youtube vids on BPD

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Hi, Just wondering if you all had heard of AJMahari? She has some very,

very good YouTube videos for family members with BPD and people with BPD

themselves. She is great and I have gained a good bit of insight of this

disorder from her videos. She is a recovered BPD and I think she proves it can

be cured through a lot of hard work and THE WILL.

My therapist told me the hardest thing about people with BPD is that they

generally don't want to get well because they don't want to give up whatever

it is that is keeping them stuck -- whether it be an unhealthy attachment,

unhealthy habit, or their own victimization role. My mother gained some

kind of emotional payoff by being pitied by other people. I can't imagine

what because quite honestly, the last thing I would want from people is

pity. She would come up with these outlandish stories about how her first

husband tried to push her out of a moving car. Then it multiplied and in the

end, he was going 100 mph around a mountain and she was pregnant and he

tried to push her out. Same with her alleged abuse. One minute my grandmother

was the best thing ever and she came from a wealthy, well protected

family, to my grandmother being Mommy Dearest and she couldn't watch the movie

because it made her have " flashbacks " and that my grandmother let people abuse

and molest her. My uncle (mom's brother) claims my mom was spoiled

rotten, had a bottle until she was 6 and threw tantrums until everyone in the

family gave in. The childhood pictures I see tell a story of a happy little

girl who was well cared for, well dressed, hair perfect, expensive jewelry,

etc.

My grandmother grew up in the Depression and yes, she was BAD selfish with

money and when she died my mother inherited almost a million $$. My

grandmother had given everything to my mother and written her brother out of

the

will. My mother's brother, I believe, has major issues too....so SOMETHING

went on. What it was, who knows. What I do know is that not a single

cousin, aunt, or uncle on my mother's side of the family speak to each other

(or

to me or my sister) and every one of them is estranged from each other.

It's weird.

Our family has all these secrets and no one knows the real truth behind any

of it.

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