Guest guest Posted May 18, 2009 Report Share Posted May 18, 2009 Hi, all. I just found you! What a relief. My mom has BPD and, since my father died when I was 5, that meant there was " nobody " in the parenting role. I grew up feeling like an orphan and taking care of my two younger brothers. When I had children, my mother was " incensed " that I hired someone to look after them when I traveled, so she refused to have anything to do with them. In fact, to this day, she has never baby sat them or had them over, or done any grandparent activities. Of course, now the boys are grown (24 and 21), so it doesn't matter. Essentially, as soon as I could, I moved far FAR way -- two years in Australia and 8 in England. I prefer to have nothing to do with her, or at least as little as possible. However, because I have children and one grandchild (YEH!), I do come back to Raleigh NC ( " home " ) to stay for periods of time, lately 8 months. Our latest argument was when I asked her to come to England for a visit during the local festival period. I carefully explained that she could stay with me, but would have to leave over one day because I was having other guests and there wouldn't be room in the apartment. This was a visit from my other friends that has already been arranged. There are plenty of hotels around for just one day. But that was it! She started screaming at me, calling me a liar, and telling me I never meant to have her there at all. And we haven't spoken for months. ly -- she's 76. I don't (CAN'T) have THAT much longer to go in this prison of torture. I just need to wait it out... Then I can come home. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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