Relaxation/Intercourse Question

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Hi everyone.  Does

anyone know of a good book or have any suggestions to relax and “build up”

to intercourse by making foreplay more enjoyable?  I have zero interest in intercourse or even

manual stimulation because of the pain, but we are trying to have a baby so I

need to try and relax and enjoy it a little. 

I think that will also help make conception a better possibility.  I looked at Border’s last night, but

didn’t see anything that seemed to fit my needs.  It was all about better sex, and I just want

endurable sex, if you know what I mean. 

I need something to help get me in the mood more.  We’ve tried baths, candles, soft music,

backrubs… I just can’t seem to get into it.  I would like to go to a sex therapist for

this eventually, but right now we just can’t afford the visits because

our insurance won’t cover any part of that. Any suggestions or book

recommendations would be much appreciated!