Re: Off Topic - really frustrated/annoyed/ and upset --- DANA

[Guest guest]

Hey Dana,

The whole car crashing scene was a nightmare! She showed up here around 11:00 pm during the summer (a few years ago). and I were upstairs asleep. I woke up hearing someone yell profanities, Sam and I came down the steps at the same time. She took large landscaping rocks and threw them at the front door, then threw a few at my car, ripping the convertible top. By that time, and I were on the front step and saw her jump in her car, floor it in reverse and ram my car, then she did it again. I was trying to keep from running into the driveway because I was afraid she would get run over.

Sam ended up jumping into the car with her mother and they took off. called a friend who's in charge of the local police, he told us to go file a police report and sent a few detectives out to find her. They found her a few blocks from the house and brought her into the police station while we were still there. We pressed charges and so did the state. They would not allow me to press my own charges because they said it was a domestic violence and I was just the victim! (I can't begin to say how much that infuriated me!!!).

Anyway, agreed to drop his charges if she paid for all repairs to my car, repairs to his car (which was on the other side of the garage door), all legal fees, and two garage doors (had to get two because we couldn't match the door she ruined). She paid our bills, but refused to pay her own attorney, who then sued her also. The state never dropped their charges so she had to do some sort of community service, see a psychiatrist, and pay a bunch of fines.

2 weeks earlier.....

She came into the house, through an unlocked front door, ran up to our bedroom and proceeded to smash everything in sight!

Doesn't this sound just wonderful! Now, supposedly, she's planning on a nice little verbal attack at the shower. Which is why she doesn't want there. I've already told him that I will not attend without him; that I would feel like I was condoning behavior that I don't agree with! Now, I'd rather go maternity shopping, or scrub the floor with a toothbrush, or anything! Just not be there....

maria

edd 11/10/01

Re: Off Topic - really frustrated/annoyed/ and upset --- I can't deal...

, YIKES, how crazy is your life feeling about now?? 's ex wrecked your car through the garage door and trashed your bedroom??? OMG, like do you need a restraining order she sounds pretty psycho. And do you want to go to the bridal shower or could you bow out claiming you don't feel well? I feel so sorry for you. As if trying to deal with the mood swings of pg, you have this whole mess thrown at you, and it has to make it worse that doesn't see it the way you do. But then again, that's the way many people handle conflict. They feel more comfortable denying anything is going on thinking that if they say something they will be making things worse, completely not realizing that it won't just go away if you don't talk about it. I am so hoping you can get things worked out in some kind of way that you don't get ambushed at the shower. Would go with you anyway? I would be afraid to go alone (but that's just me). I don't know what to say to make you feel any better, but I do hate you are going through so much at the most special time in your life. Dana

[Guest guest]

Dana,

I forgot to mention that everything should be fine at the wedding and Sam's graduation because her boyfriend will be present. She won't take a chance of scarring him off with her behavior.

maria

Re: Off Topic - really frustrated/annoyed/ and upset ---

, For god's sake she's not only crazy she's dangerous. Please don't go without ...she's lunatic and there's no telling what she might pull. I don't care what you have to do to get out of it, little white lie never hurt anyone. You poor dear, what a traumatic experience to go through. YIKES, I'd steer clear of her whenever possible. Dana 7 weeks

[Guest guest]

Hey Dana,

Actually the pregnancy should raise quite a still! Neither girl is excited over the prospect of a baby brother or sister, but that's too bad! Cyndy will completely freak, depending how soon I "show", she might not know I'm pregnant till the wedding. We planned the seating so I'm surrounded by big guys who would like nothing more than to get in her (or her families) path. It's a shame we have to think that way, but I'm not taking any chances with this pregnancy. While feels everyone will be on their best behavior, I don't agree, especially with alcohol present. Her family has a history of violence and chemical abuse. As long as I'm well surrounded, there's nothing they can do. They also know if they try anything again, they go to jail this time (straight from the police captain's mouth)!

and , her fiance, are coming down tonight. We're planning on telling them after they arrive and telling , if she's here at the same time, or calling her with the news. Sam's actually much better about it. While she professes not to like children, she did have a great time teasing me during our last pregnancy every time we went past pizza, icecream, or any other form of "pregnancy" food.

should be another story. Last time, she ran out of the room crying and hasn't ever mentioned the pregnancy or surgery to me to this day! was very excited, but he's always covering for her.

So much for family happiness....

maria

10w 6d

Re: Off Topic - really frustrated/annoyed/ and upset ---

, I didn't realize that didn't know you were pg. That should put an end to the whole controversy. You know she will understand. As far as her mother goes....what a whacko!! That's really scary, and I can't imagine having to deal with someone like that. You poor thing, avoid her like the plague, no sense fueling an out of control fire. Dana 7weeks 1 day