Guest guest Posted October 5, 2003 Report Share Posted October 5, 2003 Hi Darby, Is your Dad in the hospital now or at home? Can you tell us more about his cancer history/background? What is the cause of his pain, a recent surgery or the cancer itself? Usually, it's a good sign that they are willing to do repeat surgeries on a cancer patient because that means there must not be " a lot " of cancer removed during any particular one (and that the patient must be in fairly good shape to be able to undergo the operations). Also, I think that surgery is one of the most effective therapies against cancer, because once you've had a tumor removed you KNOW it is gone! Chemo alone can sometimes hold disease in check, but usually cannot completely get rid of it. If there is anything we can do to help, please let us know. There are many here with all kinds of different experiences, so likely to find someone who will " relate " to your Dad's case! Best Wishes, > Hi. For about two years now my dad has been fighting colon cancer. > lately I've been feeling really scared and just need someone to realte > adn talk to me. My heart hurts and wonder if they will be able to cure > him. He's a stage 4 and has had surgery after surgery! I'm 22 and > lost, i'm not old enough to loose my dad, like any age is old enough. > He's in so much pain and agony. I usualy write in my jurnal during > hard times, but lately that hasn't helped i need a shoulder to cry on > and someone to understand. That is why i found this site and thought > it might help me to talk to other people who have either been fighting > it, or overcam e, just someone to listen i guess. > > Darby Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 5, 2003 Report Share Posted October 5, 2003 Darby, I really don't know what to say to you. Maybe because I still don't know what to say to my own children who are in your shoes. My sons Dan 16 and Tim 12 are just beginning this journey. My husband, Phil was diagnosed in June 2003. The prognosis then was not good. but frankly my sons were more hopeful than most of the adults around them. They have been trying to keep life as close to normal as possible by staying involved in activities and being with their friends. Remember too that as bad as things sometimes look they can get better too. I don't know what you believe but for my boys praying really helps. They try to remember that the Dr.s are NOT God and that no one really knows what will happen with their Dad. I know more than anything that your Dad must be very proud of you. He wants you to be happy and to make all your dreams come true. Be there to love him and be loved by him. And know that all us *old folks* here are thinking of and praying for you. Take care, Narice Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 5, 2003 Report Share Posted October 5, 2003 Hi Darby- I am so sorry that your dad is feeling so badly. Do his doctors know why he is so painful? It has got to be really rough and scary for you. I have stage 4 rectal Ca, and have been through a couple of surgeries, chemo etc. Although things have been tough for me at times, I think the whole thing has been tougher on my sisters. One thing I don't think they appreciated is the ups and downs of battling this disease. I can feel not so good for a while, then pretty darn good a day or two later. I find it easier to forget the bad times than my sisters can. Having them there for me has been a God sent, but I want them to enjoy their life and families too. My thoughts and prayers are with both of you. Kris > Hi. For about two years now my dad has been fighting colon cancer. > lately I've been feeling really scared and just need someone to realte > adn talk to me. My heart hurts and wonder if they will be able to cure > him. He's a stage 4 and has had surgery after surgery! I'm 22 and > lost, i'm not old enough to loose my dad, like any age is old enough. > He's in so much pain and agony. I usualy write in my jurnal during > hard times, but lately that hasn't helped i need a shoulder to cry on > and someone to understand. That is why i found this site and thought > it might help me to talk to other people who have either been fighting > it, or overcam e, just someone to listen i guess. > > Darby Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 6, 2003 Report Share Posted October 6, 2003 Darby, Your post brought tears to my eyes. I recently sent out a cry for help to this board, the response was amazing. My dad was just recently diagnosed, and is also stage IV. I am 28 years old, and not ready to lose my dad either. I am happy that you have found us. This board has been an emotional savior for me. It saddens me that after two years, your pain seems so similar to mine. I keep hoping that this feeling in my heart will get better, and the mysteries about this disease will be answered. I do know that the people here understand, and their hearts are breaking along with yours. On days that you are down, you are offered hope, prayers, and understanding, and on the days that are a little easier for you, you can offer these back to others. Outside of the emotional help you can receive here, the facts you learn about colon cancer may be valuable in your dad's fight against this disease. Since my journey is just begining, I am unable to be of much help in the facts area, but am always willing to listen. Always remember that you are not alone. Feel free to email me. Take care, Lynn - -- In colon_cancer_support , " theenchanteddarby " <theenchanteddarby@y...> wrote: > Hi. For about two years now my dad has been fighting colon cancer. > lately I've been feeling really scared and just need someone to realte > adn talk to me. My heart hurts and wonder if they will be able to cure > him. He's a stage 4 and has had surgery after surgery! I'm 22 and > lost, i'm not old enough to loose my dad, like any age is old enough. > He's in so much pain and agony. I usualy write in my jurnal during > hard times, but lately that hasn't helped i need a shoulder to cry on > and someone to understand. That is why i found this site and thought > it might help me to talk to other people who have either been fighting > it, or overcam e, just someone to listen i guess. > > Darby Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 9, 2004 Report Share Posted January 9, 2004 I'm so sorry about your dad, Michele. My heart goes out to you and your family. Your dad was blessed to have a daughter and family who love him so much and who have been there for him the entire time. It must have been very comforting for him to have the love and support of his family and to know that his wife would be looked after and taken care of after he was gone. You and your family are in my prayers. Karin Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 9, 2004 Report Share Posted January 9, 2004 <big hug> - Darren My Dad Hi everyone: It's difficult to write the words that my father is gone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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