Re: Do all teachers and social workers think the parent is an idiot or am I blessed

[Guest guest]

I am so sorry! All I can say is what has been said to me so

many times since I've learned about ASD with my own son. " Follow your

gut " or your instincts..... I don't think your concern is out of line.

Something needs to be addressed in a different way here. His hair

clumps and signs of stress shouldn't be ignored. Can you get an

advocate that can speak for you more calmly or something? I wasn't sure

from your post when you spoke about being hormonal if maybe you are

pregnant or something like that. I think you need to be seen as serious

about this so they will re-evaluate their side of things.

Sorry, I don't know if that is helpful or not. Your love for your son

is dear to my heart.

Take care,

~ Karin

The Rajnert Family wrote:

> Ughh, I really can't stand when people talk down to me like I'm a jerk.

> It drives me nuts. 's social worker and teacher called me today to

> talk about my concern that every single day for a month, I have been

> getting notes that state " had some difficult moments today " "

> was defient today " " didn't want to participate or clean up

> today " . I wanted to know what was going on, we didn't have problems

> like this last year. Recently has been losing his hair and getting

> hives again. As a mom I was worried, all the stress of me missing and

> now these notes. I just wanted to know what was going on.

>

> So they call me today and want to know the reason they give. " Terrible

> two's " Ok I know my child has a developmental delay but I don't even

> believe in the terrible two's, never mind the fact that he's 4. I know

> he's excerting his independence but give me a break here, it's only

> there and with that particular teacher he's having issues with. Home,

> he's just and last I remember even the developmental ped put his

> behavior above a 2 year old level.

>

> The whole coverstion left me thinking , they think I'm just a hormonal

> mess and over reacting. HELLO, is it your child that has now lost two

> huge clumps of his hair on his head because of stress. Is it your child

> that has hives on a daily basis, or who's tongue is so raw from the

> geographic tounge that it hurts him to eat.

>

> Oh well, what the hell do i know. I'm just the hormonal mess that loves

> him with everything I have.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

~ I am so sorry you are having such a hard time with the

school. I teach 1st and 2nd graders with severe autism this school

year, and I have had to " agrue " with the educational team on a few

occations that the way they are treating the parents of the kids in

our class unfairly. We have a 1st grader in our class that is 100lbs

and stands to my shoulder ( i am 5'6 ) He is non -verbal but very

bright. Unfortunatley he uses his size to intimidate the staff and is

violent. I can't tell you how many large bruises I get a week.(

currently I have four) They blame all his behaviors on his mother.

They think she doesn't put her foot down enough. I can tell you that

when I " put my foot down " and insist he participates in his

academics, that is when I get a lot of violent outbursts. Being a

parent of 2 boys with autism, I feel for the woman I am sure she is

overwelmed and intimidated by his violence, I know I certainly am.

Amy mom to

Noah 6 Lucas 8 ASD's

[Guest guest]

Re: Do all teachers and social workers think the

parent is an idiot or am I blessed

ly. We have a 1st grader in our class that is 100lbs

> and stands to my shoulder ( i am 5'6 )

IN FIRST GRADE????? Oh how I feel for his mother!!

Sue

[Guest guest]

Back to the drawing board again, eh ? I'm glad to hear that someone

is finally seeing the light and realizing that you know what you're talking

about! Will this teacher be involved in the eval? I hope so!

Sue

[Guest guest]

I was labled an over-reactive parent.

I won't even get into what we went through with social servics.

Georga

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Do all teachers and social workers think the

parent is an idiot or am I blessed

Ughh, I really can't stand when people talk down to me like I'm a jerk. It

drives me nuts. 's social worker and teacher called me today to talk about

my concern that every single day for a month, I have been getting notes that

state " had some difficult moments today " " was defient today " "

didn't want to participate or clean up today " . I wanted to know what was going

on, we didn't have problems like this last year. Recently has been losing

his hair and getting hives again. As a mom I was worried, all the stress of me

missing and now these notes. I just wanted to know what was going on.

So they call me today and want to know the reason they give. " Terrible two's "

Ok I know my child has a developmental delay but I don't even believe in the

terrible two's, never mind the fact that he's 4. I know he's excerting his

independence but give me a break here, it's only there and with that particular

teacher he's having issues with. Home, he's just and last I remember even

the developmental ped put his behavior above a 2 year old level.

The whole coverstion left me thinking , they think I'm just a hormonal mess

and over reacting. HELLO, is it your child that has now lost two huge clumps of

his hair on his head because of stress. Is it your child that has hives on a

daily basis, or who's tongue is so raw from the geographic tounge that it hurts

him to eat.

Oh well, what the hell do i know. I'm just the hormonal mess that loves him

with everything I have.

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[Guest guest]

,

Can you observe his class from outside the room? I know this will be hard

with the new baby and all, but it sounds like it's time to see what's so

upsetting to him. Or maybe you have someone you trust who understands the

situation enough to watch?

By the way, the minute they start using defiant I start to get worried.

BTDT, had to change schools.

By the way, other than the extreme stress of the moment, How Are YOU and the

baby doing?

Sue

[Guest guest]

> ly. We have a 1st grader in our class that is 100lbs

> > and stands to my shoulder ( i am 5'6 )

>

> IN FIRST GRADE????? Oh how I feel for his mother!!

> Sue

Of course youwould, considering the violence! But my first grader is 4 feet

6 inches tall and weighs 80lbs, and he is not a " big " kid. He's tall and

slim. Sounds like this other kid probably looks the same.

Jacquie

[Guest guest]

Yeah, but Jacquie, your first grader isn't the run of the mill size first

grader, either. I mean, look at his dad's size!

Sue

Re: Re: Do all teachers and social workers think

the parent is an idiot or am I blessed

>

> > ly. We have a 1st grader in our class that is 100lbs

> > > and stands to my shoulder ( i am 5'6 )

> >

> > IN FIRST GRADE????? Oh how I feel for his mother!!

> > Sue

>

>

> Of course youwould, considering the violence! But my first grader is 4

feet

> 6 inches tall and weighs 80lbs, and he is not a " big " kid. He's tall and

> slim. Sounds like this other kid probably looks the same.

>

> Jacquie

>

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[Guest guest]

> Yeah, but Jacquie, your first grader isn't the run of the mill size

first

> grader, either. I mean, look at his dad's size!

> Sue

>

My 1st grader is 4'3 and 55 lbs... WOW that is a big kid!!

Amy mom to

Noah 6 Lucas 8 ASD's