Re: Help...the new obsession.

August 24, 2000

In a message dated 8/24/00 1:04:50 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

jodynkim@... writes:

> Has anyone else

> had this kind of love/hate relationship with the scale? Has anyone had

> an obsession with the numbers like this or am I going nuts?

Hi there

I definitely have this. My husband actually hid the scale from me

(thankfully) and allows me to weigh myself on Wednesday's only. I was driving

him insane with being on it all the time. From what I understand, this is

very common. Although I am only 6 weeks out, I have the feelings that I will

be the one and only person that this does not work for. Have you thought

about making sure you have proteins first....you don't say how your intake is

for that...as well as water....good luck and I'm hoping that I don't feel

this way still at 3 months! Yikes!

M

301/262/150

7/12/00 Lap

August 24, 2000

Kim,

I have not had the surgery yet, but I lost a hundred pounds on my own before

and I was obsessed with the scale, I was afraid to eat anything over 300

calories, one day I ate one sunshine cookie and when my husband came home he

asked me why I was crying and I said because I know I have lost control and

am going to get fat again, when he asked why, I told him about the cookie

and he thought I was nuts!!!! Everyone loses at there own rate, don't worry

I have heard a lot of people say what you said then they were losing fine

the next month. HUGS

Ruthann

The hardest Thing to learn is something

you'd rather not know.

Dr. Aslam

DS

BMI 49

Help...the new obsession.

> I'm finding myself getting caught up in all the things I was warned

> about pre-op and I'm getting very stressed about it. This is really

> hard for me to talk about, but I know you guys have been the most

> supportive people around and I trust that you'll not judge me. Maybe

> someone can offer me some advice and insight.

>

> I'm getting obsessive about the scale. I don't only weigh myself once a

> day, but now I've taken to weighing in several times a day...after I

> have lunch " HOw much did that food weigh? " after I go to the bathroom

> " Did that make me lose any weight? " In the beginning when I was losing

> every day, it was fun and very motivating, but now I've been on a

> plateau for about 2 weeks now, and it's not so much fun anymore. I'm

> really getting worked up over the numbers. I know I shouldn't, but it's

> like I traded my compulsion for food for this, and I'm not happy about

> it. I find myself really comparing myself to everyone else (even though

> I know that's not healthy) and I get really nervous that I'm failing

> because I am " behind " everyone in the numbers game. I'm plagued by the

> thoughts that this is it, that 42 lbs is as far as I'm going. I feel

> like I can eat a lot; though realistically I know that what I eat now is

> NOTHING compared to pre-op, but being able to eat a lot and a wide

> variety of foods should make me happy, but it makes me think that maybe

> this isn't going to work for me. Don't get me wrong...I've been doing

> excellent keeping myself on the straight & narrow as far as eating

> healthy is concerned. Once a week I might indulge in a bite or two of

> pie or 3 of my daughter's french fries, but then I'm consumed with guilt

> especially knowing that I'm losing relatively slowly to begin with.

> Again, I know realistically that I'm not able to sabotage my weight loss

> with such tiny indulgences, but I feel like I'm failing myself and my

> surgery. I'm going a week early for my 3 month checkup next week and

> I'm afraid they're going to be mad at me for not losing faster.

>

> I know that I sound like a raving lunatic right now. Has anyone else

> had this kind of love/hate relationship with the scale? Has anyone had

> an obsession with the numbers like this or am I going nuts? Argh...I

> don't know what to do. I'm really glad I did this, that there's hope

> for me to lose this weight once and for all, but this anxiety sucks.

> Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

>

> 6/5/00

> Open RNY

> Dr. Bruce Thayer

> 277/235/150

>

August 24, 2000

that's it. I'm coming over to your house tonight and taking away your

scale!!!!!!!!

You skinny little thing

ds

August 24, 2000

,

Unfortunately, I didn't START to feel this way until 3 months. I'm now at 4

months, and feel like I'm reating all the wrong things, even though I know

I'm not. I compare myself to others only in the sense that everyone seems SO

self disciplined and good with their food choices. My tastes have not

changed. It's still a struggle to avoid fat and sugar. I have to work at it

every day. Even so, I'm thrilled with the way I feel physically. Today, I

felt so good, and I realized it was because of the missing weight. Certainly

helps to boost the ego ;-)

- Alice A.

August 24, 2000

In a message dated 8/24/00 7:32:48 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

lknglas11@... writes:

> I compare myself to others only in the sense that everyone seems SO

> self disciplined and good with their food choice.

Don't let everyone fool you....we all have gone through/will go through/are

going through what you have. I am SOOO far from self-disciplined. I actually

was eating too many carbs and a friend of mine (Thanks, ) pointed out

that I might be eating too much of them so I cut them way down/out and lost 5

pounds off the bat! I am definitely not one of those self-disciplined!!!!

Good luck!

M

301/262/150

7/12/00 Lap

August 24, 2000

,

YES! I can definitely relate to you. I never owned a scale, was determined

to ONLY weigh in at my check ups, but was given one, and promised myself to

only weigh 1x wk. Well, I now weigh myself daily, and I'm stuck for these

last few days too, finding myself weighing more at night (normal I guess),

but HATE IT! The other day, in the a.m. I had a 3 pound GAIN, and I was

beyond myself! Today, I haven't a clue, I refuse to get on the damn thing.

I feel like this is it, I've yet to hit any plateaus after a year, and

should be extremely thankful/lucky, but it makes me upset that I may be

hitting one now. This is so selfish of me I know, but I can't seem to take

that fact I may be hitting my first plateau. I'm determined to lose at

least a couple pounds, so I'm going to drink, drink, drink, and walk, walk,

walk!

Good luck!

Dawn

Help...the new obsession.

I'm finding myself getting caught up in all the things I was warned

about pre-op and I'm getting very stressed about it. This is really

hard for me to talk about, but I know you guys have been the most

supportive people around and I trust that you'll not judge me. Maybe

someone can offer me some advice and insight.

I'm getting obsessive about the scale. I don't only weigh myself once a

day, but now I've taken to weighing in several times a day...after I

have lunch " HOw much did that food weigh? " after I go to the bathroom

" Did that make me lose any weight? " In the beginning when I was losing

every day, it was fun and very motivating, but now I've been on a

plateau for about 2 weeks now, and it's not so much fun anymore. I'm

really getting worked up over the numbers. I know I shouldn't, but it's

like I traded my compulsion for food for this, and I'm not happy about

it. I find myself really comparing myself to everyone else (even though

I know that's not healthy) and I get really nervous that I'm failing

because I am " behind " everyone in the numbers game. I'm plagued by the

thoughts that this is it, that 42 lbs is as far as I'm going. I feel

like I can eat a lot; though realistically I know that what I eat now is

NOTHING compared to pre-op, but being able to eat a lot and a wide

variety of foods should make me happy, but it makes me think that maybe

this isn't going to work for me. Don't get me wrong...I've been doing

excellent keeping myself on the straight & narrow as far as eating

healthy is concerned. Once a week I might indulge in a bite or two of

pie or 3 of my daughter's french fries, but then I'm consumed with guilt

especially knowing that I'm losing relatively slowly to begin with.

Again, I know realistically that I'm not able to sabotage my weight loss

with such tiny indulgences, but I feel like I'm failing myself and my

surgery. I'm going a week early for my 3 month checkup next week and

I'm afraid they're going to be mad at me for not losing faster.

I know that I sound like a raving lunatic right now. Has anyone else

had this kind of love/hate relationship with the scale? Has anyone had

an obsession with the numbers like this or am I going nuts? Argh...I

don't know what to do. I'm really glad I did this, that there's hope

for me to lose this weight once and for all, but this anxiety sucks.

Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

6/5/00

Open RNY

Dr. Bruce Thayer

277/235/150

August 25, 2000

Hi ,

Yeah, I take my proteins first. I'm getting at least 40 oz. of

water or crystal light a day. I exercise faithfully every day.

When it comes to the things I'm "not supposed" to eat I have a bite or

two and walk away. And sure, it's not easy because most foods don't

bother me (yeah, I can even eat rice & steak---two foods I repeatedly

hear people can't tolerate) Even though I'm following all the "guidelines"

I'm still stalled and it's frustrating because it's out of my control.

As for feeling bad about it...it didn't start until the plateau; as I said,

weighing used to be fun & motivating because every time I got on the

numbers were down.

Anyway...I'm rambling. I'll stop

JoesRavyn@... wrote:

In a message dated 8/24/00 1:04:50 PM Eastern

Daylight Time,

jodynkim@... writes:

> Has anyone else

> had this kind of love/hate relationship with the scale?

Has anyone had

> an obsession with the numbers like this or am I going nuts?

Hi there

I definitely have this. My husband actually hid the scale from

me

(thankfully) and allows me to weigh myself on Wednesday's only.

I was driving

him insane with being on it all the time. From what I understand,

this is

very common. Although I am only 6 weeks out, I have the feelings

that I will

be the one and only person that this does not work for. Have

you thought

about making sure you have proteins first....you don't say how

your intake is

for that...as well as water....good luck and I'm hoping that I

don't feel

this way still at 3 months! Yikes!

M

301/262/150

7/12/00 Lap

August 25, 2000

Deb...where do you live? Tonight you're getting some SCALE mail

Kim

ds wrote:

you can always make me laugh.

ds

>

> >

> > that's it. I'm coming over to your house tonight and taking

away

your

> > scale!!!!!!!!

> >

> > You skinny little thing

> >

> > ds

> >

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> >

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> >

August 25, 2000

Dawn,

It's funny...when you haven't plateaued its so easy to see in other

people that there's no reason to worry over it. Yes I know, we all

lose at our own rates, yadda yadda yadda. It's crazy how irrational

I can get sometimes. I've been on this list long enough to have watched

people's plateaus come and go; I know they're par for the course.

Yet now that it's happening to me I feel guilty, shameful and like I've

failed Dr. Thayer & everyone who has supported me. As Stuart

Smalley would say I'm plagued with "stinkin thinkin" The chances

that 42 pounds is all I'm going to lose are almost nil...yet I remain convinced

on some level that this won't work. THANK YOU DIET INDUSTRY FOR REINFORCING

FAILURE MENTAILTY IN ME FOR SO LONG! LOL

(((hug))) Dawn...together we can bust the #%^$ing plateau!

277/don't wanna know/150

Dawn wrote:

,

YES! I can definitely relate to you. I never owned a

scale, was determined

to ONLY weigh in at my check ups, but was given one, and promised

myself to

only weigh 1x wk. Well, I now weigh myself daily, and I'm

stuck for these

last few days too, finding myself weighing more at night (normal

I guess),

but HATE IT! The other day, in the a.m. I had a 3 pound GAIN, and

I was

beyond myself! Today, I haven't a clue, I refuse to get on

the damn thing.

I feel like this is it, I've yet to hit any plateaus after a year,

and

should be extremely thankful/lucky, but it makes me upset that

I may be

hitting one now. This is so selfish of me I know, but I can't seem

to take

that fact I may be hitting my first plateau. I'm determined

to lose at

least a couple pounds, so I'm going to drink, drink, drink, and

walk, walk,

walk!

Good luck!

Dawn

Help...the new obsession.

I'm finding myself getting caught up in all the things I was warned

about pre-op and I'm getting very stressed about it. This

is really

hard for me to talk about, but I know you guys have been the most

supportive people around and I trust that you'll not judge me.

Maybe

someone can offer me some advice and insight.

I'm getting obsessive about the scale. I don't only weigh

myself once a

day, but now I've taken to weighing in several times a day...after

I

have lunch "HOw much did that food weigh?" after I go to the bathroom

"Did that make me lose any weight?" In the beginning when

I was losing

every day, it was fun and very motivating, but now I've been on

a

plateau for about 2 weeks now, and it's not so much fun anymore.

I'm

really getting worked up over the numbers. I know I shouldn't,

but it's

like I traded my compulsion for food for this, and I'm not happy

about

it. I find myself really comparing myself to everyone else

(even though

I know that's not healthy) and I get really nervous that I'm failing

because I am "behind" everyone in the numbers game. I'm plagued

by the

thoughts that this is it, that 42 lbs is as far as I'm going.

I feel

like I can eat a lot; though realistically I know that what I eat

now is

NOTHING compared to pre-op, but being able to eat a lot and a wide

variety of foods should make me happy, but it makes me think that

maybe

this isn't going to work for me. Don't get me wrong...I've

been doing

excellent keeping myself on the straight & narrow as far as

eating

healthy is concerned. Once a week I might indulge in a bite

or two of

pie or 3 of my daughter's french fries, but then I'm consumed with

guilt

especially knowing that I'm losing relatively slowly to begin with.

Again, I know realistically that I'm not able to sabotage my weight

loss

with such tiny indulgences, but I feel like I'm failing myself

and my

surgery. I'm going a week early for my 3 month checkup next

week and

I'm afraid they're going to be mad at me for not losing faster.

I know that I sound like a raving lunatic right now. Has anyone

else

had this kind of love/hate relationship with the scale? Has

anyone had

an obsession with the numbers like this or am I going nuts?

Argh...I

don't know what to do. I'm really glad I did this, that there's

hope

for me to lose this weight once and for all, but this anxiety sucks.

Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

6/5/00

Open RNY

Dr. Bruce Thayer

277/235/150

August 25, 2000

Yes Rayna, do get rid of it...it's becoming the bane of my existence!!!

RUBIERAY@... wrote:

DEAR KIMBERLY

GET RID OF THAT SCALE. I PLAN TO HAVE MY HUSBAND HIDE THE

SCALE AND I WILL

GET WEIGHED ONCE A WEEK. THE SCALE CAN DRIVE ME CRAZY.

CONGRADULATIONS ON

YOUR 42LBS WEIGHT LOSS. THAT IS GREAT RAYNA

August 25, 2000

WE WILL BUST THE & (*)*)(* PLATEAU.....IF THAT'S WHAT WE'RE REALLY HAVING! I hear that you're really only at plateaus if you remain there for 3+ weeks or more...wadda ya think? Should we both just have some beer and say screw it, it will pass? lol!

Dawn

Help...the new obsession. I'm finding myself getting caught up in all the things I was warned about pre-op and I'm getting very stressed about it. This is really hard for me to talk about, but I know you guys have been the most supportive people around and I trust that you'll not judge me. Maybe someone can offer me some advice and insight. I'm getting obsessive about the scale. I don't only weigh myself once a day, but now I've taken to weighing in several times a day...after I have lunch "HOw much did that food weigh?" after I go to the bathroom "Did that make me lose any weight?" In the beginning when I was losing every day, it was fun and very motivating, but now I've been on a plateau for about 2 weeks now, and it's not so much fun anymore. I'm really getting worked up over the numbers. I know I shouldn't, but it's like I traded my compulsion for food for this, and I'm not happy about it. I find myself really comparing myself to everyone else (even though I know that's not healthy) and I get really nervous that I'm failing because I am "behind" everyone in the numbers game. I'm plagued by the thoughts that this is it, that 42 lbs is as far as I'm going. I feel like I can eat a lot; though realistically I know that what I eat now is NOTHING compared to pre-op, but being able to eat a lot and a wide variety of foods should make me happy, but it makes me think that maybe this isn't going to work for me. Don't get me wrong...I've been doing excellent keeping myself on the straight & narrow as far as eating healthy is concerned. Once a week I might indulge in a bite or two of pie or 3 of my daughter's french fries, but then I'm consumed with guilt especially knowing that I'm losing relatively slowly to begin with. Again, I know realistically that I'm not able to sabotage my weight loss with such tiny indulgences, but I feel like I'm failing myself and my surgery. I'm going a week early for my 3 month checkup next week and I'm afraid they're going to be mad at me for not losing faster. I know that I sound like a raving lunatic right now. Has anyone else had this kind of love/hate relationship with the scale? Has anyone had an obsession with the numbers like this or am I going nuts? Argh...I don't know what to do. I'm really glad I did this, that there's hope for me to lose this weight once and for all, but this anxiety sucks. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. 6/5/00 Open RNY Dr. Bruce Thayer 277/235/150

August 25, 2000

Oh Gawd...Jody had some TGIF's frozen lemonade mix and made a batch last

weekend...I hadn't had a drop of alcohol since the w/e b4 surgery so I

had a few oz. of his drink...it was like nectar from the gods!

It wasn't sugary enough to make me feel yucky or anything, and ever since

I have been CRAVING another one. I'm not one to crave alcohol AT

ALL so it's freaky...Compulsive eater, turned compulsive weigher turned

compulsive drinker LOL.

Kim

Dawn wrote:

WE

WILL BUST THE & (*)*)(* PLATEAU.....IF THAT'S WHAT WE'RE REALLY HAVING!

I hear that you're really only at plateaus if you remain there for 3+ weeks

or more...wadda ya think? Should we both just have some beer and

say screw it, it will pass? lol! Dawn

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