actual eating part. (And certainly

the eating is much more fun too ;-) Glad to have you 'hanging in

there' with us too. ehugs, Katcha

>

> I know I should just trust the process, but I have a lot

> self-talking and healing to do to feel comfortable on the IE path...

[Guest guest]

I was thinking about it last night - and I'll bet according to that mysterious

'they' out there -

I'm probably 50 pounds overweight.

>

> Kudos! Fireworks! And bunches of Gold Stars!! I'm right with ya Ivy!!!

> (even the 40+ # part :) - ehugs, Katcha

[Guest guest]

Michele Hagenlock wrote:

> I have not accepted myself at the weight I am. I do

> not want to be 330 pounds the rest of my life. So I

> think your statement might be right for some of us but

> I don't think it applies to all.

Exactly. I don't want to be 250 lbs or so for the rest of my life. It's

just not possible to accept this. This is not about " wanting to lose

these 15 lbs " .

However, I have accepted that I am not able to change things overnight

and that it will take time and that perfection is not possible.

Regards

s.

[Guest guest]

Michele Hagenlock wrote:

> I really have a bad feeling with the word greed. I

> don't eat because I am greedy. That has such negative

> connotations for me. I eat for lots of reasons but I

> don't believe I eat because I am greedy. Greedy to me

> means taking more than my share and not letting others

> have any. I do not deprive anyone by eating more than

> I should.

>

> Do I sound like I am making sense?

Yes, I hate the word " greed " , too. It just adds to the negativity I

already feel towards my overeating and interferes with developing

compassion for my need to overeat.

Regards

s.

[Guest guest]

julieca84 wrote:

> I believe that one must learn to be content with

> satisfaction versus overstuffed and that means learning to be less greedy.

IMO it means learning to find other ways to cope with life so one

doesn't need overeating anymore to do so.

Regards

s.

[Guest guest]

Hi guys, Okay, I'll chime in on the "self acceptance" thing. To me, self acceptance does not mean accepting your weight. It means loving yourself anyway. It means "accepting" that right now, I have a body that carries some extra weight because I used food for a reason other than just nourishment. It means understanding that my "self" is more than my physical appearance, and being able to focus on the positive things about me and not focus on the negative. I believe that thoughts become things, and that when I look at my weight negatively, as something I hate, or something wrong, then I'm only going to keep the weight on. Once I see the weight as a result of something-- for me it was a result of the fact that I had not forgiven myself for some things in my past and I overate to block out the feelings-- I can begin to see it for its good purpose. I can THANK my fat for being there to insulate me and protect me

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[Guest guest]

Wow, Traci, this is exactly what I needed to read right now!

Barbara

Hi guys,

Okay, I'll chime in on the " self acceptance " thing. To me, self acceptance does not mean accepting your weight. It means loving yourself anyway. It means " accepting " that right now, I have a body that carries some extra weight because I used food for a reason other than just nourishment. It means understanding that my " self " is more than my physical appearance, and being able to focus on the positive things about me and not focus on the negative.

I believe that thoughts become things, and that when I look at my weight negatively, as something I hate, or something wrong, then I'm only going to keep the weight on. Once I see the weight as a result of something-- for me it was a result of the fact that I had not forgiven myself for some things in my past and I overate to block out the feelings-- I can begin to see it for its good purpose. I can THANK my fat for being there to insulate me and protect me when I needed it, and accept that I am slowly getting strong enough to not need it anymore.

Want to lose weight, build wealth, write a book, or another goal? Enroll in one of Dr Traci's You-niversity programs. Visit

www.drtraci.com to achieve your goals!(¯`v´¯)`*.¸.*´ ¸.•´¸.•*¨) ¸.•*¨(¸.•´ (¸.•´ Traci

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[Guest guest]

THAT is exactly what I meant to get across in my original post! I

suppose I worded everything wrong and it's not that I necessarily want

to accept the weight I'm at forever, I just want to accept the fact

that this is the weight I am at for the time being and I want to be

able to love myself anyway. I know that beating up on myself over it

isn't going to make it go away, so I wanted to know HOW I accept

myself for who I am so that way I can start treating myself better and

allow my body to fall to it's " natural " weight, which I know it is not

at right now yet I also know it's not 20 pounds less (which is where

my mind wants it to be).

Thank you for this post...it was very helpful :]

>

> Hi guys,

>

> Okay, I'll chime in on the " self acceptance " thing. To me, self

acceptance does not mean accepting your weight. It means loving

yourself anyway. It means " accepting " that right now, I have a body

that carries some extra weight because I used food for a reason other

than just nourishment. It means understanding that my " self " is more

than my physical appearance, and being able to focus on the positive

things about me and not focus on the negative.

>

> I believe that thoughts become things, and that when I look at my

weight negatively, as something I hate, or something wrong, then I'm

only going to keep the weight on. Once I see the weight as a result of

something-- for me it was a result of the fact that I had not forgiven

myself for some things in my past and I overate to block out the

feelings-- I can begin to see it for its good purpose. I can THANK my

fat for being there to insulate me and protect me when I needed it,

and accept that I am slowly getting strong enough to not need it anymore.

>

>

>

>

> Want to lose weight, build wealth, write a book, or another goal?

Enroll in one of Dr Traci's You-niversity programs. Visit

www.drtraci.com to achieve your goals!

>

>

> (¯`v´¯)

> `*.¸.*´

> ¸.•´¸.•*¨) ¸.•*¨

> (¸.•´ (¸.•´ Traci

>

> ---------------------------------

> Never miss a thing. Make Yahoo your homepage.

>

[Guest guest]

> so I wanted to know HOW I accept

> myself for who I am so that way I can start treating myself better and

> allow my body to fall to it's " natural " weight, which I know it is not

> at right now yet I also know it's not 20 pounds less (which is where

> my mind wants it to be).

Have you read When Women Stop Hating Their Bodies? I found it very

helpful, very thought-provoking.

~Jen S.

[Guest guest]

I haven't read it, but I will look into it. Thanks!

> > so I wanted to know HOW I accept

> > myself for who I am so that way I can start treating myself better and

> > allow my body to fall to it's " natural " weight, which I know it is not

> > at right now yet I also know it's not 20 pounds less (which is where

> > my mind wants it to be).

>

> Have you read When Women Stop Hating Their Bodies? I found it very

> helpful, very thought-provoking.

>

> ~Jen S.

>

[Guest guest]

" To get one life and spend it on food. and at the end of my life have

what to

show for it?

Have done what with it? Enjoyed it how? lived, loved, laughed, had

adventures -

or worried

about exact amounts of carbohydrates or being an a 'zone' or what

is 'clean' -

what is

WRONG with people that they think that is really important and is

something to

judge a life

over - their own or someone else's?? Are we going to put on our

tombstone ' she

at clean'

or 'she had 9 percent body fat' ? "

This is one of the most beautiful things I have ever read. I am

going to print it out and keep it with me. I don't want to waste

another minute of my prescious life on food.

Thanks,

Jodie