Re: Negative Thoughts and The Holidays-Live Through the Holidays, Don't Just Get Through Them!!!!!!!EMDR

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peggy oconnor wrote:

> I * acknowledging your negative beliefs (cognitions)

> * recognizing how negative cognitions have affected your life

> * transforming negative cognitions into positive cognitions with EMDR

>

> A negative cognition is evidence that a traumatic event has had a powerful

effect on your life that hasn't been assimilated or resolved. These negative

cognitions can be from childhood events. They can even come from recent events

with your abuser. These events are locked in our nervous system in the form of

these negative cognitions, plus emotions and physical sensations that feel the

same as the day it happened. They can be triggered by holiday people, places

and things.

>

> Some examples of negative cognitions are:

>

> * I am not good enough.

> * I should have known better.

> * I cannot protect myself.

* I am helpless.

Peggy,

This reminds me of the therapy I like and has helped me, " Reality Therapy " by

Glasser. The training requires you to review what you are feeling and

say " Is this really true ? " and of course most of our feelings that are negative

are not and we need to replace it with postive and correct thinking.

This also reminds me of Dianetics by Ron Hubbard and he refers to our mind as

having tapes we need to unrewind and make them more positve. The " I am

helpless " negative cognition that I believe pain patients have to fight

everyday.

Thank you for this, it reminds me of positive reinforcement and I used to listen

to a tape that helped me get through " Maslows Heirarcy " and to self

actualization. To this day I remember how it started, " I am a kind and loving

person " . It is amazing how self talk helps. Bennie