Re: update on Ron

[Guest guest]

Hi Kim

My sister's Mother-in law died of a Brain Tumor a year ago and Hospice was

fantastic even dealing with my young nieces who are preschool age. I am seeing

a counselor to help me deal with this whole thing. You're Dad is right no one

knows how long he has and if Hospice is willing to work with him regardless of

his prognosis you are blessed. Take them up on anything they are willing to

offer and of course keep fighting.

You might want to see if it's possible to talk to the Dr. by yourself. If

your Dad were to feel better for a while he might change his mind. Still we have

to respect it. I hope you can find the courage to tell your Dad how you feel,

but ultimately it will be his decision.

I can't give you any advice there because I know I would feel exactly the

same way and can't deal well with thinking about the negatives, though I know

they're there.

Nothing about this disease is fair! I just keep hoping and praying that the

cure is around the corner and that Phil will be around to see it.

I so hope and pray to report good results of the CT and barium tests. All the

outward signs seem to point to a good result but it is scary waiting!

Still I try hard to remain upbeat for myself Phil and my boys,

Sure I have my bouts of anger/depression that's what makes us all human, but

I think it's the hope and determination that keeps us going through this

battle.

Take it a day at a time and let us know what we can do to help.

Narice

[Guest guest]

Kim,

Your family is in my prayers. My dad has yet to start chemo, but my

biggest fear is that he won't give it a chance. He has always been

big on " life is about quality not quanitity " . Such a scary

philosophy when you are faced with chemo. I am feeling very selfish

because I want my dad to stick through this no matter what it takes.

Not only for himself, but also for me, and my children. It seems

like you have similar feelings about your dad. It is so hard, I wish

there were words to make everything better,unfortunatly there are

not, but there are always thoughts and prayers. Be strong, Lynn

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In colon_cancer_support , " kim scott " <cha8sky1@e...>

wrote:

> I hope everyone is doing good. For those of us feeling sick or down

I hope you feel better soon. On Thurs. hospice(sp) came out to talk

to my dad (Ron). He told me he's done with chemo. It makes him to

sick. Now his onc. suggested taking the camptsar(sp) off (he is on

the trips) and doing the other 2. He doesn't seem intrested at all. I

was talking to him yesterday and I was asking about how things went

with the appt. he said ok. Now my understanding was that with hospice

you had to have 6 months left or less. He said that wasn't the way

they explained to him. He said they have ppl. in hospice that have

been there 3 yrs. BECAUSE NO ONES DOCTOR CAN SAY HOW LONG YOU ARE

GOING TO LIVE! I keep reminding myself of that. I know it is unfair

of me to want to to keep up with the chemo. when he is sick and

doesn't want to, but that's what I want. Well that is all for now.

Your all in my prayers.

> Kim

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