Re: Should I have said it?

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I'd say that it does not seem to have worked out very well for you.  But it's

already done.  Does it matter now what you should or shouldn't have done?  You

can't very well go back and have a do-over, so I think the main thing is, what

are you going to do now?

I also wanted to add that she isn't going to like or give you permission to deal

with your own issues and get healthier.  She will do whatever she thinks is

necessary to prevent your perceived abandonment of her--whether that's make

accusations, interrogate, rage, lay on the guilt, or whatever.  Your job is to

take care of yourself and how uncomfortable it is for you to see her so

uncomfortable.  Your job isn't to make her more comfortable.  They are her

feelings to take care of.  Just because she hands them to you on a plate doesn't

mean you have to accept them.

All the best,

Ashana

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