bear with me for another Kara post

[Guest guest]

First of all - this isn't 'bearing with you' this is what this list

is for!!!

secondly - sounds great!! don't take any shit, tell her how it's

gonna be! cool!

KErri

>

> At this moment, this is the proposed approach:

>

> Kara, I understand that you have priorities -- your full-time job,

your family, your boyfriend -- and that right now they all come

first. That's fine. But IS my job and he IS my family and he

IS my priority and he is going to get every hour of service he's

entitled to.

>

> Yes, I know you're trying your best (ha) but he needs more, and

four hours a week doesn't seem doable for you right now. So this is

what I propose:

>

> We hired you because you had skills and knowledge and training we

didn't have and could do therapies with him. But now you're taking

him to your mom's to watch videos, or to the jiffy lube, or making

cookies with him. Those are things we already do! Anyone can do

that! We're paying you for your expertise with autism, not to be a

babysitter. So this is what I think: we are going to cut your hours

down to two hhours a week -- that should be doable, shouldn't it? --

and I want those two hours to be about OT, PT, and academics. The

other two hours I am going to give to Vicki and Amber to practice

social skills and play skills. I will give you BOTH detailed agendas.

>

> (at this point, I expect her to protest that she CAN do four hours

a week)

>

> Well, if you find that some weeks you CAN work more hours, just let

me know -- and we'll pay you out of the respite fund.

>

>

>

> What do you think?

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

At this moment, this is the proposed approach:

Kara, I understand that you have priorities -- your full-time job, your family,

your boyfriend -- and that right now they all come first. That's fine. But

IS my job and he IS my family and he IS my priority and he is going to get

every hour of service he's entitled to.

Yes, I know you're trying your best (ha) but he needs more, and four hours a

week doesn't seem doable for you right now. So this is what I propose:

We hired you because you had skills and knowledge and training we didn't have

and could do therapies with him. But now you're taking him to your mom's to

watch videos, or to the jiffy lube, or making cookies with him. Those are

things we already do! Anyone can do that! We're paying you for your

expertise with autism, not to be a babysitter. So this is what I think: we are

going to cut your hours down to two hhours a week -- that should be doable,

shouldn't it? -- and I want those two hours to be about OT, PT, and academics.

The other two hours I am going to give to Vicki and Amber to practice social

skills and play skills. I will give you BOTH detailed agendas.

(at this point, I expect her to protest that she CAN do four hours a week)

Well, if you find that some weeks you CAN work more hours, just let me know --

and we'll pay you out of the respite fund.

What do you think?

[Guest guest]

I'm sorry to hear you are still having a problem with this. But

it sounds great to me. Hope you get some results this time.

cinnamon

In parenting_autism@y..., " The Hunny Family " <vhunnius@l...> wrote:

>

> At this moment, this is the proposed approach:

>

> Kara, I understand that you have priorities -- your full-time job,

your family, your boyfriend -- and that right now they all come

first. That's fine. But IS my job and he IS my family and he

IS my priority and he is going to get every hour of service he's

entitled to.

>

> Yes, I know you're trying your best (ha) but he needs more, and

four hours a week doesn't seem doable for you right now. So this is

what I propose:

>

> We hired you because you had skills and knowledge and training we

didn't have and could do therapies with him. But now you're taking

him to your mom's to watch videos, or to the jiffy lube, or making

cookies with him. Those are things we already do! Anyone can do

that! We're paying you for your expertise with autism, not to be a

babysitter. So this is what I think: we are going to cut your hours

down to two hhours a week -- that should be doable, shouldn't it? --

and I want those two hours to be about OT, PT, and academics. The

other two hours I am going to give to Vicki and Amber to practice

social skills and play skills. I will give you BOTH detailed agendas.

>

> (at this point, I expect her to protest that she CAN do four hours

a week)

>

> Well, if you find that some weeks you CAN work more hours, just let

me know -- and we'll pay you out of the respite fund.

>

>

>

> What do you think?

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I think this is totally fair..well..actually you are

being alot nicer than most people would. Hopefully,

Kara will realize that if she doesn't take this job

seriously..she will no longer be part of 's life.

Mimi

--- The Hunny Family wrote:

>

> At this moment, this is the proposed approach:

>

> Kara, I understand that you have priorities -- your

> full-time job, your family, your boyfriend -- and

> that right now they all come first. That's fine.

> But IS my job and he IS my family and he IS my

> priority and he is going to get every hour of

> service he's entitled to.

>

> Yes, I know you're trying your best (ha) but he

> needs more, and four hours a week doesn't seem

> doable for you right now. So this is what I

> propose:

>

> We hired you because you had skills and knowledge

> and training we didn't have and could do therapies

> with him. But now you're taking him to your mom's

> to watch videos, or to the jiffy lube, or making

> cookies with him. Those are things we already do!

> Anyone can do that! We're paying you for your

> expertise with autism, not to be a babysitter. So

> this is what I think: we are going to cut your

> hours down to two hhours a week -- that should be

> doable, shouldn't it? -- and I want those two hours

> to be about OT, PT, and academics. The other two

> hours I am going to give to Vicki and Amber to

> practice social skills and play skills. I will give

> you BOTH detailed agendas.

>

> (at this point, I expect her to protest that she CAN

> do four hours a week)

>

> Well, if you find that some weeks you CAN work more

> hours, just let me know -- and we'll pay you out of

> the respite fund.

>

>

>

> What do you think?

>

>

> [Non-text portions of this message have been

> removed]

>

>

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[Guest guest]

Sounds good to me. Very reasonable and well thought out. Just remember to stay

calm and objective, even if she gets upset.

Tuna

bear with me for another Kara post

At this moment, this is the proposed approach:

Kara, I understand that you have priorities -- your full-time job, your family,

your boyfriend -- and that right now they all come first. That's fine. But

IS my job and he IS my family and he IS my priority and he is going to get

every hour of service he's entitled to.

Yes, I know you're trying your best (ha) but he needs more, and four hours a

week doesn't seem doable for you right now. So this is what I propose:

We hired you because you had skills and knowledge and training we didn't have

and could do therapies with him. But now you're taking him to your mom's to

watch videos, or to the jiffy lube, or making cookies with him. Those are

things we already do! Anyone can do that! We're paying you for your

expertise with autism, not to be a babysitter. So this is what I think: we are

going to cut your hours down to two hhours a week -- that should be doable,

shouldn't it? -- and I want those two hours to be about OT, PT, and academics.

The other two hours I am going to give to Vicki and Amber to practice social

skills and play skills. I will give you BOTH detailed agendas.

(at this point, I expect her to protest that she CAN do four hours a week)

Well, if you find that some weeks you CAN work more hours, just let me know --

and we'll pay you out of the respite fund.

What do you think?

[Guest guest]

sounds good

I'M THANKFUL FOR LAUGHTER, JOY AND THE HIGH SPIRITED GLEE THAT FILLS MY HEART TO

OVERFLOWING (SIGH).

-EEYORE

bear with me for another Kara post

At this moment, this is the proposed approach:

Kara, I understand that you have priorities -- your full-time job, your

family, your boyfriend -- and that right now they all come first. That's fine.

But IS my job and he IS my family and he IS my priority and he is going to

get every hour of service he's entitled to.

Yes, I know you're trying your best (ha) but he needs more, and four hours a

week doesn't seem doable for you right now. So this is what I propose:

We hired you because you had skills and knowledge and training we didn't have

and could do therapies with him. But now you're taking him to your mom's to

watch videos, or to the jiffy lube, or making cookies with him. Those are

things we already do! Anyone can do that! We're paying you for your

expertise with autism, not to be a babysitter. So this is what I think: we are

going to cut your hours down to two hhours a week -- that should be doable,

shouldn't it? -- and I want those two hours to be about OT, PT, and academics.

The other two hours I am going to give to Vicki and Amber to practice social

skills and play skills. I will give you BOTH detailed agendas.

(at this point, I expect her to protest that she CAN do four hours a week)

Well, if you find that some weeks you CAN work more hours, just let me know --

and we'll pay you out of the respite fund.

What do you think?

[Guest guest]

Jacquie, I think that sounds great. But I would have Kara, Marc and yourself

sign it so that she knows you mean business.

Lori

bear with me for another Kara post

At this moment, this is the proposed approach:

Kara, I understand that you have priorities -- your full-time job, your

family, your boyfriend -- and that right now they all come first. That's fine.

But IS my job and he IS my family and he IS my priority and he is going to

get every hour of service he's entitled to.

Yes, I know you're trying your best (ha) but he needs more, and four hours a

week doesn't seem doable for you right now. So this is what I propose:

We hired you because you had skills and knowledge and training we didn't have

and could do therapies with him. But now you're taking him to your mom's to

watch videos, or to the jiffy lube, or making cookies with him. Those are

things we already do! Anyone can do that! We're paying you for your

expertise with autism, not to be a babysitter. So this is what I think: we are

going to cut your hours down to two hhours a week -- that should be doable,

shouldn't it? -- and I want those two hours to be about OT, PT, and academics.

The other two hours I am going to give to Vicki and Amber to practice social

skills and play skills. I will give you BOTH detailed agendas.

(at this point, I expect her to protest that she CAN do four hours a week)

Well, if you find that some weeks you CAN work more hours, just let me know --

and we'll pay you out of the respite fund.

What do you think?

[Guest guest]

I think you should leave it at 2 hours a week for her and 2 hours for Vicki,

period.

don't leave it open ended.

I think that's a fair compromise if you don't want to fire her altogether.

Penny