Guest guest Posted November 15, 2004 Report Share Posted November 15, 2004 ~ I am so glad you have gotten this new perspective. I don't know how it feels yet but will in about a week. But I know I don't look forward to it. But Emma is just beautiful in her band and you are a beautiful Mom so don't you worry and you are doing the best thing for Emma! So glad you are getting better responses though from he ones you care most about. Tish My new perspective > > > Hello all- > > So, Emma has been in her band for 3 weeks now, and I love it. Her > head is rounding, her ears are (sort of) aligning and she is free to > roll around whenever she feels like it. She is learning to sit, > learning to grab at things to play with, and continues to be sociable > and adorable. You know how it goes...she's a genius. > > That being said, I've had a really hard time with other people's > opinions (or perhaps my perception of their opinion). I have > internally freaked out and left stores. I flipflop between being > angry that people stare & don't ask, then being angry that i get > the " why is your child in a hockey helmet " question (with the husband > tugging her arm telling her to leave me alone). Maybe I'm crazy? > > So, then I started telling people, before they have a chance to do > anything, " this band is rounding out her head, in case you were > curious " . To which I get " what? oh. " Maybe they're not really just > staring at her head? Again, crazy? > > Yesterday we went to a family holiday party, and I was all prepared > to defend emma & our decision, with handouts & pictures & definitions > of tort & plagio, websites, blah blah blah. My husband, at the last > minute, asked me to only show them to people who were REALLY > curious. He said that he thinks she's perfect. So whadya know, > nobody really cared! I mean, they cared about her, but even from the > older folks I got " it's amazing what they can do " and " it's so nice > that you're helping her " and " I wish we could have done this for > uncle so & so " . Even our super-hip teenage cousin, who I was SURE > would say the wrong thing out of ignorance & tick me off, said " do > all babies wear one of these, or is it because she was a preemie? " > > Whew. How great is that? People don't always think I'm a terrible > mom for torturing my baby, or for dropping her on her head. Or for > taking her in public with an open head wound. Or for whatever I > think that they think. > > So, this new perspective I have is " so what. " People are living > their lives, worrying about their own problems, not passing judgement > on me & my child. And even if they are, so what? > > Anyway, I feel much better. Have any of you gone through this? Am > I nuts? Am I over the hurdle? It seems to get easier every day, but > last night really showed me that it's only as big of a deal as I make > it. > > , relieved mom to Emma, 5 mo. > tort/plagio/docBand 10/25 > > > > > > > > > For more plagio info Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2004 Report Share Posted November 15, 2004 Thank you for sharing. I did recently admit out loud to a friend that part of my apprehension is vanity. I do not want my beautiful baby girl to have to wear that big helmet. I will miss her new hair and being able to put sweet little bows around her head that finish off her cute outfit...blah, blah, blah. I think saying it out loud helped. I am better now. Mostly I worry about her comfort and how she will adjust to the band. We pick it up in one week. I appreciate you sharing. It makes me feel better. I am so thankful that my family and friends have all said, "Well you HAVE to get it done, don't you?!" They all seem to feel like I do, if something is wrong and there is a way to fix it, as a good mother, you have to fix it. Glad you are seeing good results already!! Christy - Kennedy Tort/ plagio/ brachy DOC Band in 1 week Tulsa, OKeclarebear <sarah@...> wrote: Hello all-So, Emma has been in her band for 3 weeks now, and I love it. Her head is rounding, her ears are (sort of) aligning and she is free to roll around whenever she feels like it. She is learning to sit, learning to grab at things to play with, and continues to be sociable and adorable. You know how it goes...she's a genius.That being said, I've had a really hard time with other people's opinions (or perhaps my perception of their opinion). I have internally freaked out and left stores. I flipflop between being angry that people stare & don't ask, then being angry that i get the "why is your child in a hockey helmet" question (with the husband tugging her arm telling her to leave me alone). Maybe I'm crazy?So, then I started telling people, before they have a chance to do anything, "this band is rounding out her head, in case you were curious". To which I get "what? oh." Maybe they're not really just staring at her head? Again, crazy?Yesterday we went to a family holiday party, and I was all prepared to defend emma & our decision, with handouts & pictures & definitions of tort & plagio, websites, blah blah blah. My husband, at the last minute, asked me to only show them to people who were REALLY curious. He said that he thinks she's perfect. So whadya know, nobody really cared! I mean, they cared about her, but even from the older folks I got "it's amazing what they can do" and "it's so nice that you're helping her" and "I wish we could have done this for uncle so & so". Even our super-hip teenage cousin, who I was SURE would say the wrong thing out of ignorance & tick me off, said "do all babies wear one of these, or is it because she was a preemie?"Whew. How great is that? People don't always think I'm a terrible mom for torturing my baby, or for dropping her on her head. Or for taking her in public with an open head wound. Or for whatever I think that they think.So, this new perspective I have is "so what." People are living their lives, worrying about their own problems, not passing judgement on me & my child. And even if they are, so what?Anyway, I feel much better. Have any of you gone through this? Am I nuts? Am I over the hurdle? It seems to get easier every day, but last night really showed me that it's only as big of a deal as I make it., relieved mom to Emma, 5 mo.tort/plagio/docBand 10/25For more plagio info Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2004 Report Share Posted November 15, 2004 Hi Christy- Yes, the vanity part is hard, probably because we feel so guilty for thinking that at all! You know, it's what on the inside that counts, etc. What made it the easiest for us was when they put the band on, they make you hang out for a while to check fit, red spots, whatever. As soon as they put it on, Emma fell ASLEEP. In the past 3 weeks, she has not even reacted a LITTLE bit to having it on. Yes, I miss the way her warm little head fit under my chin, but now when we cuddle during our hour off, I can rub her ROUND spot! Good luck with your band! > > Hello all- > > So, Emma has been in her band for 3 weeks now, and I love it. Her > head is rounding, her ears are (sort of) aligning and she is free to > roll around whenever she feels like it. She is learning to sit, > learning to grab at things to play with, and continues to be sociable > and adorable. You know how it goes...she's a genius. > > That being said, I've had a really hard time with other people's > opinions (or perhaps my perception of their opinion). I have > internally freaked out and left stores. I flipflop between being > angry that people stare & don't ask, then being angry that i get > the " why is your child in a hockey helmet " question (with the husband > tugging her arm telling her to leave me alone). Maybe I'm crazy? > > So, then I started telling people, before they have a chance to do > anything, " this band is rounding out her head, in case you were > curious " . To which I get " what? oh. " Maybe they're not really just > staring at her head? Again, crazy? > > Yesterday we went to a family holiday party, and I was all prepared > to defend emma & our decision, with handouts & pictures & definitions > of tort & plagio, websites, blah blah blah. My husband, at the last > minute, asked me to only show them to people who were REALLY > curious. He said that he thinks she's perfect. So whadya know, > nobody really cared! I mean, they cared about her, but even from the > older folks I got " it's amazing what they can do " and " it's so nice > that you're helping her " and " I wish we could have done this for > uncle so & so " . Even our super-hip teenage cousin, who I was SURE > would say the wrong thing out of ignorance & tick me off, said " do > all babies wear one of these, or is it because she was a preemie? " > > Whew. How great is that? People don't always think I'm a terrible > mom for torturing my baby, or for dropping her on her head. Or for > taking her in public with an open head wound. Or for whatever I > think that they think. > > So, this new perspective I have is " so what. " People are living > their lives, worrying about their own problems, not passing judgement > on me & my child. And even if they are, so what? > > Anyway, I feel much better. Have any of you gone through this? Am > I nuts? Am I over the hurdle? It seems to get easier every day, but > last night really showed me that it's only as big of a deal as I make > it. > > , relieved mom to Emma, 5 mo. > tort/plagio/docBand 10/25 > > > > > > > > For more plagio info Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2004 Report Share Posted November 15, 2004 Thanks, Tish! > ~ > > I am so glad you have gotten this new perspective. I don't know how it feels > yet but will in about a week. But I know I don't look forward to it. But > Emma is just beautiful in her band and you are a beautiful Mom so don't you > worry and you are doing the best thing for Emma! So glad you are getting > better responses though from he ones you care most about. > > Tish > My new perspective > > > > > > > > Hello all- > > > > So, Emma has been in her band for 3 weeks now, and I love it. Her > > head is rounding, her ears are (sort of) aligning and she is free to > > roll around whenever she feels like it. She is learning to sit, > > learning to grab at things to play with, and continues to be sociable > > and adorable. You know how it goes...she's a genius. > > > > That being said, I've had a really hard time with other people's > > opinions (or perhaps my perception of their opinion). I have > > internally freaked out and left stores. I flipflop between being > > angry that people stare & don't ask, then being angry that i get > > the " why is your child in a hockey helmet " question (with the husband > > tugging her arm telling her to leave me alone). Maybe I'm crazy? > > > > So, then I started telling people, before they have a chance to do > > anything, " this band is rounding out her head, in case you were > > curious " . To which I get " what? oh. " Maybe they're not really just > > staring at her head? Again, crazy? > > > > Yesterday we went to a family holiday party, and I was all prepared > > to defend emma & our decision, with handouts & pictures & definitions > > of tort & plagio, websites, blah blah blah. My husband, at the last > > minute, asked me to only show them to people who were REALLY > > curious. He said that he thinks she's perfect. So whadya know, > > nobody really cared! I mean, they cared about her, but even from the > > older folks I got " it's amazing what they can do " and " it's so nice > > that you're helping her " and " I wish we could have done this for > > uncle so & so " . Even our super-hip teenage cousin, who I was SURE > > would say the wrong thing out of ignorance & tick me off, said " do > > all babies wear one of these, or is it because she was a preemie? " > > > > Whew. How great is that? People don't always think I'm a terrible > > mom for torturing my baby, or for dropping her on her head. Or for > > taking her in public with an open head wound. Or for whatever I > > think that they think. > > > > So, this new perspective I have is " so what. " People are living > > their lives, worrying about their own problems, not passing judgement > > on me & my child. And even if they are, so what? > > > > Anyway, I feel much better. Have any of you gone through this? Am > > I nuts? Am I over the hurdle? It seems to get easier every day, but > > last night really showed me that it's only as big of a deal as I make > > it. > > > > , relieved mom to Emma, 5 mo. > > tort/plagio/docBand 10/25 > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > For more plagio info Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2004 Report Share Posted November 15, 2004 , YEAH for you! I'm so glad your perspective has changed and you are more comfortable. That is wonderful. I think that's how it happened for me too. It really does make it less stressful. mom to naeclarebear <sarah@...> wrote: Hello all-So, Emma has been in her band for 3 weeks now, and I love it. Her head is rounding, her ears are (sort of) aligning and she is free to roll around whenever she feels like it. She is learning to sit, learning to grab at things to play with, and continues to be sociable and adorable. You know how it goes...she's a genius.That being said, I've had a really hard time with other people's opinions (or perhaps my perception of their opinion). I have internally freaked out and left stores. I flipflop between being angry that people stare & don't ask, then being angry that i get the "why is your child in a hockey helmet" question (with the husband tugging her arm telling her to leave me alone). Maybe I'm crazy?So, then I started telling people, before they have a chance to do anything, "this band is rounding out her head, in case you were curious". To which I get "what? oh." Maybe they're not really just staring at her head? Again, crazy?Yesterday we went to a family holiday party, and I was all prepared to defend emma & our decision, with handouts & pictures & definitions of tort & plagio, websites, blah blah blah. My husband, at the last minute, asked me to only show them to people who were REALLY curious. He said that he thinks she's perfect. So whadya know, nobody really cared! I mean, they cared about her, but even from the older folks I got "it's amazing what they can do" and "it's so nice that you're helping her" and "I wish we could have done this for uncle so & so". Even our super-hip teenage cousin, who I was SURE would say the wrong thing out of ignorance & tick me off, said "do all babies wear one of these, or is it because she was a preemie?"Whew. How great is that? People don't always think I'm a terrible mom for torturing my baby, or for dropping her on her head. Or for taking her in public with an open head wound. Or for whatever I think that they think.So, this new perspective I have is "so what." People are living their lives, worrying about their own problems, not passing judgement on me & my child. And even if they are, so what?Anyway, I feel much better. Have any of you gone through this? Am I nuts? Am I over the hurdle? It seems to get easier every day, but last night really showed me that it's only as big of a deal as I make it., relieved mom to Emma, 5 mo.tort/plagio/docBand 10/25For more plagio info Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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