Welcome to all the new members

[Guest guest]

Although its truly tragic that we are all in this situation of being the adult

children of mentally ill parents, its comforting to discover that we're not

alone.

It has meant a lot to me over the last several months to be able to speak freely

about what's going on in my life RE my nada (shorthand for " not-a-mom " , or

bpd-mom. " fada " = bpd-dad) and get this Group's support and validation.

We all get it, here. We understand how hard it was to have been raised by an

abusive parent or parents, and how hard it is to cope with their dysfunction in

the present, and address and try to heal the damage done to us.

I recommend reading past threads/topics of discussion to get oriented; it helps

to know that pretty much any topic or experience or question you can think of RE

your bpd parents has been brought up at one time or another.

At the " Welcome to Oz " web site there is also a list of recommended reading.

The Group owner here, Randi Kreger, is the author of " Stop Walking On Eggshells "

which is a great book, and there are other books like " Understanding the

Borderline Mother " : that author's breakdown of different types of bpd mothers:

the Waif, the Hermit, the Queen, and the Witch, and what they are like, and what

kinds of damage they do to their children is a real eye-opener. Very amazing

stuff.

So, again, welcome and feel free to chime in whenever you feel like it.

-Annie