Guest guest Posted September 20, 2003 Report Share Posted September 20, 2003 Hi Kim My sister's Mother-in law died of a Brain Tumor a year ago and Hospice was fantastic even dealing with my young nieces who are preschool age. I am seeing a counselor to help me deal with this whole thing. You're Dad is right no one knows how long he has and if Hospice is willing to work with him regardless of his prognosis you are blessed. Take them up on anything they are willing to offer and of course keep fighting. You might want to see if it's possible to talk to the Dr. by yourself. If your Dad were to feel better for a while he might change his mind. Still we have to respect it. I hope you can find the courage to tell your Dad how you feel, but ultimately it will be his decision. I can't give you any advice there because I know I would feel exactly the same way and can't deal well with thinking about the negatives, though I know they're there. Nothing about this disease is fair! I just keep hoping and praying that the cure is around the corner and that Phil will be around to see it. I so hope and pray to report good results of the CT and barium tests. All the outward signs seem to point to a good result but it is scary waiting! Still I try hard to remain upbeat for myself Phil and my boys, Sure I have my bouts of anger/depression that's what makes us all human, but I think it's the hope and determination that keeps us going through this battle. Take it a day at a time and let us know what we can do to help. Narice Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 21, 2003 Report Share Posted September 21, 2003 Kim, Your family is in my prayers. My dad has yet to start chemo, but my biggest fear is that he won't give it a chance. He has always been big on " life is about quality not quanitity " . Such a scary philosophy when you are faced with chemo. I am feeling very selfish because I want my dad to stick through this no matter what it takes. Not only for himself, but also for me, and my children. It seems like you have similar feelings about your dad. It is so hard, I wish there were words to make everything better,unfortunatly there are not, but there are always thoughts and prayers. Be strong, Lynn --- In colon_cancer_support , " kim scott " <cha8sky1@e...> wrote: > I hope everyone is doing good. For those of us feeling sick or down I hope you feel better soon. On Thurs. hospice(sp) came out to talk to my dad (Ron). He told me he's done with chemo. It makes him to sick. Now his onc. suggested taking the camptsar(sp) off (he is on the trips) and doing the other 2. He doesn't seem intrested at all. I was talking to him yesterday and I was asking about how things went with the appt. he said ok. Now my understanding was that with hospice you had to have 6 months left or less. He said that wasn't the way they explained to him. He said they have ppl. in hospice that have been there 3 yrs. BECAUSE NO ONES DOCTOR CAN SAY HOW LONG YOU ARE GOING TO LIVE! I keep reminding myself of that. I know it is unfair of me to want to to keep up with the chemo. when he is sick and doesn't want to, but that's what I want. Well that is all for now. Your all in my prayers. > Kim > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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