Guest guest Posted April 29, 2009 Report Share Posted April 29, 2009 Jackie, I'm so sad to hear about your dog (the one who had surgery, right?). I did not realize there would not be a good outcome for her and I hope she is not in any pain. That's so hard, and I'm sorry you're not getting the support you need. Your nada is incapable of offering support, because she incapable of understanding loving anyone. I know there was some talk about pets in a recent thread (Grey Gardens??), but I couldn't catch up. I'd like to chime in here, though, because I know it's possible to develop a powerful bond with a pet. Nada was indifferent about pets, but I'm a consummate animal lover, so not sure where it came from. My brothers are too, though they aren't into rescuing every injured creature that comes along, like me. I fall on the cat side of the fence, though. I have a thing for black cats, especially - and no, I'm not into the dark arts. I had one whom I loved dearly, but he died right before my son was born (at 14 yrs.) He was a truly remarkable cat - a once in a lifetime pet - and I still miss him 15 years later. I now have two black cats, Baloo and Bagheera - named from the Jungle Book characters, of course, and with personalities to match. They are very talkative loveable boys, (except for one who goes " off " at the vet's), and they are my " company " when my two-legged guys are at work/school. They take turns sitting right next to me as I work at my computer, purring and content to just be near. Who wouldn't welcome unconditional love like that! So, as I said, the bond with a pet can be very strong. They give companionship, love, entertainment, and only ask for care and food and shelter in return. Although it is usually us that " adopts " them, I think that the trust our " animals " place in us is a gift. Not everyone really enjoys animals, but anyone who could abuse, neglect, or otherwise mistreat them is a lower form of life, in my opinion. I hope I don't make you feel worse -- I just wanted to say that I understand the hurt. (((hug))) Suzy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 29, 2009 Report Share Posted April 29, 2009 Jackie, I'm so sad to hear about your dog (the one who had surgery, right?). I did not realize there would not be a good outcome for her and I hope she is not in any pain. That's so hard, and I'm sorry you're not getting the support you need. Your nada is incapable of offering support, because she incapable of understanding loving anyone. I know there was some talk about pets in a recent thread (Grey Gardens??), but I couldn't catch up. I'd like to chime in here, though, because I know it's possible to develop a powerful bond with a pet. Nada was indifferent about pets, but I'm a consummate animal lover, so not sure where it came from. My brothers are too, though they aren't into rescuing every injured creature that comes along, like me. I fall on the cat side of the fence, though. I have a thing for black cats, especially - and no, I'm not into the dark arts. I had one whom I loved dearly, but he died right before my son was born (at 14 yrs.) He was a truly remarkable cat - a once in a lifetime pet - and I still miss him 15 years later. I now have two black cats, Baloo and Bagheera - named from the Jungle Book characters, of course, and with personalities to match. They are very talkative loveable boys, (except for one who goes " off " at the vet's), and they are my " company " when my two-legged guys are at work/school. They take turns sitting right next to me as I work at my computer, purring and content to just be near. Who wouldn't welcome unconditional love like that! So, as I said, the bond with a pet can be very strong. They give companionship, love, entertainment, and only ask for care and food and shelter in return. Although it is usually us that " adopts " them, I think that the trust our " animals " place in us is a gift. Not everyone really enjoys animals, but anyone who could abuse, neglect, or otherwise mistreat them is a lower form of life, in my opinion. I hope I don't make you feel worse -- I just wanted to say that I understand the hurt. (((hug))) Suzy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 29, 2009 Report Share Posted April 29, 2009 thank you Suzy, you do make me feel better just by understanding and not saying the stupid things nada has said in the past when I've lost a beloved pet... " it's only an animal " " be glad it's just the dog and not _____ " fill in the blank with whatever stupid thing comes out of her mouth. I had told her about the amputation 3 weeks ago, but have heard nothing, didn't expect to. Anyway, this dog is very special. I know I'll have other special dogs too, as I've had them before her. She's my personal nurse/care giver. When I'm sick, she brings me her favorite stuffed toy. If I don't respond properly to her, she will bring another and another until I scratch her ears and tell her she's a great mom :-) she's been SO much more nurturing in her 8 years then my nada has been in the 50 I've been alive. Chee has to " supervise " when I shower..and if I drop the bar of soap, she's got her face against the shower doors to make sure I'm ok...things just wont be the same without her. We had a solid black long haired cat someone dumped here in 1998. He was an adult already, and had yellow eyes, very cool looking ! A few years back he got attacked by something that grabbed his tail and the tail broke in 2 places. When we found him in the barn after he was missing for a few days, he was in shock, but survived and survived the tail removal. He looked like a bear cub coming down a tree .He died last fall. He had been getting stiff upon rising over the years. Jackie Jackie, I'm so sad to hear about your dog (the one who had surgery, right?). I did not realize there would not be a good outcome for her and I hope she is not in any pain. That's so hard, and I'm sorry you're not getting the support you need. Your nada is incapable of offering support, because she incapable of understanding loving anyone. I know there was some talk about pets in a recent thread (Grey Gardens??), but I couldn't catch up. I'd like to chime in here, though, because I know it's possible to develop a powerful bond with a pet. Nada was indifferent about pets, but I'm a consummate animal lover, so not sure where it came from. My brothers are too, though they aren't into rescuing every injured creature that comes along, like me. I fall on the cat side of the fence, though. I have a thing for black cats, especially - and no, I'm not into the dark arts. I had one whom I loved dearly, but he died right before my son was born (at 14 yrs.) He was a truly remarkable cat - a once in a lifetime pet - and I still miss him 15 years later. I now have two black cats, Baloo and Bagheera - named from the Jungle Book characters, of course, and with personalities to match. They are very talkative loveable boys, (except for one who goes " off " at the vet's), and they are my " company " when my two-legged guys are at work/school. They take turns sitting right next to me as I work at my computer, purring and content to just be near. Who wouldn't welcome unconditional love like that! So, as I said, the bond with a pet can be very strong. They give companionship, love, entertainment, and only ask for care and food and shelter in return. Although it is usually us that " adopts " them, I think that the trust our " animals " place in us is a gift. Not everyone really enjoys animals, but anyone who could abuse, neglect, or otherwise mistreat them is a lower form of life, in my opinion. I hope I don't make you feel worse -- I just wanted to say that I understand the hurt. (((hug))) Suzy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 29, 2009 Report Share Posted April 29, 2009 What you said here Jackie, about " be glad it's just the dog ant not ____ " I also love animals and have done animal rescue. Well, one morning about 9 years ago I was driving home (I lived with Nada). A squirrel ran out in front of me and I hit it. I felt simply awful. When I got home, I had tears in my eyes and nada asked me what was wrong. I told her I hit a squirrel. She became infuriated and said in a nasty tone of voice " A squirrel? You're upset over a squirrel? Just be glad it wasn't a kid! " Sorry to kind of change the subject, but I had forgotten about that until I read your post. I'm sorry about your dog too. Pets are so wonderful and it's never easy to loose one of our beloved furbabies. And Suzy, I'm also partial to black cats. When I first got into rescue, they said black cats didn't adopt out very well b/c people have strange ideas about them. But, my first foster was a black cat who kept batting at me in her cage in the shelter. I couldn't resist! She turned into our 'first foster curse' kitty as we ended up adopting her. Going to miss her a lot. She sounds a lot like your kitty... a once in a life time pet. Justi > > > thank you Suzy, you do make me feel better just by understanding and not > saying the stupid things nada has said in the past when I've lost a beloved > pet... " it's only an animal " " be glad it's just the dog and not _____ " fill > in the blank with whatever stupid thing comes out of her mouth. I had told > her about the amputation 3 weeks ago, but have heard nothing, didn't expect > to. Anyway, this dog is very special. I know I'll have other special dogs > too, as I've had them before her. She's my personal nurse/care giver. When > I'm sick, she brings me her favorite stuffed toy. If I don't respond > properly to her, she will bring another and another until I scratch her ears > and tell her she's a great mom :-) she's been SO much more nurturing in her > 8 years then my nada has been in the 50 I've been alive. Chee has to > " supervise " when I shower..and if I drop the bar of soap, she's got her face > against the shower doors to make sure I'm ok...things just wont be the same > without her. We had a solid black long haired cat someone dumped here in > 1998. He was an adult already, and had yellow eyes, very cool looking ! A > few years back he got attacked by something that grabbed his tail and the > tail broke in 2 places. When we found him in the barn after he was missing > for a few days, he was in shock, but survived and survived the tail removal. > He looked like a bear cub coming down a tree .He died last fall. He had > been getting stiff upon rising over the years. > > Jackie > > Jackie, > > I'm so sad to hear about your dog (the one who had surgery, right?). I > did not realize there would not be a good outcome for her and I hope she > is not in any pain. That's so hard, and I'm sorry you're not getting the > support you need. Your nada is incapable of offering support, because > she incapable of understanding loving anyone. > > I know there was some talk about pets in a recent thread (Grey > Gardens??), but I couldn't catch up. I'd like to chime in here, though, > because I know it's possible to develop a powerful bond with a pet. > Nada was indifferent about pets, but I'm a consummate animal lover, so > not sure where it came from. My brothers are too, though they aren't > into rescuing every injured creature that comes along, like me. I fall > on the cat side of the fence, though. I have a thing for black cats, > especially - and no, I'm not into the dark arts. I had one whom I loved > dearly, but he died right before my son was born (at 14 yrs.) He was a > truly remarkable cat - a once in a lifetime pet - and I still miss him > 15 years later. I now have two black cats, Baloo and Bagheera - named > from the Jungle Book characters, of course, and with personalities to > match. They are very talkative loveable boys, (except for one who goes > " off " at the vet's), and they are my " company " when my two-legged guys > are at work/school. They take turns sitting right next to me as I work > at my computer, purring and content to just be near. Who wouldn't > welcome unconditional love like that! > > So, as I said, the bond with a pet can be very strong. They give > companionship, love, entertainment, and only ask for care and food and > shelter in return. Although it is usually us that " adopts " them, I > think that the trust our " animals " place in us is a gift. Not everyone > really enjoys animals, but anyone who could abuse, neglect, or otherwise > mistreat them is a lower form of life, in my opinion. > > I hope I don't make you feel worse -- I just wanted to say that I > understand the hurt. > > (((hug))) > > Suzy > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 29, 2009 Report Share Posted April 29, 2009 What you said here Jackie, about " be glad it's just the dog ant not ____ " I also love animals and have done animal rescue. Well, one morning about 9 years ago I was driving home (I lived with Nada). A squirrel ran out in front of me and I hit it. I felt simply awful. When I got home, I had tears in my eyes and nada asked me what was wrong. I told her I hit a squirrel. She became infuriated and said in a nasty tone of voice " A squirrel? You're upset over a squirrel? Just be glad it wasn't a kid! " Sorry to kind of change the subject, but I had forgotten about that until I read your post. I'm sorry about your dog too. Pets are so wonderful and it's never easy to loose one of our beloved furbabies. And Suzy, I'm also partial to black cats. When I first got into rescue, they said black cats didn't adopt out very well b/c people have strange ideas about them. But, my first foster was a black cat who kept batting at me in her cage in the shelter. I couldn't resist! She turned into our 'first foster curse' kitty as we ended up adopting her. Going to miss her a lot. She sounds a lot like your kitty... a once in a life time pet. Justi > > > thank you Suzy, you do make me feel better just by understanding and not > saying the stupid things nada has said in the past when I've lost a beloved > pet... " it's only an animal " " be glad it's just the dog and not _____ " fill > in the blank with whatever stupid thing comes out of her mouth. I had told > her about the amputation 3 weeks ago, but have heard nothing, didn't expect > to. Anyway, this dog is very special. I know I'll have other special dogs > too, as I've had them before her. She's my personal nurse/care giver. When > I'm sick, she brings me her favorite stuffed toy. If I don't respond > properly to her, she will bring another and another until I scratch her ears > and tell her she's a great mom :-) she's been SO much more nurturing in her > 8 years then my nada has been in the 50 I've been alive. Chee has to > " supervise " when I shower..and if I drop the bar of soap, she's got her face > against the shower doors to make sure I'm ok...things just wont be the same > without her. We had a solid black long haired cat someone dumped here in > 1998. He was an adult already, and had yellow eyes, very cool looking ! A > few years back he got attacked by something that grabbed his tail and the > tail broke in 2 places. When we found him in the barn after he was missing > for a few days, he was in shock, but survived and survived the tail removal. > He looked like a bear cub coming down a tree .He died last fall. He had > been getting stiff upon rising over the years. > > Jackie > > Jackie, > > I'm so sad to hear about your dog (the one who had surgery, right?). I > did not realize there would not be a good outcome for her and I hope she > is not in any pain. That's so hard, and I'm sorry you're not getting the > support you need. Your nada is incapable of offering support, because > she incapable of understanding loving anyone. > > I know there was some talk about pets in a recent thread (Grey > Gardens??), but I couldn't catch up. I'd like to chime in here, though, > because I know it's possible to develop a powerful bond with a pet. > Nada was indifferent about pets, but I'm a consummate animal lover, so > not sure where it came from. My brothers are too, though they aren't > into rescuing every injured creature that comes along, like me. I fall > on the cat side of the fence, though. I have a thing for black cats, > especially - and no, I'm not into the dark arts. I had one whom I loved > dearly, but he died right before my son was born (at 14 yrs.) He was a > truly remarkable cat - a once in a lifetime pet - and I still miss him > 15 years later. I now have two black cats, Baloo and Bagheera - named > from the Jungle Book characters, of course, and with personalities to > match. They are very talkative loveable boys, (except for one who goes > " off " at the vet's), and they are my " company " when my two-legged guys > are at work/school. They take turns sitting right next to me as I work > at my computer, purring and content to just be near. Who wouldn't > welcome unconditional love like that! > > So, as I said, the bond with a pet can be very strong. They give > companionship, love, entertainment, and only ask for care and food and > shelter in return. Although it is usually us that " adopts " them, I > think that the trust our " animals " place in us is a gift. Not everyone > really enjoys animals, but anyone who could abuse, neglect, or otherwise > mistreat them is a lower form of life, in my opinion. > > I hope I don't make you feel worse -- I just wanted to say that I > understand the hurt. > > (((hug))) > > Suzy > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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