Guest guest Posted June 18, 2001 Report Share Posted June 18, 2001 Hi Jody- They don't take tonsils and appendixes out routinely like they did before. They recognize that tonsils have immune function. I had to fight like the dickens to get my tonsils out (after numerous bouts of strep) when I was 16. By that time, my tonsils were really huge, diseased and ugly. For me, it was a cost-benefit thing. After they were removed, I no longer had constant sore throats. Plus, my mom was pretty worried because my dad had had rheumatic fever. And it didn't take long for him to progress from strep to rheumatic fever. It used to be that if they had to do abdominal surgery on a patient, they would automatically take out the appendix. They now usually reserve that for appendicitis. They probably used to do it so often before because it was so serious at one time. I know my mom got appendicitis when she was 6. It got so infected that her appendix ruptured and she ended up with gangrene. The poor little thing had to lay in the hospital with an open tummy for 1 or 2 months to drain her abdominal cavity. They were sure she would die, but she pulled through. Anyhow, medicine is changing constantly as it should. They keep finding out more and more. Take care, Re: Can you have Hashi's and Graves at the same time? > OMG! And they just burned them out in babies...what on earth were they > thinking?!...Never mind, it is obvious they weren't thinking period! > > I still can't help but wonder what they will figure out about the tonsils > and apendix 50 years from now...or even if they would even admit it then. > Jody > _________________________________________________________________ > Get your FREE download of MSN Explorer at http://explorer.msn.com > > > ------------------------------------- > The Graves' list is intended for informational purposes only and is not intended to replace expert medical care. > Please consult your doctor before changing or trying new treatments. > ---------------------------------------- > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 19, 2001 Report Share Posted June 19, 2001 Thank you Elaine. I will send you a reminder after next week as I'll be on vacation until 7/2. Doris Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 19, 2001 Report Share Posted June 19, 2001 , According to many reports, that's the case for autoimmune hyperthyoidism. There's an initial period of hypothyroidism that often isn't noticed, although it can be severe and last for years. that's why many GD patients report having had eating disorders, or a lot of experience with dieting. The initial period of hyperthyroidism in hypothyroidism is common but doesn't occur in all patients. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 19, 2001 Report Share Posted June 19, 2001 It is Hashitoxicosis. That is my understanding of people with Hashis who have hyper periods. I still have no online references for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 19, 2001 Report Share Posted June 19, 2001 Hi , They still routinely remove appendix here with abdominal surgery. I know 3 people personally that had them removed this past year (1 just last week). They want to take my soon to be 5 year old grandsons tonsils out now because of sleep apnea and very bad snoring. For him I think it needs to be done, his apnea is bad. In some more metro areas they may hold off, but not here...then I guess Cleveland Clinic doesn't call town " Death Valley " for nothing. Talk to you later, Jody _________________________________________________________________ Get your FREE download of MSN Explorer at http://explorer.msn.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 19, 2001 Report Share Posted June 19, 2001 Hi Jody- Hmmm. Well, if it's any comfort, our appendix is vestigial and doesn't seem to serve any purpose that they know of. A functioning one removes poisons. In herbivores (who eat lots of toxins), it's huge while in carnivores, it's smaller (still eat toxins but not nearly as many). In us, it's really tiny and we're probably evolving not to have one at all (we rarely eat poisonous foods). For what it's worth, there may be some immunological purpose since it's made-up lymphoid tissue (I think). But patients that have them removed seem to do fine immunologically-perhaps something else takes over for it if it does have a function. Like I said it's a cost-benefit thing. Appendicitis is pretty common and can be deadly if allowed to progress too long. Tonsils are like a gatekeeper and screen out contagions where they first enter the body. But my immune system seems to be working a little too well even though I don't have them. I'm very rarely sick with contagious diseases. Take care, > Hi , > They still routinely remove appendix here with abdominal surgery. I know 3 > people personally that had them removed this past year (1 just last week). > > They want to take my soon to be 5 year old grandsons tonsils out now because > of sleep apnea and very bad snoring. For him I think it needs to be done, > his apnea is bad. > > In some more metro areas they may hold off, but not here...then I guess > Cleveland Clinic doesn't call town " Death Valley " for nothing. > Talk to you later, > Jody Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 19, 2001 Report Share Posted June 19, 2001 Hi , That is really interesting about the appendix! I had my tonsils removed at age 4 and they had grown back by age 13. I use to have strep a lot but it is so strange, with GD I hardly ever even get a cold anymore or a sore throat or earaches...all things I use to have during my twenty's on a regular basis. So here is another question, since GD is an auto immune disease, and auto immune diseases trend toward our immune systems not working so well, making us susceptible to bugs...how we, at least you and I (others out there?) aren't catching all these things that go around? Talk to you later, Jody _________________________________________________________________ Get your FREE download of MSN Explorer at http://explorer.msn.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 19, 2001 Report Share Posted June 19, 2001 Good question about the immune system...since being on ATD's(November 2000) I have been remarkably healthy...haven't had a single cold or anything...if Tap is an immunosuppressant, does that mean Icould be exposed to these virus's or bacteria and just not react to them? Not sure how this all works. Re: Can you have Hashi's and Graves at the same time? > Hi , > That is really interesting about the appendix! I had my tonsils removed at > age 4 and they had grown back by age 13. I use to have strep a lot but it > is so strange, with GD I hardly ever even get a cold anymore or a sore > throat or earaches...all things I use to have during my twenty's on a > regular basis. > > So here is another question, since GD is an auto immune disease, and auto > immune diseases trend toward our immune systems not working so well, making > us susceptible to bugs...how we, at least you and I (others out there?) > aren't catching all these things that go around? > Talk to you later, > Jody > _________________________________________________________________ > Get your FREE download of MSN Explorer at http://explorer.msn.com > > > ------------------------------------- > The Graves' list is intended for informational purposes only and is not intended to replace expert medical care. > Please consult your doctor before changing or trying new treatments. > ---------------------------------------- > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 19, 2001 Report Share Posted June 19, 2001 Hi Jody- I think it's just the opposite. I think those of us with autoimmune disease have an overly zealous immune system. So eager to attack anything foreign (which is what it was designed to do) that it sometimes " forgets " to differentiate between self-antigen and foreign-antigen. Probably because at one time we had a foreign antigen that had an epitope (the part of the antigen that our immune system would recognize) that are very similar or the same as some of our own. I have a couple of friends with autoimmune disease (lupus) and they're never sick with contagious diseases either. My friends with Hashimoto's don't get sick as long as they're not hypothyroid. I don't think it's that our immune systems don't work it's just that they make mistakes. Take care, > Hi , > That is really interesting about the appendix! I had my tonsils removed at > age 4 and they had grown back by age 13. I use to have strep a lot but it > is so strange, with GD I hardly ever even get a cold anymore or a sore > throat or earaches...all things I use to have during my twenty's on a > regular basis. > > So here is another question, since GD is an auto immune disease, and auto > immune diseases trend toward our immune systems not working so well, making > us susceptible to bugs...how we, at least you and I (others out there?) > aren't catching all these things that go around? > Talk to you later, > Jody Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 20, 2001 Report Share Posted June 20, 2001 elaine wrote: > , > According to many reports, that's the case for autoimmune hyperthyoidism. > There's an initial period of hypothyroidism that often isn't noticed, > although it can be severe and last for years. that's why many GD patients > report having had eating disorders, or a lot of experience with dieting. > > The initial period of hyperthyroidism in hypothyroidism is common but doesn't > occur in all patients. This info helps because I was wondering if my overwieght daughter could have Graves', as you know. I have experienced GD as very slimming. Never an ounce to spare. She has so many symptoms but hyper metabolism has never been one of them. She is very heavy and it is an effort to remain active for her. Interesting that extra weight as well as weight loss fits the diagnosis. At 31 she has indeed had excess weight for 10 years at least. Sometimes more sometimes less. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 20, 2001 Report Share Posted June 20, 2001 , with GD I hardly ever even get a cold anymore or a sore > throat or earaches...all things I use to have during my twenty's on a > regular basis. > you and I (others out there?) > aren't catching all these things that go around? > Talk to you later, > Jody Jody, I think I am fitting in here. I had repeated occurences of bronchitis in my 20s. I coughed so much I got an abdominal hernia. Every time I got a cold, it turned into bronchitis. And I kept catching colds. I have had colds but no bronchitis for 2 decades. I often do not come down with what I am exposed to, although I do sometimes. Hmm.. \ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 20, 2001 Report Share Posted June 20, 2001 Dear Jody and , I have been wondering that too - ever since I have been ill with this, I have hardly had a cold or a flu at all. It doesn't make sense to me - unless we have OVERACITVE IMMUNE systems, as well as overactive AUTOimmune systems? AT the very beginnning of my experience, I had a spell of about four months where I got a new cold every two weeks - the colds would turn into flu and put me in bed for two or three days and then I would get better for about a week before I caught the next one. Since then (March to May of 1999), I have hardly had any bugs at all. Partly I wonder if this is because I am taking it so easy looking after myself due to Graves' and in the worst times with hyper, I was on the sofa anyway!Cheers DAWN ROSE > >Reply-To: graves_support >To: graves_support >Subject: Re: Can you have Hashi's and Graves at the same >time? >Date: Tue, 19 Jun 2001 16:19:50 -0400 > >Hi , >That is really interesting about the appendix! I had my tonsils removed at >age 4 and they had grown back by age 13. I use to have strep a lot but it >is so strange, with GD I hardly ever even get a cold anymore or a sore >throat or earaches...all things I use to have during my twenty's on a >regular basis. > >So here is another question, since GD is an auto immune disease, and auto >immune diseases trend toward our immune systems not working so well, making >us susceptible to bugs...how we, at least you and I (others out there?) >aren't catching all these things that go around? >Talk to you later, >Jody >_________________________________________________________________ >Get your FREE download of MSN Explorer at http://explorer.msn.com > > >------------------------------------- >The Graves' list is intended for informational purposes only and is not >intended to replace expert medical care. >Please consult your doctor before changing or trying new treatments. >---------------------------------------- > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 20, 2001 Report Share Posted June 20, 2001 Hi , Did you ever think your daughter could be hypothyroid? She could have OK blood levels but have thyroid antibodies that prevent her cell receptors from benefiting from this hormone? And the dying thyroid cells could release enough hormone to give her the other symptoms you mention. This is a form of " silent hyperthyroidism, " or spontaneously recurring hyperthyroidism. Maybe you could have her ask her doc for the test for thyroglobulin antibodies. I have the same problem in that a few of my relatives have all the symptoms of hypoT, but their thyroid levels are normal. They never have had thyroid antibody tests, but they're overweight, on cholesterol lowering meds, and have been treated or are being treated for sleep apnea. In thryoid textbooks, there are always pictures of people with proptosis and hypothyroidism that look like they belong in my family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 20, 2001 Report Share Posted June 20, 2001 Hi Deb, Don't feel dumb! The guy was a salesman to make HIS money! You definately should feel cheated! Keep looking for the original policy and raise a stink. Ohio should also have a board to report insurance fraud to...do it! Maybe you can get some of your money back or they may cover your labs that have already been done. Take care, Jody _________________________________________________________________ Get your FREE download of MSN Explorer at http://explorer.msn.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 20, 2001 Report Share Posted June 20, 2001 Hi everyone, I had my tonsils removed when I was 13 after one round of throat infection, my tonsils grew back by the time I was 19. After having tonsils removed I was always getting sore throats, sinus infections (they were my big thing) and they would turn into bronchitis. About being sick after GD, well haven't been sick very often since changing from the first quack I went to. When I was pregnant and needed those medical records he wouldn't release them. So my husband dug through old receipts from our business and since we deducted medical expenses we had my doctor receipts. Now this first quack I went to dispensed medication from his medical center where he was the only doctor. In the state of PA. that was legal. Laying in bed during that time my husband and I went through every receipt wrote down every medication he gave me in a 5 yr. period. During that time we found an 18 month period right before I was diagnosed with GD that he had me on antibiotics. I was so sick at that time I really believe I had antibiotic induced colitis. Everytime I coughed he would give me an antibiotic. He told me something was wrong with my immune system. LOL! yeah he messed it up with all the antibiotics. In 1997 when I had henry was the first winter I wasn't sick all winter for 3 or 4 yrs. I even had bronchitis when I was pregnant. My new doctor I started going to right before I was pregnant told my husband he was worried that if I got one of those super infections my immune system was so low that he didn't think I would be able to fight it. I am the opposite from the rest of you, but I had help from that quack doctor and all his antibiotics. On another note about health insurance. We went with that new company last year when Chuck had to change jobs. I waited 7-1/2 months to go to my doctor visit because it wasn't covered for 6 months and didn't want to rush it. Found out they are a surgical/medical policy. And of course I can't find the application we filled out. Anyways they will not cover my lab tests. I just received a bill from my Feb. lab tests that they aren't covered. We feel we were ripped off, the only thing the man told us that sold us the policy was that doctor visits weren't covered, NEVER did he tell us we were buying a surgical/medical policy. He had papers he went over with everything, left us a rough draft and took those papers when he left. I didn't think nothing of it then. Oh well, you live and learn. So when I go for lab tests, there's no way I can do all of them everytime. I even held off my pap test and mammogram and when Chuck gets laid off this winter was going to have the bone scan, pap test, mammogram and the heart ultrasound done (darn my mind quit working can't think of what they call the heart ultrasound). Here I didn't want to do everything when we first took out the policy. LOL! I wasn't covered anyhow. Sorry just wanted to vent a little bit, makes you feel cheated and dumb. Debbie R. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 21, 2001 Report Share Posted June 21, 2001 Ah Elaine, What a great gal you are! My family doesn't look that beautiful, either... Yes, as a matter of fact i posted my thoughts about my daughter being hypo somewhere yesterday. I have a question. Should I be mad at her for rarely helping in the kitchen or with housework? I feel like she is taking advantge of me but maybe she really can't help it... Thanks for the advice on the test. I will make a note of it in case we ever get to the place where her doctor will test her. I am hoping to get her in to see Greenspan. He might be interested in a mother-daughter case. Not exactly rare, I am sure. > Hi , > Did you ever think your daughter could be hypothyroid? She could have OK > blood levels but have thyroid antibodies that prevent her cell receptors from > benefiting from this hormone? And the dying thyroid cells could release > enough hormone to give her the other symptoms you mention. This is a form of > " silent hyperthyroidism, " or spontaneously recurring hyperthyroidism. Maybe > you could have her ask her doc for the test for thyroglobulin antibodies. > > I have the same problem in that a few of my relatives have all the symptoms > of hypoT, but their thyroid levels are normal. They never have had thyroid > antibody tests, but they're overweight, on cholesterol lowering meds, and > have been treated or are being treated for sleep apnea. In thryoid textbooks, > there are always pictures of people with proptosis and hypothyroidism that > look like they belong in my family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 21, 2001 Report Share Posted June 21, 2001 Dear Debbie Ventilation is good for the soul - so go for it girl!!!! Can you get copies of the paperwork that *saleman* took with him? Is it possible to transfer the plan to one more suitable for your needs? I must say the system in the USA sounds like a minefield. Cheers Caroline Riley wrote: > Hi everyone, > > I had my tonsils removed when I was 13 after one round of throat infection, > my tonsils grew back by the time I was 19. After having tonsils removed I > was always getting sore throats, sinus infections (they were my big thing) > and they would turn into bronchitis. > > About being sick after GD, well haven't been sick very often since changing > from the first quack I went to. When I was pregnant and needed those > medical records he wouldn't release them. So my husband dug through old > receipts from our business and since we deducted medical expenses we had my > doctor receipts. Now this first quack I went to dispensed medication from > his medical center where he was the only doctor. In the state of PA. that > was legal. Laying in bed during that time my husband and I went through > every receipt wrote down every medication he gave me in a 5 yr. period. > During that time we found an 18 month period right before I was diagnosed > with GD that he had me on antibiotics. I was so sick at that time I really > believe I had antibiotic induced colitis. Everytime I coughed he would give > me an antibiotic. He told me something was wrong with my immune system. > LOL! yeah he messed it up with all the antibiotics. In 1997 when I had > henry was the first winter I wasn't sick all winter for 3 or 4 yrs. I > even had bronchitis when I was pregnant. My new doctor I started going to > right before I was pregnant told my husband he was worried that if I got one > of those super infections my immune system was so low that he didn't think I > would be able to fight it. I am the opposite from the rest of you, but I > had help from that quack doctor and all his antibiotics. > > On another note about health insurance. We went with that new company last > year when Chuck had to change jobs. I waited 7-1/2 months to go to my > doctor visit because it wasn't covered for 6 months and didn't want to rush > it. Found out they are a surgical/medical policy. And of course I can't > find the application we filled out. Anyways they will not cover my lab > tests. I just received a bill from my Feb. lab tests that they aren't > covered. We feel we were ripped off, the only thing the man told us that > sold us the policy was that doctor visits weren't covered, NEVER did he tell > us we were buying a surgical/medical policy. He had papers he went over > with everything, left us a rough draft and took those papers when he left. > I didn't think nothing of it then. Oh well, you live and learn. So when I > go for lab tests, there's no way I can do all of them everytime. I even > held off my pap test and mammogram and when Chuck gets laid off this winter > was going to have the bone scan, pap test, mammogram and the heart > ultrasound done (darn my mind quit working can't think of what they call the > heart ultrasound). Here I didn't want to do everything when we first took > out the policy. LOL! I wasn't covered anyhow. Sorry just wanted to vent a > little bit, makes you feel cheated and dumb. > > Debbie R. > > ------------------------------------- > The Graves' list is intended for informational purposes only and is not intended to replace expert medical care. > Please consult your doctor before changing or trying new treatments. > ---------------------------------------- > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 21, 2001 Report Share Posted June 21, 2001 Dear Debbie Ventilation is good for the soul - so go for it girl!!!! Can you get copies of the paperwork that *saleman* took with him? Is it possible to transfer the plan to one more suitable for your needs? I must say the system in the USA sounds like a minefield. Cheers Caroline Riley wrote: > Hi everyone, > > I had my tonsils removed when I was 13 after one round of throat infection, > my tonsils grew back by the time I was 19. After having tonsils removed I > was always getting sore throats, sinus infections (they were my big thing) > and they would turn into bronchitis. > > About being sick after GD, well haven't been sick very often since changing > from the first quack I went to. When I was pregnant and needed those > medical records he wouldn't release them. So my husband dug through old > receipts from our business and since we deducted medical expenses we had my > doctor receipts. Now this first quack I went to dispensed medication from > his medical center where he was the only doctor. In the state of PA. that > was legal. Laying in bed during that time my husband and I went through > every receipt wrote down every medication he gave me in a 5 yr. period. > During that time we found an 18 month period right before I was diagnosed > with GD that he had me on antibiotics. I was so sick at that time I really > believe I had antibiotic induced colitis. Everytime I coughed he would give > me an antibiotic. He told me something was wrong with my immune system. > LOL! yeah he messed it up with all the antibiotics. In 1997 when I had > henry was the first winter I wasn't sick all winter for 3 or 4 yrs. I > even had bronchitis when I was pregnant. My new doctor I started going to > right before I was pregnant told my husband he was worried that if I got one > of those super infections my immune system was so low that he didn't think I > would be able to fight it. I am the opposite from the rest of you, but I > had help from that quack doctor and all his antibiotics. > > On another note about health insurance. We went with that new company last > year when Chuck had to change jobs. I waited 7-1/2 months to go to my > doctor visit because it wasn't covered for 6 months and didn't want to rush > it. Found out they are a surgical/medical policy. And of course I can't > find the application we filled out. Anyways they will not cover my lab > tests. I just received a bill from my Feb. lab tests that they aren't > covered. We feel we were ripped off, the only thing the man told us that > sold us the policy was that doctor visits weren't covered, NEVER did he tell > us we were buying a surgical/medical policy. He had papers he went over > with everything, left us a rough draft and took those papers when he left. > I didn't think nothing of it then. Oh well, you live and learn. So when I > go for lab tests, there's no way I can do all of them everytime. I even > held off my pap test and mammogram and when Chuck gets laid off this winter > was going to have the bone scan, pap test, mammogram and the heart > ultrasound done (darn my mind quit working can't think of what they call the > heart ultrasound). Here I didn't want to do everything when we first took > out the policy. LOL! I wasn't covered anyhow. Sorry just wanted to vent a > little bit, makes you feel cheated and dumb. > > Debbie R. > > ------------------------------------- > The Graves' list is intended for informational purposes only and is not intended to replace expert medical care. > Please consult your doctor before changing or trying new treatments. > ---------------------------------------- > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 23, 2001 Report Share Posted June 23, 2001 Hi , I hope Dr. Greenspan does test your daughter. It's the only way you'll know for sure what's amiss. If he finds that her thyroid is to blame, she could at last be properly treated. Maybe your daughter doesn't know you want help with the dishes, or maybe she does other things that make up for this. I can't say if you should be mad since my husband doesn't help either. But he does so much else, like fix my car, and he's always working on the new house, that I can't complain....although evil thoughts regarding this cross my mind quite often. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 23, 2001 Report Share Posted June 23, 2001 > Maybe your daughter doesn't know you want help with the dishes, or maybe she > does other things that make up for this. Well, elaine, I'll tell ya, It's been a long time since she has helped with anything around the house. I have spoken to her about help around here for years but she just isn't motivated. Usually the mention of it brings on a rage.It is a difficult situation since i am feeling like the maid while she watches tv or whatever. But i want to be sensitive to her metabolic needs. I am asking that if she is hypo wouldn't it be expected that her motivation and participation in the chores of daily living would be curtailed? Am I asking too much from her when I request that she gets more involved? Would it be better for her health if I just let it all go and just take care of her now? Guess that's hard to judge from there, but if anyone has an opinion on what hypo is like, and how I can be supportive in the most helpful way,please share it. Thanks, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 23, 2001 Report Share Posted June 23, 2001 Hi - Hypo is just awful. But no matter how miserable she is, it doesn't give your daughter the right to treat you the way she does. She's a grown woman now. You're sick too and no one's taking care of you. Why are you reluctant to put the same requirements on your daughter that you put on yourself, especially since she's long past the teen years? In my experience, no matter how bad things are, we can pull through if we try. Doesn't mean that it won't be very hard but it can be done. Take care, > Well, elaine, I'll tell ya, It's been a long time since she has > helped with anything around the house. I have spoken to her about > help around here for years but she just isn't motivated. Usually the > mention of it brings on a rage.It is a difficult situation since i am > feeling like the maid while she watches tv or whatever. But i want to > be sensitive to her metabolic needs. I am asking that if she is hypo > wouldn't it be expected that her motivation and participation in the > chores of daily living would be curtailed? Am I asking too much from > her when I request that she gets more involved? Would it be better > for her health if I just let it all go and just take care of her now? > Guess that's hard to judge from there, but if anyone has an opinion > on what hypo is like, and how I can be supportive in the most helpful > way,please share it. > Thanks, > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 23, 2001 Report Share Posted June 23, 2001 Elaine, I am fortunate with my husbands help...when we first got married he didn't like the way I mopped the floors (with a mop) so I told him 'fine that's your job'...then with the vacuuming, I wasn't bringing the nap up far enough to suit him so I said " fine, that's your job " and he does them every week LOL...he also quit harping about how I do things...but when I am having a bad day, he will pitch in and do dishes or cook dinner...the one thing I don't allow is him helping with the laundry other than carrying it up 2 flights of stairs! Since he has taken the time to learn about GD, he has been a wonderful help...I do count my blessings. Jody _________________________________________________________________ Get your FREE download of MSN Explorer at http://explorer.msn.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 23, 2001 Report Share Posted June 23, 2001 Hi , I just want to second what said in regards to your daughter. When our daughter moved back home (after her first apartment) she tried that stuff with us...told her no way, it won't wash, if she is going to live here she had to do part of the chores. So we told her to pick the chores she wanted to do on a daily basis and a weekly basis and made her stick to them. She also paid $25.00 a week as she was working full time and pizzing away her money. It was the principal of it all. If your daughter doesn't like the rules to live in your house, then maybe she should get her own place. Something to think about. Take care, Jody _________________________________________________________________ Get your FREE download of MSN Explorer at http://explorer.msn.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 23, 2001 Report Share Posted June 23, 2001 , It sounds to me like you're being very successfully manipulated. She knows how to " get away with " all of it, just by making you afraid of her temper tantrums. Hypo or not, there is no excuse for that kind of behavior, and you may want to read up on being an " enabler " ! The hard part is that you're not doing her any favors by not making her face life and make decisions for herself. How old is she? Terry > From: kfroilan@... > Reply-To: graves_support > Date: Sat, 23 Jun 2001 21:40:07 -0000 > To: graves_support > Subject: Re: Can you have Hashi's and Graves at the same > time? > >> Maybe your daughter doesn't know you want help with the dishes, or > maybe she >> does other things that make up for this. > > Well, elaine, I'll tell ya, It's been a long time since she has > helped with anything around the house. I have spoken to her about > help around here for years but she just isn't motivated. Usually the > mention of it brings on a rage.It is a difficult situation since i am > feeling like the maid while she watches tv or whatever. But i want to > be sensitive to her metabolic needs. I am asking that if she is hypo > wouldn't it be expected that her motivation and participation in the > chores of daily living would be curtailed? Am I asking too much from > her when I request that she gets more involved? Would it be better > for her health if I just let it all go and just take care of her now? > Guess that's hard to judge from there, but if anyone has an opinion > on what hypo is like, and how I can be supportive in the most helpful > way,please share it. > Thanks, > > > > ------------------------------------- > The Graves' list is intended for informational purposes only and is not > intended to replace expert medical care. > Please consult your doctor before changing or trying new treatments. > ---------------------------------------- > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 24, 2001 Report Share Posted June 24, 2001 I agree with what Terry says. I have a sister almost 30 yrs. old, a single mother, my Dad is always caring for her 10 yr. old son and helping her out. She whines all the time " Oh poor me " my other 4 siblings and I are tired of it. When my Dad is gone we aren't going to care for her, so if she don't learn now " Who will? " My sister has temper tantrums with my Dad, he was off his blood pressure meds until she moved back home 2 yrs. ago and laid all her problems on him. And now she is living with a jerk and my Dad worries all the time. This is the part that people call Tough Love, every parent needs to learn it and let go of their child. I should talk, I know it won't be easy for me homeschooling my kids, but they haven't just learned school work. They've learned dependance and had too when I was pregnant in bed, they were 9 and 11 and learned to cook and do laundry. They had helped before but really had to pitch in then. Part of our agreement with homeschooling was they had to help out with chores and housework. My husbands sisters daughter just graduated and don't know how to make a bed. Debbie R. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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