Re: Another crazy encounter.....

[Guest guest]

Malinda,

I am so sorry to hear that. Sounds like life is a hectic for you right now. As a

fellow foodie, food is not the answer. That will only make you feel worse. You

need to do something for you and say to hell with all of them for now.

Hugs to you.

Abby

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> At times I feel like my life is swirling out of control. This week was a

hard one. I was sick with bronchitis, my narcissistic husband didn't pay the

electric bill and the power was shut off. Of course he told me to say nothing to

him, because he already felt bad enough, so I didn't.

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> Then today, I told my parents I would bring them over breakfast and visit

with them, I hadn't seen them for a week. They too were both sick like me.

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> It was a short visit because nada just kept giving me verbal shots.

Telling me I had no right to make comments about anyone's religion, because I

don't go to church....comments about my hair....comments about the horrible

Mother's Day she had, and how I abandoned her on Mother's Day. Though I went to

dinner with her, then to the local casino because that is what she wanted to do.

The problem was I left her with my aunt to gamble. I went and spend time with my

daughter. I knew my daughter was leaving early, and then I was planning then on

being with my mother. So that was when I abandoned her, and during that time my

aunt took her slot machine and won money, and that was my fault because she

could have won that money.

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> I just lost it. I explained it was my Mother's Day too. I went along

with what she wanted to do, and did share my time with her. I also got her

flowers, and made up a paper on the computer, for a mother/ daughter date, on a

day good for the both of us. The paper said I would treat her to lunch, take

her shopping, and then we would go to the casino. Before Mother's Day, I asked

her if this was an ok gift, and she thought it was a good idea. I asked her if

she remembered the gift, she said Mother's Day was over, and she didn't want the

gift. I said that was fine.

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> She blamed me for starting all this and told me I was upsetting my

father and making him sicker. This is a very touchy subject for me, because she

blamed along time ago for my father's heart attack and has used that against me

forever. That was it. I just told her she would never blame me ever again for my

father's health. I said I was done, and if she couldn't treat me with respect, I

wouldn't becoming around.

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> I told my father I loved him, and if needed anything to call me, and I

left.

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> I am numb....yet I want to shove more food down my throat to medicate

the pain from all this and I am not even hungry. I am not sure why she hates me

so, but she does.

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> Prior to Mother's Day I wasn't thinking of going NC, but now,

something has to be done.

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> Thank you all for being my therapy session...and letting me express

myself and my frustration in all of this.

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> Malinda

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