Re: Alyssa is getting her band tommorow.

[Guest guest]

Donna,

Congratulations on Alyssa getting her band tomorrow, and happy

rounding! I can certainly see where it's a lot to deal with with

the Holidays coming up - perhaps that could lend itself to some

great band theme decorating at your get-togethers and parties! I

have read that decorated bands can be a great icebreaker.

I'm so sorry you don't have any vacation time left! I would want to

go too. Your sitter sounds wonderful to be able to accompany your

husband to the band fitting - I know that must be some comfort to

you since you can't be there. Have you looked into perhaps taking

Family Leave of Absence (FMLA) to cover any future appts. or

adjustments? I don't think a workplace is required to permit

intermittant day-here, day-there use of the 12 weeks a year you are

entitled to, but this might be negotiable with the HR dept. at your

work. I think we have a link to the FMLA rules in the links

section, if you're interested.

Would you post when you can and let us know how Alyssa's intitial

fitting went?

Take care,

Christie (Mom to Repo'd Remy)

--- In Plagiocephaly , " dperino28 " <dperino28@y...>

wrote:

>

> Hello Everyone,

>

> i have not been on in a while, but just wanted to let you know

that

> Alyssa is getting her band tommorow ( our wedding anniversary). I

> really do have a lot of mixed emotions about this and i am very

sad

> that tonight will be the last night she sleeps with out a band for

> the next 3 months or so I am also overwhelmed because the

> Holidays are coming up and i know that i am going to be

entertaining

> and seeing a lot of people, etc. and i am just not to sure how to

> handle the whole situation. DH and i have only told our immediate

> family, but there are so many more people to tell or who will ask

> questions about it.

>

> Oh and to make me feel even worse, i have no more vacation days

left

> from work so DH is taking the baby without me tommorow to get the

> band. He is brining our sitter with him since she is with the baby

8

> hours a day while we are both at work.

>

> Thanks

> Donna

[Guest guest]

Hi Donna

I think everyone is nervous about appearing in front of people, such

as at family gatherings etc when the band is new- I know I was.

Decorating it is certainly a good tip- it allows people to comment

on the decoration positively. With Christmas coming up, I'm sure a

festive theme would certainly help and people would respond well to

it. Another good one is to let one or two really gossipy family

members tell everyone so it isn't a shock when they see your

daughter. They will probably be delighted to help! Also, once you

see some results after the first few weeks, your own confidence will

soar and you won't mind taking your little one anywhere with the

band. Finally, if there is a one off event in which there will be

hundreds of people (like my daughter's christening) and you don't

want to explain it a thousand times, just take it off for that few

hours. It won't hurt and may just make your life easier. For smaller

family and friend get-togethers, you will probably find your

daughter is the centre of attention and thoroughly enjoys it!

Hope the fitting goes well and let us know how you get on

Hannah (mum to Lucia, London, UK)

Cranio grad

--- In Plagiocephaly , " dperino28 " <dperino28@y...>

wrote:

>

> Hello Everyone,

>

> i have not been on in a while, but just wanted to let you know

that

> Alyssa is getting her band tommorow ( our wedding anniversary). I

> really do have a lot of mixed emotions about this and i am very

sad

> that tonight will be the last night she sleeps with out a band for

> the next 3 months or so I am also overwhelmed because the

> Holidays are coming up and i know that i am going to be

entertaining

> and seeing a lot of people, etc. and i am just not to sure how to

> handle the whole situation. DH and i have only told our immediate

> family, but there are so many more people to tell or who will ask

> questions about it.

>

> Oh and to make me feel even worse, i have no more vacation days

left

> from work so DH is taking the baby without me tommorow to get the

> band. He is brining our sitter with him since she is with the baby

8

> hours a day while we are both at work.

>

> Thanks

> Donna

[Guest guest]

Hello Donna

Good to hear that Alyssa will get started soon. You will see that

the band isn't as bad as it originally seems. I do remember being

overwhelmed, and saddened, but before you know it, it's over, and

your done. I found myself going sticker shopping crazy. I loved to

decorate Willow's band, and Willow also wore hers during

Thanksgiving / Christmas / New Years.

One thing that helped me get through peoples reaction is to not let

them know my bad feeling, but only the good. I would say things

like WOW what they can do today, and I'm sure that our parents would

have been sooo appreciative to have this if... Stuff like that. It

did help with my Dad's first reaction. He always thought my

daughter was perfect, even before the band. )

Let us know how Alyssa does with her new band tomorrow.

Sandy WIllow's Mom

Torticollis resolved

Cranio Germany Grad

--- In Plagiocephaly , " dperino28 " <dperino28@y...>

wrote:

>

> Hello Everyone,

>

> i have not been on in a while, but just wanted to let you know

that

> Alyssa is getting her band tommorow ( our wedding anniversary). I

> really do have a lot of mixed emotions about this and i am very

sad

> that tonight will be the last night she sleeps with out a band for

> the next 3 months or so I am also overwhelmed because the

> Holidays are coming up and i know that i am going to be

entertaining

> and seeing a lot of people, etc. and i am just not to sure how to

> handle the whole situation. DH and i have only told our immediate

> family, but there are so many more people to tell or who will ask

> questions about it.

>

> Oh and to make me feel even worse, i have no more vacation days

left

> from work so DH is taking the baby without me tommorow to get the

> band. He is brining our sitter with him since she is with the baby

8

> hours a day while we are both at work.

>

> Thanks

> Donna

[Guest guest]

Hi Donna! I totally understand your anxiety. I agree that keeping an

upbeat positive attitude about it is key. If they are decent people

(and I'm sure your friends and family are) they will be totally

supportive and say " wow, that is great that you are helping your

daughter...etc. etc. " You will pleasantly surprised and have new-

found respect for them. The holiday decorating is a great idea.

Just know that you are doing the very best for Alyssa and would never

sacrifice her care based on what other people think. Good luck and

huge hugs! You will get thru this and it will soon be a distant

memory. Enjoy each SECOND with her!

Sue

Colin F., 14 mos.

STARband grad

--- In Plagiocephaly , " dperino28 " <dperino28@y...>

wrote:

>

> Hello Everyone,

>

> i have not been on in a while, but just wanted to let you know that

> Alyssa is getting her band tommorow ( our wedding anniversary). I

> really do have a lot of mixed emotions about this and i am very sad

> that tonight will be the last night she sleeps with out a band for

> the next 3 months or so I am also overwhelmed because the

> Holidays are coming up and i know that i am going to be

entertaining

> and seeing a lot of people, etc. and i am just not to sure how to

> handle the whole situation. DH and i have only told our immediate

> family, but there are so many more people to tell or who will ask

> questions about it.

>

> Oh and to make me feel even worse, i have no more vacation days

left

> from work so DH is taking the baby without me tommorow to get the

> band. He is brining our sitter with him since she is with the baby

8

> hours a day while we are both at work.

>

> Thanks

> Donna