RE: One more thing....*sigh*

[Guest guest]

> This is a child looking for independence and searching out social

> situations. This is what we wanted, right? RIGHT? Then why do I feel

> something slipping away?

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> *sigh*

> *sniff*

Maybe you're a little resistant to change yourself?

Sissi

[Guest guest]

Hi Penny,

I read something when I first started learning about ASD that said

that when an ASD child learns to lie it's a huge advancement for them.

Something about them realizing that there are alternate realities

(something besides their own reality, another person's reality)

anyway, I know that Jacquie wasn't really lying in this case as she

probably did have the headache, but if she was using it as an excuse

to get out of something, then she may be " progressing " in that area.

I don't know if what I just said makes any sense at all or is even on

the right track, but FWIW... ;-)

As for feeling " sniffly " about a child's progress, I'm a big

sympathizer in that area. I think that every step forward is a little

scary because we get used to what we've been dealing with so far and

the new advancement may bring on new challenges too. Does that make

any sense?

It's nice that she has friends that come over to seek her out. That's

really great isn't it?!!

~ Karin

[Guest guest]

Now THAT would be an understatement ;-)

Penny

Re: One more thing....*sigh*

> This is a child looking for independence and searching out social

> situations. This is what we wanted, right? RIGHT? Then why do I feel

> something slipping away?

>

> *sigh*

> *sniff*

Maybe you're a little resistant to change yourself?

Sissi

[Guest guest]

>>>>>

I read something when I first started learning about ASD that said

that when an ASD child learns to lie it's a huge advancement for them.

<<<<<<

LOL - Jacqui's fibbed before...this time she definitely wasn't though. It

was more important for her to play with who she WANTED to play with and

endure the pain.

>>>>>

It's nice that she has friends that come over to seek her out. That's

really great isn't it?!!

<<<<<<

Yes, unfortunately the only reason they did was because the kids they

USUALLY play with weren't home.

:-(

Penny

[Guest guest]

> situations. This is what we wanted, right? RIGHT? Then why do I feel

> something slipping away?

>

I don't know! What is it you feel is slipping away?

Because I haven't been there yet, all I can think is, " you're going to MISS

wondering if she'll ever make friends and maybe fall in love? "

I guess you are just part of a big passage of life right now. I hear that

it can wrench your heart to see your child growing up. At least that's what

all the magazines and books say. They always say it's bittersweet. Is that

the feeling you have? Bittersweet?

Jacquie

[Guest guest]

The innocence I guess.

Turning her loose on the world makes me feel like she's very vulnerable.

That scares me.

I want to empower her, but I'm not sure how to do that so she will

understand.

:-(

Penny

Re: One more thing....*sigh*

> situations. This is what we wanted, right? RIGHT? Then why do I feel

> something slipping away?

>

I don't know! What is it you feel is slipping away?

Because I haven't been there yet, all I can think is, " you're going to MISS

wondering if she'll ever make friends and maybe fall in love? "

I guess you are just part of a big passage of life right now. I hear that

it can wrench your heart to see your child growing up. At least that's what

all the magazines and books say. They always say it's bittersweet. Is that

the feeling you have? Bittersweet?

Jacquie

[Guest guest]

Don't know what to say Penny...

Sue

[Guest guest]

I think Jeff worries more about that with Greggory than I do but I do

worry. They are ready to take this huge step of wanting to be part of

a world they dont really understand. But I think all children and

parents go through that, just not to the etreme we do with our kids.

Jacquie H

> The innocence I guess.

>

> Turning her loose on the world makes me feel like she's very

vulnerable.

> That scares me.

> I want to empower her, but I'm not sure how to do that so she will

> understand.

>

> :-(

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> Penny

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> > situations. This is what we wanted, right? RIGHT? Then why do I

feel

> > something slipping away?

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> I don't know! What is it you feel is slipping away?

>

> Because I haven't been there yet, all I can think is, " you're going

to MISS

> wondering if she'll ever make friends and maybe fall in love? "

>

> I guess you are just part of a big passage of life right now. I

hear that

> it can wrench your heart to see your child growing up. At least

that's what

> all the magazines and books say. They always say it's

bittersweet. Is that

> the feeling you have? Bittersweet?

>

> Jacquie

[Guest guest]

> The innocence I guess.

>

> Turning her loose on the world makes me feel like she's very vulnerable.

> That scares me.

> I want to empower her, but I'm not sure how to do that so she will

> understand.

>

Okay, THAT I understand. Don't have one single answer, but I understand.

A few months ago, I was thinking about how when I was twelve my parents used

to go to town on thursday nights and I was allowed to stay home. I tried to

imagine leaving alone at 12. No way. At 16. No way. I was suddenly

gripped with a panic, wondering WHEN I'll be able to leave him at all! When

he'll be OK!

Very scary.

Jacquie

[Guest guest]

Jacquie,

We're already at 12 1/2 and I have no idea when I will be able to leave him

alone. If I were to run a bit late coming home, I think I could trust

alone, but only for a few minutes.....and certainly NOT with his

brother!

Sue

Re: One more thing....*sigh*

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> A few months ago, I was thinking about how when I was twelve my parents

used

> to go to town on thursday nights and I was allowed to stay home. I tried

to

> imagine leaving alone at 12. No way. At 16. No way. I was

suddenly

> gripped with a panic, wondering WHEN I'll be able to leave him at all!

When

> he'll be OK!

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> Very scary.

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> Jacquie

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