Re: My new perspective

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Hi there

I can't believe anyone said that! The sad thing is that they will

pass that judgemental attitude right along to their children, which

in my opinion is far far worse than any particular childrearing

practice such as wearing reins/using a dummy/breast or bottle or

anything else people get so worked up about.

You sound like a great mum who is prepared to stick her neck out

there to do what is right for your little one. Jordan is very lucky!

Hannah (mum to Lucia, London, UK)

Cranio grad

> >

> > Hello all-

> >

> > So, Emma has been in her band for 3 weeks now, and I love it.

Her

> > head is rounding, her ears are (sort of) aligning and she is

free

> to

> > roll around whenever she feels like it. She is learning to

sit,

> > learning to grab at things to play with, and continues to be

> sociable

> > and adorable. You know how it goes...she's a genius.

> >

> > That being said, I've had a really hard time with other

people's

> > opinions (or perhaps my perception of their opinion). I have

> > internally freaked out and left stores. I flipflop between

being

> > angry that people stare & don't ask, then being angry that i

get

> > the " why is your child in a hockey helmet " question (with the

> husband

> > tugging her arm telling her to leave me alone). Maybe I'm

crazy?

> >

> > So, then I started telling people, before they have a chance

to do

> > anything, " this band is rounding out her head, in case you

were

> > curious " . To which I get " what? oh. " Maybe they're not

really

> just

> > staring at her head? Again, crazy?

> >

> > Yesterday we went to a family holiday party, and I was all

> prepared

> > to defend emma & our decision, with handouts & pictures &

> definitions

> > of tort & plagio, websites, blah blah blah. My husband, at

the

> last

> > minute, asked me to only show them to people who were REALLY

> > curious. He said that he thinks she's perfect. So whadya

know,

> > nobody really cared! I mean, they cared about her, but even

from

> the

> > older folks I got " it's amazing what they can do " and " it's so

> nice

> > that you're helping her " and " I wish we could have done this

for

> > uncle so & so " . Even our super-hip teenage cousin, who I was

SURE

> > would say the wrong thing out of ignorance & tick me off,

said " do

> > all babies wear one of these, or is it because she was a

preemie? "

> >

> > Whew. How great is that? People don't always think I'm a

> terrible

> > mom for torturing my baby, or for dropping her on her head.

Or

> for

> > taking her in public with an open head wound. Or for whatever

I

> > think that they think.

> >

> > So, this new perspective I have is " so what. " People are

living

> > their lives, worrying about their own problems, not passing

> judgement

> > on me & my child. And even if they are, so what?

> >

> > Anyway, I feel much better. Have any of you gone through

this?

> Am

> > I nuts? Am I over the hurdle? It seems to get easier every

day,

> but

> > last night really showed me that it's only as big of a deal as

I

> make

> > it.

> >

> > , relieved mom to Emma, 5 mo.

> > tort/plagio/docBand 10/25

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