Guest guest Posted March 21, 2000 Report Share Posted March 21, 2000 Hi Rose You've described my bf pretty well here, at least in his 3rd year (he's served 5 years as of now). He also eschews anything he deems " pornographic " . I called him The Monk for a while, and hummed my favorite showtune " there's nothin' so bad for a woman as a man who thinks he's good " . He's loosened up a bit since then. His choice of me as a mate is proof enough of that! PS I agree that " rectally prolific " is inspired writing. > > > >This brought to mind a few of times I experienced AAers who were >*perfect*. > >You know the ones- They feel totally in touch with HP because they've >worked all the steps, quit smoking, swearing, have a few years of >alcohol abstinence under their belts and are feeling real >*spiritual*-and a little lost-so now what? It was a pretty delusional >frame of mind, but one I remember this happening to several persons, >including myself. ______________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 24, 2000 Report Share Posted March 24, 2000 , did you happen to see Devine in 'Pink Flamingos'? That had to be the sickest movie I ever saw, but I think that's what Waters intended! Especially the dog poop scene! jan " wendy rose " wrote: original article:/group/12-step-free/?start=13869 > I haven't see Summer of Sam. I have, however, had major issues with > eating and sex. And I think Leguizamo is a scream in that movie > with Swayze...something about Newmar...They're all > transvestites! That kind of thing used to incense my ex. I loved > Divine in Hairspray, La Cage Au Folles and the remake The Birdcage. > That was what was so wierd about my ex. He MUST have identified at > some level, but would NEVER admit what he was. He would not watch > those movies and if they came on TV and I wanted to watch or rent, he > threw a fit, saying it was disgusting. Go figure. > > I was anorexic and have dealt with that. I met my match sexually and > could not be more *ahem* satisfied! I have gone from a 4 to a 6 and > sometimes an 8. I have a well rounded figure now and am easy on myself > and try to hang onto that thought. I have also developed the philosphy > that if I spend my entire life staying away from the food I like, how > do I enjoy my life? I will have deprived myself all my life? For > what? I quit smoking 4+ years ago have dealt with some serious core > issues and feel good about myself the way I am. Of course there's > always room for improvement-so I'm in therapy. > > I used to mountain bike myself and plan to get back into it this > summer. Like I said in previous posts, our family has been dealing > with the loss of a child-Charlie's beautiful 21 year old son for the > past almost year and after April 11th passes, it will be time to move > on and regain the momentum. We had decided to take it real easy on > ourselves for a year after Nick passed. I will start exercising > regularly because it makes me feel good in general. I'm probably older > than you-I'm a grama, and with age has come more acceptance of myself; > bags, wrinkles, etc. > > What you said about your SO projecting on you was the same with me and > my ex. He was very wiry and athletic. I panicked when I gained a few > pounds because I was always afraid of getting bigger than him and that > I would be unattractive to him, but there were times that I would stuff > my face because I was so unhappy. I knew he was using drugs 9 out of > the 13 years we were married and trying to keep up with the facade cost > me in some ways-not just financially. I had a drawer full of lingerie > and nothing enticed him. > > With Charlie, I have a drawer full of jewelry (one size fits all!) and > a good relationship in all ways. It has taken a lot of work and > continues to-but this time it's happy work! > > I wish you the same! > > > > " elizabeth b. " wrote: > original article:/group/12-step-free/?start=138 67 > > Wow. What a creep. Did you see Summer of Sam? Leguizamo plays > a slimy > > character with major sex issues (only " dirty " sex with someone other > than > > his poor bored wife). > > > > I feel much better about my situation now, I have to say. At least > my bf is > > consistent in his sexual attitudes. > > > > I feel sometimes that I've made a trade-off. My previous long-term > > relationship was characterized by great sex and zero intimacy, with > lots of > > neglect and passive aggressive behavior. This relationship is with > someone > > who is unfailingly thrilled to see me when I walk in the door, who > always > > has a hug for me, who always chooses time with me over anything else > (except > > mountain biking, but that keeps him sane!), who is a joy to live > with, but > > is less interested sexually. > > > > Of course, it's complicated by the fact that after we started dating > I > > gained a few pounds (I went from size 2 to 4, don't ask!) and he had > issues > > with that. His exwife had anorexia and he prefers me very lean and > > athletic. We've worked on that one, trust me. > > > > More troubling at this point is the fact that because of my bulimic > history, > > he projects illness onto me and makes a connection between my sexual > > appetite and my compulsive eating deal (eeeeeeuuuuw). > > > > I told him that I'm proud that I can be healthy about sex (never felt > any > > guilt about it, always been enthused about it, but never reactionary > to the > > point where I was promiscuous or put myself in danger). > > > > Besides, it wasn't really me who invented the food/sex connection. > > > > > > > > ______________________________________________________ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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