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Here you go Kirstie

Breakfast: 2 eggs scrambled using water, with, 1/4 cup cheese, 1/2 a sliced

mushroom and a small Lambchp (3.5 carb)

Lunch: Platter, with 1/2 tiny (credit card size tiny!) porkchp 1 chicken

satay stick, 3 leaves lettuce, 1 Tb h/m hummos, squid/calamari mix (about

1/4 cup,grilled) , (7 carbs)

Dinner: 1 cup cold steamed Prawns, (shrimp) 1 cup mixed salad(Lettuce,

alfalfa,tsp mung beans, tsp grated carrot, tsp mung beans) Home made seafood

dressing (cream, 1/2 tsp home made tomato sauce, worstershire sauce) ( 9

carbs)

Days carbs: 19.5

9 big cups water

2 cups herbal green tea

| | How about sending us what you ate yesterday (EVERYTHING that passed

through

| your lips with amounts) and we can take a peek and see if there are any

| known trouble areas.

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Yup - see yesterdays meals, that was lower than usual, it usually around 10 glasses. I wee *all* day!!!

Shirley

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Shirley - are you drinking all your water?

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Yup - see yesterdays meals, that was lower than usual, it usually around 10 glasses. I wee *all* day!!!

Shirley

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Shirley - are you drinking all your water?

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Your menu looks pretty good Shirley - can't see anything there that screams

a problem. You might find it useful to use a tool like www.fitday.com and

find what your regular baseline of carbs/calories are - it can be a useful

tool for tweaking to know what your starting point was.

How much weight do you have to lose and how were you eating right before

starting Atkins?

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I wish to lose 7 - 10 Kilograms.

My eating has always been lowfat, and I have yoyo'd for years :(

frustrated :)

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| How much weight do you have to lose and how were you eating right before

| starting Atkins?

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7-10 kg = 15-22 pounds so you don't have a whole heck of a lot to lose. You

can expect a slower weight loss than somebody with a lot to go. Yo-yo

dieting can really screw up our metabolisms, I blame my turtledom for years

of abusing my body - it seems like me body can spot an attempt to lose

weight a mile away!

You may really need to tweak Atkins to suit your needs. I strongly suggest

you try using a tool like www.fitday.com or www.dietwatch.com so that you

can get a real handle on what you are consuming each day. While the general

rule on Atkins is that counting carbohydrates is all you have to be

concerned with, often as people approach goal weight they find that calories

become more and more important. You might find that as you have a relative

small amount of weight to lose, that you need to look at both the number of

carbs and the number of calories.

You'll figure it out! Quite a few people get off to a slow start as they

sort out just how they need to tweak the plan :)

Kirstie

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Hi again Kirstie - a couple of things:

7-10 kg = 15-22 pounds is my 'minimum' loss. 15 would take me to the healthy

range for me height. I guess I should have specified, but any loss would be

good! :)

I guess, to some ppl, it seems like I don't have a whole heck of a lot to

lose. But the yoyo-ing has meant that each 'yoyo gets higher when the

weight climbs on. I am hoping that this woe will help the loss as well as

prevent the yoyo from 'growing' any further. I know some ppl would love to

have 15 Kilos to lose as some have more, and I know my loss is greater than

some, smaller than some.

You said: Yo-yo | dieting can really screw up our metabolisms, I blame my

turtledom for years

| of abusing my body - it seems like me body can spot an attempt to lose

| weight a mile away!:

Boy - do I know that one! Thats why I wish to do it for once and for all -

now... before its any more out of control.

| I just found 'fitday' from another post - thanks - I didnt like diet watch

:(

Thanks for your inspiration - I guess if I see 'something' it will help me

keep going - I just didn't expect my jeans to become more snug, rather,

less snug!

Shirley

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We'll get you to goal Shirley - don't fear! Just focus on your long-term

goal of keeping the weight off which means a permanent lifestyle change.

Tweak Atkins so that it works for your body and the weight WILL come off :)

I think it was (one of our maintainers) who didn't lose for the first 2

weeks at all before her body kicked into gear - so there is hope! ;)

Kistie

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Hello Tina!

Welcome to the list. I was going to upload an article I wrote a few years

back regarding spanking. You could have used it as amunition when arguiing

with family on the subject, but I never found it on my hard-drive. Sorry.

I'll look again later.

;-)

Kandie

Kandie and (9 years)

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HREF= " http://kidsactivities.homestead.com/spage.html " >spage</A>

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Hello Tina!

Welcome to the list. I was going to upload an article I wrote a few years

back regarding spanking. You could have used it as amunition when arguiing

with family on the subject, but I never found it on my hard-drive. Sorry.

I'll look again later.

;-)

Kandie

Kandie and (9 years)

* 's website: <A

HREF= " http://kidsactivities.homestead.com/spage.html " >spage</A>

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Welcome Tina!!! I'm glad to se you! I'm , a single mom of two in Florida.

This is the best list in the world.... These ladies and gentleman have stuck

with me thru a yearof homelessness, not having my kids, a major heart condition,

surgery for the heart problem, and many many more disasters. Welcome aboard, and

jump right in!!!!

" To be nobody-but-yourself - in a world which is doing its

best night and day to make you everybody else - means to

fight the hardest battle any human being can fight; and

never stop fighting. " - E.E. Cummings

, mom to , 4, AS, ADHD; and , 2, NT

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Hi everyone:

I just joined this group and so far it looks like exactely what I need!! A

good support group to put a smile on my face. :o)

My name is Tina, I'm a 24 year old single mom to my 2 1/2 year old son Mark.

I live in Wisconsin. I just recentely got divorced and Mark was diagnosed

about 6 months ago with Sensory Integration Dysfunction, Developmental

Delays, and Speech/Language Delays. I also believe he is Autisic, because

he shows all of the signs of it. I will be calling next week to set up an

appointment to have him tested.

Mark goes through OT and ST each once a week. It seems to be helping him a

lot. He is a great kid and sometimes the only thing that keeps me going.

(Way to much stress in my life right now) His father isn't in his life very

much and when he is, it's to cause problems for me. He denies all of Mark's

problems and refuses to work with him.

My family has no understanding of Mark's problems and are not supporting at

all. They critize me for my way of parenting. Their answer to everything is

" when he acts that way spank him " They don't understand that I'm not going

to spank him when I'm trying to teach him to stop hitting all the time.

Learn from what you see right?

Well that's a little about me, and I hope to get to know all of you better.

Sorry if this sounds a little negative today, I'm having a really bad

week.

Tina, mom to Mark

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Welcome Tina! You'll love this group! Great stories, resources and

ideas. Be sure to check out photos in the files section of the

website. It helped me figure out who was who.

I am Leggs (Kathy really) and I am the almost 49 year old adoptive

mom of Brandt who is high functioning autistic (HFA) and six years

old. We live in Kansas.If you think you're tired, try being the age

of your mother with a child on the spectrum! :-) Course then

there's Salli, she's almost as old as I am and has five kids! You

will be hearing Putter and Brandt stories from Salli and I for some

light-hearted adventures! Don't worry about advice from others who

are often well-meaning, but clueless! Follow your heart and listen

to advice here, too. Someone here has been there/done that before, I

guarantee it! Welcome! Leggs

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Welcome Tina! You'll love this group! Great stories, resources and

ideas. Be sure to check out photos in the files section of the

website. It helped me figure out who was who.

I am Leggs (Kathy really) and I am the almost 49 year old adoptive

mom of Brandt who is high functioning autistic (HFA) and six years

old. We live in Kansas.If you think you're tired, try being the age

of your mother with a child on the spectrum! :-) Course then

there's Salli, she's almost as old as I am and has five kids! You

will be hearing Putter and Brandt stories from Salli and I for some

light-hearted adventures! Don't worry about advice from others who

are often well-meaning, but clueless! Follow your heart and listen

to advice here, too. Someone here has been there/done that before, I

guarantee it! Welcome! Leggs

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> I just joined this group and so far it looks like exactely what I need!!

A

> good support group to put a smile on my face. :o)

There's enough wacko humour around here to keep us all going. ;-)

Welcome!

>

> My name is Tina, I'm a 24 year old single mom to my 2 1/2 year old son

Mark.

> I live in Wisconsin. I just recentely got divorced and Mark was

diagnosed

> about 6 months ago with Sensory Integration Dysfunction, Developmental

> Delays, and Speech/Language Delays. I also believe he is Autisic, because

> he shows all of the signs of it. I will be calling next week to set up an

> appointment to have him tested.

Usually that whole grab bag ends up with an autism dx. MUCH easier when

you have just one word to encompass all of that!

>

> Mark goes through OT and ST each once a week. It seems to be helping him

a

> lot.

Early speech therapy made a huge difference in my son, I believe. Great

that you're able to get it all lined up so soon!

>He denies all of Mark's

> problems and refuses to work with him.

Even dads who are in the home seem to come to terms with this much more

slowly. I don't know why it generally takes them so much longer than the

moms, but I think it has to do with their mistaken belief that it can't

happen to THEIR child. <sigh> There are a few dads on this list who seem

to be exceptions to this rule. And good for them! (you know who you are)

It took my dh about 2 years longer than it took me to fully accept the dx

and all that came with.

>

> My family has no understanding of Mark's problems and are not supporting

at

> all. They critize me for my way of parenting. Their answer to everything

is

> " when he acts that way spank him " They don't understand that I'm not

going

> to spank him when I'm trying to teach him to stop hitting all the time.

> Learn from what you see right?

>

Not only that, but spectrum kids have NO concept of cause and effect or

consequences -- so if you WERE to take their advice, it would seem to Mark

like you were suddenly just whacking him out of the blue! Either way, it

just doesn't get the point across.

> Well that's a little about me, and I hope to get to know all of you

better.

> Sorry if this sounds a little negative today, I'm having a really bad

> week.

You think THAT was negative? bwahahahaha!!!!!!!!! You'll love it here.

:-) You need NEVER apologize for venting. This whole deal SUCKS, and at

parenting_autism, we're not afraid to say so!

Welcome again,

Jacquie

mom to , 5 1/2, HFA

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Hi Tina,

Welcome. Glad you found us...this group is

great..wonderful friends and lots of support.

I'm Mimi, married to , and sahm to

Hannah, almost 8 (NT) and , almost 6,

(PDD).

We know all about those bad weeks..so vent away

anythime you want!

Mimi

--- Tina Woelfel wrote:

> Hi everyone:

>

> I just joined this group and so far it looks like

> exactely what I need!! A

> good support group to put a smile on my face. :o)

>

> My name is Tina, I'm a 24 year old single mom to my

> 2 1/2 year old son Mark.

> I live in Wisconsin. I just recentely got divorced

> and Mark was diagnosed

> about 6 months ago with Sensory Integration

> Dysfunction, Developmental

> Delays, and Speech/Language Delays. I also believe

> he is Autisic, because

> he shows all of the signs of it. I will be calling

> next week to set up an

> appointment to have him tested.

>

> Mark goes through OT and ST each once a week. It

> seems to be helping him a

> lot. He is a great kid and sometimes the only thing

> that keeps me going.

> (Way to much stress in my life right now) His

> father isn't in his life very

> much and when he is, it's to cause problems for me.

> He denies all of Mark's

> problems and refuses to work with him.

>

> My family has no understanding of Mark's problems

> and are not supporting at

> all. They critize me for my way of parenting. Their

> answer to everything is

> " when he acts that way spank him " They don't

> understand that I'm not going

> to spank him when I'm trying to teach him to stop

> hitting all the time.

> Learn from what you see right?

>

> Well that's a little about me, and I hope to get to

> know all of you better.

> Sorry if this sounds a little negative today, I'm

> having a really bad

> week.

>

> Tina, mom to Mark

>

>

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> Chat with friends online, try MSN Messenger:

> http://messenger.msn.com

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>

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Welcome, Tina! My name is . I am 39 (today, as a matter of

fact!), married to Tony, and Mom to , 7 yrs who has high

functioning Autism. I'm pretty new to the group myself.

After reading your introduction, I had to respond - because I can

relate, and so you will know you are not alone in this! (and by the

way, YOU know your child better than anyone and it sounds to me like

you're doing a FANTASTIC job!)

When you said, " His father denies all of Mark's problems and refuses

to work with him. " I thought, Oh, boy! Does this sound familiar!

Although, my husband and I are still together, I came VERY close to

walking out - or throwing him out - because he refused to accept my

son, 's, diagnosis. For the first year all I heard was, " He

is not WHAT you say he is! You just want him to be THAT way! " (I

would think to myself, " Yeah, right. I just want him to be in a

world of his own half of the time, afraid of anything new and

different he sees or hears, and I really want to have to worry for

the rest of MY life about what will happen to him when I am gone

from this earth! " Yeah, that was JUST what I wanted!)

After a recent conversation with Tony, I now know that he had

difficulty accepting the diagnosis because he was afraid that he did

not know how to be a Dad to an autistic son. I also know from my

own feelings that the " loss " of that so-called " normal " child is

heartbreaking, and it was no less difficult for Tony.

It wasn't until Tony attended an IEP at school with me and heard

's teacher and Speech Therapist, that he started to accept

it. And it wasn't until 4 months ago when had a seizure in

his presence that he completely accepted it. And I have to say

that, for the past four months, it is like Tony is a whole another

Dad. He has patience with , doesn't yell or try to

intimidate him to get him to mind, and the two of them have finally

come to some sort of " understanding " . I'm not saying everything is

perfect , neither I nor he are! However, things are a whole-lot

better than they were. So, maybe in time Mark's Dad will learn to

accept Mark as he is and also come to an " understanding " with him.

When you said, " My family has no understanding of Mark's problems

and are not supporting at all. They critize me for my way of

parenting. " It also rang a familiar bell. Although my family has

been VERY supportive over-all, one of my sisters (the oldest, of

course)insists on giving me advise on how to handle based on

HER experiences raising her three (now grown) " normal " boys. She

has gone as far as telling me that when hits himself in the

head, it's because he wants attention. (OK . . . that is why about

half the time I've witnessed this he didn't even know I was in the

room. Sure . . . that makes sense!)

Anyway, I just wanted to let you know that you are in good company,

and to hang in there! This group has been nothing BUT supportive

and friendly to me, and we can relate and want to give you support,

too.

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Hi Tina -

Nice to meet you.

Sounds like you're on the right parenting road to me! Sorry that your

family and your ex are not supportive.

Welcome to the group!

Penny

Mom to Jacqui, 7 - HFA

Jeff, 19

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> My name is Tina, I'm a 24 year old single mom to my 2 1/2 year old son

Mark.

> I live in Wisconsin. I just recentely got divorced

Hi Tina! I am still trying to get around to finishing my divorce. I have

five kids: Enrique, 15; , 13; Sophia, 8; Putter, 6; Robbie, 3.

Enrique has Asperger Syndrome and Putter is moderately autistic.

and Mark was diagnosed

> about 6 months ago with Sensory Integration Dysfunction, Developmental

> Delays, and Speech/Language Delays. I also believe he is Autisic, because

> he shows all of the signs of it. I will be calling next week to set up an

> appointment to have him tested.

Well, those two labels together look like autism to ME! Of course, I have

no official credentials, but I am the PA Online Diagnostician!

>

> Mark goes through OT and ST each once a week. It seems to be helping him

a

> lot. He is a great kid and sometimes the only thing that keeps me going.

> (Way to much stress in my life right now) His father isn't in his life

very

> much and when he is, it's to cause problems for me.

Oh, I know what you mean. My husband is jobless right now and he is perhaps

too involved. A pity to have to say that.

He denies all of Mark's

> problems and refuses to work with him.

Yeah, when Putter was two and three, Lou said there was nothing wrong with

him. We had a three and a half year old with NO language, receptive or

expressive, no eye contact unless you threw him up in the air and did really

wild stuff with him. He played with his train set by color coordinating the

trains, and also by kind of car, and, oh, many many other signs. No one has

ever had any trouble determining that Putter has autism except for Lou!

>

> My family has no understanding of Mark's problems and are not supporting

at

> all. They critize me for my way of parenting. Their answer to everything

is

> " when he acts that way spank him " They don't understand that I'm not

going

> to spank him when I'm trying to teach him to stop hitting all the time.

Spanking would be a total failure anyway. It almost makes you want to try

it just to prove them wrong, but naturally you would not. Autism does look

like bad behavior frequently and it is very frustrating to deal with. Your

family may come around.

> Learn from what you see right?

Yup. And with autism it is usually not " Learn from what you hear! " Putter

has significant auditory processing issues.

>

> Well that's a little about me, and I hope to get to know all of you

better.

> Sorry if this sounds a little negative today, I'm having a really bad

> week.

You are allowed to have a really bad week here on PA! Hope this week is

better?

Salli, who planted annuals on Saturday rather than catching up on emails

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> Not only that, but spectrum kids have NO concept of cause and effect or

> consequences -- so if you WERE to take their advice, it would seem to Mark

> like you were suddenly just whacking him out of the blue! Either way, it

> just doesn't get the point across.

Yup.

Salli

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Tina a wise woman named Penny sent this out last year

and I have found for those family and friends who

think they know give em this they might shut up and

help.

Dear Family and Friends: " was written for the purpose

of it being

sent to relatives and hosts of holiday gatherings who

might need a

crash course in what to expect from their guest with

autism. Article

reprinted by permission of editor/author, Viki

Gayhardt.]

I understand that we will be visiting each

other for the

holidays this year! Sometimes these visits can be

very hard for me,

but here is some information that might help our visit

to be more

successful.

As you probably know, I am challenged by a

hidden disability

called autism or what some people refer to as a

pervasive

developmental disorder (PDD). Autism/PDD is a

neurodevelopmental

disorder which makes it hard for me to understand the

environment

around me. I have barriers in my brain that you can't

see but which

make it difficult for me to adapt to my surroundings.

Sometimes I may seem rude and abrupt, but it is

only because I

have to try so hard to understand people and at the

same time, make

myself understood. people with autism have different

abilities: some

may not speak, some write beautiful poetry, others

are whizzes in

math (Albert Einstein was thought to be autistic), or

have difficulty

making friends. we are all different and need various

degrees of

support.

Sometimes when I am touched unexpectedly, it

might feel

painful and make me want to run away. I get easily

frustrated, too.

Being with lots of other people is like standing next

to a moving

freight train and trying to decide how and when to

jump aboard. I

feel frightened and confused a lot of the time, like

you would if you

landed on an alien planet and didn't understand how

the inhabitants

communicated. This is why I need to have things the

same as much as

possible. Once I learn how things happen, I can get

by ok. But if

something, anything changes, then I have to relearn

the situation all

over again! It is very hard.

When you try to talk to me, I often can't

understand what you

say because there is a lot of distraction around. I

have to

concentrate very hard to hear and understand one thing

at a time.

You might think I am ignoring you -- I am not.

Rather, I am

hearing everything and not knowing what is most

important to respond

to. Holidays are exceptionally hard because there are

so many

different people, places and things going on that are

out of my

ordinary realm. This may be fun and adventurous for

most people, but

for me, it's very hard work and can be extremely

stressful.

I often have to get away from all the commotion

to calm down.

It would be great if you had a private place set up to

where I could

retreat.

If I cannot sit at the meal table, do not think

I am

misbehaved or that my parents have no control over me.

Sitting in one

place for even 5 minutes is often impossible for me.

I feel so antsy

and overwhelmed by all the smells, sounds, and

people--I just have to

get up and move about.

Please don't hold up your meal for me--go on without

me and my

parent's will handle the situation the best way they

know.

Eating in general is hard for me. If you

understand that

autism is a sensory processing disorder, it's no

wonder eating is a

problem! Think of all the senses involved with

eating: sight, smell,

taste, touch AND all the complicated mechanics that

are involved with

chewing and swallowing that a lot of people with

autism have trouble

with. I am not being picky -- I literally cannot eat

certain foods

as my sensory system and/or oral motor coordination

are impaired.

Don't be disappointed If mommy hasn't dressed

me in starch and

bows. It's because she knows how much stiff and frilly

clothes can

drive me buggy! I have to feel comfortable in my

clothes or I will

just be miserable! Temple Grandin, a very smart adult

with autism,

has taught people that when she had to wear stiff

petticoats as a

child, she felt like her skin was being rubbed with

sandpaper. I

often feel the same way in dressy clothes.

When I go to someone else's house, I may appear

bossy and

controlling. In a sense, I am being controlling

because that is how I

try to fit into the world around me (which is so hard

to figure out!)

Things have to be done in a way I am familiar with or

else I might

get confused and frustrated. It doesn't mean you have

to change the

way you are doing things -- just please be patient

with me and

understanding of how I have to cope...mom and dad have

no control

over how my autism makes me feel inside.

People with autism often have little things

that they do to

help themselves feel more comfortable. The grown ups

call it " Self

regulation, " or " stimming'. I might rock, hum, flick

my fingers in

my face, flap my arms or any number of different

things. I am not

trying to be disruptive or weird. Again, I am doing

what I have to do

for my brain to adapt to your world.

Sometimes I cannot stop myself from talking,

singing, or

partaking in an activity. The grown ups call this

" perseverating "

which is kinda like self regulation or stimming. I do

this only

because I have found something to occupy myself that

makes me feel

comfortable, and I don't want to come out of that

comfortable place

and join your hard-to-figure-out-world. Perseverative

behaviors are

good to a certain degree because they help me calm

down. Please be

respectful to my mom and dad if they let me " stim " for

awhile as they

know me best and what helps to calm me.

Remember that my mom and dad have to watch me

much more

closely than the average child. This is for my own

safety,

preservation of your possessions, and to facilitate my

integration

with you tippies (what we autistics fondly call you

neurotypical

folk!) It hurts My parents' feelings to be criticized

for being over

protective or condemned for not watching me close

enough. They are

human and have been given an assignment intended for

saints. My

parents are good people and need your support.

Holidays are filled with sights, Sounds, and

smells. The

average household is turned into a busy, frantic,

festive place.

Remember that this may be fun for you tippies but it's

very hard work

for me to conform.

If I fall apart or act out in a way that you consider

socially

inappropriate, please remember that I don't possess

the neurological

system that is required to follow tippy rules.

I am a unique person -- an interesting person.

I will find my

place at this celebration that is comfortable for us

all as long as

you'll try to view the world through my eyes!

=====

TTFN

Wife to

Mom to Ben (aka Gozilla) 5yrs HFA/AS

On call milk machine to Abby(aka ....stinkerbell) 21MTHS NT

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Ann,

That pretty much sums it up. PLS is under the ALS umbrella. Any ALS

research will surely help us. That's what every neurologist I have seen over

the years have told me. I also go to an ALS Research Center and they have a

few PLS patients also. What's really good is that I have a good rapport with

them and they refer new PLS patients to me for information and support.

Gentner

Fremont, CA

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