RE: bereavement advice please/Donna

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Hi all, I need some advice and possible emotional support. I recently

lost my baby sister who was five and pasted away in Feb this year. I

went to the UHW today for a remembrance service and lasted about less

then five minutes before I became too distressed and upset. I ended up

going back to the car and sitting there for the remainder of the

service.  Is there anything I can do that will make it easier upon

myself in future?  Is it a case of wait and see? Could this be a reason

why I am not sleeping as no medical condition or explanation can be

found other then the stomach and chest pain?  Any advice welcomed.

Hi Donna

I'm so sorry for the loss of your little sister. Let yourself grieve, it's okay

to cry, and feel.

Do your best to be the person she would have wanted you to be. Give to others,

even a smile, or a thank you are giving.

Find a way to honour your sister. Once again it doesn't need to be a grand

gesture. Offer to read to children at your library, plant a tree, or make a

donation to the charity of your, or her choice.

Make what we call her in the states a scrap book of her life. This will give you

a way to keep precious memories, pictures etc. Here is a link about ways to do

one:

http://www.wisegeek.com/what-is-scrapbooking.htm

The first year is very emotional, and the first holidays too.  Do you best to

keep busy, and as Cheryl said if you find your thoughts are going to dark places

find a counselor immediately.

Once again, I'm so sorry for your loss.

Kaylene

[Guest guest]

Thank you all so much for your kind words very grateful

From Miss Donna-marie rachel Griffiths UK south wales