Re: Positive Cheering Squad

[Guest guest]

Woo hoo! Way to go Ashana! My 16 yo dtr is bpd and really struggled in some of

her (large public school) classes before she went to RTC. She hooked up with a

pretty dark crowd becs of her dark struggles. She will be back home this summer

or fall and I am trying hard to find the right school fit for her. I'd be

thrilled if she had a teacher like you! = ) Thanks for sharing.

Sincerely,

[Guest guest]

Thanks so much, .  That means a lot.

Ashana

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To: WTOAdultChildren1

Sent: Sunday, 3 May, 2009 3:51:20 PM

Subject: Re: Positive Cheering Squad

Woo hoo! Way to go Ashana! My 16 yo dtr is bpd and really struggled in some of

her (large public school) classes before she went to RTC. She hooked up with a

pretty dark crowd becs of her dark struggles. She will be back home this summer

or fall and I am trying hard to find the right school fit for her. I'd be

thrilled if she had a teacher like you! = ) Thanks for sharing.

Sincerely,

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[Guest guest]

Thanks so much, .  That means a lot.

Ashana

________________________________

To: WTOAdultChildren1

Sent: Sunday, 3 May, 2009 3:51:20 PM

Subject: Re: Positive Cheering Squad

Woo hoo! Way to go Ashana! My 16 yo dtr is bpd and really struggled in some of

her (large public school) classes before she went to RTC. She hooked up with a

pretty dark crowd becs of her dark struggles. She will be back home this summer

or fall and I am trying hard to find the right school fit for her. I'd be

thrilled if she had a teacher like you! = ) Thanks for sharing.

Sincerely,

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[Guest guest]

Good for you Ashana! Sounds like a great acomplishment. Nice of you

to kind of take her under your wing and try to help her too, instead

of seeing a possible PD & running the other way. Just don't let your

guard down too much. But, I admire your desire to help her. Big

congrats!

Justi

>

>

> Hi all,

>

> This is my accomplishment for the week.

>

> I have a couple of students with strong borderline traits. (I usually

> do--think 2%--and I usually have about 100 students each year).  Whether or

> not they are borderline or will become borderline, I don't know, but they

> seem to me to be at high risk for developing a pd of some kind.  They are

> also extremely difficult to deal with without having the entire rest of the

> class getting destroyed in the cross-fire (and without losing my own

> sanity).  I teach high school--so these students are usually between 14 and

> 16.

>

> If it surprises you that there are kids with pd traits in regular classes,

> try to remember that your bpd parents mostly went through the regular school

> system--they did not, for the most part, end up in reform schools or special

> classes for the emotionally disturbed.  And most borderlines do have

> symptoms in adolescence.  They didn't wake up with pds on their 18th

> birthdays.

>

> So, I have one student this year with bpd traits I feel like I am genuinely

> helping.  I've worked very hard at setting extremely consistent boundaries

> with her and enforcing consistent consequences (not my strength, by the way)

> and validating her emotions and I feel there is starting to be some

> pay-off.  She sometimes gets sent to my room from another class as a

> punishment for acting up in that class.  When she comes in, she tends to be

> very worked up (for obvious reasons) and it is hard for her to enter without

> causing disruption to my class.  Sometimes she can, but often she can't.

> Lately, when I have had to take her outside again (because she came in

> disruptively), she says, " I know, I know, I'm supposed to come in quietly.

> I'm sorry. "   And she does quiet down (instead of escalating).  The fact that

> she can calm herself down points to an increased ability to regulate her

> emotions to me.

>

> Also, we've worked at expressing feelings (especially anger) appropriately.

> Last week, she was angry at another student (a friend) and wiped saliva on

> his binder and then walked away.  I called her back and asked, " Is that the

> appropriate way to express anger? "   She said no, wiped the spit off, and

> said, " I hate you.  Leave me alone. "

>

> That may not seem like a big step up, but using words instead of being

> passive aggressive and understanding that words are how you are supposed

> to express yourself really is an improvement.

>

> Thanks for listening,

> Ashana

>

> Bollywood news, movie reviews, film trailers and more! Go to

> http://in.movies.yahoo.com/

>

>

[Guest guest]

Dude...that's awesome!!!!! You're making a huge difference in this girls life!

Lord only knows what her homelife is like. I mean...she could be a KO acting

out fleas because no one at home is bothering to teach her proper social

interaction and is actually teaching her how to be PD'd, and you're fulfilling

that need.

Totally not a small thing.

>

> Hi all,

>

> This is my accomplishment for the week.

>

> I have a couple of students with strong borderline traits. (I usually

do--think 2%--and I usually have about 100 students each year).  Whether or not

they are borderline or will become borderline, I don't know, but they seem to me

to be at high risk for developing a pd of some kind.  They are also extremely

difficult to deal with without having the entire rest of the class getting

destroyed in the cross-fire (and without losing my own sanity).  I teach high

school--so these students are usually between 14 and 16.

>

> If it surprises you that there are kids with pd traits in regular classes, try

to remember that your bpd parents mostly went through the regular school

system--they did not, for the most part, end up in reform schools or special

classes for the emotionally disturbed.  And most borderlines do have symptoms in

adolescence.  They didn't wake up with pds on their 18th birthdays.

>

> So, I have one student this year with bpd traits I feel like I am genuinely

helping.  I've worked very hard at setting extremely consistent boundaries with

her and enforcing consistent consequences (not my strength, by the way) and

validating her emotions and I feel there is starting to be some pay-off.  She

sometimes gets sent to my room from another class as a punishment for acting up

in that class.  When she comes in, she tends to be very worked up (for obvious

reasons) and it is hard for her to enter without causing disruption to my

class.  Sometimes she can, but often she can't.  Lately, when I have had to take

her outside again (because she came in disruptively), she says, " I know, I know,

I'm supposed to come in quietly.  I'm sorry. "   And she does quiet down (instead

of escalating).  The fact that she can calm herself down points to an increased

ability to regulate her emotions to me.

>

> Also, we've worked at expressing feelings (especially anger) appropriately. 

Last week, she was angry at another student (a friend) and wiped saliva on his

binder and then walked away.  I called her back and asked, " Is that the

appropriate way to express anger? "   She said no, wiped the spit off, and said,

" I hate you.  Leave me alone. "

>

> That may not seem like a big step up, but using words instead of being passive

aggressive and understanding that words are how you are supposed to express

yourself really is an improvement.

>

> Thanks for listening,

> Ashana

>

>

> Bollywood news, movie reviews, film trailers and more! Go to

http://in.movies.yahoo.com/

>

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks, Jenesis.  That's nice to hear.

Ashana

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[Guest guest]

woo hoo, Ms. Max!!! You know kids don't make that stuff up - way to go!!!

>

> A while ago, someone posted about this.  I thought I'd keep it up.  I need it.

>  

> This isn't really an accomplishment--just a nice thing.  I was substituting

for another teacher on Friday during my prep period and overheard this

conversation between two students, " I hear she's good. "   " Who? " " Ms. Max. "

" Yeah...she was my teacher... "

>  

> Thanks for listening,

> Ashana

[Guest guest]

woo hoo, Ms. Max!!! You know kids don't make that stuff up - way to go!!!

>

> A while ago, someone posted about this.  I thought I'd keep it up.  I need it.

>  

> This isn't really an accomplishment--just a nice thing.  I was substituting

for another teacher on Friday during my prep period and overheard this

conversation between two students, " I hear she's good. "   " Who? " " Ms. Max. "

" Yeah...she was my teacher... "

>  

> Thanks for listening,

> Ashana