Guest guest Posted May 20, 2009 Report Share Posted May 20, 2009 le, I'm very sorry to hear this news. I can only imagine that it absolutely feels like it means you can't trust anyone! I'm sure you told your aunt this in confidence and support, not in gossip or nastiness. And now it feels it's been turned around and of course you are the bad guy here. You SOOOO do not need this stress right now. Do you think dear Aunt had good motives in this? Why do you think she waited so long to say anything about it? Does any of that even matter?!?!? I never went NC (didn't know anyting about BPD, etc. just kept my distance and ended up being LC without even knowing what it was), so I can't/won't advise on that. But I will say that boundaries can be very helpful in alleviating the stress even if they are boundaries that are held only in your own heart and mind. I hope for you that you find a place of peace in this sooner rather than later. You and your sweet family deserve it. Sincerely, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 20, 2009 Report Share Posted May 20, 2009 le, I wouldn't worry about it..especially not now. You know your nada will be angry with you for something any how, and now you need to concentrate on YOU and your family and unborn baby...not on nada, don't let her steal this moment away from you with your worry Jackie I just found out that an aunt (nada's sister) who I confided in after discovering BPD in August 2007 recently called nada and told her that I have decided she has this. I can't believe it!! Not only did she betray me, but she got the dates wrong telling nada that I told her this 5 years ago. Of course nada looked up BPD (she owns the DSM-IV) and declared that she has none of the criteria. I am starting to think I can't trust anyone in this world. I have been very emphatic from the very beginning that I am not diagnosing my mother, but just trying to figure out a way to set healthy boundaries for myself, my children, and my marriage and SWOE helped me to do that. I guess dear aunt thought that nada would just suddenly see the light and decide to change herself. I feel very tired at this point. I wish the whole crazy bunch of them would just vaporize and then I could get over my anxiety issues and enjoy my husband and kids. le (who has a baby due in 3 1/2 weeks) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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