Re: Encouraging others

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> Rosie wrote:

> Sweetie, I know what it is like to be alone after losing our hubby

> and I also lost my youngest son, 29yrs old shortly after. It has been rough

but I go ........one day at a time.....if you want to have an email friend off

the list............email me anytime.

Rosie,

I am sorry for your losses and you are so sweet to encourage others and that is

really all we ever have. I really have no family. My Sisters do not care about

me and I have put so much into those relationships to not get anything back. It

is hard to do that.

I just wanted to say, it is nice to know people like you are out there. Bennie

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Thank you Bennie, I just like being friends with people and especially

those who go through things like that. I know since I have had some of the same

experiences how it feels too.

When I lost my hubby and son so many people tried to talk and say they knew how

it was but they really did not since they never lost their husband or a child. I

have lost 2 children really but the little girl was born and lived only one

hour. I still grieve over that some since I always wanted to have a little girl

and had to wait until I got my granddaughter to have.

I know from time to time, especially their birthdays and the holidays are the

hardest, or some special thing I think of that reminds me of them I will get

depressed. I know they are always in my mind and in my heart and some day we

will be together again.

Life can throw us a lot of stumbling blocks but the thing is we need to keep our

faith and put it in our Fathers hands.

I have same problem with my older sister. She does not want anything to do with

me either. I try but she is hard heart-ed about things

that went down, she and my older brother both sued me when my mom

died over 20yrs ago. I won the lawsuit though.

Rosie

> Bennie wrote:

I am sorry for your losses and you are so sweet to encourage others and that is

really all we ever have. I really have no family. My Sisters do not care about

me and I have put so much into those relationships to not get anything back. It

is hard to do that.

I just wanted to say, it is nice to know people like you are out there.

Bennie

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>Rosie wrote:

> I have same problem with my older sister. She does not want anything to do

with me either. I try but she is hard heart-ed about things that went down, she

and my older brother both sued me when my mom > died over 20yrs ago. I won the

lawsuit though.

Rosie,

I never say I know how you feel as I do not. My older Sister lost both her

daughters and they were young. I cannot every know how she endures it and her

three sons have trouble with the law and she of course deals with this. My

other Sister loves me one time and then another time, she does not. I am the

executor of my Dad's estate and she thinks that this means I can get something,

which it does not.

She has done some things, stealing money from my Dad causing problems with him

trusting others and it has caused problems for me, him changing things so I will

have to petition the court of his competency before I can expedite the Power of

Attorney as he is fearful of his money being taken.

I was very close to my Mom and care for her and she lived with us for awhile and

when she died, a piece of my heart died. The times of years she had her stroke,

the day she died, her birthday, and other events tend to sneak up one me and I

just break out crying. She was my counselor and I could tell her anything. I

do not have that anymore. My Sister has made remarks like, You can get 20 per

cent of Dad's estate for being executor and I can go down when he dies and get

my money with the death certificate. I told her that is not true. I do not

want anything for doing it.

Both her and I have done everything for my Dad and Mom since we live the closest

and my oldest Sister, kinda, seems to not have to deal with the issues we have

caring for our parents.

My last visit two weeks ago, I called her in the morning to wish her a good day

and she told me a was a liar and hung up on me. Now I do not know what I am a

liar about but this is bad. She had told me she thought my older sister was

power of attorney and taken it over, my Dad had given it to her.

Well, I did not want to ask my Dad and start problems, so I called the lawyer we

used and I was still on file and I called the bank and put my information there

since the bank had called my Dad when my Sister had changed an amount on a check

my Dad had given her.

Sorry, I am dumping on this group but this is what I have had to deal with and

then try to be nice. I so which I had a loving family like they show on the

movies and TV, but I just do not. My husband and son are wonderful. So since my

Dad is by himself, we will drive down, six hours, and I will cook a turkey

dinner, and my Sister will not come because I have lied about something.

I told my Dad my Sister is upset about something with me and I do not know what

it is, and he said just ignore her and I will. I sure wish there was some love

there but I am the brunt and the bad person and it does take an effect after

awhile.

Thank you for the encouragement. Bennie